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McEphiks:
I'll keep it simple and short. I've been chatting this lady for a while now. During those period I clearly stated we ain't friends and should expect me to ask her out someday. Today I did and she rejected. Now I reject her offer of friendship but she's obviously not happy with it.

Is she serious now?

Lalasticlala
Seun

GlorifiedTunde:
Dude, I salute you. Are you Capricorn?
Cos you're quite emotionally ruthless like me.
I'm married to a beautiful woman now and that's how I asked her out.
I didn't really do all these side by relationships in my days.
Call a spade a spade! Protect yourself emotionally.
You pulled the right plug dude!

McEphiks:
Some still think I should hang around.

ecstasy357:
I'm learning a lot from this thread
Pop corn and coke mode activated

GlorifiedTunde:
Well they may be right though. Remember, there are no unbending rules in cases like this.

Be sure she's got someone else she really likes.

And by the way, can you try to blur her name and pic.

Beadex1:
You dont ask a girl for permission to be her boyfriend but rather you start acting as one with her. From her chats she likes you and maybe wants to keep you as back plan (thats if she is in a relationship already) in case things fallout.

Tobiloba21:
Bros you are on the right path....if she no agree mk she bounce

royallord1:
Prof prof... Twàle baba

royallord1:
Prof prof... Twàle baba

Beadex1:
You dont ask a girl for permission to be her boyfriend but rather you start acting as one with her. From her chats she likes you and maybe wants to keep you as back plan (thats if she is in a relationship already) in case things fallout.

You hit the nail on the head....

You don't approach a girl acting all needy like a love starved dude and expect her to just give in just because you think you are the nicest guy on the planet for being straightforward with her.

To worsen the situation, the guy con dey sulk like a baby that lost his feeding bottle . He closed the door to any ray of hope of getting in. From this moment onward, he will always be a plan B to her. If she dates him, it will be out of pity cause he already placed himself at her mercy begging for her love. She might consider him someday that's why she still wants to keep him at an arms length. Since she already knows the power she wields over him, she would use it to her advantage when the time comes. The feminine one is always on the losing side in a relationship anr
d in this case the Op is the feminine one. He's way too timid

When you approach girls, approach them with less talk and more actions ( like swag, confidence, money, car etc). You will bore them easily if you are a talkative. Use anything wey you get, no just dey run your mouth like tap water.

You want to be her boyfriend? don't tell her, act like her boyfriend and be bold about it.. People like the Op only ends up in one place - The friendzone

McEphiks:
From the first time we met we both discussed that my lady. I stated clearly from the beginning I am not searching for friends. You want that screenshot too?

In the conversation that preludes to me asking her out, I asked if there's anything she would still love to know about and she replied with a No.

McEphiks:


Who does that these days

vikkimimi:
But you're aware she's got a boyfriend , what do you then expect.
the only chance you've got is to prove yourself beyond words, be more than the boyfriend and she's in.
EVEN A SINGLE LADY WITHOUT A BOYFRIEND WONT FALL FOR THIS TALK PLEASE.

moneypussyweed:
From your chat; you sound too serious for a lady. You make it look like a government work. Don't be too straight forward, you can be more caring than this. You can still reconsider her options and put more friendship to the conversation. Shalom!!!

lenghtinny:
You hit the nail on the head....

You don't approach a girl acting all needy like a love starved dude and expect her to just give in just because you think you are the nicest guy on the planet for being straightforward with her.

To worsen the situation, the guy con dey sulk like a baby that lost his feeding bottle . He closed the door to any ray of hope of getting in. From this moment onward, he will always be a plan B to her. If she dates him, it will be out of pity cause he already placed himself at her mercy begging for her love. She might consider him someday that's why she still wants to keep him at an arms length. Since she already knows the power she wields over him, she would use it to her advantage when the time comes. The feminine one is always on the losing side in a relationship anr
d in this case the Op is the feminine one. He's way too timid

When you approach girls, approach them with less talk and more actions ( like swag, confidence, money, car etc). You will bore them easily if you are a talkative. Use anything wey you get, no just dey run your mouth like tap water.

You want to be her boyfriend? don't tell her, act like her boyfriend and be bold about it.. People like the Op only ends up in one place - The friendzone

McEphiks:
I'll keep it simple and short. I've been chatting this lady for a while now. During those period I clearly stated we ain't friends and should expect me to ask her out someday. Today I did and she rejected. Now I reject her offer of friendship but she's obviously not happy with it.

Is she serious now?

Lalasticlala
Seun

vikkimimi:
Just like that?
you expect her to give you a yes or no, just like that ?
Bro, you seem desperate, cause if I were to be in that girl's shoe I'd do same.
you don't just say a few hello's and boom you want a relationship, you gotta prove yourself first. like she said, if it's done that way maybe she would have dated hundred guys in 3 months.
SHE LIKES YOU... DON'T RUN AWAY

CorGier:
Try push n pull, it usually works on her type. Just ignore her totally for a couple of weeks then strike up a convo. If she's still tripping, rinse n repeat.
Most times they just try to sell themselves as high value, don't fall for it. You're the price and she knows it.

omamush:
Op it still seems you are a still little pained she rejected you even though she offered to remain friends and u said no, she only reacted like every sane human should by wanting to know why u don't want to be friends with her anymore..
the conversation ended afterall she accepted that u don't want to be friends anymore.

McEphiks:
Lol

I'm a guy who allows things to fall into place with time.

Sex is not a good foundation for a relationship. Asin relationship.

CorGier:
Try push n pull, it usually works on her type. Just ignore her totally for a couple of weeks then strike up a convo. If she's still tripping, rinse n repeat.
Most times they just try to sell themselves as high value, don't fall for it. You're the price and she knows it.

McEphiks:
I'll keep it simple and short. I've been chatting this lady for a while now. During those period I clearly stated we ain't friends and should expect me to ask her out someday. Today I did and she rejected. Now I reject her offer of friendship but she's obviously not happy with it.

Is she serious now?

Lalasticlala
Seun

CorGier:
Try push n pull, it usually works on her type. Just ignore her totally for a couple of weeks then strike up a convo. If she's still tripping, rinse n repeat.
Most times they just try to sell themselves as high value, don't fall for it. You're the price and she knows it.

McEphiks:
But I told her from the start na.. Even before she handed her number to me. .. Why give it to me when you clearly know you're not in for a relationship?