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My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by danpoly60: 5:24pm On Feb 23, 2019
Good evening house!! I am bleeding as I write this piece cos I feel like good women are indeed scarce.
I dated a girl for the first time in the year 2014( August to be precise) I so much loved this girl cos I had never kissed, had sex, nor romanced a lady at the age of 24. I so much loved this girl, and I went through her mom and her mom said so long I won't spoil her daughter, I should go ahead, before I made attempt for the girl and she said yes. In fact both of us are virgins. It all started in the year 2017 three years into the relationship when she acts up and I would ask her what the issue is, she would not speak, I am funny, I brainstorm alot, take time to listen and allow others ideas hold sway. She all of a sudden misread my pure intentions and began acting up. I would always call and visit, buy her stuffs, tell her sweet words I mean and I never and I repeat I never had a side chick, I was 100% faithful to her despite the fact ladies kept coming. I personally was brought up well by a single mother who taught us to respect women and care for them, and be responsible, but October last year she continued such that I called her and pleaded with her to open up Her mind and tell me where am wrong, I will gladly apologize but she rather broke up with me three days later. I was devastated, I almost ran mad but thanks be to God who helped my life and put me together, today I am sound But very careful of ladies. Now she messages me alot, wants to talk with me, even wants me to tell her story but am no more interested at all.
Worst of it all, I see lots of them as pretenders looking for good men to destroy, and I am careful not to transfer aggression towards the wrong person. Yet she keeps coming and her birthday is just 3days from today, what do I do cos I dont know her mission again.. And I Desire to get into a new relationship but am so scared and careful of ladies cos the double and fake life many are living today scares me alot.. Pls I need someone to advise me on the right step to take..
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by ipobarecriminals: 5:27pm On Feb 23, 2019
sad young man,grow sum balls and do away with her.I stop reading ur tale at"i was devastated, almost run mad".U'll eventually ran mad(God forbid bad thing).U dnt nid to sufa ur head dey beg girls up/down.Get degree,work/start driving. Com back here and share ur testimony. Men who beg girls for love look miserable/ ugly.May ur destiny nor turn upside down

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Nobody: 5:28pm On Feb 23, 2019
Search within, therein lies your answer.
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by GOFRONT(m): 5:32pm On Feb 23, 2019
Take heart!!!
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by zyzxx(m): 5:34pm On Feb 23, 2019
What I can advice you is don't just jump into relationship with any Lady. Start with friendship, take your time if you have the time, and I believe you know what you want in a lady.. . Take the time of friendship to know what she is made off.. .
Virginity does not guarantee a good wife

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Newboss(m): 5:36pm On Feb 23, 2019
Nice guys. Another one has bite dust o. LWKMD

Everything you did was WRONG!

NEVER let a lady get comfortable around you. It's always a game. Play the game else they will play you.

Don't be nice when it comes to girls, it says "I'm a loser!" angry

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Okuda(m): 5:40pm On Feb 23, 2019
lmao... this guy na mumu.
1. furck ny girl you date.
2. dont be a wuss. otherwise they would leave you.
3. if you feel like you are not in control of a relationship you better leave quick otherwise you are delaying your heartbreak. lol

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by lilmax(m): 5:40pm On Feb 23, 2019
single mother who taught us to respect women and care for them

gringrin


there's no much talk bros

but just know you were a fool.... no offense

useless girls will exist even when you're dead,now use your head, not your heart be a MAN not a boy boy
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Yoshy: 5:48pm On Feb 23, 2019
If you're a no sex guy, don't worry about dating. Worst don't ever fall for I am a virgin crap. Most Nigerians girls are naturally unfaithful, insecure and has nothing to offer.

Pick yourself up, give love a chance at the right time, when you do, don't play nice

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by MissRaine69(f): 5:51pm On Feb 23, 2019
danpoly60:
Good evening house!! I am bleeding as I write this piece cos I feel like good women are indeed scarce.
I dated a girl for the first time in the year 2014( August to be precise) I so much loved this girl cos I had never kissed, had sex, nor romanced a lady at the age of 24. I so much loved this girl, and I went through her mom and her mom said so long I won't spoil her daughter, I should go ahead, before I made attempt for the girl and she said yes. In fact both of us are virgins. It all started in the year 2017 three years into the relationship when she acts up and I would ask her what the issue is, she would not speak, I am funny, I brainstorm alot, take time to listen and allow others ideas hold sway. She all of a sudden misread my pure intentions and began acting up. I would always call and visit, buy her stuffs, tell her sweet words I mean and I never and I repeat I never had a side chick, I was 100% faithful to her despite the fact ladies kept coming. I personally was brought up well by a single mother who taught us to respect women and care for them, and be responsible, but October last year she continued such that I called her and pleaded with her to open up Her mind and tell me where am wrong, I will gladly apologize but she rather broke up with me three days later. I was devastated, I almost ran mad but thanks be to God who helped my life and put me together, today I am sound But very careful of ladies. Now she messages me alot, wants to talk with me, even wants me to tell her story but am no more interested at all.
Worst of it all, I see lots of them as pretenders looking for good men to destroy, and I am careful not to transfer aggression towards the wrong person. Yet she keeps coming and her birthday is just 3days from today, what do I do cos I dont know her mission again.. And I Desire to get into a new relationship but am so scared and careful of ladies cos the double and fake life many are living today scares me alot.. Pls I need someone to advise me on the right step to take..
When somthing is rotten, you don’t throw away some of it you throw everything that’s rotten out otherwise it will continue to spoil your life. By not cutting this girl off you continue to cause you own hurt. Cut her off, reflect and heal only then will you have closure.
She is no longer your problem. She left you for someone else, it did not work out this is why she is back.
No good woman wants to date a man who is still hung up on his ex.
We all learn from being burnt, you have learnt to be a better judgement of character for future references. The best teacher is experience.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by donstan18: 5:55pm On Feb 23, 2019
She wanted and still want sex from you. PERIOD!!!!!
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by eneojoedu(m): 6:01pm On Feb 23, 2019
lemme tell you something sir.... ''many''women are so confused on what they want.. they get a good guy(romantic,loving,caring gentle etc) they tag him boring and start craving for a bad guy. they finally get the bad guy and get the treatment that is attached, get fed up and start trying different antics to go back to the good guy. your only problem is that you are a good guy.... my advice ...add some ''badness''. take her back, reduce the over caring, excess show of emotions (without you I can't live) rubbish.... give her drama, confuse her emotions, make her feel she's gonna loss you to some hotter girls... I almost forgot, did you say una be virgins my brother she go Don give am to one random idiot on a platter of gold since.......chop the kpekus well.....
when are they declaring ATIKU president Na

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Biglittlelois(f): 6:36pm On Feb 23, 2019
Some people don't know the value of what they have until they loose it, that lady's dumbness na follow come.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by SaucyBenks(m): 6:50pm On Feb 23, 2019
Better find a girl who is twice better than she is... You'll hear she hung herself days later.... grin

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by dayleke: 7:01pm On Feb 23, 2019
Sorry bro....
You are her rebound man.

Only you know wetin dey o.
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Frankicent(m): 7:10pm On Feb 23, 2019
Verse 1- You date her a girl for years no kiss, sex or romance. Even went to her mom she told you not to spoil her daughter that's have wicked S*x with her.

Verse 2 - She found out you as boring as Johnny bravo she had to remove your heart and ate it raw. Hmm

Verse 3- you felt a rare type of pain we call
" ATTACK BREAK " Which made you almost jump in a lagoon.


Verse 4- If not for the divide intervention of Christ you would have died and maybe pen down your own "Good bye my lover , James blunt reflux" Gald you didn't cause nobody will listen to play that st*pid song..

Verse 5- You got over the unbearable pain and decided to try other girls. That I high recommended. Infact you deserve a hand shake.. Too bad you should have started this before writing a book.

Verse 6 - You still remember her birthday is 3 days from today. B*tch had started calling you telling you her snow white version tori. Because, you will fall for her fake tori like shrek.

Verse 7- The terrorist of a guy that kidnapped her and planned a coup over your regime. is truly a physiological billionaire, daredevil and a playboy superhero just like Bruce Wayne [ batman] Tony stark [ iron Man] and Oliver queen [ Arrow]

Verse 8- You've been a boring guy just like Clark Kent[ Superman] Bally Allen [ The flash]
Die wake again or kip running over what you should have faced.


See you can't compare yourself with this guys.

Now you asking us to give you advice if maybe you should quit the team, join the team or maybe start your own league.


MY BROTHER YOU KNOW THE ANSWER. BE LIKE THIS SUPER HEROS PLAYBOY AND SEND HER TO BLACKGATE PENITENTIARY OR ARKHAM ASYLUM.


Summary: Delete everything about her physically, physiological and mentally.
become dominant and a hard guy.. no more begging ..

If possible hardbang her .. Make up for all this year you've miss.. Once had a b*tch like that.. For 4 year I didn't bang, touch or kiss her cause she was giving me excuses. Had to depart like the red sea far away from her cause I no gain anything.

After some years later she contact me told me how she'd lost her virginity to a 30 year old man... A girl of 23. I said hmmm. A girl who was once Virgin most holy.

I told her am not that lover guy I was then ... Me no get time for pretends make we migrate to the new yakata plan.. She was pretending and acting like she know nothing. This is a girl that told me she had suck unlimited premium package of dick.

She still think I was that mumu mr lover. Immediately I deleted her number no more communication with a useless girl that pretend...
Wetin I gain?


Bros embrace the Playboy superhero league until you find a different girl like Mary Jane and Louis lane. Then you can control your injustice attitude.


The end

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:21pm On Feb 23, 2019
You don't seem to have figured out what went wrong with the relationship...
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by crazyabbey(m): 7:28pm On Feb 23, 2019
Welcome to the playboy league my brother cheesy u never even wise up sef, by the time u experience 2 more heartbreaks from different girls your eyes go clear.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by lalanice(f): 7:35pm On Feb 23, 2019
My dear, women go through things like this too and we don't cry foul.some women love and stay faithful only to be cheated on and constantly made to look like fools outside while they come back home to smile to your face and expect appreciation because they remembered to buy suya on their way home. IJS

I guess we can just say people are not reliable the bad ones just come to damage the good ones and everything gets messy.
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Nobody: 7:57pm On Feb 23, 2019
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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by ImaIma1(f): 8:13pm On Feb 23, 2019
Her birthday is close and she wants you to get her something so she is hanging around. You better not buy her anything not even a cupcake.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Bouncingbabyboy(m): 8:23pm On Feb 23, 2019
Bro women hate nice guys!!!!!
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Headlesschicken(m): 8:24pm On Feb 23, 2019
grin She wants u now cos her birthday x close,d gal x a nincompoop, she needs something from u that's y she's coming back,son grow a pair n move on from toxic ladies..
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by AryEmber(f): 8:28pm On Feb 23, 2019
Same old story. Don't tell me you don't really know what to do
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Nobody: 8:33pm On Feb 23, 2019
Okuda:
lmao... this guy na mumu.
1. furck ny girl you date.
2. dont be a wuss. otherwise they would leave you.
3. if you feel like you are not in control of a relationship you better leave quick otherwise you are delaying your heartbreak. lol
Fuuuk her? even when she's not ready? what kind of mentality do you have?? if you like be her first, fact remains that if her time is up she'll certainly leave you. For the records I'm fuknn experienced.
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Alariiwo: 8:41pm On Feb 23, 2019
Like a wise man once said.. Any lady you're not married to is a waste of time and money.

You better man up and move on with your life.. Chase success not skirts.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Okuda(m): 8:43pm On Feb 23, 2019
androidroot:
Fuuuk her? even when she's not ready? what kind of mentality do you have?? if you like be her first, fact remains that if her time is up she'll certainly leave you. For the records I'm fuknn experienced.

lol. ok o carry your experience buy moto bros...if you are in a relationship nd you dont want to hve sex because you feel like
1. you dont want to push her
2. its too early
3. you want to be a gentleman
4. you love her too much to use her
5. any and all of the above
6. you think she doesnt want it yet
7. you feel shesnot that type of girl
8. all of the above

you are on your own. there is no mentality here.

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Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by united442(m): 8:53pm On Feb 23, 2019
danpoly60:
Good evening house!! I am bleeding as I write this piece cos I feel like good women are indeed scarce.
I dated a girl for the first time in the year 2014( August to be precise) I so much loved this girl cos I had never kissed, had sex, nor romanced a lady at the age of 24. I so much loved this girl, and I went through her mom and her mom said so long I won't spoil her daughter, I should go ahead, before I made attempt for the girl and she said yes. In fact both of us are virgins. It all started in the year 2017 three years into the relationship when she acts up and I would ask her what the issue is, she would not speak, I am funny, I brainstorm alot, take time to listen and allow others ideas hold sway. She all of a sudden misread my pure intentions and began acting up. I would always call and visit, buy her stuffs, tell her sweet words I mean and I never and I repeat I never had a side chick, I was 100% faithful to her despite the fact ladies kept coming. I personally was brought up well by a single mother who taught us to respect women and care for them, and be responsible, but October last year she continued such that I called her and pleaded with her to open up Her mind and tell me where am wrong, I will gladly apologize but she rather broke up with me three days later. I was devastated, I almost ran mad but thanks be to God who helped my life and put me together, today I am sound But very careful of ladies. Now she messages me alot, wants to talk with me, even wants me to tell her story but am no more interested at all.
Worst of it all, I see lots of them as pretenders looking for good men to destroy, and I am careful not to transfer aggression towards the wrong person. Yet she keeps coming and her birthday is just 3days from today, what do I do cos I dont know her mission again.. And I Desire to get into a new relationship but am so scared and careful of ladies cos the double and fake life many are living today scares me alot.. Pls I need someone to advise me on the right step to take..

dude....whatever advise nairalanders give you,please follow it..they are professionals and almost 98% correct with what they are saying..

please read my story..almost thesame experience with you..
https://www.nairaland.com/5012212/emotionally-heart-broken...please-me
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by clive2u(m): 11:10pm On Feb 23, 2019
1: never expect a virgin to b faithful, she'll want to at least try one other person.
2: 1 girl has like 15 other guys (apart from bf) trying to get her so it takes a very good girl to be faithful
3: most of thesee virgins are comfam liars and they are badder than those that admit they aint virgins
4: if she come bk and u get d mind just fvck am asap if u no get the mind leave am
5: never trust any girl fully
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by Seandisputed(m): 11:29pm On Feb 23, 2019
I don't even know what to type but....
Since it's your first time, mistakes are allowed
You only become a pvssy when this same mistake repeats itself continuously.
Re: My Heart Is Broken And I Need Advice by pansophist(m): 11:53pm On Feb 23, 2019
Your purpose should come first before women, not otherwise. Women are like wifi, they see other networks but connect to the strongest one. Showering her with love is nice, but at the end, you should be a man that represent masculinity such as ambition, courage, purpose and goal that you pursue relentlessly.

She should not be your goal, and she also do not want that burden. Human attraction is something that at its core, is still primal and raw. Women will always preference men that embodied masculinity. Her change of attitude is basically her instinct giving her the vibes that you ain't strong enough, or worthy of her. Realize that in the romantic marketplace, the currency women use in attracting eligible partners are their youthfulness, fertility, and beauty, traits that are naturally giving to her. She doesn't have to do anything special and men will find her attravtice. Basically, she is rewarded just for showing up.

For men, its not the same. Our currency is our achievement, material resources, social status, and how you can make her life better. Women will most likely leave men who dont bring the required currency to the table, and the mistake men make is that they enjoy the same privilege as women, which is to be attractive just for showing up.

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