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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 10:21pm On Dec 29, 2018

JJOF:
Why dnt ladies pay GROOMprice?

If ladies say they want to pay groom price.
Majority of you men would say it is unafrican and not your culture.
Besides no price should be paid on anybody.
Because some men managed to pay 50 naira bride price on their wives does not give them the right to treat them any how.

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by junnyjake(m): 10:35pm On Dec 29, 2018

Ranchhoddas:
Yeah I do.

Very funny and insightful guru.

He sure is. But I don't see myself giving in totally into his philosophy.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by junnyjake(m): 10:37pm On Dec 29, 2018

Ranchhoddas:
Yeah I do.

Very funny and insightful guru.

He sure is, but, I don't see myself giving in to his philosophy totally.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by victrick105: 10:38pm On Dec 29, 2018

AmazonHippolyta:
Chimamanda and Co that did not change their own names after marriage.
Are they not still successful and breaking glass ceilings.It has nothing to do with your success story.
Change of name is a choice and not a must.

With all due respect to chimamanda and Kim Kardashian and Co, I don't place them in the same league as Hillary and Curie... Greatness get level, this women are celebrated world wide and still manage to know that family should not be messed with... If you notice, it irrelevant people who make a storm out of a tea cup, a busy mind doesn't have time for silly thoughts like this, it's as if u are at war with men, the last name of your name should not be bothering you if u have better things to think of... Pls I am a supporter of womens right and I believe in equal rights, but modern day feminist seem to hold a grudge against men and have completely misunderstood the real essence of feminism which fights for womens right, and I don't see how a womans last name has any thing to do with her rights. It's just for easier identity and status in the society.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by junnyjake(m): 10:41pm On Dec 29, 2018

AmazonHippolyta:
Chimamanda and Co that did not change their own names after marriage.
Are they not still successful and breaking glass ceilings.It has nothing to do with your success story.
Change of name is a choice and not a must.

Great, let her hold on to that philosophy tightly and never let go under any circumstance, while she waits for the man that would accept her marriage terms, as for me, you're taking my name as my wife.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Ranchhoddas: 10:49pm On Dec 29, 2018

junnyjake:
He sure is, but, I don't see myself giving in to his philosophy totally.

Did Osho have a philosophy?

I think he was just about rebellion, rejecting norms and enjoying life to the fullest. Being your true self.
That's how I see him anyway.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 10:50pm On Dec 29, 2018

victrick105:
With all due respect to chimamanda and Kim Kardashian and Co, I don't place them in the same league as Hillary and Curie

I don't care the main issue is are they successful in their fields yes or no?...

Greatness get level, this women are celebrated world wide and still manage to know that family should not be messed with.

The likes of chimamanda and the other famous women who refuse to bear their spouses names did not say that family should be messed with...

If you notice, it irrelevant people who make a storm out of a tea cup, a busy mind doesn't have time for silly thoughts like this

Who told you this?under the law no one is irrelevant we all have what is of important and less concern to us.[/quote],

it's as if u are at war with men, the last name of your name should not be bothering you if u have better things to think of

..Your name is your identity so keeping it or not is an important thing to think of.

Pls I am a supporter of womens right and I believe in equal rights, but modern day feminist seem to hold a grudge against men and have completely misunderstood the real essence of feminism

I am not questioning you on that? Feminism is the liberation of women from patriarchy and change of surname or not is a part of it.Nobody is missing anything in sone countries women keep their surnames and the children bear both parents surnames.

fights for womens right, and I don't see how a womans last name has any thing to do with her rights. It's just for easier identity and status in the society.

It does because women have rights to choose whether or not to keep it and freedom of identification is a right for humans.Every individual has a right to choose you do not categorise or tell liberated women what is of relevance to them.And it is a part of womens rights.

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 10:53pm On Dec 29, 2018

junnyjake:
Great, let her hold on to that philosophy tightly and never let go under any circumstance, while she waits for the man that would accept her marriage terms, as for me, you're taking my name as my wife.

You can tell that to the woman you marry and if she agrees no problem but forcing her.You are stepping out of bounds.
If you are so interested in the surname to be uniform you can change yours to hers it is not a crime.
You need not worry for the lady a man that shares her ideas would come.She has every right to choose what she wants.

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by junnyjake(m): 10:58pm On Dec 29, 2018

AmazonHippolyta:
You can tell that to the woman you marry and if she agrees no problem but forcing her.You are stepping out of bounds.
If you are so interested in the surname to be uniform you can change yours to hers it is not a crime.
You need not worry for the lady a man that shares her ideas would come.She has every right to choose what she wants.

You read my post with a preconceived notion of what I was trying to imply, that's not cool.

Who's worrying for the lady's choice? Didn't you read where I was wishing her luck finding someone, who agrees to her terms?

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 11:00pm On Dec 29, 2018

junnyjake:
You read my post with a preconceived notion of what I was trying to imply, that's not cool.

Who's worrying for the lady's choice? Didn't you read where I was wishing her luck finding someone, who agrees to her terms?

Okay bye.
You need not tell me about your plans with your future wife whether or not she answers your name I didn't ask you

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by junnyjake(m): 11:02pm On Dec 29, 2018

Ranchhoddas:
Did Osho have a philosophy?

I think he was just about rebellion, rejecting norms and enjoying life to the fullest. Being your true self.
That's how I see him anyway.

Exactly, he was a Non-conformist, so, his view of life from that place formed his philosophy.

I'm non-conforming especially to the current craze with the mainstream, but what Osho preached was a life of isolation, that's some lonely and boring life man, can't deal.

Have you read his paper "where the shoe fits"?

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Nobody: 11:12pm On Dec 29, 2018

frozen70:
Thanks, am blushing.
Laughing mode activated

Please blush jor.... You got me tripping on that word.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by victrick105: 11:22pm On Dec 29, 2018

AmazonHippolyta:
I don't care the main issue is are they successful in their fields yes or no?... The likes of chimamanda and the other famous women who refuse to bear their spouses names did not say that family should be messed with...Who told you this?under the law no one is irrelevant we all have what is of important and less concern to us., it's as if u are at war with men, the last name of your name should not be bothering you if u have better things to think of..Your name is your identity so keeping it or not is an important thing to think of. Pls I am a supporter of womens right and I believe in equal rights, but modern day feminist seem to hold a grudge against men and have completely misunderstood the real essence of feminismI am not questioning you on that? Feminism is the liberation of women from patriarchy and change of surname or not is a part of it.Nobody is missing anything in sone countries women keep their surnames and the children bear both parents surnames. fights for womens right, and I don't see how a womans last name has any thing to do with her rights. It's just for easier identity and status in the society. It does because women have rights to choose whether or not to keep it and freedom of identification is a right for humans.Every individual has a right to choose you do not categorise or tell liberated women what is of relevance to them.And it is a part of womens rights.

Nobody is telling any woman how to live her live, the point her is that women Relegated themselves, while men were at the forefront; making breakthroughs in science and politics, nobody made a rule that women should not be given a chance... Look at your history chat for example, fewer women than men made ground breaking discoveries, except for a few like love lace Ada, the rule of the society is that respect and status increases the more you contribute to the society, from where I come from, respect is earned and it's not something you dish out like a plate of food, the fewer women who did extraordinary things got equal recognition like there male counterparts, women like Queen Victoria, Ada love lace, Marie Curie, Hillary Clinton and Co earned there respect... But this days, even an instagram twerker is playing feminist and begging for respect... We don't beg for respect, we earn respect.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Ranchhoddas: 11:24pm On Dec 29, 2018

junnyjake:
Exactly, he was a Non-conformist, so, his view of life from that place formed his philosophy.

I'm non-conforming especially to the current craze with the mainstream, but what Osho preached was a life of isolation, that's some lonely and boring life man, can't deal.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 11:26pm On Dec 29, 2018

victrick105:
Nobody is telling any woman how to live her live, the point her is that women Relegated themselves, while men were at the forefront; making breakthroughs in science and politics, nobody made a rule that women should not be given a chance... Look at your history chat for example, fewer women than men made ground breaking discoveries, except for a few like love lace Ada, the rule of the society is that respect and status increases the more you contribute to the society, from where I come from, respect is earned and it's not something you dish out like a plate of food, the fewer women who did extraordinary things got equal recognition like there male counterparts, women like Queen Victoria, Ada love lace, Marie Curie, Hillary Clinton and Co earned there respect... But this days, even an instagram twerker is playing feminist and begging for respect... We don't beg for respect, we earn respect.

Truth is women were caged back then.
And are currently being liberated.
And I agree with you respect is earned.
Good night.

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Ranchhoddas: 11:29pm On Dec 29, 2018

junnyjake:
Exactly, he was a Non-conformist, so, his view of life from that place formed his philosophy.

I'm non-conforming especially to the current craze with the mainstream, but what Osho preached was a life of isolation, that's some lonely and boring life man, can't deal.

Have you read his paper "where the shoe fits"?

Did Osho teach a life of isolation? I don't think so. Osho loved life. In fact he had over a hundred cars; Mercedes, Rolls Royce, name it. He believed in living to the fullest. He was known as the sex guru due to his stance on sexuality. I'm not sure where you got the isolation from.
I've not read the paper you speak of.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by victrick105: 11:40pm On Dec 29, 2018

AmazonHippolyta:
Truth is women were caged back then.
And are currently being liberated.
And I agree with you respect is earned.
Good night.

Yes I agree,
But women caged themselves more than the society caged them.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Nobody: 12:10am On Dec 30, 2018

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Slazim: 12:23am On Dec 30, 2018

Newboss:
No lady with an iota of dignity should change her name to any man's

That's the first thing I'd expose my daughters to
A world where women are free indeed

You can't change your name to my name, no even reason am Keep your identity, and I keep mine

If she keeps her name what would both of you be called? Mr & Mrs ?

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Lorenzop: 12:51am On Dec 30, 2018

Amakavula:
Twitter user Cynthia Lolo has sparked an important debate about marriage abouy ladies taking their husband's name after marrige, especially those of less successful spouses.

Tweeting Cynthia states that:

"I will not take the surname of my partner except i'm guaranteed that using his name opens doors that my name wont" pic.twitter.com/E2bp2Qu8ot
— Lolo Cynthia (@Lolo_cy) December 29, 2018

I think it's unnecessary to force a lady to change her name after marrige just to please her man especially it is a famous one; imagine Opera winfery or Kendell Jenner or Kardashians changing to a nobody just because of marriage

It is fools like this that think Marriage is a poverty alleviation programme.....kmafvt this idio.t deserves a yahoo + guy as boyfriend....she go know how far

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by arrestdarrester: 1:53am On Dec 30, 2018

You're simply not fit for marriage. Happy cohabiting contractual agreement in advance.

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by mechanics(m): 5:28am On Dec 30, 2018

She's not ready for marriage then.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by saucemanny(m): 6:06am On Dec 30, 2018

Amakavula:
Twitter user Cynthia Lolo has sparked an important debate about marriage abouy ladies taking their husband's name after marrige, especially those of less successful spouses.

Tweeting Cynthia states that:

"I will not take the surname of my partner except i'm guaranteed that using his name opens doors that my name wont" pic.twitter.com/E2bp2Qu8ot
— Lolo Cynthia (@Lolo_cy) December 29, 2018

I think it's unnecessary to force a lady to change her name after marrige just to please her man especially it is a famous one; imagine Opera winfery or Kendell Jenner or Kardashians changing to a nobody just because of marriage

idiot...na them dey teach our daughter bad thing.ediort

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Zuriisecrets00: 6:32am On Dec 30, 2018

victrick105:
Yes I agree,
But women caged themselves more than the society caged them.

I won't totally agree with that let's take it back to history after men went to fight in the second world War women filled their spaces in the factories, they worked as drivers and all but after the war they were forced back to the kitchen women who tried to protest were terribly mistreated.... Besides look at the African Society maybe you guys gave not met but I have unfortunately met men that the sound of gender equality is like sin to them

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by sunbreaker: 6:33am On Dec 30, 2018

ZIMDRILL:
The question is, IS YOUR OWN SURNAME OPENING DOORS FOR YOU ?

my brother ask me ooo.why she hasn't remained in her father house

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Zuriisecrets00: 6:47am On Dec 30, 2018

victrick105:
With all due respect to chimamanda and Kim Kardashian and Co, I don't place them in the same league as Hillary and Curie... Greatness get level, this women are celebrated world wide and still manage to know that family should not be messed with... If you notice, it irrelevant people who make a storm out of a tea cup, a busy mind doesn't have time for silly thoughts like this, it's as if u are at war with men, the last name of your name should not be bothering you if u have better things to think of... Pls I am a supporter of womens right and I believe in equal rights, but modern day feminist seem to hold a grudge against men and have completely misunderstood the real essence of feminism which fights for womens right, and I don't see how a womans last name has any thing to do with her rights. It's just for easier identity and status in the society.

Yes I agree modern day feminist have totally deviated from the true concept of feminism to an endless power tussle. I took a short gender equality course and I must say what people are practicing right now is not feminism I wrote an article on "the truth about feminism" if you are interested in reading it go to www.zuriisecrets..com

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by AmazonHippolyta(f): 7:11am On Dec 30, 2018

victrick105:
Yes I agree,
But women caged themselves more than the society caged them.

I believe you are right at the bolded.Because even in this century some women have refused to empower themselves and change from the status quo.It was nice discussing with you devoid of insults.Have a blessed day.

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by goodnewscliff(m): 9:17am On Dec 30, 2018

ITS A MANS WORLD... MEN WILL ALWAYS LEAD... MEN WILL ALWAYS DISCOVER,, MEN WILL ALWAYS BREAK NEW GROUND....... IF NOT FOR MEN,, how life for be huh

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Igbins70(m): 10:56am On Dec 30, 2018

Newboss:
Why don't men take the lady's name?

Men dey pay dowry

Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Newboss(m): 11:15am On Dec 30, 2018

Slazim:
If she keeps her name what would both of you be called? Mr & Mrs ?

Her name and my name angry

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Re: I Won't Take My Future Husband's Name Unless He's More Successful-Cynthia Lolo by Ugosample(m): 11:44am On Dec 30, 2018

Lordofthewest:
With useless girls like this one our generation is so fvcked, if you're too big/proud to take your husbands name because he ain't rich why not just stay in your father's house and continue washing plate. Guys in this country go through a lot first we have to deal with buhari/bad economy and now we have to add useless b#tches to the list of our worries.

Deciding to keep your maiden name is not a problrm at all
So many women these days do that.

However the REASON why some want to keep the maiden name (like the REASIN this lady posted) is a BIG PROBLEM

I personally don't mind

The only issue is that some women are just undecided

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