Mobilia:


Oh no worries..."sir" is a term used as a form of respect in the American culture.... (although, historically, it has been labeled a controversial term....)
But I look at it as an endearing form of respect.
It's basically likened to you guys' use of the word "oga".
Aren't you a "boss"...lol?
Anyhow, I could tell you were young...lol...with all due respect
You know, it's not a bad thing to mature in age. With age "should " come wisdom.
Of course, you do know the other alternative to growing "older" unfortunately

thebosstrevor:


hmm! i can see, you are very "old school" in a sexy and cool way

sometimes,oga is used together with sir, in the military or some settings, you will hear "oga sir", or sir or oga, it depends on the context you are using it.

Oga means "senior" for someone in a position of authority but anyway, nowadays, anybody can be called an Oga by showing "boys small love"
when you show "boys small love" the amount of oga and sir, you will receive from boys on the street and the police, will "burst your head"

just do an experiment, in case, you get to Nigeria, just give some people money and see how you change from "aunty" to "madam"

anyway, i am a new school boss that does not demand "sir" in public and office settings except "in the other room" hahahahaa, i am just joking

it is true that it is not a bad thing to mature in age, anyway, i am from the school of thought that believes that maturity has to do with the mind rather than with age and physical appearance. maybe with age comes experience but not necessarily wisdom.

thebosstrevor:


i wont say it is white supremacy, it is long gone, .......they are now where the corrupt go to show their wealth while the pastors and imams bless them. parent who suppose to be an example to their children are just not concerned. personal and moral responsibility is what is missing,.......efforts to live by those standards.

Mobilia:


Ok...I appreciate that explanation. I didn't know all of that...very useful information. That's kinda what I thought when I saw the word used to refer to lots of particular guys here on N.L.
I just assumed that some were "older" and some were not (for various reasons)...and it seems that I was partially right.
Oh...well I'll take any positive greeting....as long as it's positive.
Yes..your very last paragraph is correct...

jantavanta:


It is like, we are now ancestraly disconnected, with adopted ancestors in far away lands, that we can only read about in Books.

For hundreds of years Europe experienced what you are now seeing in Lagos. We are now 2nd Europeans.

Moral responsibility gradually ended where Sin and Repent gained ground.

thebosstrevor:


As i have written before, NL is not a good method to judge Nigerians or to know how Nigeria works, most people just troll themselves and have fun. dont get me wrong, you can get some good info here but most people here are trolls


there is a big difference between how Nigerians behave online and offline.

Mobilia:


I surely hope it isn't. I have had some very tough times on here...some which don't want to stay resting in peace.
Sometimes I want to just "run" from this site and never look back. But I'm protected...and will be okay.
BUT, I have learned soooo much more about Nigeria since joining here. I don't feel clueless. I doubt if I would have ever learned as much or been as motivated if I hadn't stumbled on this site.
I feel a small connection to the country through here.
I will definitely be able to judge the behavior of offline vs. online folks once I visit.
One guy was honest about the fact that he lives a "fake" lifestyle on here.

Anhow, I just feel as if I will have much more awareness about the country when I visit. Life won't be as "strange" cause of my knowledge of the culture through N.L.

thebosstrevor:


just curious, what are some of the tough times you had on NL?

it seems every guy here wants to get a piece of meat of you through the Christian route, using your religion to manipulate you. i guess the sudden interest in you is because you are an half african-american lady. in their mind, you are the (JJC) of NL. (JJC)- jolly just come meaning a Naive person.(i myself like african-American women not the ghetto type, they are always fit and with a good ass)

This is an anonymous site, people can be whatever they wanna be, so expect the fake life, it is a common phenomenon not only in Nigeria but all over the world, you can choose to be what you wanna be and act the way you want.

NL is very resourceful to people who want to find information and know where and how to get it.

i am sure you must have been very familiar with the constant tribal abuse and fight here, funny enough in real life, these same set of people act normal and can't even say those words, it is normal in the anonymous world.

i am sure, if you are on youtube or and other American site, you must have had a heart attack when reading comments, it is even worst there, as a user, you just have to have a thick skin and know how to filter information.

is that your dog on your profile, i am not an expert, what breed is that?

Mobilia:


Let me not even go there.
Not every guy....but I get it that I'm a target simply cause I'm in the U.S...
I would have to slither around through Nairaland as a "fake" person in order to not be a target.
But that's not me..
Anyhow, I had said I wanted to enter into 2019 with a clean slate...this is gonna be an awesome year!
It has been good so far...my "joy" won't be stolen.

What gets me the most is the tribalism.
Oh my goodness...it seems that Yoruba's hate Igbo's with a passion. I don't see any hatred toward the Hausa's. I don't know much about the other several tribes.
All I read is "Igbos" and "afonjas".... "skull-miners" and "419 fraudsters".
I knew immediately that "Igbos" meant Igbo cause they have a uniquely and distinctly shaped forehead...
But the hatred is so deep....

I've read every type of comment one could think of on American websites...
That's why I was shocked to see such similarities in comments on here. Some are ridiculously hilarious , and some make me mad, and others are just plain truth.
But you are definitely right.
People can become whomever behind a glass screen..where there's no accountability.

He is one of my sister's dog and is a black and white Pomeranian. Isn't he gorgeous? I was holding him and he put his paw in his mouth. He looked like he was gonna cry...but he likes being held and cuddled.
He's a small dog, weighs about 13 lbs. and is about 3 years old. He's extremely loving and very athletic.
I am a dog lover...they are truly man's best friend.
But I've read numerous times that in the Calabar area, dog is a delicacy

The one guy was talking about "kneeling" to greet elders. That is mainly a Yoruba tradition from what I have learned. So in Lagos, would I be expected to do that since it is predominately Yorubaland?

Is Abuja a more equal mixture of Yoruba and Igbo?
I know the Hausa's are mainly in the North.
What above the other tribes..and where they base?

Mobilia:







But I've read numerous times that in the Calabar area, dog is a delicacy

The one guy was talking about "kneeling" to greet elders. That is mainly a Yoruba tradition from what I have learned. So in Lagos, would I be expected to do that since it is predominately Yorubaland?

Is Abuja a more equal mixture of Yoruba and Igbo?
I know the Hausa's are mainly in the North.
What above the other tribes..and where they base?

WORLDPEACE:

Dog is a delicacy in a few other places. Calabar people are just unfortunate to be flag bearers, lol. Among Yorubas it's the Ondo people that get the sticker but they are not the only ones that eat it. To Muslims eating dogs is considered unclean.
Traditionally, male Yorubas prostrate while females kneel to greet elders. These days men just bow and women bend their knees. Google the controversial image of Theresa may genuflecting to the queen of England to understand how women greet their elders in Yoruba land. Of course not with a hand shake as in the picture. It is not seen as respectful to most Yoruba elders for a younger person to extend their hand first for a handshake. They expect you to wait for them to do so first . Although, you should be the first to greet when you meet an elder. Lagos is cosmopolitan so you may choose to or not to genuflect. What I think is generally acceptable is to add "sir" and "ma" when you greet them and just generally be courteous in the European or American sense.

I was raised in Abuja but I am from and had my university education in the west. In Abuja, after English and pidgin English, the most spoken language is Hausa. Although it is our capital city, it is geographically northern. All the sates surrounding it are geo-politically northern sates.

However, it is the most truly Nigerian city in the country as virtually every group is very well represented.
Before it became our capital, government starting from the '80s, began relocating civil servants from every state of the country to work here. So the city has maintained that national character ever since.
I wish every place in the country were like Abuja in the way you have a mix of every group.

There are too many tribes to talk about. Here are some dominant ones and the regions they live. These are according to their geopolitical zones.

South-South
Ikwere (linguistically classified as igboid)
Izon or Ijaw
Edo
Urhobo
Itsekiri (linguistically classified as Yoruboid)

North-central
Nupe
Igala (linguitically classified as Yoruboid)
Gbagyi
Igbira
TIV

North-east
Kanuri
Jukun

Each one of these groups have their unique identities culture and languages separate from the three major languages.

RedboneSmith:
Don't do it.

thebosstrevor:


what are your reasons?

RedboneSmith:


The country is a mess. Even for investors. I know this will tick some people off, but this is how I feel. *shrug*

WORLDPEACE:

Dog is a delicacy in a few other places. Calabar people are just unfortunate to be flag bearers, lol. Among Yorubas it's the Ondo people that get the sticker but they are not the only ones that eat it. To Muslims eating dogs is considered unclean.

Traditionally, male Yorubas prostrate while females kneel to greet elders. These days men just bow and women bend their knees. Google the controversial image of Theresa may genuflecting to the queen of England to understand how women greet their elders in Yoruba land. Of course not with a hand shake as in the picture. It is not seen as respectful to most Yoruba elders for a younger person to extend their hand first for a handshake. They expect you to wait for them to do so first . Although, you should be the first to greet when you meet an elder. Lagos is cosmopolitan so you may choose to or not to genuflect. What I think is generally acceptable is to add "sir" and "ma" when you greet them and just generally be courteous in the European or American sense.

I was raised in Abuja but I am from and had my university education in the west. In Abuja, after English and pidgin English, the most spoken language is Hausa. Although it is our capital city, it is geographically northern. All the sates surrounding it are geo-politically northern sates.

However, it is the most truly Nigerian city in the country as virtually every group is very well represented.
Before it became our capital, government starting from the '80s, began relocating civil servants from every state of the country to work here. So the city has maintained that national character ever since.
I wish every place in the country were like Abuja in the way you have a mix of every group.

There are too many tribes to talk about. Here are some dominant ones and the regions they live. These are according to their geopolitical zones.

South-South
Ikwere (linguistically classified as igboid)
Izon or Ijaw
Edo
Urhobo
Itsekiri (linguistically classified as Yoruboid)

North-central
Nupe
Igala (linguitically classified as Yoruboid)
Gbagyi
Igbira

North-east
Kanuri
Jukun

Each one of these groups have their unique identities culture and languages separate from the three major languages.

thebosstrevor:


anyway, the Igbo hates the Hausas and vice versa online and offline, this is because of the civil war in 1967 and the event that led to it.

there are some truth in whatever the trolls do talk about each other tribes, just like we have profiles of crime according to race in the US like wise in Nigeria, we do, every tribe is guilty of crimes for example, the igbos are known for being couriers for hard-drugs and online fraud(419), the yorubas for online fraud(419), the edos(benin) for human trafficking and prostitution while the hausa for boko-haram, these things are true but dont take that for face value on nairaland, this is just to troll each other, in real life, many people do not talk about it.

I am not into dogs, I love them from afar and don't like to have one, if I was to have one, maybe a German shepherd but I am very familiar with chiwawa that is because my ex did have one, it took me a long time to adapt. your sister's dog is cute but wont love to have her near me.

dog is eaten not only in Calabar(cross river state), but also in Akwa-Ibom, Ondo state and Ogun state and some other places, it is grilled and served with cold and fresh palm wine. in ATR, for those that practise it religiously, Dog is used to give a sacrificial offer to OGUN(the god of iron)

in respect to greetings,in lagos, nobody cares if you kneel down to greet elders or not. don't go about kneeling down greeting people, you will be looked upon as a JJC. lagos is a multi-cultural city, so you greet people like you greet in the US, you are not yoruba, so dont try to impress, just act normal. you are not going to lagos to marry a yoruba, maybe when you are doing your marriage, you might have to kneel down but apart from that, act normal like you do in the US.

Abuja is in the middle of Nigeria and a federal capital city, so both hausa,yoruba, igbo and all other tlive lives there but Gwari people are the ordinary inhabitant of the land. because of abuja closeness to the north, so you will see a lot of northerners there, the place is just for politics just like how washington DC is,the economical strength of Nigeria is lagos.

in the north,there is middle belt and their is core north which is called Arewa, middle belt people are not hausa but the core north are hausa, fulani, kanuri, shuwa arab and other minority groups. both the middle belt and north lingua franca is hausa

middle belt-https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_Belt
core north(Hausa/ fulani)- Sokoto, Kano, Zamfara, Katsina, Jigawa, Bauchi and part of Gombe and Kaduna
core north- )kanuri)- borno state, yobe state

Nigeria is not only Yoruba, igbo and hausa, there are many Minority groups in the background, those three groups are just the largest.

Mobilia:

Thank you for your information as well. Truly appreciated.
I think I will not ask anything more questions on this thread...due to possible derailing.
Mr. Akata seems to have "fled"...
My apologies for somewhar derailing, although I tried to steer it back to the subject in a sense.
Thanka to all who contributed.

MrAkata:
As the title suggest I am an Akata. I intend to relocate temporarily for various reasons. I basically would like to explore different opportunities and build a network in Nigeria. I have a background in IT and was considering enrolling in an University to further my studies and build a social network. I was wondering are Nigerian degrees recognized in America or would it be a waste of time ? I have a decent knowledge of IT and programming mostly self taught and certs. I am not too considered w/ school but rather the network it would provide.

I also have done some limited research and was torn between Lagos and Abuja. I am wondering which area would better suit my interest. I understand Abuja is more affluent but Lagos is a commercial hub with a lot going on. Im not timid or scared , I've lived in NY in rough parts so high density areas of black people do not intimidate me ( Im no tough guy ,either). What I am not interested in are any forms of "pan africanism" or any village experiences and wearing dashiki's ( no disrespect ) I just find those type of endeavors a waste of time and laughable. I've been to Ghana and did not enjoy it because of that reason . Too much emphasis on " cultural " shit , I respect African culture and can appreciate it , but it is yours . I do not seek to be something I am not. Too much tribalism and other political bullshit only confuses me and Im too old 4 that shit. My ONLY purpose in being in Nigeria is purely economical . I don't have time to waste on endeveours which will add no value to my life or the people i come in contact with.

I would greatly appreciate any feedback which I could take into consideration b4 making my move. I intend to travel there by March for 2 weeks just to touch the ground 1st b4 I make a decision. I tried searching YouTube but all of the Akata youtubers seem to be naive clowns to me so I take their opinions w/ "a grain of salt" as far as NIgeira.

I dont mean to come off disrespectful because I hold Nigerians in high esteem its just rather the narrative of the returning Akata which I hold in disdain. I don't want to be confused w/ some lost puppy looking to return and find his long lost culture and heritage. I have a culture and background o my own ( carribbean descent) so I can appreciate yours as I hold onto mines.

Blessing 2 u Brothers

MrAkata:
As the title suggest I am an Akata. I intend to relocate temporarily for various reasons. I basically would like to explore different opportunities and build a network in Nigeria. I have a background in IT and was considering enrolling in an University to further my studies and build a social network. I was wondering are Nigerian degrees recognized in America or would it be a waste of time ? I have a decent knowledge of IT and programming mostly self taught and certs. I am not too considered w/ school but rather the network it would provide.

I also have done some limited research and was torn between Lagos and Abuja. I am wondering which area would better suit my interest. I understand Abuja is more affluent but Lagos is a commercial hub with a lot going on. Im not timid or scared , I've lived in NY in rough parts so high density areas of black people do not intimidate me ( Im no tough guy ,either). What I am not interested in are any forms of "pan africanism" or any village experiences and wearing dashiki's ( no disrespect ) I just find those type of endeavors a waste of time and laughable. I've been to Ghana and did not enjoy it because of that reason . Too much emphasis on " cultural " shit , I respect African culture and can appreciate it , but it is yours . I do not seek to be something I am not. Too much tribalism and other political bullshit only confuses me and Im too old 4 that shit. My ONLY purpose in being in Nigeria is purely economical . I don't have time to waste on endeveours which will add no value to my life or the people i come in contact with.

I would greatly appreciate any feedback which I could take into consideration b4 making my move. I intend to travel there by March for 2 weeks just to touch the ground 1st b4 I make a decision. I tried searching YouTube but all of the Akata youtubers seem to be naive clowns to me so I take their opinions w/ "a grain of salt" as far as NIgeira.

I dont mean to come off disrespectful because I hold Nigerians in high esteem its just rather the narrative of the returning Akata which I hold in disdain. I don't want to be confused w/ some lost puppy looking to return and find his long lost culture and heritage. I have a culture and background o my own ( carribbean descent) so I can appreciate yours as I hold onto mines.

Blessing 2 u Brothers

WORLDPEACE:

Dog is a delicacy in a few other places. Calabar people are just unfortunate to be flag bearers, lol. Among Yorubas it's the Ondo people that get the sticker but they are not the only ones that eat it. To Muslims eating dogs is considered unclean.

Traditionally, male Yorubas prostrate while females kneel to greet elders. These days men just bow and women bend their knees. Google the controversial image of Theresa may genuflecting to the queen of England to understand how women greet their elders in Yoruba land. Of course not with a hand shake as in the picture. It is not seen as respectful to most Yoruba elders for a younger person to extend their hand first for a handshake. They expect you to wait for them to do so first . Although, you should be the first to greet when you meet an elder. Lagos is cosmopolitan so you may choose to or not to genuflect. What I think is generally acceptable is to add "sir" and "ma" when you greet them and just generally be courteous in the European or American sense.

I was raised in Abuja but I am from and had my university education in the west. In Abuja, after English and pidgin English, the most spoken language is Hausa. Although it is our capital city, it is geographically northern. All the sates surrounding it are geo-politically northern sates.

However, it is the most truly Nigerian city in the country as virtually every group is very well represented.
Before it became our capital, government starting from the '80s, began relocating civil servants from every state of the country to work here. So the city has maintained that national character ever since.
I wish every place in the country were like Abuja in the way you have a mix of every group.

There are too many tribes to talk about. Here are some dominant ones and the regions they live. These are according to their geopolitical zones.

South-South
Ikwere (linguistically classified as igboid)
Izon or Ijaw
Edo
Urhobo
Itsekiri (linguistically classified as Yoruboid)

North-central
Nupe
Igala (linguitically classified as Yoruboid)
Gbagyi
Igbira

North-east
Kanuri
Jukun

Each one of these groups have their unique identities culture and languages separate from the three major languages.

Konquest:

^^^^^
Brilliant post!

Konquest:

^^^^^
Brilliant post!

Mobilia:


I was about to say that here's someone as knowledgeable as you....lol.
He's a Konquest Jr...

Hi Mobilia

Hope you are doing great today?

Good to read from you again... "Konquest Jr"
Well I accept the compliment.

Did you read my feedback to you
on my diary page? If so, thats
good. I wish you the very best
in 2019 again Mobilia.

Konquest:

^^^^^
^^^^^
Hi Mo/bilia

Hope you are doing great today?

Good to read from you again... "Konquest Jr"
Well I accept the compliment.

Did you read my feedback to you
on my diary page? If so, thats
good. I wish you the very best
in 2019 again Mo/bilia.

MrAkata:
As the title suggest I am an Akata. I intend to relocate temporarily for various reasons. I basically would like to explore different opportunities and build a network in Nigeria. I have a background in IT and was considering enrolling in an University to further my studies and build a social network. I was wondering are Nigerian degrees recognized in America or would it be a waste of time ? I have a decent knowledge of IT and programming mostly self taught and certs. I am not too considered w/ school but rather the network it would provide.

I also have done some limited research and was torn between Lagos and Abuja. I am wondering which area would better suit my interest. I understand Abuja is more affluent but Lagos is a commercial hub with a lot going on. Im not timid or scared , I've lived in NY in rough parts so high density areas of black people do not intimidate me ( Im no tough guy ,either). What I am not interested in are any forms of "pan africanism" or any village experiences and wearing dashiki's ( no disrespect ) I just find those type of endeavors a waste of time and laughable. I've been to Ghana and did not enjoy it because of that reason . Too much emphasis on " cultural " shit , I respect African culture and can appreciate it , but it is yours . I do not seek to be something I am not. Too much tribalism and other political bullshit only confuses me and Im too old 4 that shit. My ONLY purpose in being in Nigeria is purely economical . I don't have time to waste on endeveours which will add no value to my life or the people i come in contact with.

I would greatly appreciate any feedback which I could take into consideration b4 making my move. I intend to travel there by March for 2 weeks just to touch the ground 1st b4 I make a decision. I tried searching YouTube but all of the Akata youtubers seem to be naive clowns to me so I take their opinions w/ "a grain of salt" as far as NIgeira.

I dont mean to come off disrespectful because I hold Nigerians in high esteem its just rather the narrative of the returning Akata which I hold in disdain. I don't want to be confused w/ some lost puppy looking to return and find his long lost culture and heritage. I have a culture and background o my own ( carribbean descent) so I can appreciate yours as I hold onto mines.

Blessing 2 u Brothers

MrAkata:
As the title suggest I am an Akata. I intend to relocate temporarily for various reasons. I basically would like to explore different opportunities and build a network in Nigeria. I have a background in IT and was considering enrolling in an University to further my studies and build a social network. I was wondering are Nigerian degrees recognized in America or would it be a waste of time ? I have a decent knowledge of IT and programming mostly self taught and certs. I am not too considered w/ school but rather the network it would provide.

I also have done some limited research and was torn between Lagos and Abuja. I am wondering which area would better suit my interest. I understand Abuja is more affluent but Lagos is a commercial hub with a lot going on. Im not timid or scared , I've lived in NY in rough parts so high density areas of black people do not intimidate me ( Im no tough guy ,either). What I am not interested in are any forms of "pan africanism" or any village experiences and wearing dashiki's ( no disrespect ) I just find those type of endeavors a waste of time and laughable. I've been to Ghana and did not enjoy it because of that reason . Too much emphasis on " cultural " shit , I respect African culture and can appreciate it , but it is yours . I do not seek to be something I am not. Too much tribalism and other political bullshit only confuses me and Im too old 4 that shit. My ONLY purpose in being in Nigeria is purely economical . I don't have time to waste on endeveours which will add no value to my life or the people i come in contact with.

I would greatly appreciate any feedback which I could take into consideration b4 making my move. I intend to travel there by March for 2 weeks just to touch the ground 1st b4 I make a decision. I tried searching YouTube but all of the Akata youtubers seem to be naive clowns to me so I take their opinions w/ "a grain of salt" as far as NIgeira.

I dont mean to come off disrespectful because I hold Nigerians in high esteem its just rather the narrative of the returning Akata which I hold in disdain. I don't want to be confused w/ some lost puppy looking to return and find his long lost culture and heritage. I have a culture and background o my own ( carribbean descent) so I can appreciate yours as I hold onto mines.

Blessing 2 u Brothers

JjBankys:
why did you call yourself that? do you even know the meaning?

NileValley:


It's funny,why don't you relocate in your country of origin?