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| I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 10:19am On Nov 13, 2018 |
I am a very shy person and a very private person. My boyfriend introduced me to this Forum and we are both addicted but he made me make him a promise never to bring out matter here for any reason, but I am about to break that promise because I need help. I have dated him for 6 years, 3 abortion and borrowed him 7 million naira all he has not accounted for. The last job I got for him with my dads contact I don’t know the drama that happened between him and a staff and he got fired, I had to give him money to start a business. He has engaged me already but I am getting uncomfortable. What got me worried was last night when I told him I was pregnant again and he asked me to abort it, I was so upset and he said that if he takes me to his parents with Pregnancy they will see me as a slut. I refused bluntly this time and he insisted by saying if I keep the baby he will dump me and marry another person and he swore on his life. Nairalanders leaving him is not the issue, the issue, how do I get my money back. Over 7 million naira. I don’t have a salary, we do joint account and I can’t even brag of 50k of my own. I know he will read this message, so I want people to judge this matter. As for the baby I will keep it, but am scared of being a single mum. 2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 11:18am On Nov 13, 2018 |
help! |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by ifyalways(f): 11:20am On Nov 13, 2018 |
Please borrow me 1M abeg. I can carry the belle for you and be your single grandmom.  18 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 11:38am On Nov 13, 2018 |
 ifyalways: |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Pearl05(f): 11:43am On Nov 13, 2018 |
Involve the police if you have evidence of the loans which I doubt you do. Can you imagine! His parents will see you as slut while him that impregnated you is saint. Take a long walk without looking back. This so called bf might have another chic with whom he is planning marriage self while collecting your money to finance it. Just have your child, at first it will be hard but with the support of families and pals, you will be glad you did. 13 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by AngelicBeing: 11:45am On Nov 13, 2018 |
ifyalways:Hian, how can you carry the pregnancy for her, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com, but I get the message in your post, @ Poster, do not abort the baby, you have aborted 3 already, this life sef, and some women are desperately looking for kids and another person is aborting his, nawao  1 Like |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 11:54am On Nov 13, 2018 |
Thanks. Pearl05: |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by wendixx(f): 11:54am On Nov 13, 2018 |
Let me post this here again, in case you don't see my other response on the page it was posted. Love can make people do silly things, and when you get over it, you wonder how you could have been so FOOLISH and BLINDED. First of all, I pray for you, that the mercy of God locates you, that your eyes of understanding may be enlightened, and that You come to the knowledge of The Love of Christ in Jesus name. As regards that money, what was the justification for it? How much is in the joint account now? Is it both to sign or any to sign? The answer to these questions will enable you plan your next action. Meanwhile, please note that the tendency to recover that money is blow 30%. So see it as something you gave to charity. However, if there is money in the joint account, and you have access to it, please withdraw all the money there immediately and tell him you are using it for antenatal. PLEASE and PLEASE, KEEP THAT BABY. Don't incur God's wrath. By the way, it is not going to be an easy journey (raising a kid), but reading your personality, YOU CAN DO IT. As regards the man, you have wasted so many years in that relationship, with a child on the way... it's a dicey situation. Go back to God in Prayers. Ask HIM for mercy and forgiveness for all the atrocities you have committed, ask God to take control. Then sit back, relax and see Him step up for you. PLS NOTE THAT THAT YOUNG MAN IS A WICKED MAN AND NOT FIT FOR A HUSBAND. 10 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by piroux(f): 11:54am On Nov 13, 2018 |
6 years, 3 abortions and 7 million naira??!  What were you thinking?? Oga, if her story is true and you're are reading this, you're not a good person at all. Please, find a way to refund her money, even if its bit by bit. Then, you can carry your condomless penis and go around impregnating other women! You're honestly a womb hazard!! Chai!! 15 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by babythug(f): 11:55am On Nov 13, 2018 |
Dust yourself up and start all over again- by yourself. Nothing new in becoming a single mother by circumstance. You won’t be first or last Brace yourself up for the tasks ahead and live your life please Move on from the fellow ( just in case I didn’t emphasize it enough) Good luck |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Nobody: 12:05pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
You're not ready to leave, if you are you won't be here asking us to judge matter. Take a walk babe, what are you scared of? The guy doesn't even love you. Engagement my foot. Even if you marry him you will continue to suffer emotionally. Olamsoh: 5 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Acidosis(m): 12:35pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Pay me N5m, I will adopt your baby and act the father role to him/her for 10 years (since you've turned yourself to a reckless spender). 10 years after, your irresponsible and reckless boyfriend will come back for his child (no need asking how). BTW, stop saying you're a shy person. Instead just use "slow" and "dull" in the place of "shy". Any man that fully supports opening a joint account with a woman he's not married to is prolly a certified THIEF. You're slow and dull to agree to such selfish agenda. Joint accounts are not meant for emotional babies with no form of legal and contractual agreements. Sharp guy, he even warned you against opening a thread having known the likely implications of his deeds. You will be damned to refuse unbiased advice and learn to grow up. Many guys would do same given the extent of your weakness. I pity you 6 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Mizwisdom(f): 12:48pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
I'm sure you didn't borrow him the 7 million at once. You did it once, he didn't return, you gave again and again. I have one advice for you, just get a guardian. People like you have to learn many things 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 12:51pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Learn things like? Mizwisdom: |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Dyt(f): 1:12pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
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| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Nobody: 1:23pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Pearl05: Funny . 1 Like |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Olamsoh: 1:35pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
what make you think/feel it is a script? Dyt: |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Eagleword14(f): 1:44pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Arrwhh my dear, how can you be blinded by so-called "love" to have underwent three abortions  The first one can be termed "mistake" but 2..3. And he still want u to undergo another one... Open ur eyesss! This man want to destroy ur life...Does he know d health implications of abortions Abi he doesn't want u to be a mother in d future....Chaii!  Abortion is a sin against God and humanity. Mr man I will advice u to do d needful if u claim to love this woman. She had done alot for u...this is if u want to be happy in life cos if she dare cry to God bcoz of u, He will surely answer her....I ve seen a lot of similar cases. How can u keep her fo six years!! and u still give lame excuse of ur parents tagging her a "slut". U wasted her time... kids and chop her money join Do u ve conscience atall Biko be a man Jare...U both should ask God for forgiveness cos of d lives u wasted in d name of abortion....The kids dey their own, na una dey find them ooo Op, plz keep ur baby whether he supports u or not. If he love u, he shld do d needful. For him to ve threatened to go for someone else if u refuses to adhere means dat he has another in his mind already. Being a single mum is not a death sentence...be strong. May God help u... 1 Like |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Nobody: 2:05pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Dyt: The more I look at it, the more I feel like it really is |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by drmikeadams(m): 2:25pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
 ,,,my people RE useless;my people RE senseless,my people are indiscipline,,,,, . Great fela Kuti |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by samguru(m): 2:30pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
@op Please look for a way to terminate this pregnancy and move far away from this idiot worthy not to be called a man. 1. This is guy is a gold-digger,he will keep using as a means for survival as he is not ready to change. 2. If you have the child,there is an eternal connection between both of you and this guy will use that to disturb your new marriage.Nowadays guys are not ready to marry any single mother again. 3. As for the #7 million, that money is not recoverable as there is no written document that you can use to press charges against him, besides if this matter gets to court the best you can get is "he will be paying you some ridiculous amount every month" as he pleases. 4. I know you are scared of being barren after the series of abortion you have carried out,see my sister you are fertile and God will give you your children when you meet the right man. 5. Pray fervently for God intervention in your situation Do all these and you will remember me in the future and your heart will bless me. 3 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by dammy222(f): 4:09pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Do not abort that pregnancy! Don't risk it. The guy probably does not plan on marrying you. He is just collecting your money. You don't open a joint account with a man you are not married to. Now that your eyes have opened, if you have any proof of the 7 million, then report at the police station . Hopefully you will get some back 2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by bencarson007(m): 4:35pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Hello, you are a bit too dull in this case. Simple advice Pay 3 or 4 military policemen and pick the brother up. Simple arrangement.. guardroom until he pays. Keep the pregnancy and God gonna help you but do as i say... it works wonders 2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by LadySarah: 4:46pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
I know you are hoping against hope that he sees this and retrace his step,but I want to curse him small,because you did enable him. Get a military guy,bare all the details,et them teach him better lesson. Inform your parents of the pregnancy I will not blame you because you thought you guys had a future ,even love contributed. Oga,Posterity will judge you,karma will hit you so hard you will curse the day you treated her bad. That child will grow and you will see them "flourish". NNE,don't ever entertain his stupid face again.Dust yourself and make meaning of your life,a better one will come.Don't even look back. 2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by generationz(f): 5:02pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Olamsoh: I read this same story on joro |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by jeff1607(m): 5:07pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
won't conclude till I hear from the both sides |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Julivas(m): 5:10pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Olamsoh: Firstly ask God for forgiveness for the abortions you have done before. Thank you for resolving not to abort this. Worry not about being a single mother, so far you are happy and secure. About your money ask him in love and see his reaction, if he acted violently, keep mute on it and involve the police. Remember your safety first. God will see you through. Take care. 1 Like |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Julivas(m): 5:17pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Eagleword14:Well said 2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by oweniwe(m): 6:22pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Olamsoh no abort o... Abeg.  I love children. If you still give me the baby after you born, I will gladly take him/her  2 Likes |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by Nobody: 6:53pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Olamsoh: that man doesnt love you ooh, he is just using you. if a man loves you he wont think about abortion. your boyfriend cant hold a job, is not responsible and you are still with him.i thought they say girls know how to detect responsible men. or is it the sex that you are getting is making your stay there. also you keep on getting pregnant for him, it seems you are also irresponsible and maybe want to trap an irresponsible man with pregnancy, anyway no vex but oyibo say that bird of the same feather flocks together i am still thinking, how do you collect your money from a man like that without any source of income, your money is gone, he has spent it maybe on another girl friend or use it to flex. even if you send him to police, how will he refund the cash, dont know what to say, if you want him to regret, cut emotional attachment and report to police for his arrest and make sure he ends up in jail because that is your only hope. He cant pay back forget about your money and send him to jail as your revenge. |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by ShilohEagle(m): 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Olamsoh, abortion is not an option pls. I believe taking care of the baby wount be a problem and you will find a better man. Forget about the man for now and focus on your life. Many things still need to be done Many success to achieve Greater grounds to gain Focus and you'll overcome. Forget the money too pls. God will surely make a way for you. Just believe. May the good Lord guide you |
| Re: I don't want to be a Single Mother! by ednut1(m): 8:53pm On Nov 13, 2018 |
Fake story 1 Like 1 Share |
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