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futuregovernor:
You really love that guy! My advice,do not call him. The question is, what can he offer in the relationship!! No money,no appreciation, cook for him, like his wife or what.......,babe common sense is not common at all. No one is perfect,but that your so call boyfriend is still a boy. Let him call you, a man that has too much ego is a kid. You can still get your type of a man, focus in your career. Meanwhile,becareful of nairaland advice bcs many here are just kids

Naychuzzy:
Infact I would like to date her. Fill up the imminent vacant position.

queenice7:
been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we've already start planning a future 2geda. but I just realised that the foundation of the relationship is faulty... as in, I tolerated a lot of shit am not meant to... he's a good person quite alright, but he has so much Ego, he has the tendency of raising his hands on me, could get really angry too, can be really difficult to persuade. some of the things I notice he does, that ain't right like reading my chats are because I let him to, like I tolerated it, and I feel he's now taking me for granted bcoz I showed him how I love him. he wasn't like this initially. I don't know why if I love somebody, I tend to show it so much to a fault, that's sth I need to work on, I know I need to stop it, cuz it leads to being taken for granted.
he complains so much and doesn't appreciate anything I do, he complains I don't cook for him, do this, do that, or he doesn't like the cloth am putting on or the hair or the makeup or I should be wearing better cloths meanwhile he hasn't for once been touched to give me money, seeing that I don't have a source of income yet, a fresh graduate and learning a handwork.
I thought of all these things and I said to myself that I can't continue keeping quite, it's either he changes or I walk away.
I started by telling him what I didn't like, and it resulted to a quarrel between us. his Ego was just too much and that's not what I want in my life. I want a scenario whereby, my man listens to me, pets me, talk to me like a damsel (that I am), corrects me with love, stuffs like that. I know within me am not a difficult person, I don't have wahala, but I don't like it when people try to use it to take advantage of me.
so after the quarrel between us. ill words weren't exchanged tho. but I expected him to call me afterwards, but its been 3 days now and he hasn't, which is unlike him. I've said earlier within me that I won't call, I'll wait for him to call and if he doesn't that's how I'll break up with him, Bleep love! .But he hasn't and am now disturbed and on the verge of calling him, should I?

queenice7:
been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we've already start planning a future 2geda. but I just realised that the foundation of the relationship is faulty... as in, I tolerated a lot of shit am not meant to... he's a good person quite alright, but he has so much Ego, he has the tendency of raising his hands on me, could get really angry too, can be really difficult to persuade. some of the things I notice he does, that ain't right like reading my chats are because I let him to, like I tolerated it, and I feel he's now taking me for granted bcoz I showed him how I love him. he wasn't like this initially. I don't know why if I love somebody, I tend to show it so much to a fault, that's sth I need to work on, I know I need to stop it, cuz it leads to being taken for granted.
he complains so much and doesn't appreciate anything I do, he complains I don't cook for him, do this, do that, or he doesn't like the cloth am putting on or the hair or the makeup or I should be wearing better cloths meanwhile he hasn't for once been touched to give me money, seeing that I don't have a source of income yet, a fresh graduate and learning a handwork.
I thought of all these things and I said to myself that I can't continue keeping quite, it's either he changes or I walk away.
I started by telling him what I didn't like, and it resulted to a quarrel between us. his Ego was just too much and that's not what I want in my life. I want a scenario whereby, my man listens to me, pets me, talk to me like a damsel (that I am), corrects me with love, stuffs like that. I know within me am not a difficult person, I don't have wahala, but I don't like it when people try to use it to take advantage of me.
so after the quarrel between us. ill words weren't exchanged tho. but I expected him to call me afterwards, but its been 3 days now and he hasn't, which is unlike him. I've said earlier within me that I won't call, I'll wait for him to call and if he doesn't that's how I'll break up with him, Bleep love! .But he hasn't and am now disturbed and on the verge of calling him, should I?

Chubhie:
Don't make that call. Have a lil self respect and self love as livingfree rightly said. He's already complaining and looking down on you at this challenging phase of your life. Is he really worth to see you at the peak of your true powers? Will he try to dim your brightness so his ego stays intact?

This is not about him. This is about a mirror being shown to you on areas you need to work on for your truer version to emerge.

You must understand how these things work. You leave him now without learning these lessons now, You gonna meet same in the next guy.

You don't need to change anybody or situations. The hack is to change on the inside and watch how the outside corresponds.

I wish you grace, I wish you poise,Self love,self respect and the discipline to stay true to spirit.

By the way, If and when he calls, pick up and ask for a sitdown. lovingly hear out his reasons and follow the nudging of spirit.

LivingFree:
bend the knee, drop a curtsy,

queenice7:
been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we've already start planning a future 2geda. but I just realised that the foundation of the relationship is faulty... as in, I tolerated a lot of shit am not meant to... he's a good person quite alright, but he has so much Ego, he has the tendency of raising his hands on me, could get really angry too, can be really difficult to persuade.

queenice7:
...But he hasn't and am now disturbed and on the verge of calling him, should I?

queenice7:
been dating this guy for 4 months now, and we've already start planning a future 2geda. but I just realised that the foundation of the relationship is faulty... as in, I tolerated a lot of shit am not meant to... he's a good person quite alright, but he has so much Ego, he has the tendency of raising his hands
on me, could get really angry too, can be really difficult to persuade. some of the things I notice he does, that ain't right like reading my chats are because I let him to, like I tolerated it, and I feel he's now taking me for granted bcoz I showed him how I love him. he wasn't like this initially. I don't know why if I love somebody, I tend to show it so much to a fault, that's sth I need to work on, I know I need to stop it, cuz it leads to being taken for granted.
he complains so much and doesn't appreciate anything I do, he complains I don't cook for him, do this, do that, or he doesn't like the cloth am putting on or the hair or the makeup or I should be wearing better cloths meanwhile he hasn't for once been touched to give me money, seeing that I don't have a source of income yet, a fresh graduate and learning a handwork.
I thought of all these things and I said to myself that I can't continue keeping quite, it's either he changes or I walk away.
I started by telling him what I didn't like, and it resulted to a quarrel between us. his Ego was just too much and that's not what I want in my life. I want a scenario whereby, my man listens to me, pets me, talk to me like a damsel (that I am), corrects me with love, stuffs like that. I know within me am not a difficult person, I don't have wahala, but I don't like it when people try to use it to take advantage of me.
so after the quarrel between us. ill words weren't exchanged tho. but I expected him to call me afterwards, but its been 3 days now and he hasn't, which is unlike him. I've said earlier within me that I won't call, I'll wait for him to call and if he doesn't that's how I'll break up with him, Bleep love! .But he hasn't and am now disturbed and on the verge of calling him, should I?