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mezarddinny:
introduction in 3 months, yummy

keep dating her but don't fvck or give her money, go ahead with the introduction and on the D day, don't show up and when she asks you what went wrong, tell her you caught her

islandmoon:
see this learner!

Madmoizelle:
If twas a lady that posted this, y'all will advice her to forgive and "all men cheat" blablabla.. Nig, do the same , Besides, y'all ain't married, you can't personalize what ain't legally yours.

topedoski:
Brother That Love Na Scam
Break UP!!

HonAdeli:
Brother be careful, no rush yourself you can quit that relationship. I was on a flight last weekend from Abuja to Lagos, you need to see how clean old men and Alhaji's were talking to this cheap hoes in the plane. They gave out their phone numbers to people older than their father.

CookieLaVee:
I almost didn't wan to reply but after seeing some immature replies I think I should reply you.
First of all, if she is actually dating a married man, then she is so wrong on every level. Then again, who is perfect? I myself do not condone cheating for anything but hey! Everybody is different and to some extent has a level of wrongs he/she can condone. Besides, who said there is a manual for relationship?
I noticed you said you were squatting somewhere before you moved yo your own apartment. I want to believe that you were having some problems with finance and as such, you were not helping her with some finance. A man must not carry all the responsibilities of his woman but to some extent, you should be able to help. Seeing that you were/are still lacking in that department, some things has got to give. I am a woman, a hard working woman at that but to be honest, every woman needs some sort of financial assistant especially from her man. It might not necessarily be for materialistic things, I for one isn't a fan of those but one has responsibilities especially if you are the first child and have lots of siblings looking up to you. Again, that is not an excuse to cheat...
Someone once said that if all married men should be faithful then most single ladies will have to starve. That is unfortunately, the sad reality. Please notice the word "most", this doesn't apply to all single ladies though...

Again, during my service year, I was opportune to meet a big politician who gave me my first #100k at his office after telling me he found me interesting. I knew he could have wanted to go to the next level with me if I wanted but alas, my future is too valuable to play into the hands of these diabolical politicians. I ran home with the money and never looked back. Even though there wasnt any need to share this with my bf, I told him out of trust and joy of getting some big money I never worked for or imagined to get at that time, but until after two years, I didn't know he never believed me. He told everybody that cared to know that I slept with a politician and he gave me money....
What am I driving at? Where there is love, there must be trust. If you do love her, trust her to tell you what is actually going on. Don't just deduce your conclusion from what you aren't sure about. I heard you say she has been going to hotels with the married man, confront her and trust her to tell you the real truth. I know the world has stereotyped most women as whores and what not but you have to find out the real truth.
From the truth, you can make your decisions as it fits you.

nickxtra:
One of my friends had same issue recently with his wife-to-be girlfriend. They have been dating for years and even planning for marriage soon. The guy has been suspicious of the girl's movements that he tracked the girl's WhatsApp messages. Lol and behold, all messages(including how good and sweet thier sex scenes were) between the girl and her married man lover were being copied to and read by the boy friend. Infact, the girl even aborted a baby for her married lover who happens to worship in the same church with the girl and even the choir master. My guy confronted the girl, but she denied, swearing to high heavens that any relationship like that happens. My guy explained all her recent conversations and thier schedules of movements as revealed by the messages to the girl. The next thing, the girl fainted and upon recovery, she started crying and apologizing to the guy. Although, it took the guy a long while and interventions from relatives to forgive the girl. He actually forgave the girl and now, their relationship is the most smooth and compact like never befoee. Now, they are about to get married.

What am trying to say? Please forgive her if she owns up to it and apologies.

EricMason:
Bro Mission abort I repeat Abort abort!!!!

bianconerriii:
Dear All,

I have been dating this girl for over a year and everything was wonderful until I moved into my own place about 6 months ago from where I was squatting.

I started noticing some things. Most times she is at my place, she turns her phone face down, chats on WhatsApp only when I’m not so close to her and on two occasions I caught her deleting text messages. Confronted her about it and she said it’s was nothing, she was trying to manage space, mind you she uses a 64G ‘iPhone 7’.

There are hardly trusted ladies in today's world I will advice you to focus o your career and make it big success is the only revenge for this kind thing On this lovely weekend, she comes over to my place and a call came through, she hesitated to answer until I insisted. I asked who the guy was and she said he was just a friend calling to check up on her and he was married. My suspicion grew.

The following day I went through her text message with this same guy only to find out they have been seeing each other for a while even going to hotel together.

The sad part is we have planed formal introduction in about 3 months. I can honestly swear by my life, I have never cheated on her before. At this point I am in a delimma, what do I do? I have considered breaking up and moving on. What do you advise?

Many thanks.

bianconerriii:
Dear All,

I have been dating this girl for over a year and everything was wonderful until I moved into my own place about 6 months ago from where I was squatting.

I started noticing some things. Most times she is at my place, she turns her phone face down, chats on WhatsApp only when I’m not so close to her and on two occasions I caught her deleting text messages. Confronted her about it and she said it’s was nothing, she was trying to manage space, mind you she uses a 64G ‘iPhone 7’.

On this lovely weekend, she comes over to my place and a call came through, she hesitated to answer until I insisted. I asked who the guy was and she said he was just a friend calling to check up on her and he was married. My suspicion grew.

The following day I went through her text message with this same guy only to find out they have been seeing each other for a while even going to hotel together.

The sad part is we have planed formal introduction in about 3 months. I can honestly swear by my life, I have never cheated on her before. At this point I am in a delimma, what do I do? I have considered breaking up and moving on. What do you advise?

Many thanks.

HonAdeli:
Brother be careful, no rush yourself you can quit that relationship. I was on a flight last weekend from Abuja to Lagos, you need to see how clean old men and Alhaji's were talking to this cheap hoes in the plane. They gave out their phone numbers to people older than their father.

Madmoizelle:
If twas a lady that posted this, y'all will advice her to forgive and "all men cheat" blablabla.. Nig, do the same , Besides, y'all ain't married, you can't personalize what ain't legally yours.

pocohantas:
Men are polygamous in nature, most adulterous men do so with ladies, not men. So, what is surprising here?

My problem now is that, you will become an alpha-male (aka anti-feminist/fear women crew) and start spitting venom all around NL. Women stop hurting men biko, we have enough angry men on our hands.

doctorkush:
that's just mere suspicion. why not get her red handed. on bed with this said married man or two other men before thinking of breaking up. besides, you should be able to tolerate her for her fails. no one is perfect.


just extend my greetings to her, tell her we will see again at our usual spot.

openmine:
haba pocohantas...You are way smarter than such baseless and uninformed submissions nah!
Where did you come up with such analogy that men are polygamous in nature!
Its like recklessly and thoughtlessly concluding that women are prostitutes by nature!

mezarddinny:
introduction in 3 months, yummy

keep dating her but don't fvck or give her money, go ahead with the introduction and on the D day, don't show up and when she asks you what went wrong, tell her you caught her

EricMason:
Bro
Mission abort
I repeat
Abort abort!!!!

mezarddinny:
introduction in 3 months, yummy

keep dating her but don't fvck or give her money, go ahead with the introduction and on the D day, don't show up and when she asks you what went wrong, tell her you caught her

EVILFOREST:
Another Good Suggestion from a Kindhearted Nigerian.
Or better still GO to her FATHER'S COMPOUND, promise them to change their ROOFING SHEET.
Kindly mobilise Guys with pay to DEROOF their house then walk away, never to come back.

When she asks you what's stagnating the Project, tell her that FEDERAL GOVERNMENT has not released funds...

mezarddinny:
introduction in 3 months, yummy

keep dating her but don't fvck or give her money, go ahead with the introduction and on the D day, don't show up and when she asks you what went wrong, tell her you caught her

mezarddinny:
introduction in 3 months, yummy

keep dating her but don't fvck or give her money, go ahead with the introduction and on the D day, don't show up and when she asks you what went wrong, tell her you caught her

dingbang:
uefa champions league bro

diego101:
Nigga go and make money ������
That’s my only advice to you
Leave girls alone
Make money and watch a girl write on a blog how you don’t care for her ���
Onukwu

CookieLaVee:
I almost didn't wan to reply but after seeing some immature replies I think I should reply you.
First of all, if she is actually dating a married man, then she is so wrong on every level. Then again, who is perfect? I myself do not condone cheating for anything but hey! Everybody is different and to some extent has a level of wrongs he/she can condone. Besides, who said there is a manual for relationship?
I noticed you said you were squatting somewhere before you moved yo your own apartment. I want to believe that you were having some problems with finance and as such, you were not helping her with some finance. A man must not carry all the responsibilities of his woman but to some extent, you should be able to help. Seeing that you were/are still lacking in that department, some things has got to give. I am a woman, a hard working woman at that but to be honest, every woman needs some sort of financial assistant especially from her man. It might not necessarily be for materialistic things, I for one isn't a fan of those but one has responsibilities especially if you are the first child and have lots of siblings looking up to you. Again, that is not an excuse to cheat...
Someone once said that if all married men should be faithful then most single ladies will have to starve. That is unfortunately, the sad reality. Please notice the word "most", this doesn't apply to all single ladies though...

Again, during my service year, I was opportune to meet a big politician who gave me my first #100k at his office after telling me he found me interesting. I knew he could have wanted to go to the next level with me if I wanted but alas, my future is too valuable to play into the hands of these diabolical politicians. I ran home with the money and never looked back. Even though there wasnt any need to share this with my bf, I told him out of trust and joy of getting some big money I never worked for or imagined to get at that time, but until after two years, I didn't know he never believed me. He told everybody that cared to know that I slept with a politician and he gave me money....
What am I driving at? Where there is love, there must be trust. If you do love her, trust her to tell you what is actually going on. Don't just deduce your conclusion from what you aren't sure about. I heard you say she has been going to hotels with the married man, confront her and trust her to tell you the real truth. I know the world has stereotyped most women as whores and what not but you have to find out the real truth.
From the truth, you can make your decisions as it fits you.