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imnotconfused:
I believe you mean an au pair and not a nanny?

A nanny is the expensive option which would cost over £1k pcm or is it the agency type nanny cum aupair? The ones you pay per week?

Everything depends on your bargaining power I believe,I had one Nigerian nanny from an agency and I regretted it.

I was paying £1500 ,then I was paying holiday bonus,she had special food which we supplied and we also paid for her toiletries etc

She worked 5 days a week 8-6:30 and had weekends off.She did not cook,only job she did was clean her room,kids room and her bathroom,fold their laundry(we ironed), dress the kids make sure they had their meals & bathe them.

She was basically looking after the younger child as we placed the older one in nursery 4 times a week.

She was overtly familiar and kept on reminding me that she was a bank manager in Nigeria years ago,she was a big woman etc,I asked her how that was relevant to this job?

She was also very critical of the way we raised our children and wanted us to call her mama.

She never took the kids to the park or did any extra curricular activities with them, and she was constantly complaining.

If we came home and cooked food late she would complain that she was hungry..we always told her all the food was at her disposal but she preferred to eat what I cooked.

She once mistakenly knocked my daughter down and then blamed her for being in her way.

She scratched my daughter's face and blamed me for not buying hand creme to soften her nails.

She blamed my then 3 year old for farting in her face on purpose but she bent him over to wash his bum and somehow he farted but she said he did it on purpose.

This is a shortened version.I employed this Nigerian nanny who came highly recommended by the agency cos I thought it would aid my children in learning my local language.

We fired her after she tried to accuse my husband and I of something we did not do, something she clearly did but refused to tell the truth.

My children hated her but we were desperate cos of our jobs.I regret every second of it and will never make the mistake of sacrificing the well being of my children again just to make a living.

I have a friend who shipped a relative from Nigeria to nanny for her,the woman called police for them and said they took her documents and enslaved her..this woman is in her 40s.

Some people have good experiences though.

Nowadays I pay £1100 pcm for 4 days in nursery then breakfast and after school club £400pcm.
Extracurriculars cost about £300-400pcm

Once the younger one turns three,nursery fee will come down to about £700.

I'm happier with nursery for now because I have peace of mind,I'm happy to spend the money and have peace.The risk of leaving my most precious possession in the hands of just.anybody is too scary.I no dey do again.

DH and I have had to work round each other. He is more flexible thankfully as I cannot pick and choose my shifts at will.

I also spend loads to bring in grandparents from Nigeria but then again I have peace of mind.

If you have CCTV at home,maybe you can employ an aupair I don't know but you will have to tell.her there are cameras installed.I think they're the ones in the price range you mentioned,I may be wrong.

3 children is a lot but it depends on their ages.If 3 and above,check the 30 free hours entitlement.
If less than 3,you'll need to cough up the cash and work with partner/husband or not work at all till they're older.

Me I prefer to work and spend all my salary on nursery just to preserve my sanity, besides having a leg in the career door is very necessary for every woman.

Good luck.

sassysure:
Incredible!

See sense of entitlement.

imnotconfused:
I believe you mean an au pair and not a nanny?

A nanny is the expensive option which would cost over £1k pcm or is it the agency type nanny cum aupair? The ones you pay per week?

Everything depends on your bargaining power I believe,I had one Nigerian nanny from an agency and I regretted it.

Sorry to hear all these. Why I am saying £600 is that a friend of mine that has three kids, one is six, four and the last one is two years, she employed this lady that came from Nigeria as visiting visa, she was so lucky the lady is very good to the kids, she does the cleaning of the living room, kitchen, inface her house is always neat, she help to arrange the kids cloths neatly in the cupboard,she take them out, bath,dress and take the four years old girl to school,infact the lady is too much,she even work atimes on Saturday but guess what my friend pays her, only £600. So I was supprised.that is why I am asking. The lady lives in her house.

I was paying £1500 ,then I was paying holiday bonus,she had special food which we supplied and we also paid for her toiletries etc

She worked 5 days a week 8-6:30 and had weekends off.She did not cook,only job she did was clean her room,kids room and her bathroom,fold their laundry(we ironed), dress the kids make sure they had their meals & bathe them.

She was basically looking after the younger child as we placed the older one in nursery 4 times a week.

She was overtly familiar and kept on reminding me that she was a bank manager in Nigeria years ago,she was a big woman etc,I asked her how that was relevant to this job?

She was also very critical of the way we raised our children and wanted us to call her mama.

She never took the kids to the park or did any extra curricular activities with them, and she was constantly complaining.

If we came home and cooked food late she would complain that she was hungry..we always told her all the food was at her disposal but she preferred to eat what I cooked.

She once mistakenly knocked my daughter down and then blamed her for being in her way.

She scratched my daughter's face and blamed me for not buying hand creme to soften her nails.

She blamed my then 3 year old for farting in her face on purpose but she bent him over to wash his bum and somehow he farted but she said he did it on purpose.

This is a shortened version.I employed this Nigerian nanny who came highly recommended by the agency cos I thought it would aid my children in learning my local language.

We fired her after she tried to accuse my husband and I of something we did not do, something she clearly did but refused to tell the truth.

My children hated her but we were desperate cos of our jobs.I regret every second of it and will never make the mistake of sacrificing the well being of my children again just to make a living.

I have a friend who shipped a relative from Nigeria to nanny for her,the woman called police for them and said they took her documents and enslaved her..this woman is in her 40s.

Some people have good experiences though.

Nowadays I pay £1100 pcm for 4 days in nursery then breakfast and after school club £400pcm.
Extracurriculars cost about £300-400pcm

Once the younger one turns three,nursery fee will come down to about £700.

I'm happier with nursery for now because I have peace of mind,I'm happy to spend the money and have peace.The risk of leaving my most precious possession in the hands of just.anybody is too scary.I no dey do again.

DH and I have had to work round each other. He is more flexible thankfully as I cannot pick and choose my shifts at will.

I also spend loads to bring in grandparents from Nigeria but then again I have peace of mind.

If you have CCTV at home,maybe you can employ an aupair I don't know but you will have to tell.her there are cameras installed.I think they're the ones in the price range you mentioned,I may be wrong.

3 children is a lot but it depends on their ages.If 3 and above,check the 30 free hours entitlement.
If less than 3,you'll need to cough up the cash and work with partner/husband or not work at all till they're older.

Me I prefer to work and spend all my salary on nursery just to preserve my sanity, besides having a leg in the career door is very necessary for every woman.

Good luck.

imnotconfused:
I believe you mean an au pair and not a nanny?

A nanny is the expensive option which would cost over £1k pcm or is it the agency type nanny cum aupair? The ones you pay per week?

Everything depends on your bargaining power I believe,I had one Nigerian nanny from an agency and I regretted it.

I was paying £1500 ,then I was paying holiday bonus,she had special food which we supplied and we also paid for her toiletries etc

She worked 5 days a week 8-6:30 and had weekends off.She did not cook,only job she did was clean her room,kids room and her bathroom,fold their laundry(we ironed), dress the kids make sure they had their meals & bathe them.

She was basically looking after the younger child as we placed the older one in nursery 4 times a week.

She was overtly familiar and kept on reminding me that she was a bank manager in Nigeria years ago,she was a big woman etc,I asked her how that was relevant to this job?

She was also very critical of the way we raised our children and wanted us to call her mama.

She never took the kids to the park or did any extra curricular activities with them, and she was constantly complaining.

If we came home and cooked food late she would complain that she was hungry..we always told her all the food was at her disposal but she preferred to eat what I cooked.

She once mistakenly knocked my daughter down and then blamed her for being in her way.

She scratched my daughter's face and blamed me for not buying hand creme to soften her nails.

She blamed my then 3 year old for farting in her face on purpose but she bent him over to wash his bum and somehow he farted but she said he did it on purpose.

This is a shortened version.I employed this Nigerian nanny who came highly recommended by the agency cos I thought it would aid my children in learning my local language.

We fired her after she tried to accuse my husband and I of something we did not do, something she clearly did but refused to tell the truth.

My children hated her but we were desperate cos of our jobs.I regret every second of it and will never make the mistake of sacrificing the well being of my children again just to make a living.

I have a friend who shipped a relative from Nigeria to nanny for her,the woman called police for them and said they took her documents and enslaved her..this woman is in her 40s.

Some people have good experiences though.

Nowadays I pay £1100 pcm for 4 days in nursery then breakfast and after school club £400pcm.
Extracurriculars cost about £300-400pcm

Once the younger one turns three,nursery fee will come down to about £700.

I'm happier with nursery for now because I have peace of mind,I'm happy to spend the money and have peace.The risk of leaving my most precious possession in the hands of just.anybody is too scary.I no dey do again.

DH and I have had to work round each other. He is more flexible thankfully as I cannot pick and choose my shifts at will.

I also spend loads to bring in grandparents from Nigeria but then again I have peace of mind.

If you have CCTV at home,maybe you can employ an aupair I don't know but you will have to tell.her there are cameras installed.I think they're the ones in the price range you mentioned,I may be wrong.

3 children is a lot but it depends on their ages.If 3 and above,check the 30 free hours entitlement.
If less than 3,you'll need to cough up the cash and work with partner/husband or not work at all till they're older.

Me I prefer to work and spend all my salary on nursery just to preserve my sanity, besides having a leg in the career door is very necessary for every woman.

Good luck.

Adapapaokoye:
Killingmesoftly please check your mails. Thanks

Killingmesoftly:
I av checked no mail from u

Adapapaokoye:
I don't know if the fault is from my end.
Okay please can you inbox me I need to discuss something with you. Thanks.

francoteeboy2626:
please house,I plays talking drum and other instruments, if I can get a Nigerian church that can stand for me that there is no citizens that can play the talking drum for them,hence the need for me,can I get a work permit that way

fatima04:
Hello house, please what's the best way to change Euro to Pounds, the rate difference I am seeing.online and in shop is alarming.

francoteeboy2626:
please house,I plays talking drum and other instruments, if I can get a Nigerian church that can stand for me that there is no citizens that can play the talking drum for them,hence the need for me,can I get a work permit that way

Lexusgs430:
ASDA........

dustydee:
Hi, you can try Tier 1 (Exceptional Talent Visa). I believe there is a stream for the arts, which your talent is but you will need someone residing in the UK for endorsement (write a letter of recommendation for you). I believe you have a very good case with your skill set. Go through the "Exceptional promise" route.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/753717/T1__ET__Guidance_11_2018.pdf

imnotconfused:
I believe you mean an au pair and not a nanny?

A nanny is the expensive option which would cost over £1k pcm or is it the agency type nanny cum aupair? The ones you pay per week?

Everything depends on your bargaining power I believe,I had one Nigerian nanny from an agency and I regretted it.

I was paying £1500 ,then I was paying holiday bonus,she had special food which we supplied and we also paid for her toiletries etc

She worked 5 days a week 8-6:30 and had weekends off.She did not cook,only job she did was clean her room,kids room and her bathroom,fold their laundry(we ironed), dress the kids make sure they had their meals & bathe them.

She was basically looking after the younger child as we placed the older one in nursery 4 times a week.

She was overtly familiar and kept on reminding me that she was a bank manager in Nigeria years ago,she was a big woman etc,I asked her how that was relevant to this job?

She was also very critical of the way we raised our children and wanted us to call her mama.

She never took the kids to the park or did any extra curricular activities with them, and she was constantly complaining.

If we came home and cooked food late she would complain that she was hungry..we always told her all the food was at her disposal but she preferred to eat what I cooked.

She once mistakenly knocked my daughter down and then blamed her for being in her way.

She scratched my daughter's face and blamed me for not buying hand creme to soften her nails.

She blamed my then 3 year old for farting in her face on purpose but she bent him over to wash his bum and somehow he farted but she said he did it on purpose.

This is a shortened version.I employed this Nigerian nanny who came highly recommended by the agency cos I thought it would aid my children in learning my local language.

We fired her after she tried to accuse my husband and I of something we did not do, something she clearly did but refused to tell the truth.

My children hated her but we were desperate cos of our jobs.I regret every second of it and will never make the mistake of sacrificing the well being of my children again just to make a living.

I have a friend who shipped a relative from Nigeria to nanny for her,the woman called police for them and said they took her documents and enslaved her..this woman is in her 40s.

Some people have good experiences though.

Nowadays I pay £1100 pcm for 4 days in nursery then breakfast and after school club £400pcm.
Extracurriculars cost about £300-400pcm

Once the younger one turns three,nursery fee will come down to about £700.

I'm happier with nursery for now because I have peace of mind,I'm happy to spend the money and have peace.The risk of leaving my most precious possession in the hands of just.anybody is too scary.I no dey do again.

DH and I have had to work round each other. He is more flexible thankfully as I cannot pick and choose my shifts at will.

I also spend loads to bring in grandparents from Nigeria but then again I have peace of mind.

If you have CCTV at home,maybe you can employ an aupair I don't know but you will have to tell.her there are cameras installed.I think they're the ones in the price range you mentioned,I may be wrong.

3 children is a lot but it depends on their ages.If 3 and above,check the 30 free hours entitlement.
If less than 3,you'll need to cough up the cash and work with partner/husband or not work at all till they're older.

Me I prefer to work and spend all my salary on nursery just to preserve my sanity, besides having a leg in the career door is very necessary for every woman.

Good luck.

Killingmesoftly:
Thanks for your response but it is [b]local childminder [/b]I am looking for. I can only afford £600 a month. I am just asking to know how much others pay

Ralphlauren:
a 'local childminder' will not accept £600 per month to look after 3 kids 7am -7pm, 5 days a weeks and two Saturdays a month. NEVER.

what you are looking for is someone undocumented or here on visiting visa. even with that, you will be lucky to find one on these terms.

Braket:
Sorry to ask sir, the question that keeps coming to mind that, is having mother in-laws around not an option too? As they can keep rotating between both parent's mum every 6 months. Is this not possible or there's a clause to it as well?

Ralphlauren:
Having your mum or mum-in-law around is an option. its a case of applying for a visit visa and hope they are approved, however, they cannot stay any more than 6 months at a time and I think no more than 6months in total within a 12 months period.

I have heard of recent cases where elderly ones are being refused for a renewal (eg. 2 years), after their initial 6months visa just because they stayed for 5 months or close to 6 months. some couples have their mum visit briefly before the baby arrives, return and then apply for 2years. i know someone that kept his mum here illegally for over 5 years (she came in on 6months) and sent her back to nigeria when the kids were all in primary school.

another issue is the current health condition of mum or mum in law. the cold weather is not really friendly for some. some other miss their friends and family as well as the buzz and owambe parties in Nigeria. it is also important to consider if they have the physical strength and endurance to look after kids if not, you might end up having to worry about her health.

then some mum in laws (like mine) have businesses, etc that they are running in nigeria and being away for any longer than 2 months is practically impossible for them. some mums like mine feel the kids are your responsibility and they have no intention of being turned to childminder/babysitter and they want to enjoy their retirement travelling around the world and living their best life. I don't blame them though - babysitting under 5s all alone at old age is a lot of work.

Ralphlauren:
a 'local childminder' will not accept £600 per month to look after 3 kids 7am -7pm, 5 days a weeks and two Saturdays a month. NEVER.

what you are looking for is someone undocumented or here on visiting visa. even with that, you will be lucky to find one on these terms.

Killingmesoftly:
Why I am saying £600 is that a friend of mine that has three kids, one is six, four and the last one is two years, she employed this lady that came from Nigeria as visiting visa, she was so lucky the lady is very good to the kids, she does the cleaning of the living room, kitchen, inface her house is always neat, she help to arrange the kids cloths neatly in the cupboard,she take them out, bath,dress and take the four years old girl to school,infact the lady is too much,she even work atimes on Saturday but guess what my friend pays her, only £600. So I was supprised.that is why I am asking. The lady lives in her house. I think why she is paying her that is that the nanny doesn't have paper to work. Even my friend told me that most people in London still pay from £700-£500

Lexusgs430:
In the black market Labour, you would even see £450.00. A person on visiting visa, staying in a free house + £600 pcm....... Hit the lottery.....


NB : Going down this route, hopefully all goes well and you would not require legal or civil services.... Or else, alarm go blow....... The world go know wetin is cooking wey burn house........

Beautyaddy:
Huh, I believe that is 600 pounds per month...and you call that "hitting the lottery"?...Interesting!

Lexusgs430:
I would tell you why I called it lottery......

Based on the person's visa conditions, earning potential is £0.00

They get a job paying £600.00, remain employed for 5 months (assuming visa conditions are not breached).

£600*5 = £3000* 470 = N1,500,000 (well almost)........ From earning potential of £0.00 to N1.5 Million........


Is this not assumed a lottery?

Myati:
In addition to that £0 on rent, council tax, income tax, NI, feeding etc. It is indeed a jackpot!

Killingmesoftly:
Why I am saying £600 is that a friend of mine that has three kids, one is six, four and the last one is two years, she employed this lady that came from Nigeria as visiting visa, she was so lucky the lady is very good to the kids, she does the cleaning of the living room, kitchen, inface her house is always neat, she help to arrange the kids cloths neatly in the hi take them out, bath,dress and take the four years old girl to school,infact the lady is too much,she even work atimes on Saturday but guess what my friend pays her, only £600. So I was supprised.that is why I am asking. The lady lives in her house. I think why she is paying her that is that the nanny doesn't have paper to work. Even my friend told me that most people in London still pay from £700-£500

Lexusgs430:
In the black market Labour, you would even see £450.00. A person on visiting visa, staying in a free house + £600 pcm....... Hit the lottery.....


NB : Going down this route, hopefully all goes well and you would not require legal or civil services.... Or else, alarm go blow....... The world go know wetin is cooking wey burn house........

nwabobo:
Normal naira accounts.

Killingmesoftly:
I don't understand pls break it down, is it that the family will be in trouble for using undocumented person? My friend was even telling me yesterday that the nanny wants to overstay her visa, she is still contemplating weather to let her continue working for her,she said the nanny is very good and the kids likes her but her hubby is against her staying, so she might tell the lady to leave end of the month