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She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 8:23pm On Oct 03, 2018
I Need Help! I'm Emotionally Traumatized.

Hi guys!

It's quite a long read so I've tried make it as concise as possible..

I bet you'll enjoy every piece as you thumb through.

We've known each other for some time before i asked her out. She gave a "Yes" sometime on August 2014, which has practically made the relationship 4 years old.

At the earlier stage, we had great feelings towards each other, we where literally submerged in love, did stupid and childish things together. Y'al know what love turns one into nah.

We where practicing a distance relationship. Same city, although just a 45min road trip kept us apart ~ we never denied visiting each other as we often did. thanks to 2go and what'sapp.

Time past, amidst the minor quarrels we had a greater reason to remain put, we grew stronger in love ~ i bet we had the best teenaged age. Got to a point we believed we where both destined for each other i was even prepared to tie the knot if only nature treated my pocket right.

All the while, we never had any bed intimacy only kisses and bla bla... Not until sometime 2017 when i went in. Arrghh! Very awkward i must say, just try to imagine where 2 novices are trying to make something of it. All through the session i was just looking for my way in.

The subsequent attempts after taking several xx video tutorials was fairly good NOT GREAT because she had a very bad sex beginning; a rape victim to be precise and that experience corrupted alot in her sex life. You don't want me to go into details, I hate to too.

[b]Note: [/b]She is a very brilliant girl who got great personality, more reason i loved her wholeheartedly. The not-too-great sex paragraphs isn't made to sabotage her memory but because it's a cornerstone of my ordeal with her.

Heads up guys! She started having issues with the sex experience thing. Not because it wasn't SO GREAT but because it makes her backslide from her faith. Ohh didn't i mention? She's from a very strong Christian home.

I guess the devil took its chances on us, never wondered why it took so long before her realization. Now she's trying to be that born again kind of person again. Guys! I'm sure you know what that means.

The privileges i used to enjoy as a boyfriend where all ripped away not even a kiss or bla bla to manage almost drove me into maturating. Not just that, this is also garnished with some funny acts, not having my time et all. On my end it seems she utterly turned her back against me.

The whole quarrels erupted and all made me look myself like a devil trying to deviate God's child. I on the other end I'm just a lover boy trying to fight back for his feelings.

Things deteriorated, we hardly talk and even if we do wouldn't last more than a minute, all the while i was just drowning in sadness and heartbreak.

I still remember when we broke up our sexual relationship and remained good casual friends. My mind chose to cut any connections with her but my heart said otherwise. I couldn't cut it down, the imaginations of never seeing her again dreaded me even.

Bluntly speaking. I'm very emotionally sensitive with dealings with her. My happiness depends hugely on her, hence, any unfair act she gives set my heart ablaze. that's exaggerated though, but it's just as bad as that. Every now and then I'm always emotionally traumatized and this has bad effects on me.

My Regrets?
I wouldn't blame myself much because i was inexperienced and naive when our feelings was blossoming, I let loose my 100% heart commitment and now the consequences is just as fatal.

If i had known and took precautions earlier I'd have moved on with my life by now. But unfortunately, the reverse is just the case here.

Back to the present.
I've discovered that even the casual friendship hurts me. I mean Yes! No sex, no kisses i get it! I don't just get a dedication from her, no special moments everything is just as boring AF and this disgusts me.

This is where your I need advise.
Respective of the fact I'm still emotionally attached to her, I've accepted my faith of letting her go the issue now is doing this practically. It's just too difficult for me to handle.

Beside this, i feel we might later need each others help one way or another as we're both distant learners in same institution.

The feeling of not seeing her ever again dreads me alot whilst i doubt I'm capable of moving on if i don't cut her completely of my life.

Sometimes I feel the cause of this crazy feelings is because she deflower me. I don't just know why it's this much.

[b]Note.[/b]It might sound to you that she stopped loving me or never had feelings for me. But the fact is she's too very in love with me all along even till now. Her faith is just strong and nothing can supersede it.

Insults are welcome. But first understand its usefulness her before you waste that effort.

What do you think i should do guys?

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by empire2017(m): 8:25pm On Oct 03, 2018
Ur happiness depends totally on her? Datx rubbish..ur lust nd nt love..if u truely love her,then respect her faith,,chikina!!!

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ANYWAY FCT....FIRST TIME MAKING FCT ON A THREAD THAT HIT FRONT PAGE...

OGA SEUN WEY MY GIFT...

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 8:29pm On Oct 03, 2018
We've all being there before. You will get through it.

By the way, don't kill yourself because of a woman

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Raydans: 8:34pm On Oct 03, 2018
Get yourself another girl. I think that's what you should do.




Liliyann:
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

Real men. That term has been used to blackmail many men to their early grave by lazy & broke ass thing like you.
Don't you want to be a real woman too with your two hands
Relationship are for real women not for penniless culprit like you!!!

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by empire2017(m): 8:37pm On Oct 03, 2018
Raydans:
Get yourself another girl. I think that's what you should do
that is one of the disadvantage of bleepinq one particular pussy ,,

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 8:43pm On Oct 03, 2018
sex is not everything get your mind off to other things, keep yourself busy with activities doing so would help you get your mind off sex.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Alphafeezay(m): 8:52pm On Oct 03, 2018
Get yourself another girl, a sex freak that will Bleep her outta ur memories!!!

Ignore my above advise pls, just kidding.

Seriously, just try and figure out if she is not being distracted by any other dude, then give her the space and get yourself productively busy, and mehn, abstain and try to tie the knot with her.
I wish you luck bro.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 8:56pm On Oct 03, 2018
Your talking like somebody that will soon buy Sniper.



Make sure you go with change. Make them no owe you for here and for there too.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by lalanice(f): 9:03pm On Oct 03, 2018
Congratulations, you are now one of those who'd lose a good thing because they couldn't wait for sex tongue

To be honest I should say sorry about what you going through because I understand completely but I also know that even if she stays with you, it wouldn't be like before, it wouldn't be original, it will all just be an act. Only few people will understand how this works.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by IamPlato(m): 9:06pm On Oct 03, 2018
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Young Man, what You Need Now Is A Well Oiled pussy and You Will Never Wish To See Her Again...


When I Hear, she Is A Strong Christian i Just Shake My Head. Na Them Sabi ride Dick Pass

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Liliyann(f): 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2018
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 9:20pm On Oct 03, 2018
Lolzzzz. She "disflowered" the op?

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by ekanDamie: 9:28pm On Oct 03, 2018
jessca048:
sex is not everything get your mind off to other things, keep yourself busy with activities doing so would help you get your mind off sex.
Its not just the sex. The communication too is threatened.
Ave been in this exact same shii.. Its hard to breathe when the one u love so much holds on to a excuse(even tho realististic)
For u guys not to be in-sync lyk u both used to.
Its hard seeing a beautiful relationship fade away.

Op advice, let her be, find a way to withdraw from her. Asin stay as long as u can without being the one to call her.
And even when she does, be as plain and unsweet as u can be.
She will either fight to get ur attention back or let u go. Either ways, u would be fine.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 9:55pm On Oct 03, 2018
empire2017:
Ur happiness depends totally on her? Datx rubbish..ur lust nd nt love..if u truely love her,then respect her faith,,chikina!!!

..................

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ANYWAY FCT..

You're wrong sir. I used "hugely" not "totally".
Secondly, our first 3 years of happiness was sex excluded.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 9:56pm On Oct 03, 2018
ikhileomotayo:
We've all being there before. You will get through it.

By the way, don't kill yourself because of a woman

Thanks alot!

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 9:58pm On Oct 03, 2018
Raydans:
Get yourself another girl. I think that's what you should do

Sir. I don't think getting another girl will solve the issue. Besides, never again will i be fooled by love.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:01pm On Oct 03, 2018
jessca048:
sex is not everything get your mind off to other things, keep yourself busy with activities doing so would help you get your mind off sex.

Maybe you should read the post again. I'm not in for just the sex, infact i only mentioned it because it's the very reason why things turned against me.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:02pm On Oct 03, 2018
Alphafeezay:
Get yourself another girl, a sex freak that will Bleep her outta ur memories!!!

Ignore my above advise pls, just kidding.

Seriously, just try and figure out if she is not being distracted by any other dude, then give her the space and get yourself productively busy, and mehn, abstain and try to tie the knot with her.
I wish you luck bro.

I love this sir. Thanks alot!

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:05pm On Oct 03, 2018
TarOrfeek:
Your talking like somebody that will soon buy Sniper.



Make sure you go with change. Make them no owe you for here and for there too.

Lmao. Easy there bro! I'm emotionally down doesn't mean I'll let it eat up my entire life. I have goals and ambitions too.

Just finding it difficult to get through this.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:10pm On Oct 03, 2018
lalanice:
Congratulations, you are now one of those who'd lose a good thing because they couldn't wait for sex tongue

To be honest I should say sorry about what you going through because I understand completely but I also know that even if she stays with you, it wouldn't be like before, it wouldn't be original, it will all just be an act. Only few people will understand how this works.

Thanks alot!
But your first paragraph needs a clarification that the sex experience was a mutual agreement and out of curiosity.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:11pm On Oct 03, 2018
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lolzzzz. She "disflowered" the op?

sad sad
Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 10:12pm On Oct 03, 2018
Chai! See sweet love.. Love is an interesting thing especially when the guy is madder than the girl cheesy

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:13pm On Oct 03, 2018
ekanDamie:

Its not just the sex. The communication too is threatened.
Ave been in this exact same shii.. Its hard to breathe when the one u love so much holds on to a excuse(even tho realististic)
For u guys not to be in-sync lyk u both used to.
Its hard seeing a beautiful relationship fade away.

Op advice, let her be, find a way to withdraw from her. Asin stay as long as u can without being the one to call her.
And even when she does, be as plain and unsweet as u can be.
She will either fight to get ur attention back or let u go. Either ways, u would be fine.

Thanks alot for this. I'll sure heed your advice.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Mankosi: 10:15pm On Oct 03, 2018
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
it's possible she's have gotten someone else she's having sex with and trying to do away with u.

u are right sister

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by geek4k(m): 10:16pm On Oct 03, 2018
yettymuse:
Chai! See sweet love.. Love is an interesting thing especially when the guy is madder than the girl cheesy

sad sad
Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 10:18pm On Oct 03, 2018
geek4k:


Sir. I don't think getting another girl will solve the issue. Besides, never again will i be fooled by love.

Now you become a MAN cool

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by ednut1(m): 10:23pm On Oct 03, 2018
How person go date gal for 4 years e never marry am

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by Nobody: 10:36pm On Oct 03, 2018
ednut1:
How person go dat gal for 4 years e never marry am

I tire oh, 4 years is too much

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by funnyteeth(m): 10:45pm On Oct 03, 2018
Shey man get flower we woman dey disflower?...wonderment.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by bercarray(m): 10:45pm On Oct 03, 2018
you
Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by marttol: 10:45pm On Oct 03, 2018
I LOVE THE GIRL,SHE LOVES JESUS MORE THAN YOU...JESUS SAID WHOSOEVER LOVES HIS FAMILY MORE THAN HIM IS NOT WORTHY OF HIM...KUDOS TO HER...ehn eh,that being said



WHY WILL A MAN LOVE WITH ALL HIS HEART,YOU SAID YOU LOVE HER WITH ALL YOUR HEART,THAT'S A SISSY ACT,WOULDN'T ADVISE MY BROTHER TO DO SUCH...LOVE WITH YOUR BRAIN NOT HEART...




SHE WILL STILL COME FOR YOU...I KNOW THAT FEELING
.

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Re: She Deflowered Me, Says No Sex Anymore As She Turns Born-Again by BabaJideAFONJA(f): 10:46pm On Oct 03, 2018
What is this op saying? Will u get outta here? .

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