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zheja:
Please,I need a sincere opinion on this matter, it kinda disturbing my brain.

I met this girl whom I had crush on.We became friends and started talking on phone.Few days to when we met,she came visiting....I did not want to rush into anything cos to me we started on a good note n will definitely go a long way.

She opened up to me tru one of our encounter that she has a son for her bf.I thought it was a joke judging by her stature n young look.She sent me pictures of her baby yet i no gree blv. She told me d bf whom she at times calls husband lives in the same state with us.

I still hv thought of her in my head despite finding out she z 3yrs older than I am.

Fast forward,av helped her in both advice n some cash....and also made my intention known to her...yet no response.I was confused cos she often visits n make me feel tns gonna work out.
Recently,she had issues with her acccommodation and needed to find else where and live.
Mine was her option wc i accepted with open arms.I discovered lot of issues with her.

She is always on call with some guys most at times d bf,calls which at the end turns her mood to a hostile one.She does not share d bed with me,she prefers the floor,she does not hug or allow me touch her despite having seen her hug guys outside.She,on different occassions check on guys at odd hours.She is often in a bad mood n talk less to people.The day I found her happy,I was scared as hell.
This and other acts of hers set my head on fire.

On the contrary,she cooks n clean up the room every morning before going to work.She also buy food stuffs n stuffs we are lacking.

I once asked her to live my room n find else where to live,that I can't live up with the thought of her not considering me good enuf for her.But tru a friends advise,I called her back to stay....was hoping my feelings wl wean off.
What could this lady av turned me to,what does she see me as.Watching her taken off by a man in a vehicle to return d next morning cuts some pound of flesh off my heart.

Your opinion on this and what to do please.

zheja:
Please,I need a sincere opinion on this matter, it kinda disturbing my brain.

I met this girl whom I had crush on.We became friends and started talking on phone.Few days to when we met,she came visiting....I did not want to rush into anything cos to me we started on a good note n will definately go a long way.

She opened up to me tru one of our encounter that she has a son for her bf.I thought it was a joke judging by her stature n young look.She sent me pictures of her baby yet i no gree blv. She told me d bf whom she at times calls husband lives in the same state with us.

I still hv thought of her in my head despite finding out she z 3yrs older than I am.

Fast forward,av helped her in both advice n some cash....and also made my intention known to her...yet no response.I was confused cos she often visits n make me feel tns gonna work out.
Recently,she had issues with her acccommodation and needed to find else where and live.
Mine was her option wc i accepted with open arms.I discovered lot of issues with her.

She is always on call with some guys most at times d bf,calls which at the end turns her mood to a hostile one.She does not share d bed with me,she prefers the floor,she does not hug or allow me touch her despite having seen her hug guys outside.She,on different occassions check on guys at odd hours.She is often in a bad mood n talk less to people.The day I found her happy,I was scared as hell.
This and other acts of hers set my head on fire.

On the contrary,she cooks n clean up the room every morning before going to work.She also buy food stuffs n stuffs we are lacking.

I once asked her to live my room n find else where to live,that I can't live up with the thought of her not considering me good enuf for her.But tru a friends advise,I called her back to stay....was hoping my feelings wl wean off.
What could this lady av turned me to,what does she see me as.Watching her taken off by a man in a vehicle to return d next morning cuts some pound of flesh off my heart.

Your opinion on this and what to do please.

shakmati:
Why are you like this? You wanna spoil a good relationship because of your lust for sex! That girl is ok. I wish she was living near me, I would have collected her from you! Someone is doing house chores and providing and all your one track mind is thinking of is sex. Leave her let her live her life. Enjoy the comfort she brings to your life. Stop pressuring her for a relationship please. Be friends with her! Receive sense!

Auladimeji2:
His he father Christmas

Chi59:
She's not attracted to you.
Not even spending time living with you in your place will change that.

You were wrong to invite her to come live with you, despite your good intention.
Tell her, straight up "It's time to leave"
Let her go.

Erase the possibility of the relationship.
She's only using you.
The day her baby's daddy shows up, you won't exist in her mind.

zheja:
Tnx dear,av sent her packing n tnx to stars, am having a fresh breath this morning

Oyindidi:
My brother, you tell her to go cos she no get feelings for you or something else wey she do?

Boxer007:
^^OP...Please Please please ignore advise from this one call oyin.didi. . She a heart breaker and a Muslim (DANGER).

Oyindidi:
I break your heart?

Boxer007:
u a officially a heart breaker & naturally wicked. Preach

Oyindidi:
My brother, you tell her to go cos she no get feelings for you or something else wey she do?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Go where? I know people like this op, expecting something in return cos they helping u. If a guy can house a guy without any emotions, a guy should be about to house a lady without none too. The lady need the op help and not emotions. The op should get it together.

greatnaija01:
The GIRL has USED your head o. yOU DON CARRY WETIN PASS YOU.... lolz
BUT how did you mumu like this for woman WHO NEVER EVEN ACCEPTED YOUR PROPOSAL..... choi

That woman is 3 years older than you BUT may be 6years more mature than you. Ladies are more mature than guys who are of the same age o... talk more of 3 years... BROS... ABEG RUN.
see the simple lesson of life you are yet to learn is
NICE GUYS ALWAYS CARRY LAST

So, stop being a NICE guy. Tell her it cant work out between both of you and let her go and stay elsewhere.... YOU ALLOWED HER STAY BECAUSE YOU WERE HOPING YOU GO CHOP AM.... but she didn't give you what you expect.... now you are not happy. SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING. She can't settle for you, she needs someone more capable than you... FACT.

IT IS BETTER TO BE SINGLE AND HAPPY THAN TO BE ENGAGED AND DEPRESSED.

From your message, you clearly do not HOLD GOD well... you do not pray well to know who to accept and who to avoid.... see, last last.. na God get power... YOU SHOULD NOT ALLOW someone bring their BAD ENERGY or VIBE into your house... it can affect your finances and your health.

CLEAN UP YOUR LIFE by cutting off that lady... she has not decided what or who she wants... EVEN after marriage, she will still be going everywhere because she will not be satisfied.

ITS PAINFUL but bro... pls MOVE ON... this is 2019.... NO TIME FOR LADIES WHO HAVE NO STEADY PURPOSE IN LIFE.

Oyindidi:
My brother, you tell her to go cos she no get feelings for you or something else wey she do?