₦airaland Forum

DukeofNZ:
No mind dat flyca , her type no de reason before dem talk and act yet dem de want people wey go respect and love dem. She wan make i respect her papa and her after she talkam say de man dey foolish and show say she evil her self.

flyca, may God bless ur mama for me if she be as you talk say she be. I no pity you and ur papa but if u change for good I go forgive u and pity u

Na look I con day look o
As e b say no b me cus her papa
She say na me o
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Annwrites:
My mum may not be a good woman to you but the truth is your opinion doesn't matter.

Don't mind what they write here, it doesn't change anything. One just insulted my father. Guess what, it still doesn't change anything.

Sucessful men go for sucessful women to build an even more sucessful homes! All these chicken-males typing rubbish here are not the type of men we are looking for. Lol

Kisses to you babe!

larryking540:
Exactly becus my friend is getting married so make I quickly marry too o
Becus her level don high o na mrs so so so they day call her o

Abi..

flyca:
Don't mind what they write here, it doesn't change anything. One just insulted my father. Guess what, it still doesn't change anything.

Sucessful men go for sucessful women to build an even more sucessful homes! All these chicken-males typing rubbish here are not the type of me we are looking for. Lol

Kisses to you babe!

Thanks dearie...

More kisses from me to you.

If a woman married or not, wants to buy properties in her name, it's her choice to go ahead with it

And for a woman to do so, she has a reason
It's either she is not too close with her husband or she and her husband doesn't relate too well and she is not sure of her marriage.

To have a property with joint names in marriage takes love and happiness from that marriage

Dpharisee:
You are the one who degraded your father and I see it as a carryover of the kind of treatment you have seen your mum mete out to him.
Your comment showed that your mum have little regards for him but he seems a good man who is content with what he has and because of that he is looked down upon courtesy of how your mum presents him to his kids possibly making him into a weakling and for him to keep enduring such with your mum appears to be foolish to some people if you get the drift from the responses from your first comment.

Jeeeeez. Do you really mean what you typed here?

With your level of intelligence, I am really surprised that you can read and write! Wooooops!

She “submitted”, yet she has no regards?
She allowed him win, all the time, yet you still turn around and blame her and hero-fied the man!

Even if a man clubs his wife to death in the name of marriage, your type will still hail him!
Odiegwu!

For the first time on this topic I'm reading a reasonable comment. It shows there are a of t of kids on nairaland who are inexperienced judging from their submissions.

How will you feel if as a husband I buy/ build properties using my sibling's name or my mother's name just to make sure my wife s not included in my scheme of things?

When u are married, your surname changes to your husband's name. Two of you become ONE....not TWO. Whatever one party has belongs to both of you. Selfishness and greed must never step in. Always look for what you can give in any relationship and not what you can get. What kills relationships is selfishness and greed. If you can conquer them....you have conquered all.

Acidosis:
Any property she acquires before marriage is technically hers and such can remain in her name. In marriage, whatever anybody buys, remains in our collective names. If we don't buy in our collective name (Mr & Mrs.), then we buy in our children's name(s).
If you want to acquire properties in your own name and surname, please do before marriage.

I'm not preparing for a doom. If 19 out of 20 homes break on a per second basis, my views still won't change. No room for selfishness, self-centeredness, arrogance and evil plots from either side.

larryking540:
Building a house as a female isn't a crime? Single or married but doing it codedly while ur husband goes on debt just to feed d family and cater for d need of the hus is wat we call wickedness in d highest order,

There was a story of a woman in benin who built a hux and she and d husband moved in unknowingly to the man dat the wife is the owner of the house they were staying and the woman was also collecting rentage from the man all unknowingly to the man, but trust God nothing is hidden under the sun for ever, and 80% of women with this mentality they have will do the same just a few will open up,

Be friend at day time
And be lovers at nite,
Marry someone u understand not becus all my friends are married I too want to quickly get married, ,,,cus na there all dis problem for day start

Truth is, I can't ever do this to a man who loves me, respect me as an equal and lets me in on how he spends his money.

But if he his a reckless spender and expects me to help his life because I am supposed to be submissive, he will see all shades of the tough me.

Annwrites:
Thanks dearie...

More kisses from me to you.

Na so e dey take start, babe kissing babe

larryking540:
I understand not everyone wants to stay submissive in marriage but a husband can't not do all the catering for in d hux and d wife working or not working she go day open eye for am , like say na e younger brother she day talk to,
Any way na d leg way man give e woman na so she go use follow u
Peace

A man who wants a submissive wife must be seeking for a dependent women.
It's a win win situation.

So such a man shouldn't complain.

Annwrites:
A man who wants a submissive wife must be seeking for a dependent women.
It's a win win situation.

So such a man shouldn't complain.

We think alike sooooooo much!

Ugosample:
nope
nothing wrong with it

I have come across some of your comments.

Oil dey your head.

loswhite:
it is too late... Trust me it can lead to the end of our marriage

My hubby wee understand

Mypeople2:
Very foolish mentality for that matter.95% of ladies can not spend money on their husbands or things in the house .Every finance spent in the house must be from the man.After all the things the man has done, yet you will build or buy a house without telling him .Then you will come here and say you love him.Which kind dirty love be that? Trash!

Your statement is untrue.
Many homes in Nigeria these days are being run with finances from the wives.
With the way Nigeria is, how many men really earn well to solely raise a family? Is it the 30K the graduates are earning that Is sustaining their families?
Both of them have to contribute to make anything reasonable happen in that family.

Annwrites:
A man who wants a submissive wife must be seeking for a dependent women.
It's a win win situation.

So such a man shouldn't complain.

That's y guy man must hustle hard and open ur business for ur wife cus even the independent ones hardly contribute anything to the hus, the little they contribute ear knw go hear word, if not becus of me u would have been nothing, ,,
God help this generation

flyca:
We think alike sooooooo much!

Lolz....

That has to because you are very observant and close to your mum.

My mum tells me things I don't even know and understand.

But naturally, its because you are intelligent.

flyca:
Do you know why my parents still live in a rented apartment after 38 years if marriage?

My “submissive” mum always sort consent, which she was never given! And her bible told her to “submit”, so all her years of marriage, she submitted to the man's will. My dad? Never saw the need to buy a land, build a house, good to good schhols etc because his bible told him to be “content”.

38 years after, REGRETS everywhere. Lol

Consent my foot! I may notify you (depending on how you sail our ship) but I cannot allow you to drag me backwards. Impossible!

Annwrites, you are very intelligent
Cc: MahatmaGhandi, keepingmum

I quite understand your position and truth is you are free to take any position, I only took the position as instructed by scriptures. If you think the bible is wrong then you are free to make your rules.
I have a friend whose mother saved until the money to buy a land became complete. When she informed her husband, he was filled with joy and appreciated her, guess what, the man supported her to buy the land they built their first house on the land that the woman bought help the family to acquire and has gone on to build many others. The house belongs to the man, his wife and their kids.

This is how God's family should work. Some times our partners can be stuborn and difficult. At times like this we have to seek the wisdom of the holy spirit. If the woman approached her husband that tshe wanted to buy a land in her name and her surname, what do you think would be the attitude of the husband towards it. We must note that there is a difference between going to church and being a believer.

In the family that God established there is no such thing as equality, no way! The man is made as the LOVING head of the family just like a company chairman ( not an oppressive bully) and the woman a submisives supervisor/helper (not a rebel) that is like a managing director of a company. But greed, selfishness, disloyalty, rebellion and short term inconsequential materialistic tendencies from both parties have ruined the family structure that is why we have the issues that we have in today's home. Men no longer love their wives and wives no longer submit to husbands.
I must correct an impression, a man is not head over all women, no!! He is hard over his family. So if as a woman you meet a man he should and must treat you as his equal. However, if for the sake of raising a family you decide to be joined with him, then you must come under his umbrella for the sake of order and structure in the home. If as a Christian you find this hard to do please don't marry, keep yourself and continue to serve God in your chastity and If as a man you cannot love your wife and put her well being above yours then please stay single. Christian marriage is a sacrifice on both sides. The woman gives up her authority over her own life and the man gives up his individualty and embraces his wife as part of himself. So tell me how can a man that sees his wife as himself raise his hand against her instead of raising it in her defence, how can a woman that sees her husband as her new covering uncover the unclothedness and shortcoming of her husband before the world. This is for Christians alone, if you are not a believer please ignore and do not engage me because we do not operate the same principles.

Annwrites:
If reasoning like this makes me brainless....


I want to be forever brainless.


What's the use of a brain that can't liberate me?

alright try d shiit u wrote with any Nigerian man.... good luck

larryking540:
That's y guy man must hustle hard and open ur business for ur wife cus even the independent ones hardly contribute anything to the hus, the little they contribute ear knw go hear word, if not becus of me u would have been nothing, ,,
God help this generation

I believe you don’t understand the phrase “independent”

MahatmaGhandi:
Well I don't know about non Christian women but I know that Christ will not be pleased with it, it just like a church that is working for an inheritance that is outside its union with Christ. Why agree to be joined to a man and then seek to own properties on your own? Would it not have been better to stay single and own all the properties that you want in "your own name", marriage is not a must for everyone. What is the motive for wanting to own a property separate from your husband? If as a man your wife's security is not guaranteed in you then you are worse than an infidel and should not be married for you are suppose to be a cover for you wife. However, if you have provided all you can but due to her materialistic nature and her interaction with feminists decides that she wants to have her own properties then you must assume that she has motives that might not necessarily be in the intrest of your home (This is from a Christian perspective). If the couple is not a Christian couple then I have nothing to say to them because we are not operating on the same principles.

Let everybody be guided by the principles of the faith that they practice.

Ok you've said yours.....do you know that in some family, they don't care if it's your money or not as long as the property is in their son's or brother's name?
Yes, I'm married, my husband buys properties, we buy properties with our joint account, I buy property with my own money and you don't want me to buy it in my name that has my husband's surname attached
Let's assume the husband dies tomorrow, some extended family will now come & claim everything, leaving wife & kids with nothing just because I bought a property with my money but foolishly in my husband's name huh
Pls, leave Christianity out of it...even the Bible say a virtues woman sees a vineyard(investments) & buys it.

Annwrites:
Truth is, I can't ever do this to a man who loves me, respect me as an equal and lets me in on how he spends his money.

But if he his a reckless spender and expects me to help his life because I am supposed to be submissive, he will see all shades of the tough me.

love is like a chain ,this is d reason I said so,
The other day there was a thread that was posted saying some ladies /girlfriend don't ask their boyfriend if they are saving or have a saving account, and now after marriage u will see those same ladies complain that they don't know how their husband spend money, ,,everything is a chain wat u fail to correct during dating don't expect any change after marriage cus marriage is just a name and a date after dat day everything goes to normal again

Elder0001:
I believe you don’t understand the phrase “independent”

Pls make me understand

larryking540:
love is like a chain ,this is d reason I said so,
The other day there was a thread that was posted saying some ladies /girlfriend don't ask their boyfriend if they are saving or have a saving account, and now after marriage u will see those same ladies complain that they don't know how their husband spend money, ,,everything is a chain wat u fail to correct during dating don't expect any change after marriage cus marriage is just a name and a date after dat day everything goes to normal again

True.

In other words, people should choose their spouse carefully.

Annwrites:
True.

In other words, people should choose their spouse carefully.

People day chose again sofer say the Bobo get camery, and he day dress like big man, ,,he is OK..na to give am wahala make he quickly engage u

larryking540:
Pls make me understand

Who is an independent lady to you?

Elder0001:
T

I pity the woman who will marry you or that have married you.

stfu!

Elder0001:
I believe you don’t understand the phrase “independent”

Am still waiting madam
Since u said a submissive wife is a dependent woman
And unsubmissive wife is an independent woman

Elder0001:
Who is an independent lady to you?

U are very foolish, u say I be olodo, u con still day ask me question again, ,

Elder0001:
Dear acidosis

I don’t know you but I’ll find you and instill sense into your head

I’m tired of seeing your archaic posts on family section

I'm tired of seeing your gigolo posts on family section. I won't find you though, what you'll looking for would soon consume you if you don't repent and take charge of your home.

Acidosis:
stfu!

You lack wisdom .

larryking540:
Am still waiting madam
Since u said a submissive wife is a dependent woman
And unsubmissive wife is an independent woman

When did I say that to you ?

You have a dumb brain. Most alpha males lack wisdom.

Don't forget you are a married woman. So seek the bible advice, please.

You can only do that if you have a hus that pple from her villager are affecting him; or a bad or an evil husband; who does not care..... et al

Acidosis:
I'm tired of seeing your gigolo posts on family section. I won't find you though, what you'll looking for would soon consume you if you don't repent and take charge of your home.

I pity the woman who’s going to marry you or that has married you .

I shed tears on her behalf because I know what she’s/or will pass through in your archaic hands.