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Martinez39:
Don't mind Capensis. Seven empires and counting billions? Who dash monkey banana? A failed thinker leading a life of delusion, arrogance, confusion and condescension. I will really like to see him in person to have a good laugh.

chiefqueen:
He knows what I'm talking about. As much as I hate to say this, he's a bit smarter than you...just a little. You chose right

chiefqueen:
Stick to sucking dicks.

TheKingIsHere:
I have so many friends in this similar situation.

Now let me ask you. Does your wife display over 50% these characters;

1. Anger: A perfect tool of the devil

2. Abusive mouth: A mouth that abuses and curses is sharper than a double edged sword

3. Never submissive: Wives are meant to submit to their husbands according to the bible

4. Deceit: She makes everyone around you look like the bad wicked husband. She paints a picture that you are wicked to her or maltreats her, which is not true.

5. Lies: same with deciet

6. Sudden toxic mood swings that leads to unnecessary arguments. For example, you guys were sitting together happy and all of a sudden she just gets angry for no reason, brings up a senseless argument and that happy moment is crushed.

7. No iota of respect: if she is not submissive she can't be respectful

8. Never believes she is wrong

9. Never helps you financially even when you ask for her help.


If she posesses over 50% of these traits, then you are married to a destiny destroyer. A destiny destroyer wife is a woman/wife possessed by a spirit of the devil.

It sounds funny but that's the bitter truth.

Let me ask you.

Since you got married to her, things that were moving well all of a sudden started to take a negative turn right? Financially, maritally, family wise etc?

You only have yourself to blame because you saw the signals and writings on the wall.

I am sure when you were dating, she gave you se,x anytime you asked for it? This is one of the wicked tools these destiny destroyers use to capture their victims.

I have a friend who divorced his destiny destroyer wife recently. Luckily for him, they had no children together. Since then, things are working well for him again.

Another of my friend is still tied because he has children, so it is difficult for him to escape her evil claws.

However, I have given him some advice which is helping him so far.

The first advise is, do not let her know of anything that you intend to do which will boost you financially or career wise. These set of women have an evil spirit or head that hinders the man from moving forward. The more she knows about your potential success, the more she crushes it spiritually or via unnecessary arguments to dampen your spirit

Let me get a response so I can give you other tips that will assist you if you want.

Ishilove:
Funny enough Billy started out well on Nairaland. I don't know what happened to him along the way. Maybe he read the 7 Books of Moses or some _shit like that. I hear that stuff messes with your psyche.

Treasured4eva:
I really need to talk to you privately.

desoul2004:
Another aggressive wife to be spotted

Capensis:
Your Dad was successful in marriage because;

He took full responsibility of being a man, and provided everything his home needed and never ever expected your mum to fill in except when he was broke. That reflects on how much he appreciated the wife when she helped out when he was broke. If your Dad was a weak man, who always complain that his wife should assist him, when he was doing well, your mum would not have stepped in the way she did.

The problem with many men here is that they expect a woman to contribute to the home compulsorily as a partner. Marriage is not a partnership. It is okay to stay single and have baby mamas, but if you actually want to get married, you must understand that you went and buy this woman. Yes, bride price is cost price, you change her name to yours, and that again is the change of title, when you buy land or car, you change the name to yours, that is how you complete the purchase.

Then it is your responsibility to oil the car, fuel it, repair, SO YOU CAN ENJOY DRIVING. Same thing with marriage. I do not like coating words when I am operating on a higher level of understanding.

Trick is: Do not expect the woman to know anything, do anything. Just like the car, prepare to do everything to have a clean ride for a clean drive and if your wife happens to contribute, please act surprise and be surprised. This does not stop you from giving her massages and treating her like a queen.

Like I always conclude, I will always take your girls from you with these strategies, cos I am not just wealthy due to my disciplined strategies, I am also great in engineering women to angels. I know the laws of this universe and how to play it. Expect nothing, work for everything and go all out to win at anything AGAINST ALL ODDS.

Do not ever give up, if the prize is great. But ensure there is a prize.

Aceed:
since marriage is not a partnership…then what is it?

I'm curious as to know your definition of marriage…

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.

I've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

Lots of people are really misquoting me.I only lost a high paying job but still got a very big business which is already yielding income,just that my spending pattern changed.I still run all aspects of mybhome.

My wife's money remains her business and she's not mandated to spend it on me or the family.I truly assist her to the best of my ability in domestic chores and otherwise.

She's a very bad tempered woman that doesn't regard or respect me and that's where the problem lies.My only crime is that I wanted respect from her.

Capensis:
It is the direct responsibility of the man to take care of his home, his wife and children and provide 101% for them and should the wife choose to help, the man should be very excited and be thankful for such assistance.

This sounds very weird and crazy but if you consider the Religious writings in the good books, as well as the traditional rites of marriage you'd understand my view and why it works 100% of the time.

The Christian Bible stated that the Elohim Gods created Eve because of Adam's loneliness. The only reason for creating the Eve lady, first of all, was because Adam was lonely, not really because of Reproduction because we have been designed to reproduce asexually via replications, stem cells etc. So, Eve becomes Adams responsibility to take care of, to behold, to take care of, till death do part them.

Now, let us ponder on that, and take a dive into our Traditional Marriages:
Price is an amount appropriate for an item. We have witness the cost of marriages rising with time, not really because of inflation, but in recent times parents believe that they better they train their daughters, the better or wealthier the husband she could get.

So, Brice Price means cost of Bride. So, If you have to pay a price to get a woman, it is a purchase.
To buttress my point above, there is a change of title if you purchase a house, you change the name to your name. Same with car, we do change of ownership and put our names on what we purchase.

So when you insist that your wife change her name by adding yours to hers, you are doing change of ownership, so it is a purchase.

So therefore, if you had to purchase a woman to be by you and help eliminate loneliness, then you should understand that you have to take care of her 100% and also for your kids since they are on your name.

I know your mind will go to western culture. Yes, western countries are smart. They decide not to take bride price, and liberated women, so women work and share bills at home compulsorily.

If we must stop taking care of our wives 100% and want them to share the bills, we should equally eliminate bride price so our women can share equal rights with us, and if there is divorce we pack from the house and go into the street and start afresh.

We have been mixing this up, that is why Africa is upside down, cos we are hypocrites. We have bad cultures and we embrace western cultures, yet the foundation of the culture is destroying marriages.

I knew this because I study about how to be a great husband, so when I found this since I was a teenager, I worked extra hard knowing I must provide 100% and having that at the back of my mind helps me a lot. So, I do not expect a woman to make any expense at home and my wife has not made any expense, and I pay my bills 1 year ahead if possible and ensure that nothing lacks, if it happens, I have to apologize for that and find a way to manage until I get it.

Makes a man work harder and end up being very rich, and manage resources effectively.

I hope I have helped you out.

Treasured4eva:
Most people are really getting me wrong here.I lost my job but I still have a multi million naira business which I still run,though it hasn't started yielding much.

I still run the home and pay all the bills and rent.I've never asked her for money let alone try to know how much she's been paid.

I go to market whenever I can for her and also get involved in domestic chores at my own will.I shoulder my responsibilities very well.

My wife doesn't like correction or advice. She gets irritated at any slightest provocation,slams the door at me.She looks down on me all the time and will never accept that she's wrong.

We can't stay together for a week without having an issue. I only try as much as possible to create my own happiness.

Hedonisst:
Eeya, sorry.

It's your cross, carry it.

That's why some of us have always been dictators and absolutists with women. It didn't fail us then and it is not failing us now. If one party has to be the submissive, docile 'mumu' in the Union, it has to be the woman. And we compensate her in our own way for being a good girl, for knowing her place. We blow hot and cold and keep ourselves happy, keep them happy, and make the world a happy place for us.

In everything, we keep at the back of our minds that these species are dispensable. Never give them a sense of utmost security and impunity. Even with the children, be ready to leave them all and burn the house down. Mean it. And make sure she knows it, from the beginning. It's not a 'trick' you learn at your old age. It has to be from Day 1. If you mumu from the beginning, then you are destined to be mumu to the end or to die in the process of liberation. No two ways.

When you decide to become a 'good' and 'patient' man who overlooks a lot and puts females on a pedestal, you're guaranteed to have a miserable life.

Nuff said.

Capensis:
Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to do, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving you pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

Do you think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

cococandy:
You can be anything on the internet

Hedonisst:
Exactly. That's why you're 'coco' on the Internet, but loco in real life.

Treasured4eva:
I really need to talk to you privately.

egojeny1:
Hahahaha 'will you pay attention' got me laughing so bàaaad. Having gone through the thread i cannot but deduce that u're such a wonderful guy. Really like ur philosophy.

Capensis:
The expectation that there are people that are naturally good forever is the illusion that we live in. It is expected that you will find perfect fit that you will be with, for better or for worse. That is not true. You must engineer your environment and relationships to fall in line with how you want your home to be. The music, the ambiens, the arrangement of furnitures everything. I know these to be true and it is what makes a man successful cos how you do one thing is how you do everything.

You must understand that epigenetically, your role-playing and acting will at the long run become an active character for anyone who is ready to alter his lifestyle to establish the fantasies as reality. So in essence, my recommendations work perfectly in the Otedolas, Adenugas and Dangotes world, because time is planned at sigma level. Besides, no one has more time than billionaires who have structured calenders to accommodate everything.

It might interest you to note that these gentlemen you mentioned do much more than what I explained, and it is the secret to success. Nothing as great as peace at home. When it comes to the massage thing, it is a mandatory part of every billionaire's life. They give massages, they get massages and have an in-house spa with attendant of they desire, but I am saying massage is a daily part of a functional home and I am saying that because I am 100% sure. Take a peek into the life of Tony Elumelu and the rest of the high-flyers that you know, and you will see signatures of what I am telling you here. I do not say this as fantasy but because I know it to be true among the upper-class.

I personally have a home spa/sauna and full massage bar with massage attendant and I ensure there is music daily, that home is run like a heaven. I know these things cos I belong to that level that most people will want to be.

Yet sometimes I go into that kitchen and be man enough to show that I care. It is how to create heaven on Earth. Give your wife tea on bed. I do, I have given my wife tea on bed this morning and ensure that 8hrs music is streaming on the devices before i leave home.

You guys should be ready to put in the work. This world is not a place to joke around. Make your responsibility your routine.

Treasured4eva:
I tried to make the marriage work but realised I was only wasting my precious time.I've filed for divorce and she'll be served any moment from now.I wish to regain my sanity and move on with life.Thanks.

Capensis:
It is the direct responsibility of the man to take care of his home, his wife and children and provide 101% for them and should the wife choose to help, the man should be very excited and be thankful for such assistance.

This sounds very weird and crazy but if you consider the Religious writings in the good books, as well as the traditional rites of marriage you'd understand my view and why it works 100% of the time.

The Christian Bible stated that the Elohim Gods created Eve because of Adam's loneliness. The only reason for creating the Eve lady, first of all, was because Adam was lonely, not really because of Reproduction because we have been designed to reproduce asexually via replications, stem cells etc. So, Eve becomes Adams responsibility to take care of, to behold, to take care of, till death do part them.

Now, let us ponder on that, and take a dive into our Traditional Marriages:
Price is an amount appropriate for an item. We have witness the cost of marriages rising with time, not really because of inflation, but in recent times parents believe that they better they train their daughters, the better or wealthier the husband she could get.

So, Brice Price means cost of Bride. So, If you have to pay a price to get a woman, it is a purchase.
To buttress my point above, there is a change of title if you purchase a house, you change the name to your name. Same with car, we do change of ownership and put our names on what we purchase.

So when you insist that your wife change her name by adding yours to hers, you are doing change of ownership, so it is a purchase.

So therefore, if you had to purchase a woman to be by you and help eliminate loneliness, then you should understand that you have to take care of her 100% and also for your kids since they are on your name.

I know your mind will go to western culture. Yes, western countries are smart. They decide not to take bride price, and liberated women, so women work and share bills at home compulsorily.

If we must stop taking care of our wives 100% and want them to share the bills, we should equally eliminate bride price so our women can share equal rights with us, and if there is divorce we pack from the house and go into the street and start afresh.

We have been mixing this up, that is why Africa is upside down, cos we are hypocrites. We have bad cultures and we embrace western cultures, yet the foundation of the culture is destroying marriages.

I knew this because I study about how to be a great husband, so when I found this since I was a teenager, I worked extra hard knowing I must provide 100% and having that at the back of my mind helps me a lot. So, I do not expect a woman to make any expense at home and my wife has not made any expense, and I pay my bills 1 year ahead if possible and ensure that nothing lacks, if it happens, I have to apologize for that and find a way to manage until I get it.

Makes a man work harder and end up being very rich, and manage resources effectively.

I hope I have helped you out.

Martinez39:
Wow. The sole responsibility of the man is to provide money and protect and he is to do that alone. Hmmmmm. The sole responsibility of the woman nko? If he is to wash the plate from time to time, will she also pay the bills from time to time without complaining. Does his misfortune warrant the insult and embarrassment he faces at home? Hmmmmm, so he should leave his own house because of what? Let me ignore other irrational things you've typed and stop here. SMH.

This white knighting is on a whole different level.

REB3L:
I know a red pilled man when I see him. �

obingo25:
pls wetin red pill mean again abegi no be all of us go school finish for nl.

chiefqueen:
Seems you're tired of all the weak women in your life, you'll keep coming after me. You ain't my type. Swerve Bitch. I've given you something to help you cum, now rest

TheKingIsHere:
Check your box

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.

I've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

Lots of people are really misquoting me.I only lost a high paying job but still got a very big business which is already yielding income,just that my spending pattern changed.I still run all aspects of mybhome.

My wife's money remains her business and she's not mandated to spend it on me or the family.I truly assist her to the best of my ability in domestic chores and otherwise.

She's a very bad tempered woman that doesn't regard or respect me and that's where the problem lies.My only crime is that I wanted respect from her.

ogawisdom:
The lady is even feeding your jobless ass and u are here ranting like a mad dog.

A jobless man will be disrespected by even an angelic wife.

You failed in your responsibility of providing for your family, A man must always be able to pay
1. Rent
2. School fees
3. Feed the family

Martinez39:
The world is something else. Paying the bills doesn't warrant insults. It is not written anywhere that it is the man that must provide any one can provide as long as they are both happy with the decision. I know women who have paid the bills. My father was once broke and jobless and my mother, being a nurse with a good salary, paid the bills and started frying akara and selling iceblock to assist with the bills. She still gave my father his respect and encouragement. Luckily my father got back on his feet big time. My dad really appreciated my mum for this that immediately he got back in his feet, he started assisting my mum in many things. Unfortunately when he told my mum not worry about something she wanted to go to the market to buy that he will go by himself and help her out, he died in a car accident later. If my mum can do this, what excuse does any lady have? Can you and Capensis tell me? Besides my mum was still beautiful and I was just 8 years of age. She could have insulted and left my dad for other rich men.

Capensis:
It is the direct responsibility of the man to take care of his home, his wife and children and provide 101% for them and should the wife choose to help, the man should be very excited and be thankful for such assistance.

This sounds very weird and crazy but if you consider the Religious writings in the good books, as well as the traditional rites of marriage you'd understand my view and why it works 100% of the time.

The Christian Bible stated that the Elohim Gods created Eve because of Adam's loneliness. The only reason for creating the Eve lady, first of all, was because Adam was lonely, not really because of Reproduction because we have been designed to reproduce asexually via replications, stem cells etc. So, Eve becomes Adams responsibility to take care of, to behold, to take care of, till death do part them.

Now, let us ponder on that, and take a dive into our Traditional Marriages:
Price is an amount appropriate for an item. We have witness the cost of marriages rising with time, not really because of inflation, but in recent times parents believe that they better they train their daughters, the better or wealthier the husband she could get.

So, Brice Price means cost of Bride. So, If you have to pay a price to get a woman, it is a purchase.
To buttress my point above, there is a change of title if you purchase a house, you change the name to your name. Same with car, we do change of ownership and put our names on what we purchase.

So when you insist that your wife change her name by adding yours to hers, you are doing change of ownership, so it is a purchase.

So therefore, if you had to purchase a woman to be by you and help eliminate loneliness, then you should understand that you have to take care of her 100% and also for your kids since they are on your name.

I know your mind will go to western culture. Yes, western countries are smart. They decide not to take bride price, and liberated women, so women work and share bills at home compulsorily.

If we must stop taking care of our wives 100% and want them to share the bills, we should equally eliminate bride price so our women can share equal rights with us, and if there is divorce we pack from the house and go into the street and start afresh.

We have been mixing this up, that is why Africa is upside down, cos we are hypocrites. We have bad cultures and we embrace western cultures, yet the foundation of the culture is destroying marriages.

I knew this because I study about how to be a great husband, so when I found this since I was a teenager, I worked extra hard knowing I must provide 100% and having that at the back of my mind helps me a lot. So, I do not expect a woman to make any expense at home and my wife has not made any expense, and I pay my bills 1 year ahead if possible and ensure that nothing lacks, if it happens, I have to apologize for that and find a way to manage until I get it.

Makes a man work harder and end up being very rich, and manage resources effectively.

I hope I have helped you out.

wish NL had more emojis especially the clap emoji…


well…well, it is either your understanding of marriage is a stronghold in your life where the devil and his transcendent beings haven't gotten hold of and twisted…

Or…

…it is just a facade in which you use to lure people to darkness and take them captive for satan…


Hmmm…you still need to go back to the Lord Jesus and rededicate your life to Him…satan doesn't like anyone not even his demons…he's so full of rage and hatred against his Creator, God and the beloved of God that he has lost the ability to accommodate any other desire…




Before I forget, don't things look orderly? don't we look like learned men?

Replying to different posts separately as they're for now, independent of each other…

Tonalphs:
@Capensis.... The level at which you talk about mind power is mind blowing. I believe everything you wrote. We live in a mental world and not at all in the physical world. As long as OP continues to complain, he'll attract more reasons to complain..... It takes discipline and humility to connect with your higher self like Capensis is saying. It's only those with big Ego that will take your words with a pinch of salt. I've read quite some few books but I'll be glad if you recommended some more for me