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UyaiIncomparabl:
Life itself is risky. I see nothing wrong in sponsoring your girl through school. She could've been your sister, niece, cousin or even a friend. Everyone needs help at a point. When you do this, just expect nothing in return, that way your heart is at rest. It's just an act of benevolence.

A father can sponsor his child through school, in the end, that child gets a good job, becomes rich and even forgets the father who gave him that privilege. And that's even a Father-Child relationship, let alone lovers. Nothing in life is certain. We all get disappointed, all we just have to do is be logical in whatever we do.

Anyone can be ditched. Stop painting 'women' as a thing to be avoided. There are good women, as there are men too. If your woman wasn't loyal, then that's your business. If you simply can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen.

Eberechi24:
Give what you can afford to lose. Don't be expected of anything. Promise and expectations can be unfulfilled.
If you can't afford to train a child and forfeit it. Don't do it! and no one would question you.

They may give you those promise under duress and at last break it.

And if God didn't bless you for giving a beggar some token, you go and fight him.

XhosaNostra:
It's dumb to send a mere GF to school. No self-respecting parents would love-vendor their daughter out like that, neither would they allow their own son to be that stupid. Certain things are a responsibility of the parents. If they're proud people, they'd never let this happen. It's shameful.

baralatie:
the rule is this if a lady,girl comes to you for help. give her the help with no conditions attached(no sex,kiss)just from your heart you give what you can afford and bounce out of the way.

samchuks2018:
I don't believe in giving without expectations it does not exist in this world even when we give to beggars we expect that one day God will bless us. Girls should not make promises they can't keep in order to get favour.

Because training somebody in school involves a lot of sacrifice and when someone sacrifices he/she must expect something in return. That is the law of nature.

victorian:
Anyways I can't understand how u feel, training a gf and she dumps u for another .
Cause my parents were the ones who trained me to university , while my late mum gave me N4,000,000.00 ( that's four million naira to start up my company way back 2007) and the company is still operational till date, all thanks to God and wisdom.
But she died 6months after dashing me such huge sum. She didn't get to enjoy the dividends.

What am I trying to say here? Its better and with great peace of mind for parents to train and invest in their kids , and the parents won't be thinking of marrying such kid later. At least they will allow us choose whom to marry at the end.

So Jakandeola sorry , next time invest wisely on your kids or bride . simple!

lefulefu:
how many ppl would really give without expecting anything in return
even pppl that donate huge sums to churches do so with the expectation that praises and songs will be done in their name .anyway its pathetic using school sponsoring to force a girl into marriage.

jakandeola:
dont say DAT dear is povarty. most parent Neva wished DAT.

Valerie47:
Its only a stupid person that will train a woman in school. Training someone you are yet to marry, what kind of bad investment is that one.

jakandeola:
u are getting me angry

ZinolyOnlineHelp:
that's why the thread is still sane...

They will soon pop in here leaving their senses behind..in their mothers pot of stew..

I don't want to mention names sha

Pocoant madlavin funmisidiot

stupidity:
Actually there’s nothing wrong in assisting someone your dating through school. But it shouldn’t be because you think you two will end up together. If really the girls parents isn’t bouyant enough to send her to school, so why can’t you offer little assistance if you can?


If it’s all because of marriage, then your screwed.

Eberechi24:
Then get your head knocked on a wall nearby. It solves anger issues

blissgregory:
Well said...but nt all ladies can do it

jakandeola:
did my blog anyway.I dont need to fight anybody but I wish u use ur Brian to understand d issue before coming out to bark as a dog. I wish u the best

XhosaNostra:
Yeah, but most parents wouldn't allow that either. It's not a very noble thing.

jakandeola:
dear is not easy if u are poor and someone offer to train ur daughter wont u gree. see dere is noting wrong if only the girl is fateful.

Eberechi24:
I wish you the best too dear as long you solve your anger issues and have internal peace at last.

jakandeola:
thank u my beautiful friend u make sence. marriage and born or no money. am sorry about ur mum

davien:
There's really nothing like giving just for giving sake, it's stvpid to even say it outright, we give because we expect something in return, it might just be to feel good, feel we've done something to help someone out, expect something in return that may come in the form of goodluck, etc..

I know of a man that helped a girl just for the sake of it through her hardships and this girl just because the man refused her advances changed tone and called the man a fool for sponsoring her and implied she used him just for helping her with no expectations..

Women have nothing to lose in life and it's time some men hear that, they owe it to nobody to show appreciation because they will always be catered for, especially in a county with low standards of living that encourages bidding for affection from the highest bidder for them..

jakandeola:
am rich got property got a good family. and a girl to love me. am happy and have peace by God grace. wat do u have if not pains?

jakandeola:
dont say DAT dear is povarty. most parent Neva wished DAT.

Jaqenhghar:
Nobody gives for giving sake thats true. Even the philanthropist gives because he believes there is blessings in it, or that he is making the world a better place. That being said the one you describe is not giving. That is one myopic way of doing things. You give because you want to get and you want to determine the chamnel you want back your reward. That is not giving that is like borrowing since the person has to do a service in return. That is a transaction similar to negotiating for sex. You might as well open up to the girl and break it down for her from the start. Babe I will pay your school fees but you must allow me fúck X number of times. Dont make it like you are helping her out of the goodness of your heart because your intentions were never honourable. If your intentions were good in the first place you will let her go knowing that you have hlep8ed lift someone and good Karma will find you.

davien:
Lol, first of all, I didn't sponsor anybody.. The person who did, did it just to help out and it backfired on him as the girl ridiculed him for it after he rejected sleeping with her, she made herself feel valuable because he didn't want to manipulate her by lowering his ego..

Secondly, karma isn't a justice system, many of you have the erroneous belief karma means doing good means good things must come your way, karma just means whatever happens to you happened because it's what you deserve.. Whether or not you offended someone/something

Jaqenhghar:
Im not saying you did relax. I am only countering a thought here we dont all have to agree. As for your friend he should also have the sense to build himself up while building up other people. Personally I dont believe very much in Karma but some people swear by it and they have instances too.

jakandeola:
I got mad wen I saw a blog by obembet dat she Neva want to marry a guy DAT train her. see forget most think we hate women but not. my mum is a woman. my sisters is a woman. my fiancee is a woman. I with born woman.but I hate when woman thinks every man shld act as a fool for dem. and I must keep asking what do woman have to offer? baby sex and and as companion. am in pains a long time ago. I dated a an IBO girl for 2 years train her in schl and help wit suveniar when her sis marry. I quarell with my mum for her yet she cause me pains.
it is not only wrong but stupidity to train a woman u Neva marry in schl. most are wicked and Hippocrates they will only love u when they can get something after your bsc you dump him and say ur level is now high. it is wickedness. Guys Neva Eva in a million years train a girl. if u want to marry her first and make sure she born for you before she go back to schl.if she Neva born Neva spend a kobo on her schl because you wont see her again. I dont hate woman am only saying the reality of pains most guy have face because of this issue

xpac01:
If only you had trained your English in school, maybe just maybe, she wouldn't have put you in pains.

Your Grammar is painful.

jakandeola:
u are stupid sha a guy made of stupidity

jakandeola:
am disappointed in u