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What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:25pm On Dec 12, 2018
ARGH. I hate typing long stuff but that's exactly what I'd do.

Same sex school is simply the form of schools that allow only a specific gender to attend the school.

I've not made much research, but I believe the earliest same sex school was introduced by the White man when they came for missionary work.

I believe some of the reasons parents send their children to Dame sex schools is so as not to "expose" their children to pregnancy and wayward life.

But from the statistics available to me, I can say (I stand to be corrected) that such has done more harm than good.

The average child sent to such school is still at that stage of his/her life where they are not sure of their left and right.
So when they look left and right and the only companions they have is of the same gender, they start forming friendships and closeness.
They are still at puberty, when their body is undergoing some radical changes, so the only person's they have is people of the same gender as them.

I've heard of countless tales (both on nairaland, other online platforms and one on one interaction) about how going to same sex schools totally changed their orientation.

Boys that go to missionary schools that are same sex, they end up having sex with each other.
At first, it might be awkward and strange but soon they find themselves longing for more of that.

Even when they leave the schools, they become attracted to the same sex.


Same with girls too.


It's the same.
Let me drop my pen now, let's hear your views.

Parents, what are your reasons for sending your children to same sex schools??
Are you aware of this things or you just choose to ignore or simply don't care.


Mods, if this isn't the appropriate section, move it.

Thanks.





Chilisauce
Optionally
Nuhregular.

Can we have your opinions?


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https://www.google.com/amp/s/nextedition.com.ng/2018/06/25/attending-sex-school-influence-sexuality/amp/


https://www.debate.org/opinions/do-single-sex-schools-promote-homosexuality

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:29pm On Dec 12, 2018
Nothing in Nigeria works as it is intended.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by meobizy(f): 12:10am On Dec 13, 2018
Let me book space here waiting for the defenders of these schools.
One thing I've learned being here is some people support illogical things even when their 'logic' is flawed. I have had my fair share of debates and honestly most are no different from aiming urine on a windy day.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by ogawisdom(m): 7:48am On Dec 13, 2018
The problem is boarding school not same sex school

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 8:55am On Dec 13, 2018
meobizy:
Let me book space here waiting for the defenders of these schools.
One thing I've learned being here is some people support illogical things even when their 'logic' is flawed. I have had my fair share of debates and honestly most are no different from aiming urine on a windy day.


Are you for or against the school system?
The babe I'm currently managing went to such schools and she recently confessed to me she has. Feelings for one of her female friends.

That she might be bi..

I think this stuff is psychological
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 8:57am On Dec 13, 2018
meobizy:
Let me book space here waiting for the defenders of these schools.
One thing I've learned being here is some people support illogical things even when their 'logic' is flawed. I have had my fair share of debates and honestly most are no different from aiming urine on a windy day.




Are you for or against the school system?
The babe I'm currently managing went to such schools and she recently confessed to me she has. Feelings for one of her female friends.

That she might be bi..
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 8:58am On Dec 13, 2018
ogawisdom:
The problem is boarding school not same sex school


If you're a parent, would you send your child to such school?

What will be your reasons?
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 9:03am On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:





Are you for or against the school system?
The babe I'm currently managing went to such schools and she recently confessed to me she has. Feelings for one of her female friends.

That she might be bi..
While I can't categorically say if same sex schools influence homos, I do believe it has its benefits.
I went to a mixed school and we had guys caught who also confessed to be homos. I also have female friends who went to mixed schools who are homos.

I think it's both ways.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by meobizy(f): 9:05am On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:





Are you for or against the school system?
The babe I'm currently managing went to such schools and she recently confessed to me she has. Feelings for one of her female friends.

That she might be bi..
I do not care to share opinions on the topic.
Pointless debates will always remain pointless debates.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 9:28am On Dec 13, 2018
meobizy:
I do not care to share opinions on the topic. Pointless debates will always remain pointless debates.

Sir, its not a debate.
I just want to know your opinion
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 9:29am On Dec 13, 2018
chilisauce:

While I can't categorically say if same sex schools influence homos, I do believe it has its benefits.
I went to a mixed school and we had guys caught who also confessed to be homos. I also have female friends who went to mixed schools who are homos.

I think it's both ways.

So you say it has little or no influence on a person's Sexuality?

Thanks for your input.

But I want you to imagine this scenario, 200 straight men are dumped in an island alone for 3 years.

Don't you think over time, they will start banging each other?




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Lol, didn't know it was chilisauce that replied. Lol. My Oga.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by ogawisdom(m): 10:41am On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:



If you're a parent, would you send your child to such school?

What will be your reasons?

There is nothing wrong with same sex school the problem is boarding school where students have school mothers and fathers.

I won't allow my children to do boarding school and I will prefer them going from my house daily to same sex school.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by ogawisdom(m): 10:42am On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:



If you're a parent, would you send your child to such school?

What will be your reasons?

There is nothing wrong with same sex school the problem is boarding school where students have school mothers and fathers.

I won't allow my children to do boarding school and I will prefer them going from my house daily to same sex school.

Same sex school is better than mixed school provided students don't do boarding

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 13, 2018
ogawisdom:


There is nothing wrong with same sex school the problem is boarding school where students have school mothers and fathers.

I won't allow my children to do boarding school and I will prefer them going from my house daily to same sex school.

Same sex school is better than mixed school provided students don't do boarding


Thanks for your input sir
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:49pm On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:
ARGH. I hate typing long stuff but that's exactly what I'd do.

Same sex school is simply the form of schools that allow only a specific gender to attend the school.

I've not made much research, but I believe the earliest same sex school was introduced by the White man when they came for missionary work.

I believe some of the reasons parents send their children to Dame sex schools is so as not to "expose" their children to pregnancy and wayward life.

But from the statistics available to me, I can say (I stand to be corrected) that such has done more harm than good.

The average child sent to such school is still at that stage of his/her life where they are not sure of their left and right.
So when they look left and right and the only companions they have is of the same gender, they start forming friendships and closeness.
They are still at puberty, when their body is undergoing some radical changes, so the only person's they have is people of the same gender as them.

I've heard of countless tales (both on nairaland, other online platforms and one on one interaction) about how going to same sex schools totally changed their orientation.

Boys that go to missionary schools that are same sex, they end up having sex with each other.
At first, it might be awkward and strange but soon they find themselves longing for more of that.

Even when they leave the schools, they become attracted to the same sex.


Same with girls too.


It's the same.
Let me drop my pen now, let's hear your views.

Parents, what are your reasons for sending your children to same sex schools??
Are you aware of this things or you just choose to ignore or simply don't care.


Mods, if this isn't the appropriate section, move it.

Thanks.





Chilisauce
Optionally
Nuhregular.

Can we have your opinions?

Well I wouldn't send my child to a same sex school.. I could consider a boarding school.. But I don't stand for same sex schools..
Nigerian parents are control freaks, but sometimes in the process of trying to control everything that the child does or doesn't do, you only mess with the balance of things and create more havoc..
Try your best as a parent to raise your kid in a godly way then let them attend a typical mixed school and have healthy interactions with members of the opposite sex.
So when they get in uni they will be able to handle the outside world with maturity and experience..

Even if you control them in high school, you can't control them in uni so what's the point..
Teach them what is right and let them be..
Experience will teach them the rest, good or bad.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 5:56pm On Dec 13, 2018
JayIlych:


So you say it has little or no influence on a person's Sexuality?

Thanks for your input.

But I want you to imagine this scenario, 200 straight men are dumped in an island alone for 3 years.

Don't you think over time, they will start banging each other?




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Lol, didn't know it was chilisauce that replied. Lol. My Oga.
Well, it depends on their orientation.
In such situation where na only men remain, I for one would rather wahnk to death than slot my dick into a man's anus. I can't even fathom to kiss a man on the lip.
There are many men who share same sentiments.

There are however some men on the threshold, who could easily be tipped over into being bisexual.
For instance, it's well known that homos thrive or are born in the prisons.

How far being exposed to same sex goes in influencing sexual orientation is always gonna be a subject of dispute.

Who is your oga?

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 2:13am On Dec 14, 2018
chilisauce:

Well, it depends on their orientation.
In such situation where na only men remain, I for one would rather wahnk to death than slot my dick into a man's anus. I can't even fathom to kiss a man on the lip.
There are many men who share same sentiments.

There are however some men on the threshold, who could easily be tipped over into being bisexual.
For instance, it's well known that homos thrive or are born in the prisons.

How far being exposed to same sex goes in influencing sexual orientation is always gonna be a subject of dispute.

Who is your oga?



True. I'm very straight. But then, nobody knows. It's all a theory.




You're my Oga. smiley.

I follow your updates in the diary section.
Thanks for your contribution
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 2:15am On Dec 14, 2018
NuhRegular:


Well I wouldn't send my child to a same sex school.. I could consider a boarding school.. But I don't stand for same sex schools..
Nigerian parents are control freaks, but sometimes in the process of trying to control everything that the child does or doesn't do, you only mess with the balance of things and create more havoc..
Try your best as a parent to raise your kid in a godly way then let them attend a typical mixed school and have healthy interactions with members of the opposite sex.
So when they get in uni they will be able to handle the outside world with maturity and experience..

Even if you control them in high school, you can't control them in uni so what's the point..
Teach them what is right and let them be..
Experience will teach them the rest, good or bad.


Spoken like the wise and consummate professional you are.


Someone on this thread said he would consider same sex schools than boarding houses, you said the opposite, what could be your reason?
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by NL1960: 2:56pm On Dec 18, 2018
JayIlych:
ARGH. I hate typing long stuff but that's exactly what I'd do.

Same sex school is simply the form of schools that allow only a specific gender to attend the school.

I've not made much research, but I believe the earliest same sex school was introduced by the White man when they came for missionary work.

I believe some of the reasons parents send their children to Dame sex schools is so as not to "expose" their children to pregnancy and wayward life.

But from the statistics available to me, I can say (I stand to be corrected) that such has done more harm than good.

The average child sent to such school is still at that stage of his/her life where they are not sure of their left and right.
So when they look left and right and the only companions they have is of the same gender, they start forming friendships and closeness.
They are still at puberty, when their body is undergoing some radical changes, so the only person's they have is people of the same gender as them.

I've heard of countless tales (both on nairaland, other online platforms and one on one interaction) about how going to same sex schools totally changed their orientation.

Boys that go to missionary schools that are same sex, they end up having sex with each other.
At first, it might be awkward and strange but soon they find themselves longing for more of that.

Even when they leave the schools, they become attracted to the same sex.


Same with girls too.


It's the same.
Let me drop my pen now, let's hear your views.

Parents, what are your reasons for sending your children to same sex schools??
Are you aware of this things or you just choose to ignore or simply don't care.



Mods, if this isn't the appropriate section, move it.

Thanks.





Chilisauce
Optionally
Nuhregular.

Can we have your opinions?

I always try yo shy away from discussing issues of this nature and also issues on boarding vs day schools as i feel that people should choose what works for them.

That as it may be, i want to throw in my own views.

I have a boy in a boys only catholic secondary school and a girl in a girls only catholic secondary school. Both are in boarding.

Why did i choose the same sex school for them?.

I doubt that i can easily answer this question.

(1.) First of all, i have long decided that my kids will attend boarding schools. I attended one though mixed. I enjoyed the experience and so wanted them to also have a feel of what i enjoyed.

(2.) When the boy who is the senior was in Primary 3, i started making a list of potential boarding schools. I had quite a long list.

(3.) As the years row by, i started an elimination process after some pain staking investigations of the short listed schools.

(4.) I then zeroed in on the catholic schools. Btw, iam a catholic but that was not an overriding factor in my choice.

(5.) There are so many good catholic schools. So i had to start eliminating.

(6.) I then zeroed in on the catholic schools in Lagos, Ogun and Edo states as i live in Lagos and iam from Edo state.

(7.) I wanted a catholic school with a long history with a well established old students association structure as iam an active member of my own old student association.

(8.) The catholic schools i could find in Lagos with such were boys only and girls only.

(9.) Since the boy was to first have a go, it means that the school he enters will have an overriding effect on the one the girl will attend as i wanted the two schools to be as close as possible in order to reduce the logistic of visiting day, PTA, Open Day and vacation. For example, if the boy had entered the one in Edo state, it means the girl will also have to enter the one in Edo state.

(10.) It might interest people to know that most catholic schools built by the catholic dioceses are same sex. Only few were mixed.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Mizwisdom(f): 3:23pm On Dec 18, 2018
I'm a product of same sex school, I wouldn't have it any other way
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by NL1960: 3:37pm On Dec 18, 2018
Mizwisdom:
I'm a product of same sex school, I wouldn't have it any other way

Gbam.

Iam always surprised when because of just a few isolated cases, people write off an entire structure.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by egojeny1(f): 12:56pm On Dec 19, 2018
meobizy:

I do not care to share opinions on the topic.
Pointless debates will always remain pointless debates.
Good reply
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by egojeny1(f): 1:09pm On Dec 19, 2018
Mizwisdom:
I'm a product of same sex school, I wouldn't have it any other way
Thank you!!!

I and my sister attended same sex school, my 3 brothers attended same sex school and today, we're all married.

All my sons will attend same sex school of course one is already in one of the best same sex catholic boarding schools in lagos, then my only daughter will attend same sex boarding school.

Op, pls there's nothing wrong in same sex schools. Remove ur fears and ask God for guidance that's all.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by NL1960: 2:54pm On Dec 19, 2018
egojeny1:

Thank you!!!

I and my sister attended same sex school, my 3 brothers attended same sex school and today, we're all married.

All my sons will attend same sex school of course one is already in one of the best same sex catholic boarding schools in lagos, then my only daughter will attend same sex boarding school.

Op, pls there's nothing wrong in same sex schools. Remove ur fears and ask God for guidance that's all.

My son is in a same sex catholic boarding school in Lagos while my daughter is also in a same sex catholic boarding school in Lagos. I consider these schools to be the best catholic schools in Lagos. I think my son and your son might be in the same school and your daughter might end up in my daughter's school.

I will PM you to find out the school your son goes to.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by egojeny1(f): 2:52pm On Dec 20, 2018
NL1960:


My son is in a same sex catholic boarding school in Lagos while my daughter is also in a same sex catholic boarding school in Lagos. I consider these schools to be the best catholic schools in Lagos. I think my son and your son might be in the same school and your daughter might end up in my daughter's school.

I will PM you to find out the school your son goes to.

Ok.
One thing some parents don't know is that these catholic schools don't tolerate nonsense, once a student is caught doing any shit he/she is gone.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by NL1960: 3:49pm On Dec 20, 2018
egojeny1:

Ok.
One thing some parents don't know is that these catholic schools don't tolerate nonsense, once a student is caught doing any shit he/she is gone.

Sent using the Nairaland sending facility on profile.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by egojeny1(f): 10:32am On Dec 21, 2018
NL1960:


Sent using the Nairaland sending facility on profile.
Ok
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Goddys(m): 7:45pm On Dec 21, 2018
It would have been awesome if humans were asexual. Sex has caused a lot of bad than good. God could have substituted the pleasure of sex to pleasure of brotherly love. That way earth would have been better.

Meanwhile I attended same sex school where many guys were gay. At a point, they wanted to lure me cuz of my girlish look then and I reported the case to my mentor who was a staff in the school. Gay is a spirit, and spirits need a channel to work. When you are lured by then and start fantasizing it, the spirit of gay gets hold of you. Rebuke the devil and he will flee from you.

Avoid enrolling your wards in same sex school if you cannot be able to monitor their sexual orientation

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by NL1960: 2:49pm On Dec 22, 2018
Goddys:
It would have been awesome if humans were asexual. Sex has caused a lot of bad than good. God could have substituted the pleasure of sex to pleasure of brotherly love. That way earth would have been better.

Meanwhile I attended same sex school where many guys were gay. At a point, they wanted to lure me cuz of my girlish look then and I reported the case to my mentor who was a staff in the school. Gay is a spirit, and spirits need a channel to work. When you are lured by then and start fantasizing it, the spirit of gay gets hold of you. Rebuke the devil and he will flee from you.

Avoid enrolling your wards in same sex school if you cannot be able to monitor their sexual orientation

Is there no gay or lesbianism in mixed sex schools?. I hope you know that in mixed sex schools, girls and boys do not sleep in the same dormitory. Girls have their dormitory while boys have theirs. So what are we talking about?. I went to a mixed sex school and gays and lesbians were there.

When do you think gays and lesbians operate?. Is it in the day time or in the night during lights out?. So you think girls in mixed sex school cannot operate in their dormitory after lights out or boys cannot operate in theirs after lights out?.

Whether same sex or mixed sex, upbringing matters. Some kids are already spoilt at home before going to school.

Check countries that have legalized same sex relationship and tell me if the act was caused by preponderance of same sex schools.

If you know what goes on in several mixed schools(day and boarding) in the country, you will not be saying this.

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Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:08pm On Dec 24, 2018
NL1960:


I always try yo shy away from discussing issues of this nature and also issues on boarding vs day schools as i feel that people should choose what works for them.

That as it may be, i want to throw in my own views.

I have a boy in a boys only catholic secondary school and a girl in a girls only catholic secondary school. Both are in boarding.

Why did i choose the same sex school for them?.

I doubt that i can easily answer this question.

(1.) First of all, i have long decided that my kids will attend boarding schools. I attended one though mixed. I enjoyed the experience and so wanted them to also have a feel of what i enjoyed.

(2.) When the boy who is the senior was in Primary 3, i started making a list of potential boarding schools. I had quite a long list.

(3.) As the years row by, i started an elimination process after some pain staking investigations of the short listed schools.

(4.) I then zeroed in on the catholic schools. Btw, iam a catholic but that was not an overriding factor in my choice.

(5.) There are so many good catholic schools. So i had to start eliminating.

(6.) I then zeroed in on the catholic schools in Lagos, Ogun and Edo states as i live in Lagos and iam from Edo state.

(7.) I wanted a catholic school with a long history with a well established old students association structure as iam an active member of my own old student association.

(8.) The catholic schools i could find in Lagos with such were boys only and girls only.

(9.) Since the boy was to first have a go, it means that the school he enters will have an overriding effect on the one the girl will attend as i wanted the two schools to be as close as possible in order to reduce the logistic of visiting day, PTA, Open Day and vacation. For example, if the boy had entered the one in Edo state, it means the girl will also have to enter the one in Edo state.

(10.) It might interest people to know that most catholic schools built by the catholic dioceses are same sex. Only few were mixed.





Thanks for your reply sir.

So knowing the underlying risk of exposing the kids to lesbians and gays (and possibly "turning them" lol) you still felt that a same sex school, boarding house inclusive would be best.


What were the factors that made you eliminate some certain schools as you wrote?
Was it discipline? (or lack of it)
Or values?
What were the mitigating factors?


I think you should note that no matter how highly regarded a school is with excellent staff and highly religious values, there are still loopholes and you can't deny the force of electromagnetism that people get attracted to the people they stay with over time.


Once again, thank you for your time.
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:10pm On Dec 24, 2018
Mizwisdom:
I'm a product of same sex school, I wouldn't have it any other way

When you mean you won't have it any other way, what do you mean, ma
Re: What's The Rationale Behind Same Sex Schools by Nobody: 3:14pm On Dec 24, 2018
egojeny1:

Thank you!!!

I and my sister attended same sex school, my 3 brothers attended same sex school and today, we're all married.

All my sons will attend same sex school of course one is already in one of the best same sex catholic boarding schools in lagos, then my only daughter will attend same sex boarding school.

Op, pls there's nothing wrong in same sex schools. Remove ur fears and ask God for guidance that's all.

cheesy Madam, I like dealing with concrete facts when discussing about a particular thing.

Your case and that of your brothers are properly different from others.
Some students after being raped by their seniors or School Mothers or Fathers (remind me the use of that again??) would find out that they liked the experience and come back for more, even though the first time would surely be traumatic.

I'll bring you links of people right here on nl that had this same problem.

I hope I find the links.

Don't get me wrong ma, I'm not saying it's everyone that goes to a same sex school will end up questioning their Sexuality, I'm just saying it's a factor.

Selah.

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