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thegoodone1234:
I am passing through the same thing. 80% of lady don't like sex.

MUSAPLC:
Please what can I do, before I married my wife I told my weakness like Samson in the Bible that I love sex so much and she accepted during that period she would give me any time I demand for it and it got to a point I was tired.

I then decided to marry her, after the wedding she started giving unnecessary excuses that she doesn't like sex.

Please what can I do now because the temptation is very high now?

pDudd:
Na for here we go see your hand.

tosyne2much:
I know say you must dey this kind thread

pawesome:
That's why you have to taste d package before buying it

Rozaytee:
every woman enjoys sex ooo... Wen she is properly turned on... Maybe u don't turn her on anymore or u just fvck fvck ... and don't know how to make love....

TonyeBarcanista:
She doesn't like sex or she doesn't like sex with you?

Irrespective, you have to ensure total submissiveness of your wife towards you. Denying you of your right to her Local Government Secretariat even when you are the Executive Chairman is improper.

Perhaps, you may consider alternative!!! Denying you of your conjugal right is disloyalty and contravention of her marital responsibilities towards you.

You can't beg her, you shouldn't beg her neither will I advice you to cajole or threaten her. Seek for alternative, HEAVEN WILL NOT FALL!!!

May God Help You

Amakavula:
Exactly, I said the same thing.

divine2288:
auntie u don't have sense

MUSAPLC:
Please what can I do, before I married my wife I told my weakness like Samson in the Bible that I love sex so much and she accepted during that period she would give me any time I demand for it and it got to a point I was tired.

I then decided to marry her, after the wedding she started giving unnecessary excuses that she doesn't like sex.

Please what can I do now because the temptation is very high now?

DMerciful:
Why cant women speak out when they need something? Perhaps our fore-fathers were right to be marrying several wives. We have adopted one man one wife from the white man and for everthing adopted, there are advantages and disadvantages. A man with 2-3 wives will not complain of sexual starvation, infact there will be competition among the wives for sexual attention.

LaDolceVida:
The lie
Wives typically use indirect forms of communication. They give hints, they speak abstractly, and then they expect their husbands to know what they mean. Without ever intending to lie, they don’t express the full truth. At times, they communicate so indirectly that their husbands can’t come close to perceiving the real message.
When faced with indirect communication, husbands often feel like a one-legged man in a football kicking contest. They just don’t have what it takes. They much prefer dealing with facts, logic, and problem solving.
They notice that something is wrong. That realization may come from receiving the silent treatment, getting some indirect messages, or just picking up the mood of their wife. They’d like to resolve the problem, so they ask about it, and get messages so indirect that they can’t interpret their meaning.
When people get what they see as an incomplete message, they try to fill in the blanks. Husbands, with their strong problem-resolution skills, will often explore various possible meanings. But if the indirect message doesn’t have enough clues to give them an accurate picture, they can’t succeed.
Living the truth
Neither indirect nor direct communication is intrinsically right or wrong. Rather, each serves a particular purpose. Foundationally, though, wives make a mistake when they choose indirect messages that give a misleading impression, or that fail to accurately convey the intended meaning. Let’s explore several factors that can help you live in the truth and communicate more directly.
Create a safe zone . Husband, creating a communication “safe zone” is your job. Yes, you get frustrated and upset at indirect conversation. But some of your irritation results from your own response when your wife tries to communicate with you.
You can create a safe zone in several ways:
Choose honesty over defending yourself.
Don’t respond with an attack on your wife.
Don’t even think about verbal or physical abuse.
Draw out your wife with active listening.
Let your wife know that you truly want to hear what she has to say, and when she sees that you’ve established a safe zone, you should see an increase in the clarity of your communication with one another.

MUSAPLC:
Please what can I do, before I married my wife I told my weakness like Samson in the Bible that I love sex so much and she accepted during that period she would give me any time I demand for it and it got to a point I was tired.

I then decided to marry her, after the wedding she started giving unnecessary excuses that she doesn't like sex.

Please what can I do now because the temptation is very high now?

pwettyeddy:
Sir,thanks you are seriously.on point


You didn't tell us that the reason she stopped. Never demonise your wife in public, it always bounces back to you. Courtship is always easier than marriage. In marriage it's always difficult to remain the same person. It's either your are happier cos you decided to spice up the marriage, I mean always arousing your wife curiosity and attraction towards you, Or it becomes boring due to lame routine. Having sex in the same position , same place everytime. Lame!
Obviously, I will be blunt. You are not paying attention. She has been complaining. Women complain via altitude change. We are like kids. We are emotional beings, you must possess some measure of emotional intellegence to keep us worshiping the floor you walk on.

Now back to the issue. Since you got married to her, how is the sex? Better to her. Or lame? How long do you last? Do you know her fantasies? Do you satisfy them or just satisfy your self leaving her in limbo?
Do you suffer from quick ejaculation, and now burns our faster than a flaring gas, instead of the oil that burns slowly? Answer truthfully, if you need help.

Is it now routine? Do you take her out. I lean showcase her. It most not be about money. Just simple wears and you stroll out holding hands on cool evenings. Even if it's just few street walk round the neighborhood or the the park, movies, beach, nice dinner or a music lounge, just any thing.

Does she like meat when did you buy her small gifts like suya? Do you engage her in discussions? Do you discuss what she wants or you are the lord and master over all? What she thinks and feels doesn't matter at all. Bros! She will start hating at you and she needs tonne happy to Bleep. She who is angry or harbours resentment towards you cannot Bleep you. Go out with her some Friday nights, after work, have some beer and talk about the exciting past, her present and future dreams. Ask her questions about her five year, ten year, twenty year plans. We live to talk when we are comfortable with you and with just that you will have our heart.
Go have your wife's heart. Give her MouthAction, watch soft porn or some romantic movies with you, buy her Christian books on sex and marriage. " straight sex talk is one of them "
Never yell at her and expect the best. Treat her like a little kid and as a grown up friend. Do not make the mistake of cheating, it never goes away. Flirting could rekindle her interest if she was been silly. The fear of losing you to another could work also, but you have to work on yourself first. Stop those bad habits you took. Find her what she wants and show care. You may not necessarily do them. Give her orgasm and she will always pray for you. Just imagine you having sex and before you reach ejaculation, she stops you that she is tired or that's it's painful or for no reason at all. How will you feel. With time, you will hate sex with her cos its of no use. Just ponder on that. That's how she is feeling right now.

Finally, how have the finances being? Everything can't be bad. Na! Work better on finances. Seat her down and plan the future with her. You need not tell her details of everything, just let her have the feeling or sense of belonging. Been supportive. You just should not lie to her. Rather keep your mouth shut or change topic smartly.

Wo! The list is endless. With time, I could refer you to some groups on other social media on how to make your wife worship the ground you walk on without being necessarily rich physically, but in emotional intelligence. Shalom

kiahrt:
She likes sex cos according to ur story, she dey do well when u dey court. D good news is that she can perform better than courtship days, all u gat to do is little investment in her emotional life. Probably low in libido due to some factors, emotional stress, house chores, child bearing and raising, work stress, and most importantly if u never for once get her to orgasm which mean she doesn't enjoy it just fulfilling all righteousness.

Spice up ur sex life with her, introduce some fruits and meal that boost libido naturally to her, help in house chores, work on her emotions cos women are emotional beings, and lots more

marvin905:
a drug that increases a woman sexual libido

TonyeBarcanista:
She doesn't like sex or she doesn't like sex with you?

Irrespective, you have to ensure total submissiveness of your wife towards you. Denying you of your right to her Local Government Secretariat even when you are the Executive Chairman is improper.

Perhaps, you may consider alternative!!! Denying you of your conjugal right is disloyalty and contravention of her marital responsibilities towards you.

You can't beg her, you shouldn't beg her neither will I advice you to cajole or threaten her. Seek for alternative, HEAVEN WILL NOT FALL!!!

May God Help You

LaDolceVida:
The lie
Wives typically use indirect forms of communication. They give hints, they speak abstractly, and then they expect their husbands to know what they mean. Without ever intending to lie, they don’t express the full truth. At times, they communicate so indirectly that their husbands can’t come close to perceiving the real message.
When faced with indirect communication, husbands often feel like a one-legged man in a football kicking contest. They just don’t have what it takes. They much prefer dealing with facts, logic, and problem solving.
They notice that something is wrong. That realization may come from receiving the silent treatment, getting some indirect messages, or just picking up the mood of their wife. They’d like to resolve the problem, so they ask about it, and get messages so indirect that they can’t interpret their meaning.
When people get what they see as an incomplete message, they try to fill in the blanks. Husbands, with their strong problem-resolution skills, will often explore various possible meanings. But if the indirect message doesn’t have enough clues to give them an accurate picture, they can’t succeed.
Living the truth
Neither indirect nor direct communication is intrinsically right or wrong. Rather, each serves a particular purpose. Foundationally, though, wives make a mistake when they choose indirect messages that give a misleading impression, or that fail to accurately convey the intended meaning. Let’s explore several factors that can help you live in the truth and communicate more directly.
Create a safe zone . Husband, creating a communication “safe zone” is your job. Yes, you get frustrated and upset at indirect conversation. But some of your irritation results from your own response when your wife tries to communicate with you.
You can create a safe zone in several ways:
Choose honesty over defending yourself.
Don’t respond with an attack on your wife.
Don’t even think about verbal or physical abuse.
Draw out your wife with active listening.
Let your wife know that you truly want to hear what she has to say, and when she sees that you’ve established a safe zone, you should see an increase in the clarity of your communication with one another.

Franklyine:
Where can I buy one, I'm in need of such.

marvin905:
hmmmmm..
just put Spanish fly for her drink anytime you wanna sex..
if she nor rape you


lefulefu long tym

Kobicove:
Maybe you don't know how to handle your business in za oza room

MUSAPLC:
Please what can I do, before I married my wife I told my weakness like Samson in the Bible that I love sex so much and she accepted during that period she would give me any time I demand for it and it got to a point I was tired.

I then decided to marry her, after the wedding she started giving unnecessary excuses that she doesn't like sex.

Please what can I do now because the temptation is very high now?

pwettyeddy:
You didn't tell us that the reason she stopped. Never demonise your wife in public, it always bounces back to you. Courtship is always easier than marriage. In marriage it's always difficult to remain the same person. It's either your are happier cos you decided to spice up the marriage, I mean always arousing your wife curiosity and attraction towards you, Or it becomes boring due to lame routine. Having sex in the same position , same place everytime. Lame!
Obviously, I will be blunt. You are not paying attention. She has been complaining. Women complain via altitude change. We are like kids. We are emotional beings, you must possess some measure of emotional intellegence to keep us worshiping the floor you walk on.

Now back to the issue. Since you got married to her, how is the sex? Better to her. Or lame? How long do you last? Do you know her fantasies? Do you satisfy them or just satisfy your self leaving her in limbo?
Do you suffer from quick ejaculation, and now burns our faster than a flaring gas, instead of the oil that burns slowly? Answer truthfully, if you need help.

Is it now routine? Do you take her out. I lean showcase her. It most not be about money. Just simple wears and you stroll out holding hands on cool evenings. Even if it's just few street walk round the neighborhood or the the park, movies, beach, nice dinner or a music lounge, just any thing.

Does she like meat when did you buy her small gifts like suya? Do you engage her in discussions? Do you discuss what she wants or you are the lord and master over all? What she thinks and feels doesn't matter at all. Bros! She will start hating at you and she needs tonne happy to Bleep. She who is angry or harbours resentment towards you cannot Bleep you. Go out with her some Friday nights, after work, have some beer and talk about the exciting past, her present and future dreams. Ask her questions about her five year, ten year, twenty year plans. We live to talk when we are comfortable with you and with just that you will have our heart.
Go have your wife's heart. Give her MouthAction, watch soft porn or some romantic movies with you, buy her Christian books on sex and marriage. " straight sex talk is one of them "
Never yell at her and expect the best. Treat her like a little kid and as a grown up friend. Do not make the mistake of cheating, it never goes away. Flirting could rekindle her interest if she was been silly. The fear of losing you to another could work also, but you have to work on yourself first. Stop those bad habits you took. Find her what she wants and show care. You may not necessarily do them. Give her orgasm and she will always pray for you. Just imagine you having sex and before you reach ejaculation, she stops you that she is tired or that's it's painful or for no reason at all. How will you feel. With time, you will hate sex with her cos its of no use. Just ponder on that. That's how she is feeling right now.

Finally, how have the finances being? Everything can't be bad. Na! Work better on finances. Seat her down and plan the future with her. You need not tell her details of everything, just let her have the feeling or sense of belonging. Been supportive. You just should not lie to her. Rather keep your mouth shut or change topic smartly.

Wo! The list is endless. With time, I could refer you to some groups on other social media on how to make your wife worship the ground you walk on without being necessarily rich physically, but in emotional intelligence. Shalom