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WhoBeThisMan:
hmm who do you Iike this? I can sense the pain in your writing. Take it easy. Ts not a men and women war. This is just common sense. I'm sure you are not married.

Pls by all means bring them into your home. Them bum shot sisters and friend. I'm sure jt will be fun

Na useless good for nothing man in my past, do me like this !
And its good , its an eye opener! And it made me strong to face anything in marriage and relationship.

My married female friend who's been married for the past three years, invites us her friends and sister to her home . The husband sef no get our time . he has NOT! wooed or bleeped any one of us . And up till yesterday , she was even pressurizing me to come visit again. If not for work schedules between all of us, we will always be hanging out together .

She no dey fear , she has open mind and we so much appreciate it . None of us take her friendship for granted . there is no dull moment with her .
That's how life and friendship suppose be .
And she's a younger and more robust version of me . She is confident in her looks, her wifely duties and her husband .

No be lady marry and she starts isolating everyone , even isolate sisters join as if the man she's married to is a God , that's not meant to be disturbed . Now men are saying , she should isolate her self from any female family member or female friends cos they can fucvk any living creature who has a hole in between her legs. Chai!

My man knows me , he dares not pull such selfish stunt on me !

I wil invite my friends home when I need to . Cause I know the kind of women I roll it . they are not back stabbers! Neither is my man a dog!

He doesn't fucvk anything fucvkable.

victorian:
What of the he goat husband that can't control his dicck!

So wife cannot allow her sister stay with her again?
She should cut off her sister ,abi? Because she has one he goat for house ?
I pity women who alienate their female blood whom they are close to, because of husband .

Women should ask themselves , do their husbands stop their younger brothers from visiting them or even staying over , when they are married ?

They don't , because the husband knows his blood brother will not betray him , even if some do betray but not in all cases . You can't cause bad blood between yourself and siblings cos u are married . Its wrong !

Watch and know whom you wish to marry and make the right choice !

If I have a sister and we are very close , I will not alienate her from my home ços am married . Except I'm not close to my sis but if we are so close , she can visit and stay over.

Aside the temptation aspect, it is always better for family members to stay in their houses and not live with a couple to avoid any issues and even to allow the couple bond without any other party.

Your sister not living with you doesn't mean alienation. And if you allow your close sister come and live with you, you should be able to accommodate your husband's brother too.

ImaIma1:
Aside the temptation aspect, it is always better for family members to stay in their houses and not live with a couple to avoid any issues and even to allow the couple bond without any other party.

Your sister not living with you doesn't mean alienation. And if you allow your close sister come and live with you, you should be able to accommodate your husband's brother too.

I don't mind my husband brother coming to live with us for a while . it's not like my sister will live with us forever . She has her own life to live , maybe she's spending time with us, possibly if school is on strike . Or she's staying with us awaiting a new job . She won't live with us forever , one day she will marry and move on.

Likewise my husband's brother , one day he will move on and pave way for his own life . I don't see anything wrong in it , as long as he's submissive and wise . What's there ? Fingers are not equal and circumstances of life can change at any time .

If my husband cannot be there for his own brother when he needs where to stay because of me ? Then that's very bad . I won't support such! His brother can come and live with us for a period of time , because he has his own plans too .

No be lie, this is really a temptation but you can overcome it sha

victorian:
I don't mind my husband brother coming to live with us for a while . it's not like my sister will live with us forever . She has her own life to live , maybe she's spending time with us, possibly if school is on strike . Or she's staying with us awaiting a new job . She won't live with us forever , one day she will marry and move on.

Likewise my husband's brother , one day he will move on and pave way for his own life . I don't see anything wrong in it , as long as he's submissive and wise . What's there ? Fingers are not equal and circumstances of life can change at any time .

If my husband cannot be there for his own brother when he needs where to stay because of me ? Then that's very bad . I won't support such! His brother can come and live with us for a period of time , because he has his own plans too .

Well, families are different. I have three older sisters. Before I got married, I could hardly stay in their houses for two days without wanting to be home in my own zone. I think it was the way we were brought up. My mum would say she couldn't sleep in her inlaw's house when she had her own house.

Everyone believes that once you are married, you should be given space. What if I didn't get married and get a place, won't they have a place to stay?. My husband feels the same way especially because it would mean he has to start wearing clothes around the house even when he doesn't want to.

We have not had people live with us except during omugwo. As I said, families are different

The problem is the natural instinct of the male. Any mature female staying in his house, eating his food etc. Starts to look like fair game. Wife should be conscious of this and be advised....

victorian:
What of the he goat husband that can't control his dicck!

So wife cannot allow her sister stay with her again?
She should cut off her sister ,abi? Because she has one he goat for house ?
I pity women who alienate their female blood whom they are close to, because of husband .

Women should ask themselves , do their husbands stop their younger brothers from visiting them or even staying over , when they are married ?

They don't , because the husband knows his blood brother will not betray him , even if some do betray but not in all cases . You can't cause bad blood between yourself and siblings cos u are married . Its wrong !

Watch and know whom you wish to marry and make the right choice !

If I have a sister and we are very close , I will not alienate her from my home ços am married . Except I'm not close to my sis but if we are so close , she can visit and stay over.

Hey bitch, go do your ground work well, wives also f-ck their husband's brothers and/or friend. Spilling and displaying raw ignorance all the time will eventually kill you

MannieA:
I personally wouldn't allow any family member stay very long in my matrimonial home when I just got married. Unless they have accommodation problem or any other problem and they need help. They can visit but not for long,it doesn't mean that there should be bad blood and alienating of any family member. I just simply want to enjoy my marriage and I need space.

The woman isn't doing anything bad if she wants to save her marriage. I'm pretty sure her sister has a house or stays with her parents. That's why communication and polite ways of addressing a situation matters a lot.

The man lacks self-control and the younger sister is too dumb to realize she needs to dress modestly.

the girl is not dumb it's all part of a well planned seduction strategy, believe me if I tell u that the girl will be devoting 90% of her time thinking about sex and relationship,it's a well planned trap the girl has already known that the man is eyeing her,so she switched to bum shorts,if she didn't get any response she will up the game by switching to transparent gown then the op,s hormones will reach boiling point,I have been married for 19 yrs now I have had my own fair share of inlaw drama, truth be said I have fallen into the traps of some of my More seductive in-laws and I came out with a lesson,if u don't want any surprises pls don't live with a girl like that,she will wake up one morning fully aroused with desire and you and your small kids are not safe.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Kick against her staying if u can't control yourself... . That was how one stupid woman I know will leave her home to go for early morning fellowship, leaving her husband and fine fair sister. I caught the fools redhanded but pretended as if I never saw anything.

Na Dem sabi Sha.

wetin you dey find? Na face me i slap you... you dey live

femi4:
wetin you dey find? Na face me i slap you... you dey live

Actually a duplex. I guess they thought I had gone out to work as is normal for me, I innocently went upstairs to get iron o and voila! Was quite funny though seeing them all guilty

okoroemeka:
the girl is not dumb it's all part of a well planned seduction strategy, believe me if I tell u that the girl will be devoting 90% of her time thinking about sex and relationship,it's a well planned trap the girl has already known that the man is eyeing her,so she switched to bum shorts,if she didn't get any response she will up the game by switching to transparent gown then the op,s hormones will reach boiling point,I have been married for 19 yrs now I have had my own fair share of inlaw drama, truth be said I have fallen into the traps of some of my More seductive in-laws and I came out with a lesson,if u don't want any surprises pls don't live with a girl like that,she will wake up one morning fully aroused with desire and you and your small kids are not safe.

Seduction power in women, like power generally, is something they love to push to see how far they can influence a man they notice is getting weak to it.

victorian:
What of the he goat husband that can't control his dicck!

So wife cannot allow her sister stay with her again?
She should cut off her sister ,abi? Because she has one he goat for house ?
I pity women who alienate their female blood whom they are close to, because of husband .

Women should ask themselves , do their husbands stop their younger brothers from visiting them or even staying over , when they are married ?

They don't , because the husband knows his blood brother will not betray him , even if some do betray but not in all cases . You can't cause bad blood between yourself and siblings cos u are married . Its wrong !

Watch and know whom you wish to marry and make the right choice !

If I have a sister and we are very close , I will not alienate her from my home ços am married . Except I'm not close to my sis but if we are so close , she can visit and stay over.

Power of dick, like any power, is hard to control. Instead of insulting men for it help the man be eliminating/reducing temptation. It is not as easy as you think since you dont have it. And a good man once told me; Onye na eri eri ga ona agu.

victorian:
Na useless good for nothing man in my past, do me like this !
And its good , its an eye opener! And it made me strong to face anything in marriage and relationship.

My married female friend who's been married for the past three years, invites us her friends and sister to her home .
The husband sef no get our time . he has NOT! wooed or bleeped any one of us . And up till yesterday , she was even pressurizing me to come visit again. If not for work schedules between all of us, we will always be hanging out together .

She no dey fear , she has open mind and we so much appreciate it . None of us take her friendship for granted . there is no dull moment with her .
That's how life and friendship suppose be .
And she's a younger and more robust version of me . She is confident in her looks, her wifely duties and her husband .

No be lady marry and she starts isolating everyone , even isolate sisters join as if the man she's married to is a God , that's not meant to be disturbed . Now men are saying , she should isolate her self from any female family member or female friends cos they can fucvk any living creature who has a hole in between her legs. Chai!

My man knows me , he dares not pull such selfish stunt on me !

I wil invite my friends home when I need to . Cause I know the kind of women I roll it . they are not back stabbers! Neither is my man a dog!

He doesn't fucvk anything fucvkable.

Depends on the trigger you pose to your husbands friend and the trigger your friend pose to your husband.
As in, fancy level. Some men are more easily triggered than others just like some women depending on there sexual spec. Maybe you don't meet their husbands spec and same for them to your husband.
Even if trigger is there, you think they will tell you?
Stop bragging and play safe. Or do you think many whom the cross-knacking happened to/against all saw it coming?
So you expect him to say be like Vicy, "i really want to knack this your friend. yes the dark one with sexy laps"
Madam, you wont even catch him staring if he is "bad enough" taking a glance everything on lowket and discrete then left for za oza room.
Again less brag and safety first it never hurts!

na wa o

EncourageMe:
Hello good guests on Nairaland forum, I hid my identity by opening this account to receive some encouragement from you, I actually know is a big sin to do it with her... To be brief, I newly got married to my wife, just 3years old marriage, now her younger beautiful sister came to visit us during 2018 Christmas, I have recently discovered my wife is trying to make her to be fully staying with us... Mean while i cannot trust my self when it comes to sex urge sometimes, I do not know if i can be responsible enough to remove my eye from her in the nearest future, the way she usually wear bun-shots and sexily attractive do not help matter as well. What do i do please?

Tell your wife about it

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Actually a duplex. I guess they thought I had gone out to work as is normal for me, I innocently went upstairs to get iron o and voila! Was quite funny though seeing them all guilty

lefulefu:
all those women wey dey carry church for head na dem dey use their own hand spoil dhier marriage

Is it that they spoil their marriage or people betray their trust?

Do you think the op's wife will know that her husband is eyeing her sister?

Now she will leave her sister at home and her husband will start fūcking her.

ImaIma1:
Well, families are different. I have three older sisters. Before I got married, I could hardly stay in their houses for two days without wanting to be home in my own zone. I think it was the way we were brought up. My mum would say she couldn't sleep in her inlaw's house when she had her own house.

Everyone believes that once you are married, you should be given space. What if I didn't get married and get a place, won't they have a place to stay?. My husband feels the same way especially because it would mean he has to start wearing clothes around the house even when he doesn't want to.

We have not had people live with us except during omugwo. As I said, families are different

Ok .

I spoke to my man yesternight about this topic , I just thank God we've bonded well even though we had ups and downs early in the relationship. But guess what he said ? He said Vicky , there is nothing if u want your friends to visit , or sister to stay with us , as long as u can vouch the lady coming is good and properly trained .
Simply do your wifely duties and there will be no issue. And when our flat is spacious ? There is nothing wrong in accommodating ones friend or sibling .
He said , he knows what it means to be stranded without accommodation , way back and he won't forget such experience.

Then he said :I pray I won't get to let you down cos from the first day we met, I knew u were the one I would love to spend the rest of my life with .
And knowing the kind of anger and hotness u can display at times if I fucvk up, why would u think , I would allow my dicck control me ? U ehnnn!!!!! Lol

I know u already! If u catch me, that day will be hell for me ! So why would I want to ruin what we have going for us . Just be sure of your friend , or sister that's all.

And if they come onto me , I will let you know .

I was so happy last night , even till now .

My dear. Its good to date and settle with someone from your tribe or similar to your tribe . we were speaking pidgin mixed with English all thru.

He knows me , I don't take rubbish and he loves this fiery part of me .

Lol! Sighs thank God I have a docile man . His mum tried well in training him to be well behaved . God bless his mum. Honestly she try.


Not all these wolves online , who call themselves alpha male and be doing anyhow in their homes .


Abeg I thank God !

bobobooge:
Hehehe. You see? You can't answer right? Do you regret visiting him?

Na so e dey be.

I was on my labe jeje when you came to my thread to yab me now you are shocked at my come-back

Anyways I will edit my post and remove it.

Have a blessed day.

Regret what? I don't want to reply you cos I'm not interested in whatever you are saying. Nairalanders are everyday people you meet on the street and yes some nlders do come to my house. Apostle is a responsible young man doing well in his own field. I do render the little help I can to few that need my help. I visit the family of a nairalander that died, i contact them once in a while. No kill yoursellf for oyin matter. If you like post it on frontpage na your headache not mine. Those that know me will laugh at your post. You think you're shaming me cos I meet everyday people.

If I post on your thread na cos you create topic and I no even take note of your moniker and you take am personal to come shame me. Dear I no attack you cos I no even know a moniker like your own dey exist here.
Make I go check the topic my talk talk no go kill me

princfred:
Power of dick, like any power, is hard to control. Instead of insulting men for it help the man be eliminating/reducing temptation. It is not as easy as you think since you dont have it. And a good man once told me; Onye na eri eri ga ona agu.

My dear , I just thank God for the man I have . He understands me well and wouldn't want to experience or even see what will happen he fucvks up with his dicck and I get to know .

So let's leave it like that . I just thank God .

He's docile one and im the hot headed one ( but with sense).

Thank God

vibbb:
Oga, since you cant trust your self with seen bum bum in bum shot.

Fight the battle now by kicking against her stay.

Good luck.

This one is not bad, @Encourageme

fox26:
The younger sisters has bigger burkinafaso than her married sister, so it will not help.

so u saying his wife has ass like a drawing board?. How u take know? Op no yarn dat one nau. Anyway always wise marrying ur spec cos if u end marrying a woman u not attracted to u will just spend d rest of ur marriage life lusting after other women. Dats why i dey always laugh at those men wey dey decieve themselves saying they only interested in d inner beauty. Maybe op belong to dat group of men. Now see wahala.

Of course she can visit.... We talking abt ur sis living it us... That even wrong.... because someone marry u does nt mean all ur family must live here... They can only come n go....

victorian:
What of the he goat husband that can't control his dicck!

So wife cannot allow her sister stay with her again?
She should cut off her sister ,abi? Because she has one he goat for house ?
I pity women who alienate their female blood whom they are close to, because of husband .

Women should ask themselves , do their husbands stop their younger brothers from visiting them or even staying over , when they are married ?

They don't , because the husband knows his blood brother will not betray him , even if some do betray but not in all cases . You can't cause bad blood between yourself and siblings cos u are married . Its wrong !

Watch and know whom you wish to marry and make the right choice !

If I have a sister and we are very close , I will not alienate her from my home ços am married . Except I'm not close to my sis but if we are so close , she can visit and stay over.

BoboKush:
Of course she can visit.... We talking abt ur sis living it us... That even wrong.... because someone marry u does nt mean all ur family must live here... They can only come n go....

Anyways I'm the last born and only girl . All my senior ones are married with geown up children and grand children . Likewise my man, he's the last born too and all his senior ones are married with kids ,

but if I have the opportunity of having a younger sister . she can stay with me and my husband , if its very necessary, I won't tell her no space , when we are virtually the only one living in a two or three bedroom flat. Thats what I meant .

victorian:
Ok .

I spoke to my man yesternight about this topic , I just thank God we've bonded well even though we had ups and downs early in the relationship. But guess what he said ? He said Vicky , there is nothing if u want your friends to visit , or sister to stay with us , as long as u can vouch the lady coming is good and properly trained .
Simply do your wifely duties and there will be no issue. And when our flat is spacious ? There is nothing wrong in accommodating ones friend or sibling .
He said , he knows what it means to be stranded without accommodation , way back and he won't forget such experience.

Then he said :I pray I won't get to let you down cos from the first day we met, I knew u were the one I would love to spend the rest of my life with .
And knowing the kind of anger and hotness u can display at times if I fucvk up, why would u think , I would allow my dicck control me ? U ehnnn!!!!! Lol

I know u already! If u catch me, that day will be hell for me ! So why would I want to ruin what we have going for us . Just be sure of your friend , or sister that's all.

And if they come onto me , I will let you know .

I was so happy last night , even till now .

My dear. Its good to date and settle with someone from your tribe or similar to your tribe . we were speaking pidgin mixed with English all thru.

He knows me , I don't take rubbish and he loves this fiery part of me .

Lol! Sighs thank God I have a docile man . His mum tried well in training him to be well behaved . God bless his mum. Honestly she try.


Not all these wolves online , who call themselves alpha male and be doing anyhow in their homes .


Abeg I thank God !

I feel you. That's why I wonder if these guys on Nairaland with their archaic ideas about marriage are actually for real. Many of them have a twisted view of how they should relate to their wives.

Forget that alpha male thing. It is not with clear eye.

My friends visit my house well. In fact my friends are his friends and his are mine. We just both agree that we like our space but it is not like we will chase family away when there is a need.

And I am the last child...no sibling coming to live with me. He is the 1st son but siblings don't need to stay with us. We are the same state. The most important thing is that we do what works for both of us.

nwanneniressure:
baba chop and clean mouth.you no know weda na Bleep your wife dey go Bleep sef for early morning.
And i no sure sef say your wife sef dey give you better Bleep.
Chop d tin baba.if she finds out,make d marriage cast na.wetin b marriage sef?

Come here!

Hmmmmmm... No problem

victorian:
Anyways I'm the last born and only girl . All my senior ones are married with geown up children and grand children . Likewise my man, he's the last born too and all his senior ones are married with kids ,

but if I have the opportunity of having a younger sister . she can stay with me and my husband , if its very necessary, I won't tell her no space , when we are virtually the only one living in a two or three bedroom flat. Thats what I meant .

ImaIma1:
I feel you. That's why I wonder if these guys on Nairaland with their archaic ideas about marriage are actually for real. Many of them have a twisted view of how they should relate to their wives.

Forget that alpha male thing. It is not with clear eye.

My friends visit my house well. In fact my friends are his friends and his are mine. We just both agree that we like our space but it is not like we will chase family away when there is a need.

And I am the last child...no sibling coming to live with me. He is the 1st son but siblings don't need to stay with us. We are the same state. The most important thing is that we do what works for both of us.

Don't mind the guys on Nairaland . they are fierce online but offline , they are as quiet as mouse and soft to their women . Although not all sha .
Me, I can't live with an alpha male anyways . I don't have strength for their unnecessary egos .

I like the bolded , that's how life and living suppose to be , than isolating oneself thinking every woman out there wants to steal her husband so funny !

Upon all their protection on the man at home , the man will still go out there to carry women and even impregnant some sef . Women with such mindset of isolation ,I just laugh at them . lol.

And can u imagine his friends are your friends , your friends are His . that's how life suppose to be . I like how u guys handle your relationship with friends and marriage . its very good . I believe in live and let me live , dont ! stiffle my living with restrictions and isolation . I wouldn't like it one bit .

And it's good u and your husband are from the same state ,there will be more deep rooted trust and understanding.

My dear, I like your family concept is very good . keep it up .

I have a neighbour like your type of family setting . their friends visits and even one or two stay over . Hearing laughter and gists from their flat makes me happy . The house is alive with joy and conversatoons ! The husband does not have issues wit it and they are happy .

I'll advise you to pack from that house and only come in to eat and _shit. Make sure you take your bath in your office and sleep there too.

victorian:
Don't mind the guys on Nairaland . they are fierce online but offline , they are as quiet as mouse and soft to their women . Although not all sha .
Me, I can't live with an alpha male anyways . I don't have strength for their unnecessary egos .

I like the bolded , that's how life and living suppose to be , than isolating oneself thinking every woman out there wants to steal her husband so funny !

Upon all their protection on the man at home , the man will still go out there to carry women and even impregnant some sef . Women with such mindset of isolation ,I just laugh at them . lol.

And can u imagine his friends are your friends , your friends are His . that's how life suppose to be . I like how u guys handle your relationship with friends and marriage . its very good . I believe in live and let me live , dont ! stiffle my living with restrictions and isolation . I wouldn't like it one bit .

And it's good u and your husband are from the same state ,there will be more deep rooted trust and understanding.

My dear, I like your family concept is very good . keep it up .

I have a neighbour like your type of family setting . their friends visits and even one or two stay over . Hearing laughter and gists from their flat makes me happy . The house is alive with joy and conversatoons ! The husband does not have issues wit it and they are happy .

People have a twisted view of marriage. That is how someone asked me what I am doing on Nairaland as a married woman. Like my life is supposed to stop because I am married.

For me, nothing changed really because I married my pal just like you. Not the ones here that want their wives to call them "lord"

I wish you more love and laughter in your home

ImaIma1:
People have a twisted view of marriage. That is how someone asked me what I am doing on Nairaland as a married woman. Like my life is supposed to stop because I am married.

For me, nothing changed really because I married my pal just like you. Not the ones here that want their wives to call them "lord"

I wish you more love and laughter in your home

Don't mind them!

They feel married women should lock themselves up and avoid talking to anyone or coming online . Thats how Nigerian mindset is. You can see how a lot of women here were saying they wont allow even their blood sister come to their homes ,how much more friend, all their own is just me and my husband , every other person can dissapear into thin air . Then when the tables turn , they will run to family for help ? Abi? I pray the spirit of selfishness in Nigerians must die in Jesus name amen!

Honestly may God reform the mindset of people in this country . its appalling .

And of course nothing really changes in marriage except having legitimate kids and having more regards to inlaws.

Amen to the prayer my dear . I receive joy and laughter a million fold in my home , amen!

Thanks my Sis.

Smiles

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