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reservd:
U sure abt ds?

reservd:
Can u send me those e-books pls?

IamPlato:
What Is This One Saying? You First Said You Dont Want Two Perfectionists because You Are One, Melancholics are Perfectionists... Now You Say You Dont Want Bossy, and Thats Choleric Trait.. Then What Do You Want Aunty Victoria! The Careless Sanguine or Mute Phlegmatic



You Want A Man You Can Teach, teach What Actually ?

peepydelano:
dont do that,thats a sign of weakness on your part,you may never meet his type again

peepydelano:
Bossy men are the most easily controlled if being handled with wisdom,my dad is very busy but my mom surely knows how to have her ways with him in all matters,i have never seen my mom argue publicly with my dad,though I don't know if they argue in the bedroom.

AmConfused:
Hahaha you said you're argumentative and don't easily give up on arguments. but see as u loyal for Nairaland eh, why don't u try this approach on bobo? who knows it may work out except if u just particularly enjoy arguing with him

UyaiIncomparabl:
Yes. The same thing I fear. But he's too domineering.

vingeophysicist:
i am a perfectionist to the core and I am well verse in almost all field. Reminiscing my university days, no one dares argue with me because I must make sure I prove you wrong. My academic record motivated my ego, most times I look down on people especially when I discover you lack the exposure and knowledge I have. I was so arrogant and domineering .i find it hard to create relationship with people I am better than .But I realized my attitude back in 2015 after so many complain.i had to change .I bought a book called "attitude is everything " to assist me with mine attitude. Sincerely speaking I have eradicated all those habits, I act so humble to the extend I could see a ten years old kid and greet him. All this things takes time and your commitment to change. Today I can speak so confidently that I have eradicated those attitude of mine. In fact i was given the award of most sociable during mine service year 2016/2017.
All those things are habits that if you bring out time you can easily change.
I later realize in life no matter the knowledge you posses without attitude it is rubbish. You become happy each day that passes, people will even like to associate with you that is if your attitude is good.
If you boyfriend really loves you, he should change. If I could change because of complain from people I never even liked how much more if I see someone I love.

jakandeola:
u are not matured only a guy DAT love u will act like DAT u women are funny dats a sign he love u and want to be with u all the time. my dear dere is no perfect man

Goddys:
Very well. Women possess highest power in any home and it is the power of subtlety. It's gifted to them by the serpent. A woman no matter how much she loves a man is still very subtle with her emotions.

No woman is excluded. Work on his psyche and you see his subconscious mind picks up your signal after a while. No lecture can change a man. I have fought my mom verbally when she once tried to change my dispositions as a man.

UyaiIncomparabl:
So, being domineering is a sign a man loves me?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Teach me how to doggy.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I sabi argue o no be small. Same for him too. He's very bossy ehn, chai! I'll to be quiet from now henceforth sha. God help me.

CosmicJames:
You think I swear for you? Far from it! I didn't swear for you. I mean why should I? I'm only telling you realities based on the knowledge of how the universe works. Because your today and future happiness is what matters the most

This your reply revealed the main reason why you want to break up with him -- your relationship is not well defined and you are not comfortable with it. The previous reasons you gave are not the major course of your worries.

You don't need to fear karma and stay in a relationship that you think is going nowhere.
Instead, you should handle karma in such a way that you will be fine even if you break up with him or someone else.

Since you love him that much, I will assume that you are very happy and comfortable staying with him.

Now here's what you should do to be on the safe side. Stop wishing for a break up with him. (Your wish have a way of coming to pass)
Instead, Peacefully and lovingly table the matter of the destination of your relationship to him. Let him declare his real intention for the relationship.

I'm not telling you to try to force him to say anything o.
But be sure he's 100% honest with you.
You should also be 100% honest with him as well.

Now base on your agreement, you will be free to take your action without the fear of karma.

Karma have been found to always follow dishonest people, and those who deliberately hurt others without valid reasons

In summary, always do good to others. Apply the Golden Rule (do unto others as you wish them do unto you) and you will always be fine.

I wish you the best

jakandeola:
it depend dear

UyaiIncomparabl:
You know, you're very right there. Everything you wrote about you aligns with what I do most times, and i really hate it but I'm not domineering. I tend to not like people or flow with people of less intellectual prowess. Which isn't too good. As for that book. A friend gave me that book but I dumped it somewhere I cannot even remember. Found it too lengthy sha. I'll go back in search of it to see its content. You've really been helpful.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I believe strongly too that you're very domineering.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Okay. I'll send you the few ones I have.

Your contact?

Goddys:
Your belief is your choice. That's the least of my trait. What I hate is being told what to do. It's enough to end a relationship for me cuz I like being very free like a bird. More reason I avoid relationship cuz it's suffocating. I like a situation where the girl demands less attention and stay on her own, sometimes we chat, gist or make love. She may even be a Hindu while I'm a Christian, I don't care.

UyaiIncomparabl:
The strong head no be here o.

My personality type or temperament?

generationz:
well there is there is a 16 personality type theory by Carl Jung and there is the temperament theory by Tim lahaye ( choleric , melancholic, sanguine, phlegmatic

although I think you are a phlegmatic - choleric

am I correct?

Goddys:
Your belief is your choice. That's the least of my trait. What I hate is being told what to do. It's enough to end a relationship for me cuz I like being very free like a bird. More reason I avoid relationship cuz it's suffocating. I like a situation where the girl demands less attention and stay on her own, sometimes we chat, gist or make love. She may even be a Hindu while I'm a Christian, I don't care.

Goddys:
Your belief is your choice. That's the least of my trait. What I hate is being told what to do. It's enough to end a relationship for me cuz I like being very free like a bird. More reason I avoid relationship cuz it's suffocating. I like a situation where the girl demands less attention and stay on her own, sometimes we chat, gist or make love. She may even be a Hindu while I'm a Christian, I don't care.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'll recheck on the Personality types.

Lol. I'm not choleric. I don't care about leadership, nor being bossy. I'm very non-challant

I'm Mel-Phleg.

solz007:
Okay' Let's Talk 'Bout U!
1. Freedom??! if a guy really Loves U he'll give U that space/freedom to be yourself like spend time with friends both male/female friends without him being around.

2. Spiritual!? why not be with someone that'll help build your spiritual Life or U help build such person spiritually! you guys need to have a healthy relationship with God that only can help Y'all grow in Love.

3. Distance!? Ebe Like U guys don't trust each other for U to feel that way.

Simplep:
Is that one a relationship?

CuntMiner:
cclear that fuckkkiinngggg number one point and don't let me ever see it here again, it points like that that I usually see which made me support my girlfriend to go write exam in another state with her other family, to give her space and be successful too, only for her and her cousin started romancing and smooching hing each other even though it didn't lead to sex, do u know how devastated I was to such shiittt, it happened seven months ago, and I still don't get myself till date

CuntMiner:
cclear that fuckkkiinngggg number one point and don't let me ever see it here again, it points like that that I usually see which made me support my girlfriend to go write exam in another state with her other family, to give her space and be successful too, only for her and her cousin started romancing and smooching hing each other even though it didn't lead to sex, do u know how devastated I was to such shiittt, it happened seven months ago, and I still don't get myself till date

solz007:
Bro. i'm so sorry about that, She just Lost a good guy Cause U really Loved & Trusted her by giving her that space she needed! with what she did U too good for her. So Bro. don't feel Bad she played her self... Or Just imagine U don't give her space That won't be cool She won't see no reason to Miss U, U self go tire!

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'll recheck on the Personality types.

Lol. I'm not choleric. I don't care about leadership, nor being bossy. I'm very non-challant

I'm Mel-Phleg.