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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 10:58am On Sep 23, 2018
Hmmmmm,u sure say u fit pay?
dannybomb:

that's me checking out your list
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Earthquake1: 10:59am On Sep 23, 2018
[quote author=Okoyeebo post=71449885][/quote]

Is that why your brothers sell their father's land to come and marry ladies from the east?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by dingbang(m): 11:00am On Sep 23, 2018
goodnessme1:
why are our men running after ibo women leave our cheap ladies here in west.
cheesy
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by amaniro: 11:01am On Sep 23, 2018
ollah2:


But you have respect for Isreal, Jesus, God, bible, Christianity, Christians right?


Yes!
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by amaniro: 11:01am On Sep 23, 2018
chuksanambra:

It is you and your Ngwa people who are slaves.
am not ngwa you illiterate

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Okoyeebo: 11:02am On Sep 23, 2018
Earthquake1:

Is that why your brothers sell their father's land to come and marry ladies from the east?

Just like how FFK 'married' Bianca. grin

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by MollyBank: 11:02am On Sep 23, 2018
[quote author=Okoyeebo post=71449885][/quote]

That's not bride price.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Geesaintagape: 11:02am On Sep 23, 2018
Feminism is different from culture

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Legacy001: 11:03am On Sep 23, 2018
pride price is never a problem in my side pride price is 120 naira. I think what you should be agitating for, are other things that is attached to marital rites not the pride price itself.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Alexgeneration(m): 11:03am On Sep 23, 2018
ibkayee:
Eh, on one hand I guess it shows her value to the household she's leaving but on the other, it gives the groom even more of a reason to feel entitled to mistreating her and with some of the extortionate lists I've come across that the groom is required to pay for I can't even blame them for seeing her as 'property'
Please,the bride price doesn't give the man an entitlement to maltreatment his wife,rather a bad husband is a bad husband.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Okoyeebo: 11:04am On Sep 23, 2018
MollyBank:

That's not bride price.

Yes na, It's bribe for marriage.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by chigoizie7(m): 11:05am On Sep 23, 2018
that's ur personal opinion.

ur opinion alone cannot superceed that of millions of people who still believe in BRIDE PRICE
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Earthquake1: 11:05am On Sep 23, 2018
Okoyeebo:


Just like how FFK 'married' Bianca. grin

FFK is only marrying Bianca in his dreams, more like how Davido is salivating over an Igbo girl and FFK is worshipping an Igbo lady

Una no get any decent lady in your region?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by odikomo1(m): 11:06am On Sep 23, 2018
jy2kbeyond:
My sister, shey your husband no pay for your bride price?

If he hasn't, both of you are indulging in fornication.

He needs to pay and get the approval of your parents because you didn't birth and train yourself.

Put small sense in your feminism madam undecided undecided undecided ;

Is bride price a debt recovery scheme?

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by ollah2: 11:06am On Sep 23, 2018
amaniro:


Because I can point out good from odds. Christianity is not a foreign religion. Stop thinking like an illiterate. God sent missionaries to help spread the Gospel. It's for everyone. I believe it cause it's true. So you like the killing of twins. Your hypocrisy is great.


Lol. It will take a decade for you to unlearn this nonsense

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 11:06am On Sep 23, 2018
If I have a daughter, I will not accept anything as bride price whatsoever. Bride price in this generation of enlightenment is just plain dumb to me

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by ollah2: 11:07am On Sep 23, 2018
amaniro:



Yes!


Now I know you take the crown as the chief slave. Enjoy your chains and shackles

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by ollah2: 11:08am On Sep 23, 2018
DanXplore:
If I have a daughter, I will not accept anything as bride price whatsoever. Bride price in this generation of enlightenment is just plain dumb to me


But religion isn't plain dumb to you in this generation of enlightenment

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Newboss(m): 11:08am On Sep 23, 2018
jy2kbeyond:
My sister, shey your husband no pay for your bride price?

If he hasn't, both of you are indulging in fornication.

He needs to pay and get the approval of your parents because you didn't birth and train yourself.

Put small sense in your feminism madam undecided undecided undecided ;
Well, in an enlightened family, no one asks you for penny in any guise to marry their daughter. angry

Africa is still in the stone age. angry
It's a pity that even when common sense tells us that a tradition is demeaning, we still hold on to the tradition. angry

Even a tradition from the slave trade era is still being held unto by some educated fools. angry

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Princedapace(m): 11:11am On Sep 23, 2018
colossus91:
its sad some so called "learned" people want to use their learnedness to replace our culture,first religions,now culture....soon they will come and tell us to embrace homosexuality, its shameful that we as Africans have always have or portrayed second class in all ramifications,we should learn to stand our ground,bride price is a life long tradition that shkuldnt be abolished...if u cannot afford tk marry crom somewhere please leave and stop embarrassing yourself,as if everybody can become the Nkgerian president....my thoughts tno

No bro. This idea is wrong. What matters in marriage is the love and understanding between the two people.. Wedding shouldn't be expensive. It should be made easy. The list mist families present is outrageous.. Infact it was never like this in the past.

Ask ur parents, wedding was not this expensive back then. Something is wrong somewhere now and elders and families are taking advantage of this, especially in poor homes..

I had a lady I loved so much and she loved me too but we couldn't marry becus of the marriage rite lists.

Today, I'm getting married to some one I love less.. She her self got married to another guy who could afford the traditional marriage rite but she is not happy. She tells me that.
U see stuff like this are the reason many young people marry partners they aren't too fond of..

Just the way we spend so much money to bury the dead. Pls there are things we shouldn't be doing at this stage..

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by LZAA: 11:11am On Sep 23, 2018
Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

Look as a biafran lemme say this
Only a greedy parent will charge u stupidly for marrying his daughter
Even chi that is talking,i'm sure her parents received a minimal bride price
U cannot copy a white man's life to the detriment of your own
Look at china,japan and india
All took the white man's tech yet their traditions remain till this day
Don't be deceived

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by africanusvu(m): 11:12am On Sep 23, 2018
Though I love this my sis but sometimes she talks rubbish. Na akogheri ka onye eririeri

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by goodnessme1(f): 11:13am On Sep 23, 2018
Earthquake1:


FFK is only marrying Bianca in his dreams, more like how Davido is salivating over an Igbo girl and FFK is worshipping an Igbo lady

Una no get any decent lady in your region?
no be our men's fault na,most of our yoruba ladies are dirty.

Who no like better thing.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by freshinko: 11:13am On Sep 23, 2018
Lols. As if we know you. Gerra out of here woman.

Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by LZAA: 11:13am On Sep 23, 2018
Princedapace:


No bro. This idea is wrong. What matters in marriage is the love and understanding between the two people.. Wedding shouldn't be expensive. It should be made easy. The list mist families present is outrageous.. Infact it was never like this in the past.

Ask ur parents, wedding was not this expensive back then. Something is wrong somewhere now and elders and families are taking advantage of this, especially in poor homes..

I had a lady I loved so much and she loved me too but we couldn't marry becus of the marriage rite lists.

Today, I'm getting married to some one I love less.. She her self got married to another guy who could afford the traditional marriage rite but she is not happy. She tells me that.
U see stuff like this are the reason many young people marry partners they aren't too fond of..

Just the way we spend so much money to bury the dead. Pls there are things we shouldn't be doing at this stage..

Poor ppl get married even with the bride price so wat are u saying?
Do u know how much they use for cremation abroad?
All this boils down to choice
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Nobody: 11:14am On Sep 23, 2018
ollah2:



But religion isn't plain dumb to you in this generation of enlightenment

Religion is also dumb too. It is a mental shackle to say the least. I am a Christian and Christianity is not a religion.

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Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Sterope(f): 11:14am On Sep 23, 2018
That is true!
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by cvigo: 11:17am On Sep 23, 2018
mrtomola:
True talk, especially from Igbo side. I beg i wan marry my Uju without stress of paying bride price in Dollar$ grin
lol your own dey your body
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by Adefemiaderoju1: 11:18am On Sep 23, 2018
That's our culture this white wonna be. however direct your message to your people in the east they are the one that sell their daughters all in the names of bride price.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by conscienceman4(m): 11:19am On Sep 23, 2018
You are a fan of fornication then.
Re: Chimamanda Adichie: Bride Price Should Be Abolished, I'm Not A Fan Of It by HeWrites(m): 11:19am On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
Social media opinions cannot change tradition, we should stop deceiving ourselves with these bride price blah blah blah.

If as a man,you are charged higher than you can pay to marry, you simply back-off since you can't afford it, not ranting because of your inability to meet up the needed requirements, afterall some tribes don't charge high.

And as a woman, once a man pay your bride price to wife you, have it in mind that your submissiveness isn't negotiable.

Tradition is tradition and social media can't change it.



I have missed you bro... NO HOMO

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