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How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by royalamour(m): 7:26pm On Jan 01, 2019
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by royalamour(m): 7:36pm On Jan 01, 2019
Please don't mind the typos and other errors.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Vcent50: 7:37pm On Jan 01, 2019
Hmm, please used your wisdom,do not say anything when there is argument,and don't tell her you want to divorce,cus the damage may be out of control.
So there is a adage that says that the name you will give to a child inside you it is.. stay safe

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Powerexpert: 7:40pm On Jan 01, 2019
Is she holding a gun to your head?

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Nobody: 7:41pm On Jan 01, 2019
If this is truth. I advice that you secure yourself first and move out of the shared apartment cos your relationship is very toxic at the moment.

Secure your finance and priceless valuables as well.

Your can start the divorce proceedings from your hideout like dino melaye. (sarcasm intended)

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Tinosa: 7:50pm On Jan 01, 2019
Hmm u mean u have been bearing all this since? Ah! Oti o. Im not an advocate of divorce but when a r/lship becomes violent, i do not support such rlship to continue. Anyway this is 2019, bear no more so she will not kill u before ur time. Simply tell her u want a divorce, tell her d reasons which she should already know but may be living in denial. But plan urself ahead of time. If u are not in ur personal house, rent a smaller place far from where u stay presently and she shouldn't know d location. just start planning before u now break d news. And make sure u are extra careful after breaking d news because ur life may be in danger. A woman that goes back to exes, stabs her husband can do anything out of anger.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Ahmed0336(m): 7:51pm On Jan 01, 2019
Bros!!! Dis your matter wear jungle boot come take face cap take wage am.

I don marry for 13 years now to be honest with you I no go fit take quarter of those things you typed there sh*ttttt


You be real man I swear!!!!


No be for my mouth you go hear say "divorce her" undecided

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by demelza: 7:53pm On Jan 01, 2019
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.
Simply pretend and act humble.
Be the first to apologise.
Kneel down and give him food.
In fact, pretend to be submissive
Before you know, you don marry. grin grin

@Op, sorry o! Get a lawyer to help.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by gaby(m): 7:55pm On Jan 01, 2019
Hmmm...deep

Bro, you do not need to get divorced before you run to save your head first, divorce will come in its time most likely from her even, because she'd certainly need to move on.

My brother, e better say man no get wife than to get the one wey go dey make you fear to go house. ..

So I take run leave my problem o. Who divorce and lawyer help....life first man..

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Emmzy201(m): 8:01pm On Jan 01, 2019
This is truly deep. This is one of the reasons am so scared of marriage and anything called love.
You have endured a lot bro... Just give her a space of about two months, gather enough evidence and get a good lawyer.
Also go for a DNA test as I am even suspecting the child is for her ex ( I may be wrong though)
Flee from toxic relationship and for her to stab you over an argument means she can also poison you as she threatened. You still have a lot of years ahead of you, please don't die before your time

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by adun99(f): 8:11pm On Jan 01, 2019
royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

Move out first and don't let her know your whereabout, also inform the police in case. Afterwards start a divorce proceeding, of course you need a lawyer. Pele. It is well. Crazy people everywhere from both genders tho.
Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Cigo1(m): 8:25pm On Jan 01, 2019
Lol.

Beat her.
Beat her so bad that it'll look like a train hit her.

If she still does not pack her load and flee.

Give her the Oscar Pistorius treatment.
Don't grant her any divorce, it'll be a stain on you.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 8:32pm On Jan 01, 2019
What kind of marriage did you have?

If it was only traditional, return bride price or go to a customary court representing yourself and that's all, If it was a registry wedding you need to get a lawyer . There is no fast divorce, the court will ask you to try counseling first. However if she doesn't object it makes it easier

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Heartbender: 8:40pm On Jan 01, 2019
You would need to file for divorce. Call me let's talk
royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by dingbang(m): 8:44pm On Jan 01, 2019
Divorce immediately..

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by EfemenaXY: 8:58pm On Jan 01, 2019
royalamour:
Met in 2014 November.
Dated for 11 months. All these while she was so homely and accommodating.

She would call to let me know about her movements even when I did not ask for.

She would apologize at any slight opportunity.

It was all rosy.

The parents kept calling and advising me not to let other ladies win me over.

They would visit or call my parents at every given opportunity and I felt "this is it".

We got married almost a year later.

The first 2 weeks of the honeymoon was smooth until the 3rd week and bam! there was disagreement about money.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep. It took me months to catch up with reality as the lady I was dating was a total different person.

That was the journey of misery and then it was nagging, disrespect and stuffs until I caught her on the phone telling her ex that she misses him and sh1ts.

I was devastated. This lady refused to apologize. She won't even listen to me whenever I asked to have a heart to heart talk with her.

I had to involve her parents and it was by force before she apologized.

She got pregnant and 9 months later she was delivered of our first son.

2 weeks later, my attention was drawn to constant beeping on her phone and when I checked, my supposed wife was discussing with another of her ex about how tight and intact her vagina was cos she gave birth through CS. And the guy used to be jealous cos he enjoyed the sex they had as she was always tight and shits.

I was devastated. I drew her attention to it and she denied feigning ignorance. It was when I showed her screenshots that she accepted and asked me to forget about it, that what has happened has happened.

She would never say sorry. So called her elder brother and he begged me and begged her to apologize, still she won't.

I reported to the mother. This didn't help matters. The aunts numbering about 4 had to beg on her behalf.
I let it slide.

Things got worse and it came to a point where she would not cook. Even times when I return home from long journeys, I most times will have to go into the kitchen to sort myself.

Mum got sick and I asked that she come to us so that we can go to bigger hospital for proper check up and hell was let loose.

She stopped cooking and would only cook whenever she desires.

Time past and my life became almost miserable.

I would close from the office and won't be able to go home. I would stroll into a beer parlour and while away time till maybe 10pm and would sneak out very early even before she wakes up.

Earlier in 2016, I had empowered her with 1.2 million to start a business and one dime I didn't see as return on investment with her citing low patronage as the reason for the collapse of the business.

It was until the elder brother who was staying with us asked her for money and she refused that the dude disclosed that she made about 2.6 million from sales of items and services she rendered in the shop she denied making nothing from. She could not deny this fact but for my son I let it slide.

My wife would bring her female friend into the home and this lady even when she was engaged to a guy still go out to sleep with other guys.
I asked her to stop been friends with her and she blatantly refused. She would go ahead to invite the lady into my home and rain insults on me because I don't want them together.

This final one was the calls she was making with her ex most times when I was away in the office.
I noticed and she couldn't deny it. I later learnt that her cheat of a friend was the middle person that delivers messages to my wife whenever I was around.

I can't take it anymore.

I don't wanna die before my time.

I can't eat in my house anymore as she threatened to poison me and nothing will happen. This was let out in a heat of a moment while we were exchanging words.

What's the express way to divorce without complications?

NB: The dad has asked me to quit before I start to develop HBP.

Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by royalamour(m): 9:15pm On Jan 01, 2019
EfemenaXY:


Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.







Thank you for your contribution.

I will proudly say to you that I haven't cheat nor betray her trust in anyway.

She was in charge of my finances until 90,000 disappeared within 4 days unaccounted for.

I have always tried to show examples and even her dad, the elder brother have asked me to thread carefully.

I am no saint but I tried to be a noble man.

Thank you.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by seasy: 9:15pm On Jan 01, 2019
Hmmm
Marriage sha!
It is well

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by piippa(m): 10:12pm On Jan 01, 2019
One of the reasons for all the shits you took is because you do not exert Authority. A woman who carried a knife to stab you can kill you while you're asleep. Divorce Divorce Divorce.

Get the matter reported at a police station that your wife attempted murder then seek for divorce.

Let the parents know you are not interested in the marriage anymore.

Leave the house for her if you are paying rent, if it's your house she got to leave no bs.

The truth is You can never divorce amicably with her.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Nobody: 10:14pm On Jan 01, 2019
Oh boy.

This your matter tear shirt I swear.

You wan die for woman matter?

Your blood is on your head if you don't run for your dear life....


Guy don't wait for your ancestors to slap you before you get brain abeg

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Acidosis(m): 10:58pm On Jan 01, 2019
You didn't address the ex issues before your wedding. Marriage will not automatically erase a woman's feelings toward an ex. If she didn't get over her ex before marriage, she won't in marriage. Aside the change of name and that band, marriage changes nothing. A cheat and a careless person will always remain the same until a conscious effort is made; it doesn't matter where you conduct your wedding, Paris or Rome.

More importantly, the world these days don't give a fck about married women, you can go ahead to wear 25 wedding bands. The same kind of conversations you hold before marriage will always come back to live. Those randy buddies won't care whether you're married to a Pope or a Senator.
Gone are the days were people consciously respect married women. A married woman that wants to be respected needs to respect herself before marriage.

Bottom line, your wife hasn't changed. You only decided to get played at the onset. I bet you didn't even care to know about her past (you're probably one of those folks who claim they don't care about the past). Oh well, the past will always come to haunt those who fail to address them. Getting to know about these exes after 2 years in marriage shows the kind of courtship you had.

On whether to divorce her or not? I think you should listen to your in-laws. When your own in-law tells you to quit after several attempts to correct their daughter, trust me, only a f00l will advise you to continue. I don't know more than her parents who raised and trained her. They probably even know more than you do, so listen to them and listen to that inner voice.

Now unless you're marrying a total virgin, you need to dig deep without raising trust issues. Don't ever make the mistake you made in this marriage in your next attempt.

All the best bruv.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Cumtroller: 11:07pm On Jan 01, 2019
Tufia!!!

Weak men everywhere. She is obviously the head of your household. Coming to Nairaland so you can know what steps to take when you brought this upon yourself in the first place. Spineless weakling.

Spare the rod and spoil the wife. Take heed!!

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by OKOATA(m): 11:25pm On Jan 01, 2019
I see you as a weakling, you have been manipulated by your woman. She's not into you anymore. She stabbed you and that means she can kill you in your sleep. She doesn't even respect you anymore. She's sending text messages to exes and does that not tell you she's a dog sleeping around like an animal on heat? Get out of that house asap before she poisons you. You don't have to ruminate on why she changed towards you. Nigerian women are more deadlier than Queen Cobra, they can pretend to get what they want. I am sure she married you for the money. You are the typical Mr Nice guy that's why she takes you for a fool. You too dull sha. Secure your assets, get a DNA done and divorce the wh0re of a woman you married. Run for your life mumu

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by baby124: 12:52am On Jan 02, 2019
Hmm. This is a serious matter. When physical violence and threats of poison come into the matter I suggest separation and divorce. When sexual immorality and non Chalant behavior are introduced then please save yourself and leave her. The truth is you did not know this woman. The type of woman you want does not truly exist. If a person does not show you anger or you don’t fight( not physical) in courtship then you do not know that person. Courtship is when you find out if you can cope with a person’s madness. We all get our own for body, so expecting a perfect woman is completely unrealistic. The fact that her parents were calling you to pressure you alone is a warning sign. They know their daughter and they were in a hurry to marry her off. This person only showed you what you wanted to see and she was pretending for marriage.

If you are renting please move to your parents house and let them fight the matter for you. If you truly believe she can harm you please go and file a report with the police and go into hiding while serving her divorce papers. Your life is most important here. You can send her money for your son monthly through a bank transfer. But save yourself. Your son will be fine and you will see him when you are able to agree on custody.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by BuddhaPalm(m): 1:04am On Jan 02, 2019
Divorce is a slow process in Nigeria.

But you don’t need a divorce to move out.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by FisifunKododada: 5:19am On Jan 02, 2019
shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by MARKone(m): 6:37am On Jan 02, 2019
FisifunKododada:


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You don't need to insult her to get your point across. What is wrong with you people, she is entitled to her opinion, right or wrong. @ post, OP your "wife" stabbed you and treathend to poison you, and you are here asking questions. If you can't move her out, move your self out first, pending the time you start divorce proceedings. And don't let anybody talk you out of it, that is if your narration here is true.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 6:54am On Jan 02, 2019
Please if your partner violently attacks you like she did with a knife male or female please report to the police for documentation even if you plan to settle it at home, documentation is good for times like this and God forbid if the spouse kills you or you resort to self defence.



Please leave the house first, Separate first then start the proceedings.

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 6:55am On Jan 02, 2019
EfemenaXY:


Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.







I hope you read that she stabbed him

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Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Dyt(f): 7:17am On Jan 02, 2019
coughs

na wa o

for 11 months she was the best but changed afterwards
that she even stabbed you

it is well my broda

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