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Epositive:
Are you emotionally balanced?
Do you fear being single and lonely?
Is relationship the crown of your priorities?

Let's start from here

staying with a broke guy is not a problem if he has a dream, about 40% of billionaires were not just broke but poor sometimes in their life, 70% were school drop outs.
If you find a broke guy( not poor and wretched) who has not just a dream but goals, I'll advice you stick and encourage him, looking for already made men is the easy way out but not the right way, its like a short term solution to a long term problem. staying with someone who has dreams whether poor or rich is like an investment, the problem I have with ladies is that they like already made men, but if that is not coming your way, then face your fears do not shy away from it. Fears always bring us out of our closet and our desire pushes us to a choke point until we hit the rock, you have these two problem, FEAR of staying with a poor guy and the DESIRE to meet a rich guy. sometimes the obvious answer is just the right answer, the rich doesn't need you, and you don't need the poor, make you no go deh find husband for SHILOH 2025 o

funmisticqueen:
now we see why only the broke ones approach her, I think they are doing her a favour

she thinks ranting here would solve her problem

LadyBeee:
u re so dumb to realise that the economy of this country could be a factor. Ur reasoning is so myopic that you think everything is spiritual or ancestral. U can never move forward with this mindset

And you can never get married with this attitude of always talking back, and with insults for that matter. Tufiakwa gi mehn!

sexybaby22:
You should know that when you open a thread like this, you will get opinions that will infuriate you, but you have to keep calm and learn from the few reasonable ones.

Try to look back to the people you met in your twenties, is anyone still single that was interested in you and you can go back to? That's a safer way to get someone you know. Also, take some time off dating to work on yourself, try to be a better version of yourself, try to be the female version of the man you want to be with.

Don't be in a rush, never lower your standards, never let any man take you for granted or disrespect you, even if they are rich. You will definitely find the one you seek.

thank you so much. Bless u

Emescot:
And you can never get married with this attitude of always talking back, and with insults for that matter. Tufiakwa gi mehn!

marriage is not the ultimate thing in life, u uncultured son of a bitch

LadyBeee:
marriage is not the ultimate thing in life, u uncultured son of a bitch

I had sex with a pregnant girl, does this count as a threesóme?

funmisticqueen:
now we see why only the broke ones approach her, I think they are doing her a favour

you're a big Idiot for this trash u just typed. So no broke guys have ever approached u? I'm sure u re the type that feeds a man just to answer Mrs. Cheap fool

funmisticqueen:
yep, I can finally see why broke boys approach you. You scare the good ones away cos you look almost pretty as you say until you open your mouth and prove your lack of quality. U obviously need to level up ur attitude.

please shove ur useless advice up your ass. You don't necessarily need to comment on my post

funmisticqueen:
longest time, how's your baby mama

hot headed as ever. She took the breakup badly. But She'll soon have competition...

LadyBeee:
please shove ur useless advice up your ass. You don't necessarily need to comment on my post

how do you know her advice useless? Did you try it? Or do you have the answers you need already?in which case why then are you asking?

LadyBeee:
you're a big Idiot for this trash u just typed. So no broke guys have ever approached u? I'm sure u re the type that feeds a man just to answer Mrs. Cheap fool

lol, you are just a ratchet akata. No time

ubunja:
how do you know her advice useless? Did you try it? Or do you have the answers you need already?in which case why then are you asking?

thank you boo. Leave the babe alone

Emescot:
And you can never get married with this attitude of always talking back, and with insults for that matter. Tufiakwa gi mehn!

Gbam

LadyBeee:
marriage is not the ultimate thing in life, u uncultured son of a bitch

Merry Christmas dear

LadyBeee:
Admin please approve my post. I'm seriously troubled these days because all I'm meeting are broke guys asking for my hand in marriage. I don't really know what gives them the impression that I have money. I met one who told me bluntly that I should take care of him and if I want us to get married today, I should go ahead and do the necessary things that he knows I'm very capable. I met another one who started showing me his account balance on our first date and what he had was just 7k in his account, So I asked him why he was showing me , then he said he just wanted to let me know his financial status. I didn't have a problem with that because I'm not after his money until I caught him going through my account statements on my phone, that was the day I ended the relationship. I met another guy who said he works with FAAN, I was so glad that my misery has come to an end. At least, this one has a good job and would be buoyant, but it wasn't for long as not up to 3 weeks, the guy asked me to borrow him 50k that he wanted to pay his school fees. I was confused and I asked him to explain things to me. He said he isn't a graduate and he's just working as a driver with FAAN and studying part time. I said it's fine but I don't have any money to borrow him. He changed his attitude towards me. What could be wrong? I'm really troubled

Lolzzzz.. Is this meant to be a joke?

LadyBeee:
yes I fear being single and lonely

That's it... Pls learn to love and enjoy yourself ..
The rest ll follow

GuyWise101:
It seems you are getting old, maybe in your middle thirties and you are well to do so guys are capitalizing on this to scam and dump you later...


Don't worry, marriage is not everything, what you should be praying now is to have kids, get yourself a baby daddy or reach me out and I will impregenant you for free

idiot

Epositive:
Little wonder for the desperation and vulnerability.
I think every person is obliged(or must learn) to enjoy his or her own solitude. This will not only protect you from external factor(person) but also give you a clear definition of who you are and what you need.
Also, identify the qualities you want in a man and stick strictly to it. This will guide you not to settle for less.(don't manage o)



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LadyBeee:
Admin please approve my post. I'm seriously troubled these days because all I'm meeting are broke guys asking for my hand in marriage. I don't really know what gives them the impression that I have money. I met one who told me bluntly that I should take care of him and if I want us to get married today, I should go ahead and do the necessary things that he knows I'm very capable. I met another one who started showing me his account balance on our first date and what he had was just 7k in his account, So I asked him why he was showing me , then he said he just wanted to let me know his financial status. I didn't have a problem with that because I'm not after his money until I caught him going through my account statements on my phone, that was the day I ended the relationship. I met another guy who said he works with FAAN, I was so glad that my misery has come to an end. At least, this one has a good job and would be buoyant, but it wasn't for long as not up to 3 weeks, the guy asked me to borrow him 50k that he wanted to pay his school fees. I was confused and I asked him to explain things to me. He said he isn't a graduate and he's just working as a driver with FAAN and studying part time. I said it's fine but I don't have any money to borrow him. He changed his attitude towards me. What could be wrong? I'm really troubled

Hi Ladybee.

I would love to ask a few questions, maybe that could lead us to why u r having advances from broke guys.

Sighs LadyBeee, calm down.. Just try and calm down.
I understand how u feel when everyone feels u could be desperate, that's why they feel u attract desperados and broke guys.

In the real fact people, she's not desperate. I understand where she's coming from. Have been in her shoes before. Her looks gives her away that she's a money bag and when guys make their findings, they realise she's single and looks matured, so invariably they feel she should be desperate to marry any man, but that's where they are wrong. Some single comfortable ladies might even be their forties and be choosy on whom they want to settle down with.
Why? Cause they feel, they deserve better. They deserve a man who will not be a leech on them. They feel, they have the right to want a man who's worth it and not just any broke guy from nowhere. She values herself and how far she has worked hard to get where she is. So why settle for less.

My dear, don't worry this is just a phase in your life. Have gone thru this phase before, and I was patient for the kind of man I want to come my way. Please don't ever settle for less or for one broke guy, u will naturally look down on. Yours will come.

Watch your anger, be calm, be positive, be prayerful, always look good, and u will be fine at the end. Cheers.

Lastly remove fear of being lonely and single. It won't happen as long as u attend the right church, and visit the right places. Don't live by fear. Relax

highpriestess:
What is wrong with men of this generation? Next they will complain that they are being emasculated.

At emboldened, I will hire him as a houseboy.

I tell you

A lot of young boys, sorry men I see these days makes me ashamed to be a man sometimes

How can a man with sense want a woman to take responsibility for his financial needs?

A man with a dick and two balls

Uwa mmebi

Nacoss25:
With my little experience, i have come to realize that they is absolutely nothing called TRUE LOVE in this generation we are in. we are all selfish. everybody wants the best for them self and when they realize you may not be able to give them their heart desires at the long run, they will leave you. That girl telling you as a broke guy that she can die for you will leave you as long as better offer start showing up.
In conclusion, my advise for young broke guys is that chase that money first before any lady. Don't be deceive by those I love you tales because they will eventually break your heart..lol Never fall in love when you are still broke to avoid heartbreak.
peace out!!

selfishness is rife in this generation

victorian:
Sighs LadyBeee, calm down.. Just try and calm down.
I understand how u feel when everyone feels u could be desperate, that's why they feel u attract desperados and broke guys.

In the real fact people, she's not desperate. I understand where she's coming from. Have been in her shoes before. Her looks gives her away that she's a money bag and when guys make their findings, they realise she's single and looks matured, so invariably they feel she should be desperate to marry any man, but that's where they are wrong. Some single comfortable ladies might even be their forties and be choosy on whom they want to settle down with.
Why? Cause they feel, they deserve better. They deserve a man who will not be a leech on them. They feel, they have the right to want a man who's worth it and not just any broke guy from nowhere. She values herself and how far she has worked hard to get where she is. So why settle for less.

My dear, don't worry this is just a phase in your life. Have gone thru this phase before, and I was patient for the kind of man I want to come my way. Please don't ever settle for less or for one broke guy, u will naturally look down on. Yours will come.

Watch your anger, be calm, be positive, be prayerful, always look good, and u will be fine at the end. Cheers.

Lastly remove fear of being lonely and single. It won't happen as long as u attend the right church, and visit the right places. Don't live by fear. Relax

thanks for your advice. I appreciate the fact that u never judged or condemn me like others. Your advice is really helpful

LadyBeee:
thanks for your advice. I appreciate the fact that u never judged or condemn me like others. Your advice is really helpful

You are welcome my sis
I will never condemn or judge you or anyone. I'm not a saint .
I'm human like everyonelse. We all have our faults, short comings and all.
The best we can do, is re train ourselves and be the best we can be. Listen to one or two advices here and there and choose.

Anyone who condemns you or judge you, only makes u more defensive, more defiant and very stubborn! You won't even listen to such person, it's natural .

I'm like that too. So if my friends want me to listen to them and not cut them off, they explain and advice calmly without condemnation even though their truth sometimes might sound bitter or uncomfortable in my ears.

Their delivery in advising is what makes me listen.

So go girl! Do your thing but try control the anger.. Keep it in check. It took me years to control mine.. Lol

LadyBeee:
Admin please approve my post. I'm seriously troubled these days because all I'm meeting are broke guys asking for my hand in marriage. I don't really know what gives them the impression that I have money. I met one who told me bluntly that I should take care of him and if I want us to get married today, I should go ahead and do the necessary things that he knows I'm very capable. I met another one who started showing me his account balance on our first date and what he had was just 7k in his account, So I asked him why he was showing me , then he said he just wanted to let me know his financial status. I didn't have a problem with that because I'm not after his money until I caught him going through my account statements on my phone, that was the day I ended the relationship. I met another guy who said he works with FAAN, I was so glad that my misery has come to an end. At least, this one has a good job and would be buoyant, but it wasn't for long as not up to 3 weeks, the guy asked me to borrow him 50k that he wanted to pay his school fees. I was confused and I asked him to explain things to me. He said he isn't a graduate and he's just working as a driver with FAAN and studying part time. I said it's fine but I don't have any money to borrow him. He changed his attitude towards me. What could be wrong? I'm really troubled

like I always tell my sis don't giv broke boys ur contact or audience cos d r pest .
wen a guy approaches ask him 10 benefit u wud gain from spending ur lifetime with him ... from his response u can pin point if is lust or true love and if he has ambition.

Dee9977:
like I always tell my sis don't giv broke boys ur contact or audience cos d r pest .
wen a guy approaches ask him 10 benefit u wud gain from spending ur lifetime with him ... from his response u can pin point if is lust or true love and if he has ambition.

Really good advice

SmellySperm:
Op same with me. Broke gals come my way lately, we are in this together

lol

LadyBeee:
Admin please approve my post. I'm seriously troubled these days because all I'm meeting are broke guys asking for my hand in marriage. I don't really know what gives them the impression that I have money. I met one who told me bluntly that I should take care of him and if I want us to get married today, I should go ahead and do the necessary things that he knows I'm very capable. I met another one who started showing me his account balance on our first date and what he had was just 7k in his account, So I asked him why he was showing me , then he said he just wanted to let me know his financial status. I didn't have a problem with that because I'm not after his money until I caught him going through my account statements on my phone, that was the day I ended the relationship. I met another guy who said he works with FAAN, I was so glad that my misery has come to an end. At least, this one has a good job and would be buoyant, but it wasn't for long as not up to 3 weeks, the guy asked me to borrow him 50k that he wanted to pay his school fees. I was confused and I asked him to explain things to me. He said he isn't a graduate and he's just working as a driver with FAAN and studying part time. I said it's fine but I don't have any money to borrow him. He changed his attitude towards me. What could be wrong? I'm really troubled

I have 2k in my account. Very soon it will turn to 6 digits. let's hook up

So approaching wealthy guys is now off the table?
The members saying desperation is playing a part are saying the truth.
As an over thirty year old man I realized Nigerian females are always looking to settle down from age twenty six years and above. It was in my mid twenties females starting showing overt interest in me while secretly hoping I wanted to settle down.

upgrade urself.stop behaving like a crayfish seller and dress well and also post ur pics on instagram and the other social sites.maybe with luck a richman will come ur way.

okwabayi:
So approaching wealthy guys is now off the table?
The members saying desperation is playing a part are saying the truth.
As an over thirty year old man I realized Nigerian females are always looking to settle down from age twenty six years and above. It was in my mid twenties females starting showing overt interest in me while secretly hoping I wanted to settle down.

true that

Dear Ladybee, my grandmother told me to cherish truth even if it hurts me because lies will never set me free from any problem.

The truth is this.
1. Judge each man by his character not his pocket. Bill Gate, richest man in the world, was totally broke once.
2. If you're earning good money, pls you CANT marry a man that will make you submissive because it won't work for you. Why? Because you need a man that will ensure you even improve on your self and not compete against you.
3. I once was broke, and the only girl I loved jilted me. Now he wants me back because she sees my ride with plate number customised in my name. Do you think I'll ever have her back?

4. Marry a friend not a money bag or a sucker. My grandmother told me that love will always die along the way but friendship won't. Believe this Ladybee, THE DESIRE FOR SUCCESS IS VERY HIGH IN MOST MEN, IT'S LACK OF MONEY THAT SETS THEIR PLANS BACKWARDS. remove money from the equation first. IF HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU, BE BY HIS SIDE AND YOU'LL BE PLEASANTLY SURPRISED WITH WHAT WILL HAPPEN.

5. Finally(This one is a total hack and a secret), dress well and very decently(evn if u hate to) There are great single guys out there but they're attracted ONLY by decent look, even if they want wildness. If you watch porn or use Love Machine, suspend for the time being, it will help u connect easily with the right person.

Cheers!

NB: U may never get what you want in life if you don't get extremely honest with getting it.