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cococandy:
Yes she can go home with you with the intentions of having sex. It’s very normal for a girl to want to have sex.

But when she gets there and changes her mind for whatever reason (like stinky boxers or private part, miniature peniis, appearance of rashes or warts around the genitals, dirty beddings etc) and you insist, it’s still rape.

Because someone had the intention of having sex with you doesn’t mean that it must happen. If something turns them off at any point, you can’t force it or it’s rape.

Can’t be any simpler but you guys refuse to get it.

I dey learn o

lilmax:
lol tbh this is an exception

imagine, you press breast and yansh finish,baba said let's go home....what will a girl's mind tell her at that point? let's go and sleep

a wise girl that do not want to involve herself will never go home with you

so let's stop this crap, rape fire

I tire for this females.

cococandy:
Nobody puts anyone in sexual tension.
That’s between you and your body. It’s no one’s responsibility to take care of how your peniis makes you feel. Go jerk off or something. That’s your PERSONAL business.

@ bold So you will rape her if she says no

Like I said, you are not a man so you won't understand what it means to be in that position. @ bold it is not a rape rather a pre-intimacy. I am not a rapist.

Okay. I may not understand what it means to be a man. But I understand my body is mine and I owe it to no one.

Let’s all respect each other’s bodily autonomy

Randy100:
Like I said, you are not a man so you won't understand what it means to be in that position. @ bold it is not a rape rather a pre-intimacy. I am not a rapist.

victorian:
Yes! I have value over my coochie! Its priceless.

I hear.

cococandy:
Yea that’s not also bad. I’m sure she can find her way home. you can’t blackmail your way into sex.

Why do you think she owes you sex? Such a stinking mindset.

You would really have sex with a woman who feels like she doesn’t have a choice except to sleep with you because it’s late and and she doesn’t want to risk going out that late. You think if she agrees to have sex with you because of that, you haven’t raped her?


When people call y’all rapists, you get offended but that’s actually what many of you are. Just on different spectrums of it. Disgusting .

Okay, please let's move in the direction of some clarity?
Why follow a guy you have driven crazy with lust, I mean with all the stuff y'all did at the club to his home to say no?
I am against every form of rape but in this case she is the architect of her own problems, if the guy is a gentleman then she is lucky, if not then I cannot say I will sympathize with her and I wouldn't advice anybody to.

Very selfish set of specie!!! It has to be about their feelings alone, and never yours. Selfish bastard.

cococandy:
Nobody puts anyone in sexual tension.
That’s between you and your body. It’s no one’s responsibility to take care of how your peniis makes you feel. Go jerk off or something. That’s your PERSONAL business.

@ bold So you will rape her if she says no

Like I said in a previous post. Her reason for saying no might have come up after they got to his home. We don’t know. In that case he should respect it. Usually there are grey areas when it comes to sexual issues. But the standard that should be black and white is that no is no, regardless of what led up to it. You don’t have to pity or sympathize with her nor do you have to advice anyone to. I doubt any woman needs that. What they need is for people to recognize their rights to say yes or no as they wish to.

If we start blurring the lines around what type of no is valid and what type is legit, we will all lose this battle against rape. Because it’s subjective and anyone with the intent to harm someone can always interpret her now the way he or she wants to.

Herrmes:
Okay, please let's move in the direction of some clarity?
Why follow a guy you have driven crazy with lust, I mean with all the stuff y'all did at the club to his home to say no?
I am against every form of rape but in this case she is the architect of her own problems, if the guy is a gentleman then she is lucky, if not then I cannot say I will sympathize with her and I wouldn't advice anybody to.

You manage your feelings and I’ll manage mine.

Why do I have to take care of your sexual feelings? Do I owe it to you?

oshaosha2014:
Very selfish set of specie!!! It has to be about their feelings alone, and never yours. Selfish bastard.

cococandy:
Okay. I may not understand what it means to be a man. But I understand my body is mine and I owe it to no one.

Let’s all respect each other’s bodily autonomy

Ok hanty.

Girls, please just respect yourself and your body and all these nonsense will reduce. Stop giving guys easy access thank u. I wish the days of chaperoning will come back

So u let him press ur bosom in the club then followed him home at night only to say no, is like something is doing your brain.

cococandy:
So anyone who follows you home should expect to be raped?

if you as a lady are bumping,grinding and humping touching boobs in the open .what impression do you think is being portrayed and the next thing which is going to happen when the lady and the guy gets home.
the simple rule of date,relationship between a lady and a guy is simple.if the lady is not comfortable of going down.it starts by saying a big no right from the first sentence and stay clear of the guys house.
never assume a guy is a chicken he could have smoked goat weed

Famousbabe:
What does sexual consent mean to you?

Some Nigerians have been arguing on sexual consent 'No is No' on Twitter for over one week now. This discussion arose over series of rape cases and rape accusations.

Then this young man shared a video of a lady rocking a man seductively at the club while the man touched her anyhow.

He shared the video and wrote:

"Even if she lets you do this at the club and she says no when yall get home.

No is No...okay?

This consent matter must enter una head."

Watch the video here and see some of the replies he got.

What do you think about the video Vis-à-vis Sexual consent?

If she says 'No!!' Leave her, otherwise, it is Sex without consent and sex without consent is rape.

What do you understand about sexual consent?

Source:
http://www..com/2019/01/sexual-consent-even-if-she-allows-you.html?m=1

Even if she says Yes and is showing signs of wanting, Gentlemen, don't move close to ladies who you are not so familiar with. Another issue going on these days is false accusations of rape which more than 90% of the time, everyone is on the lady's side.

Don't ruin your life because of Konji. Most of the time, you don't even need to ask for consent; LEAVE!!!. If you don't know anyone well enough, better not to have sex with them. False rape accusations have destroyed lives that even when sometimes the accuser confesses that she lies, that stigma never leaves.

cococandy:
Like I said in a previous post. Her reason for saying no might have come up after they got to his home. We don’t know. In that case he should respect it. Usually there are grey areas when it comes to sexual issues. But the standard that should be black and white is that no is no, regardless of what led up to it. You don’t have to pity or sympathize with her nor do you have to advice anyone to. I doubt any woman needs that. What they need is for people to recognize their rights to say yes or no as they wish to.

If we start blurring the lines around what type of no is valid and what type is legit, we will all lose this battle against rape. Because it’s subjective and anyone with the intent to harm someone can always interpret her now the way he or she wants to.

Okay, I respect that, but in that case she owes an explanation. Don't doubt it mami, most women do, put it this way most "victims" do.
No or Yes as they wish to? Before anything starts, I strongly suggest she makes up her mind.
Sure, some types of No are valid and some aren't, that's just a fact.
The last part is absolutely true though. It is really complicated not simple.

cococandy:
I’m sure they don’t rob the men at gunpoint

You all bitches defends ripping boys off their money and call them rapist when you said no and they proceed yet you fools call them weakling and all sort of names if they respect your decision and let you go..."AY I will never visit you again, just because I said no you turn me on and let me go instead of you to show me you are a man and tear me apart like a lion you just sit back and watch me leave" confused set of people

eazriel09:
You all bitches defends ripping boys off their money and call them rapist when you said no and they proceed yet you fools call them weakling and all sort of names if they respect your decision and let you go..."AY I will never visit you again, just because I said no you turn me on and let me go instead of you to show me you are a man and tear me apart like a lion you just sit back and watch me leave" confused set of people

Ripping you off your money as in you gave it at gun point?

You’re not making any sense. To help you not get financially hurt, next time time you give a lady your money, tell her it’s in payment for sex. Don’t give money and expect them to automatically assume that it’s for sex.

You’re a confused and ignorant mor0n