OmoAlata1:
You sound like those husbands that will emotionally drained their wives. I know your type very well. You can fool others with your poor me victim card post but not me.

Lol

Martinez39:
Not everyone believes in your book of fairy tales called bible and your god doesn't exist. My mum paid the rent and fed the family. There is no discretion, you are to assist your family in your capacity as you can be it man or woman. It is not written anywhere that the man must do everything. Marriage involves two people working together for their own good in love.

I am not stupid to expect that women would be like my mother. What my mother showed is that there is no excuse to insult and embarrass your man because he is broke. To insult and embarrass your man because he is broke and struggling is a choice and it takes a bad and disgusting soul to make that choice.

Your ideology does not tally with your Dad's. Your mother is who she is to the family because of your Dad's strategic home management skills. Your Dad never considered your mum as a partner that 'must' assist, he was excited that your mum was able to assist.

No one is saying that women should not assist, but expecting them to assist compulsorily is the root of the crisis in marriage.

I do not think marriage is compulsory naturally, after all, other animals do not get married, but if you must be married, understand that as a man it is your responsibility to provide 101% of all in that marriage and it does not stop there, you must remain romantic, chief security officer, the caregiver and the breadwinner.

That is why you are called Husband from Husbandry etymology and Wife is called Mother, as in the giver of life. So, a woman must know how to birth beautiful kids and sustain the lives of families with great organic meals. Fathers are Heads of families.

You do not expect a woman to contribute to your responsibilities without dragging the headship of family with you. It is just natural.

This is not what most people expect to read, but truth is always bitter. I do not know why truth is always bitter, but it appears so.

Do that and you will not die young. You will enjoy your years with wisdom and always have a wet pusssy on your bed and wine in your cup.

eph12:
You guys never learn. Never stay in an abusive relationship, whether physical abuse or emotional abuse. If you both are not ready to see a counselor, what's the point? You can leave your wife and still find ways to be in the life of your kids. If you don't want to divorce, stay away for some time.

Yes separation can work sometimes.

Sorry dear. It's a sad situation.

Martinez39:
My dad was indeed a real man. He never expected my mum to do anything but my mum was always in charge of the kitchen and the laundry of me and my siblings. My dad preferred to wash his clothes or gave it to my mum if she insisted on washing it. To insult and embarrass your spouse because of a shortcoming is a choice and it takes a bad and disgusting soul to make that choice. Why are you not calling the woman out on her behaviour? Now, where did the OP say he expected his wife to take on the full responsibility? Can't you read? The foolish op only complained about the bad attitude of his wife.

Besides, you don't know as you think you do. You just have this grandiose delusion that you know how the universe works. Be humble, learn and think more so you be typing the nonsenses you are typing. You don't even know the purpose of bride price, see the nonsense you are typing. Captain White Knight in a shiny armour .

Young man, please learn to be respectful. It seems the lost of your Dad at a tender age and being a partial orphan has destroyed your mannerism.

I understand that most people on nairaland are failures, but understand that not everyone is on your level of poverty of mind and mannerism.

Be guided.

Capensis:


Your ideology does not tally with your Dad's. Your mother is who she is to the family because of your Dad's strategic home management skills. Your Dad never considered your mum as a partner that 'must' assist, he was excited that your mum was able to assist.

No one is saying that women should not assist, but expecting them to assist compulsorily is the root of the crisis in marriage.

I do not think marriage is compulsory naturally, after all, other animals do not get married, but if you must be married, understand that as a man it is not your responsibility to provide 101% of all in that marriage and it does not stop there, you must remain romantic, chief security officer, the caregiver and the breadwinner.

That is why you are called Husband from Husbandry etymology and Wife is called Mother, as in the giver of life. So, a woman must know how to birth beautiful kids and sustain the lives of families with great organic meals. Fathers are Heads of families.

You do not expect a woman to contribute to your responsibilities without dragging the headship of family with you. It is just natural.

This is not what most people expect to read, but truth is always bitter. I do not know why truth is always bitter, but it appears so.

Do that and you will not die young. You will enjoy your years with wisdom and always have a wet pusssy on your bed and wine in your cup.

You are not speaking any truth. You are just spewing ridiculous garbages. Do you know my dad? What is my ideology? Mtewwwww. Please don't quote me again. I have never seen such dangerous confidence in a mindset that makes one vulnerable to gold digging leeches. Please, don't quote or I ignore you. Captain White Knight.

Martinez39:
You are not speaking any truth. You are just spewing ridiculous garbages. Do you know my dad? What is my ideology? Mtewwwww. Please don't quote me again. I have never seen such dangerous confidence in a mindset that makes one vulnerable to gold digging leeches. Please, don't quote or I ignore you. Captain White Knight.

What do we expect from an orphan who was raised with money raised from frying akara.

Hahahahaaha.

This is another reason ladies should not marry poor people from broken homes.

Capensis:


What do we expect from an orphan who was raised with money raised from frying akara.

Hahahahaaha.

This is another reason ladies should not marry poor people from broken homes.

Hmm OK o

Capensis:


What do we expect from an orphan who was raised with money raised from frying akara.

Hahahahaaha.

This is another reason ladies should not marry poor people from broken homes.

I am not an orphan. My mum is still alive. My father was a very rich man. The hard time came when all the cars he wanted to sell weren't allowed to cross the border and his businesses collapsed. That was back then. I am sure you didn't read where I wrote that he got back on his feet big time perhaps you bias allow you pick only the part that fits your "truth" -- so much for a truth teller. There is no need of mine that my parents have never met. Not everyone is suffering in this life .

Besides, what is my ideology? How do you know what my dad thought of my mum? You are yet to tell me General White Knight.

Dyt:


but if it was written for the wife
you will gladly applaud it

wehdone sir!!!!

Dyt, it is not written anywhere for both genders to take on any role. Any gender can take on any role they want as long as both are happy with it and have agreed on it. I am an unapologetic disciple of the equility of both genders. No gender is superior to the other. If the woman wants to take on the responsibility of the bread winner and the man is happy with it, there is no problem but let her not insult and embarrass her husband in fact none of them must insult the other for any shortcomings of the other. Am I clear.

Cc. Daeylar (before you say there is a lot of misogyny on this thread)

I'm sorry you feel this way, Mr. May your marriage change for the better.

OmoAlata1:
You sound like those husbands that will emotionally drained their wives. I know your type very well. You can fool others with your poor me victim card post but not me.

You said he sounds like a group of husbands then, with absolute certainty, you judged him based on what you think he sounds like. Didn't you read that he was providing for his family when he was financially buoyant? Where are the evidences that he is emotionally draining his wife?

Hian!

Martinez39:
I am not an orphan. My mum is still alive. My father was a very rich man. The hard time came when all the cars he wanted to sell weren't allowed to cross the border and his businesses collapsed. That was back then. I am sure you didn't read where I wrote that he got back on his feet big time perhaps you bias allow you pick only the part that fits your "truth" -- so much for a truth teller. There is no need of mine that my parents have never met. Not everyone is suffering in this life .

Besides, what is my ideology? How do you know what my dad thought of my mum? You are yet to tell me General White Knight.

Don't mind them jare

Martinez39:
I am not an orphan. My mum is still alive. My father was a very rich man. The hard time came when all the cars he wanted to sell weren't allowed to cross the border and his businesses collapsed. That was back then. I am sure you didn't read where I wrote that he got back on his feet big time perhaps you bias allow you pick only the part that fits your "truth" -- so much for a truth teller. There is no need of mine that my parents have never met. Not everyone is suffering in this life .

Besides, what is my ideology? How do you know what my dad thought of my mum? You are yet to tell me General White Knight.

You are an orphan, you are running on a victim mentality and you transfer your frustration on people who have not insulted you. If you do not change, you will fail in life.

I see no reason you go around insulting people who do not insult you. I wish your Dad was alive to train you well, cos you are now a snowflake who has wrong opinions and understanding of Life.

I am not one of the persons you can insult, cos you may never get to my level in life until and except you become humble, and learn not to engage your emotion. It clouds your judgment and makes you look silly.

Be guided.

Martinez39:
Dyt, it is not written anywhere for both genders to take on any role. Any gender can take on any role they want as long as both are happy with it and have agreed on it. I am an unapologetic disciple of the equility of both genders. No gender is superior to the other. If the woman wants to take on the responsibility of the bread winner and the man is happy with it, there is no problem but let her not insult and embarrass her husband in fact none of them must insult the other for any shortcomings of the other. Am I clear.

Cc. Daeylar (before you say there is a lot of misogyny on this thread)

Lol, my reasons for saying there is a lot of misogyny are clearly stated in the post.

I will even modify and add more.

In addition to what you said, if the husband is the breadwinner let him not insult and embarrass his wife.


I agree with your post. I think along the same lines.

Capensis:


You are an orphan, you are running on a victim mentality and you transfer your frustration on people who have no insulted you. If you do not change, you will fail in life.

I see no reason you go around insulting people who do not insult you. I wish your Dad was alive to train you well, cos you are now a snowflake who has wrong opinions and understanding of Life.

I am not one of the persons you can insult, cos you may never get to my level in life until and except you become humble, and learn not to engage your emotion. It clouds your judgment and makes you look silly.

Be guided.

Lol. If I have insulted you, pardon my manners. I tend to get aggressive into the face of irrationality. I am very far from the personality you are attributing to me. Truth is, the things you are typing do not make any sense as they are complete ridiculous garbages. I hope I don't get to your level in life and my mum is still alive and kicking. Even though my dad is dead, I did my own growing up with my own common sense and that of my mother. If you have sense, you don't need a father before you become a man. Besides, you need to be humble and start thinking.

You haven't told me my ideology and what my father thought of my mum. Mr. Mind reader.

Daeylar:


Lol, my reasons for saying there is a lot of misogyny are clearly stated in the post.

I will even modify and add more.

In addition to what you said, if the husband is the breadwinner let him not insult and embarrass his wife.


I agree with your post. I think along the same lines.

@bold
I am fully in support of that.

Capensis:


Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to day, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving your pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

You think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

Is that how you do with your own wife?

Capensis:


Thank you DrTee1,

Marriage is a real job. I mean it as it sounds. A real career, the longest carrier we might ever have. Even after retirement, we are in this marriage career if we ever want to be happy.

Just as in any career, it requires specialized skill-sets designed for professionalism and mastering.

We must identify the fault systems because there is always a fault system in any system processes. We must accept that things will naturally go bad, and MUST go bad except we identify the fault systems and engineer processes to fix them and do actually troubleshoot for prospective fault systems and ensure we protect the system with serious firewalls and ensure that it dont go bad.

Marriages are going bad, because partners have introduce ego into the equation. Husband is a husbandry job. We must understand that we are shepherds, and must follow even the last calf into the ditch and bring it out. That is how to be the best master - a wise Master.

How we do one thing, is how we do everything. Because the Universe is an interconnected computing system. If this man was a good husband at home, there is no way he would have lost his job. It is the same strategy that he applied at home that he applied at work. And it is called being a snowflake.

HUmans of Nigeria should erase the erroneous impression that they deserve something. The fact that you married the woman does not mean you deserve the pusssy. That is what our tradition informed us, but it was never true, it is just that they had control over women and were enslaving our grandmothers. I personally hate slavery, so even my house-helps are treated with utmost respect. So, I ensure that my home systems are managed.

Money itself is the root of happiness, but it does buy somethings that you make you happy, yet there is a way to make a woman very happy even without money, and that has a lot to do with mind control using legitimate tools.

Learn to dominate your women with excellent strategic romances, sex, chores, lies, truth, science and even fiction.

Ensure that you win. If not, men like me will take your wives and there is nothing you can fucccking do. Trust me, when I say that.

Thank you, Sir.

Kindly permit me to make a few clarifications.

I think that your comments above, which I captioned as some strategic role-playing in a bad marriage are best only for a bad marriage and only for a short period. Indeed, they aren't sustainable on a long term basis. No man can pretend for too long. No human being, especially in marriage, can pretend for too long. Pretence and such deceitful existence are only possible in flings or short-term relationships. In that case, playboys and playgirls would excel.

Also, I personally think that deceit, lies and such falsehood, while they may be fanciful and attractive, are usually unsustainable. To cover one lie, a man or woman needs another 7 lies and on and on. All structures built on foundations of deceit and slothfulness are but friable and cannot genuinely stand the test of time. the test of time in this OP's case is about 5 - 8 years of marriage, that's inferring or assuming that his last child is 2-3 years and he had been coping fairly nicely in marriage until then. so when you say that you could/would take all the women/wives of men who do not follow certain life rules that you have posited, I think you may indeed achieve all that - but for a short period of time.


Eventually, the hen would come to roost and you would find all your strategy, where it involves fiction, lies, deceit and make-belief, to be castles built on sand. The scales would fall off the eyes of the woman eventually and she would either port or begin to misbehave - or the man would dump her before the scales finally fall - thus completing a circle and bringing everything back to square 1.

In essence, I think that while I appreciate all that you wrote in your initial comment which I quoted, I think they are are possibly short term measures for anyone who has lost his job and found himself in a loveless marriage. It wouldn't work for, say Femi Otedola or Akinwunmi Ambode, for example. Where would you expect a successful business tycoon who has a very dutiful and supportive wife to expect her husband to massage her at home on a 300k massage table every day? Or to have sex and tell sweet eyeball-to-eyeball stories thereafter on daily basis?

So in essence, I encourage everyone to be honest and live by upright moral values (at all times) to himself or herself. Deceit/fiction/falsehood might 'win' for a short period, but at the end, 'na' always "God (go) win." Yoruba people say " Ti iro ba sa lo fun ogun odun, ojo kan soso looto yoo ba." When literally translated, that means "Even if falsehood reigns for 20 years, it would take only a day for the lie to be busted and the truth would be revealed."

Like attracts like. For singles out there, if you are good and conduct yourself in a responsible and morally upright manner in your doings, you are unlikely to marry a wolf-like character - except you didn't do your due diligence in dating, or you allowed fanciful things or some blind/illogical spirituality or some inordinate counsel make lifetime decisions of marriage for you. Let each man or woman use his or her brain. Marriage is some real deal and each person would be in it[b] alone[/b] with his/her spouse.

Anything false/untrue/ingenuine/counterfeit, whether in character or action, would never stand the test of time - and it is always important that people planning to go into successful marriages know this. Don't ever go out of your way to impress a lady/man. Be yourself. For every woman, there is a man - and vice-versa. Who sang that song? Adekunle Gold "There is a woman for every man..."

P.S:

For the good lady who picked out only one line of the several lines I wrote to label misogyny, I leave that to posterity to judge. If anything at all, I fully believe in gender equality and affirm that men and women, husband as well as wives, are EXACTLY equal before the law - and the homefront and the general society should be run with that knowledge at the back of everyone's minds. As many rights and privileges as a woman has directly or indirectly, a man should be allowed to enjoy - and women with mental and/or operational capacity should never be denied any placement/opportunity solely on the basis of their distinct gender - and vice-versa.

ogawisdom:
The lady is even feeding your jobless ass and u are here ranting like a mad dog.

A jobless man will be disrespected by even an angelic wife.

You failed in your responsibility of providing for your family, A man must always be able to pay
1. Rent
2. School fees
3. Feed the family

Hey,you really got me wrong.I still run the house because I have a business,just that we had to readjust due to the economic trends.
My kids still attend the same school.I only owe part of the fees which is nothing compared to what I've paid.

I don't think owing about 50k out of about 250k is a big deal.I always transfer the money to her so she could pay to the school,but she decided to embarrass me by letting the school call me.

She has never paid my kids school fees or taken over my responsibilities as the father.Been broke really has levels my brother.

The worse of it all is that ,between December and now,I've spent close to a million both for rent and the family. I even have an on going building project gulping money.Where did I go wrong?

Mr. Man, from your topic alone, it's obvious you have low self esteem. You need help... I pray you find the help you need.

DrTee1

You can quote me I don't bite.

I'm still modifying my post. Will add more examples as I see and will add the monikers of everyone who made those posts.

However you did say men are marrying semi professional harlots,

Unless the men marrying them are virgins. Then these men are also semi professional harlots.

Trying to shame women while acting like men are angels that fell from the sky is what I refer to as misogyny

DrTee1:


Thank you, Sir.

Kindly permit me to make a few clarifications.

I think that your comments above, which I captioned as some strategic role-playing in a bad marriage are best only for a bad marriage and only for a short period. Indeed, they aren't sustainable on a long term basis. No man can pretend for too long. No human being, especially in marriage, can pretend for too long. Pretence and such deceitful existence are only possible in flings or short-term relationships. In that case, playboys and playgirls would excel.

Also, I personally think that deceit, lies and such falsehood, while they may be fanciful and attractive, are usually unsustainable. To cover one lie, a man or woman needs another 7 lies and on and on. All structures built on foundations of deceit and slothfulness are but friable and cannot genuinely stand the test of time. the test of time in this OP's case is about 5 - 8 years of marriage, that's inferring or assuming that his last child is 2-3 years and he had been coping fairly nicely in marriage until then. so when you say that you could/would take all the women/wives of men who do not follow certain life rules that you have posited, I think you may indeed achieve all that - but for a short period of time.


Eventually, the hen would come to roost and you would find all your strategy, where it involves fiction, lies, deceit and make-belief, to be castles built on sand. The scales would fall off the eyes of the woman eventually and she would either port or begin to misbehave - or the man would dump her before the scales finally fall - thus completing a circle and bringing everything back to square 1.

In essence, I think that while I appreciate all that you wrote in your initial comment which I quoted, I think they are are possibly short term measures for anyone who has lost his job and found himself in a loveless marriage. It wouldn't work for, say Femi Otedola or Akinwunmi Ambode, for example. Where would you expect a successful business tycoon who has a very dutiful and supportive wife to expect her husband to massage her at home on a 300k massage table every day? Or to have sex and tell sweet eyeball-to-eyeball stories thereafter on daily basis?

So in essence, I encourage everyone to be honest and live by upright moral values (at all times) to himself or herself. Deceit/fiction/falsehood might 'win' for a short period, but at the end, 'na' always "God (go) win." Yoruba people say " Ti iro ba sa lo fun ogun odun, ojo kan soso looto yoo ba." When literally translated, that means "Even if falsehood reigns for 20 years, it would take only a day for the lie to be busted and the truth would be revealed."

Like attracts like. For singles out there, if you are good and conduct yourself in a responsible and morally upright manner in your doings, you are unlikely to marry a wolf-like character - except you didn't do your due diligence in dating, or you allowed fanciful things or some blind/illogical spirituality or some inordinate counsel make lifetime decisions of marriage for you. Let each man or woman use his or her brain. Marriage is some real deal and each person would be in it[b] alone[/b] with his/her spouse.

Anything false/untrue/ingenuine/counterfeit, whether in character or action, would never stand the test of time - and it is always important that people planning to go into successful marriages know this. Don't ever go out of your way to impress a lady/man. Be yourself. For every woman, there is a man - and vice-versa. Who sang that song? Adekunle Gold "There is a woman for every man..."

P.S:

For the good lady who picked out only one line of the several lines I wrote to label misogyny, I leave that to posterity to judge. If anything at all, I fully believe in gender equality and affirm that men and women, husband as well as wives, are EXACTLY equal before the law - and the homefront and the general society should be run with that knowledge at the back of everyone's minds. As many rights and privileges as a woman has directly or indirectly, a man should be allowed to enjoy - and women with mental and/or operational capacity should never be denied any placement/opportunity solely on the basis of their distinct gender - and vice-versa.

The expectation that there are people that are naturally good forever is the illusion that we live in. It is expected that you will find perfect fit that you will be with, for better or for worse. That is not true. You must engineer your environment and relationships to fall in line with how you want your home to be. The music, the ambiens, the arrangement of furnitures everything. I know these to be true and it is what makes a man successful cos how you do one thing is how you do everything.

You must understand that epigenetically, your role-playing and acting will at the long run become an active character for anyone who is ready to alter his lifestyle to establish the fantasies as reality. So in essence, my recommendations work perfectly in the Otedolas, Adenugas and Dangotes world, because time is planned at sigma level. Besides, no one has more time than billionaires who have structured calenders to accommodate everything.

It might interest you to note that these gentlemen you mentioned do much more than what I explained, and it is the secret to success. Nothing as great as peace at home. When it comes to the massage thing, it is a mandatory part of every billionaire's life. They give massages, they get massages and have an in-house spa with attendant of they desire, but I am saying massage is a daily part of a functional home and I am saying that because I am 100% sure. Take a peek into the life of Tony Elumelu and the rest of the high-flyers that you know, and you will see signatures of what I am telling you here. I do not say this as fantasy but because I know it to be true among the upper-class.

I personally have a home spa/sauna and full massage bar with massage attendant and I ensure there is music daily, that home is run like a heaven. I know these things cos I belong to that level that most people will want to be.

Yet sometimes I go into that kitchen and be man enough to show that I care. It is how to create heaven on Earth. Give your wife tea on bed. I do, I have given my wife tea on bed this morning and ensure that 8hrs music is streaming on the devices before i leave home.

You guys should be ready to put in the work. This world is not a place to joke around. Make your responsibility your routine.

Daeylar:
DrTee1

You can quote me I don't bite.

I'm still modifying my post. Will add more examples as I see and will add the monikers of everyone who made those posts.

However you did say men are marrying semi professional harlots,

Unless the men marrying them are virgins. Then these men are also semi professional harlots.

Trying to shame women while acting like men are angels that fell from the sky is what I refer to as misogyny

I hope you don't consider it misogyny that I didn't quote you.

I couldn't picture and spell your moniker at the instant I was typing that.

Yo are right however. Men have their own share of the immorality before marriage blame and I made no attempt to deny that in my comments.

It was quite general, for both genders.

Cheers dear.

OmoAlata1:
You sound like those husbands that will emotionally drained their wives. I know your type very well. You can fool others with your poor me victim card post but not me.

ur name fits d way u think wayward fellow

That is why, I don't want to get married and even if I get a job, I am not going to marry anybody, I am keeping my money to myself and I am not sharing it with any woman.

I tend to live my life and enjoy it the way I want and no woman and a bunch of kids is going to stop me from doing so.

God has already made it clear to me that i am never going to be rich, well I don't mind because I am damn well going to live and enjoy and live my life with the little money I have. Afterall I'm a simple kind of guy, who does not need excess money to live and enjoy life.

Capensis:


The expectation that there are people that are naturally good forever is the illusion that we live in. It is expected that you will find perfect fit that you will be with, for better or for worse. That is not true. You must engineer your environment and relationships to fall in line with how you want your home to be. The music, the ambiens, the arrangement of furnitures everything. I know these to be true and it is what makes a man successful cos how you do one thing is how you do everything.

You must understand that epigenetically, your role-playing and acting will at the long run become an active character for anyone who is ready to alter his lifestyle to establish the fantasies as reality. So in essence, my recommendations work perfectly in the Otedolas, Adenugas and Dangotes world, because time is planned at sigma level. Besides, no one has more time than billions who have structured calenders to accommodate everything.

It might interest you to note that these gentlemen you mentioned do much more than what I explained, and it is the secret to success. Nothing as great as peace at home. When it comes to the massage thing, it is a mandatory part of every billionaire's life. They give massages, they get massages and have an in-house spa with attendant of they desire, but I am saying massage is a daily part of a functional home and I am saying that because I am 100% sure. Take a peek into the life of Tony Elumelu and the rest of the high-flyers that you know, and you will signatures of what I am telling you here. I do not say this as fantasy but because I know it to be true among the upper-class.

OK. I've learnt one new thing today: . A massage room is a necessity in my project.

By the way, Mrs loves a massage - and I suck at it so badly, not because I'm not medically inclined to understand it, but because we are both tired after the day's work and night bath for me to resume that responsibility before finally sleeping! I guess she'll say a quick prayer for you if she ever gets to see this - the man who convinced Baba to consider massaging a priority.

That said, there are good people in this world. People who are responsibly oriented in thoughts and actions at all times. There are people who are Christians and Muslims (I live by the Christian Faith by the way) or even traditional religious people - who live morally upright lives. Yes. It may be rare, but I've seen it. I also try to live the life.

In the western world, it is more common than it is in Black Africa. Ironically, there is less focus on religiosity in the developed world as it is in the significantly-corrupt Black Africa.

DrTee1:




I hope you don't consider it misogyny that I didn't quote you.

Nah I consider that sexism just kidding

I couldn't picture and spell your moniker at the instant I was typing that.

Lool, it's all right.

Yo are right however. Men have their own share of the immorality before marriage blame and I made no attempt to deny that in my comments.

It was quite general, for both genders.

Cheers dear.

But you didn't state that.

It was general, why did you now see the need to state that men are marrying semi professional harlots? Especially since you recognise that male semi professional harlots are marrying female semi professional harlots?

Cheers

Oga sincerely, nothing wrong with you washing your hands and taking your plate to the kitchen after eating. You are a full grown adult and not a kid. She already has 3 children she is taking care of. You should try your best to help out around the house, especially when you are not working to show gratitude for the stress she may be goin through to provide. Your ego is hurt because you are out of a job and you are now reading meaning into everything. Please grow up and act like a full grown man. If you think the environment is too toxic then you are free to leave.

Most people are really getting me wrong here.I lost my job but I still have a multi million naira business which I still run,though it hasn't started yielding much.

I still run the home and pay all the bills and rent.I've never asked her for money let alone try to know how much she's been paid.

I go to market whenever I can for her and also get involved in domestic chores at my own will.I shoulder my responsibilities very well.

My wife doesn't like correction or advice. She gets irritated at any slightest provocation,slams the door at me.She looks down on me all the time and will never accept that she's wrong.

We can't stay together for a week without having an issue. I only try as much as possible to create my own happiness.

mhd5757:
That is why, I don't want to get married and even if I get a job, I am not going to marry anybody, I am keeping my money to myself and I am not sharing it with any woman.

I tend to live my life and enjoy it the way I want and no woman and a bunch of kids is going to stop me from doing so.

God has already made it clear to me that i am never going to be rich, well I don't mind because I am damn well going to live and enjoy and live my life with the little money I have. Afterall I'm a simple kind of guy, who does not need excess money to live and enjoy life.

What da heck

How did God make it clear to you? Exactly


Whatever may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that one cannot live a truly fulfilling life unless one is rich -- Wallace Wattles.

Capensis:


Thank you DrTee1,

Marriage is a real job. I mean it as it sounds. A real career, the longest carrier we might ever have. Even after retirement, we are in this marriage career if we ever want to be happy.

Just as in any career, it requires specialized skill-sets designed for professionalism and mastering.

We must identify the fault systems because there is always a fault system in any system processes. We must accept that things will naturally go bad, and MUST go bad except we identify the fault systems and engineer processes to fix them and do actually troubleshoot for prospective fault systems and ensure we protect the system with serious firewalls and ensure that it dont go bad.

Marriages are going bad, because partners have introduce ego into the equation. Husband is a husbandry job. We must understand that we are shepherds, and must follow even the last calf into the ditch and bring it out. That is how to be the best master - a wise Master.

How we do one thing, is how we do everything. Because the Universe is an interconnected computing system. If this man was a good husband at home, there is no way he would have lost his job. It is the same strategy that he applied at home that he applied at work. And it is called being a snowflake.

HUmans of Nigeria should erase the erroneous impression that they deserve something. The fact that you married the woman does not mean you deserve the pusssy. That is what our tradition informed us, but it was never true, it is just that they had control over women and were enslaving our grandmothers. I personally hate slavery, so even my house-helps are treated with utmost respect. So, I ensure that my home systems are managed.

Money itself is the root of happiness, but it does buy somethings that you make you happy, yet there is a way to make a woman very happy even without money, and that has a lot to do with mind control using legitimate tools.

Learn to dominate your women with excellent strategic romances, sex, chores, lies, truth, science and even fiction.

Ensure that you win. If not, men like me will take your wives and there is nothing you can fucccking do. Trust me, when I say that.

Oh my God ..I love this man already. So there are men like this on nairaland.