Les:
traditions are not stupid, they might be abused but they are not, your concern should be those who abuse it and not the tradition itself, you're not wiser than your ancestors!

majekdom2:
I like this thought. Obviously there is an “abuse” which is obvious. What would you suggest a solution?

enlighten the bride's parents

What were the judgments behind the tradition?

amanda was right when she said its symbolic, a bride can't just leare her family and and jump into another, it signifies a ceremonious transition

What does it signify, what has changed?

What’s the value to the bride’s family and to the new family being joined?

Next2Bezee:


Where are the ancestors? Yeah, they're dead.

What did they know about Quantum Computing?
What did they know about Astro Physics?
What do they know about the curiosity mars rover?

Yes, I am wiser than them.

If you refuse to move forward with the world, stay in 13th century, but don't drag everyone down with you.

Les:
let's just say I won't collect more than 1k as bride price but just do it so I can recognize the union, you just don't take my daughter away from my me, I will just come against that person!

Birdyclear:
If elders for Village see this news ehh? Them go just dey swear for this my beautiful lady

cvigo:

lol your own dey your body

MollyBank:


You do realise that bride price in Igbo is not more than one thousand Naira5?

MollyBank:


You do realise that bride price in Igbo is not more than one thousand Naira5?

Earthquake1:


Na lie Uju costs more than Yemi

If you no like am, de go

Les:
what do you know about the pyramid of Giza? has your knowledge helped you unravel the mysteries of that pyramid? Our ancestors were not illiterates! Well, I'm not talking about knowing things, don't confuse knowledge to wisdom.

goodnessme1:
why are our men running after ibo women leave our cheap ladies here in west.

mrtomola:
True talk, especially from Igbo side. I beg i wan marry my Uju without stress of paying bride price in Dollar$

Princedapace:


No bro. This idea is wrong. What matters in marriage is the love and understanding between the two people.. Wedding shouldn't be expensive. It should be made easy. The list mist families present is outrageous.. Infact it was never like this in the past.

Ask ur parents, wedding was not this expensive back then. Something is wrong somewhere now and elders and families are taking advantage of this, especially in poor homes..

I had a lady I loved so much and she loved me too but we couldn't marry becus of the marriage rite lists.

Today, I'm getting married to some one I love less.. She her self got married to another guy who could afford the traditional marriage rite but she is not happy. She tells me that.
U see stuff like this are the reason many young people marry partners they aren't too fond of..

Just the way we spend so much money to bury the dead. Pls there are things we shouldn't be doing at this stage..

Kingosytex:
coming from a die-hard feminist. so because u aren't in support of bride price it should be thrown into the waste bin. na wa o!!

9inches:

Make I no see your leg cross Head Bridge Onitsha with your poor yansh.

Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

trustyshoess:
Who's "we" though?

Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

trustyshoess:
Who's "we" though?

Colourich:
Igbo culture has made it mandatory that the parents collect bride price, it is a symbol of selling their daughter to the man, though these days they use ceremony to cover the whole thing and make it look as if the woman wasn't sold, but deep down, they all know she was sold to her husband.

Colourich:
Igbo culture has made it mandatory that the parents collect bride price, it is a symbol of selling their daughter to the man, though these days they use ceremony to cover the whole thing and make it look as if the woman wasn't sold, but deep down, they all know she was sold to her husband.

Ayodele70:
Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has weighed in on the idea of bride price in Nigerian marriages.

She had an evening with some young people in Lagos yesterday, and someone asked a question about bride price.

According to her, her dad didn't receive any bride price during her wedding, he just collected 10kobo to make it symbolic.

She also revealed she is not a fan of bride price because it ruins things.

She said'

"I am not a fan of bride price. I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, it ruins things. We are not selling anybody".

Watch the videos here; https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/09/i-am-not-a-fan-of-bride-price-we-should-get-rid-of-it-chimamanda-adichie.html

donstan18:
Social media opinions cannot change tradition, we should stop deceiving ourselves with these bride price blah blah blah.

If as a man,you are charged higher than you can pay to marry, you simply back-off since you can't afford it, not ranting because of your inability to meet up the needed requirements, afterall some tribes don't charge high.

And as a woman, once a man pay your bride price to wife you, have it in mind that your submissiveness isn't negotiable.

Tradition is tradition and social media can't change it.

goodnessme1:
why are our men running after ibo women leave our cheap ladies here in west.

bewla:
yes the one from Igbo land them they sale their pikin

post=71452723:

Why the private message?
What do you want to say that you can't type here?!
BECAREFUL ooo!
Make wetin u dey fine no swallow your head o!

mrtomola:


lol...Who wan marry Yemi before. I beg make una give me Uju make i be like Ricardo Banks (Easy Jeje)

toye440:

Abeg if u find any yemi push am come my way am desperately in search of one.