| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by mabebe1(f): 10:27am On Mar 18, 2019 |
musa1987:
My brother, i have similar experience when i got married. a week after our wedding my wife woke up to informed that she want to go to the town to collect phone from her ex who came back from abroad. i just declare that she can go and should not come back home. she brag from that morning till in the night but i refuse to alter a word. i told her to choose her marriage or her ex. some times u need to be rigid to get it right. Good of u......that was how one hanty that year, two weeks after she got married....her ex called her up to come collect the goodies he brought from d UK(ex that disappointed her and married someone else). The mumu went to d hotel room and was fu..ked like kilode......she sha confess den the matter got to T.B Joshua.... |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Derajeth(m): 10:29am On Mar 18, 2019 |
If she's done it with them before,she can always do it again.That flame is always easy to rekindle.Bros my advice to you is that you should let your wife be if you don't want to die of hypertension , because if you do her ex would equally come to console her in your bedroom. |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by ruddyman500: 10:29am On Mar 18, 2019 |
BookEditor:
You are simply at fault. The fault is from you.
Why did you allow your wife to be your own boos, to boss you around? She is not the type of woman that should be handled the way you're handling her. I think you need serious marriage counseling. Even your wife needs serious marriage counseling too.
It's the way you lay your bed that's how you will lie on it. Marriage is a lifetime journey and anyone who is not willing to get into it with full commitment should not even go in at all.
The fault lies more on her side for all her behavior but on your own part, your fault is not being firm with her and allowing certain things you're not supposed to allow in your marriage.
When you show a woman all the love needed in a marriage, then you also as a man be firm with her and refuse to allow her do certain things and put your foot down or else you will lay the foundation for the collapse of your marriage. I can assure you that if I counsel you for 5 straight hours, I will speak senses into you. I'm talking with going to 2 decades of experience.
First of all, why did you allow her that very first time to go meet her ex in the media? That was your first mistake. The moment you allowed her to meet any of her ex the first time you must continue to allow her with her other exes or else trouble will be let loose. Women are not logical in nature. They are highly emotional and have no iota of logic in them when it comes to relationship issues. It's you the man that will know that you must not allow it.
Just like a child crying for you to give him sweet even when the doctor has medically warned you that this child should never eat sweet and that if he eats sweet his illness will deteriorate. Will you now say because the child is crying seriously you give him the sweet? Won't you find something else to give him? Because the child doesn't think logically and may even put his hand inside fire.
The same thing with women. You are more logical than them as a man. So you will tactically block every opportunity or thing that will make her vulnerable because to her it's harmless but by allowing her, it can turn to something else in future and destroy your marriage.
Also remember that women are not to be given complete freedom to do anything they like because when you give them an inch, they will take a mile.
Secondly, why I said the fault is from you on my first line of this post is because you failed to avoid this kind of problem from the first day of your marriage. If you and your wife dated for long, then you should have known the kind of person she is and from the first day of your marriage, you should have given her a condition to throw her line/sim card away and stop using that line if she is really serious about being with you for the rest of her life. Marriage is a journey and whoever goes into the plough must never look back or take actions that could destroy the marriage.
If I continue to write, I will continue to write on and on because there are a lot things I need to counsel you about and if possible even your wife about marriage which both of you don't seem to understand. That's why you're having issues in your marriage.
pls can i have ur phone number ..i will like to call you
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| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by MissRaine69(f): 10:30am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Pinuc:
The only reason why I may not condemn her is, she always tell you she wants to visit her EX, but my question is, if they where that good, why did she leave them. She really needs to accept her status as a married woman and stop seeing herself otherwise. I think you still need to keep talking to her, but mostly whenever you guys are in a happy mood. Good you told her friend, you can still confide in her brother, that is, if you try to talk to her on your own.
All the quarrels is not a good omen but with prayers, patience and love. You will win. She asks for “permission” so that there is no need for a cover story, and he agrees so if she indeed goes and does something and returns home, she does not need to explain her whereabouts. Quite clever really. And he is a fool for not seeing it. |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by babaireti(m): 10:31am On Mar 18, 2019 |
But you knew this before you bought into it,a woman with many ex-s can never be meant for a few partners let alone talking of only one (1) husband. Very soon you may also become an ex-just like those previous ones you are counting for her because she is a woman in transit.period,so let her be |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Nobody: 10:32am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .
She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.
Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.
The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.
She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....
This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.
please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take I’m not married but this’s my one pence advice: 1) Both of you need counseling 2)I think there’s a communication gap between the both of you and you’ve got to work on it. There’re a bunch of materials out there centered on marriage and it’s many challenges; do yourself a favor of going through one if you haven’t. I’ll recommend Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. You can get the pdf copy online. 3) Ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen. If shit happens, will you remain committed to the union? Your answer will dictate how far you’re willing to go to keep your family together? 4) People say marriage is not a bed of roses; I disagree. It is, once you know how to pluck the thorns off the stalk. 5) Amos 3:3 remains true especially in this context. Above all, commit it all to the Lord and trust Him for wisdom. I wish the best Shalom |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by DonBenny77(m): 10:32am On Mar 18, 2019 |
uuzba:
Why give bad advice?
What else destroys a marriage than a previous marriage with children?
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Till death do you part. Is that not the oath you swore at the alter? If you can't swear the oath, please, you are not mature for marriage. Forget it.! rubbish so because you made marriage vow not oath you should live with a hoe without brains. How can a married woman be bringing up issues abt her exes in her marriage? Thats unacceptable, i will give my brother same advice. And take correction na for shrine them dey swear oath no be church. Oath n vow no be same thing |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by enemyofprogress: 10:33am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Follow come childrens loading if you know you know |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Stallione(m): 10:34am On Mar 18, 2019 |
let me just be honest with u and straight to the point,ur wife is still having affairs with them,the sooner u send her back 2her father's house if she refuses to change,the better for u,cos sending her packing will hybernate her senses and she comes back 2normal after people finish insulting her in her father's house.Am just telling u out of experience. 1 Like |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by pansophist(m): 10:35am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Ugosample:
why you delete am na?
Leave it there joor  I din put am back  |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by desgiezd(m): 10:39am On Mar 18, 2019 |
greatnaija01:
You are NOT at fault sir, so pls calm down.
PLS Forgive her.... your wife like most women... does not know the value of the kind of man she has and also she is the immature one.... she has not learned SUBMISSION.... submission is NOT slavery BUT it is letting the man be the HEAD of the HOME... she can only LEARN BY EXPERIENCE... that is the bitter truth.
If not for you, she may have rekindled an old flame in one of the EXes and that may lead to FLIRTING and at the end of the day THEY WILL BE BLAMING THE DEVIL UPANDAN.
Wisdom to apply now is, allow her but Go with her if you can. If she is not comfortable to go with you then SHE HAS OTHER MOTIVES O.....
also CLONE her PHONE.. so that any sms, calls or whatsapp she receives gets into your own phone too.... then u will be able to really handle this thing from the root. When you gather proper facts and evidencies then u can reveal it to family members or church leaders and they can decide what course of action to take.
YOU do not have to be angry yet because she can still say you are just being too sensitive and over protective. In quiet wisdom any hidden thing can be revealed.
Explain to her in LOVE but have a back up plan.
many people hide so much of their true nature till they marry.... their vision for marriage ends with the wedding reception... afterwards a character they never manifested before begins to show up.
So much on point, nothing to add |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by adanny01(m): 10:39am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .
She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.
Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.
The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.
She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....
This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.
please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take The only thing you did wrong was agreeing to baby sit your baby while she was with her ex. See the way i would handle it. Wifey: Honey, my ex lost his mum Me: So sad, was she sick? Wifey: Yes, she died of a protracted illness. I want to go and felicitate with the family. Me: Okay, i will drive you there. The End. If she says no, she knows its wrong to refuse my offer. If she insist, i will insist she goes with the baby. Sometimes, women dont deserve to be told exactly how the man feels. You told her how you feel, she concludes you are insecure and tells you to your face. If you dont tell her how you feel but offer support, even if she thinks you are insecure by your request to drive, she wont tell you and you avoid a problem. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by CyberWolf: 10:39am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Nawa o .. God knows that I will use better slap to restore her brain back if she is my wife. Even my girlfriend don’t do shit like that talk more of wife. OP the truth is that your wife is about to be fvcked by numerous exs, that’s if they are not fvcking her already. The earlier you stamp your authority in your home, the better. Tell her that every communication with her exs or even male friends in whatever form will stop henceforth. If she insist, tell her to choose between you and her male friends. If she does insist, end the marriage ASAP to avoid your early death. 1 Like |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Nobody: 10:40am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Preshy561:
Tolerating too much nonsense.
Ex kor. OP, you can see that this came from a lady. So please man up and handle your woman before those crazy exes destroy your years of labour. 1 Like |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by afrodoc2: 10:42am On Mar 18, 2019 |
She is already cheating on you.......with multiple exes.
She does not respect you, and is also using you as alibi.
A woman like that will never change.
If you report to her elders she might pause for a few months before going back to regular programming, or she might change her format and continue in secrecy while you live in ignorance.
Divorce the biatch. Do DNA test on your child. 3 Likes |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by FASASI1(m): 10:43am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Before I say anything I want you to know am not married but from my own point of view there's nothing you can do only if she accept to change willingly even if you get people to talk to her she can pretend she has changed but she will not tell you anything about her movement but she will be going to see them. Remember two wrong doesn't make a right if you should venture into the same act you might win the case but she might kill you self because she would be able to tolerate it just like the way you did. I date a girl back then she will always tell me she doesn't like girls around me or something but na she they follow guys go out but when she sees a girl around me she will get jealous but we brokeup before you stab me stab yourself to feel the pain also.
Just be patient because you already have a kid with her remember but of you can exist independent what about your kid she will be the one that will be affected 1 Like |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by cococandy(f): 10:43am On Mar 18, 2019 |
You haven’t done anything wrong. She’s wrong for not knowing where to draw the line. personally, I think you have accommodated enough. People only learn when you pay them back in their own coin. ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .
She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.
Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.
The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.
She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....
This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.
please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take 4 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by egojeny1(f): 10:43am On Mar 18, 2019 |
GlorifiedTunde:
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Caution: if you're not emotionally mature, you could destroy what could be repaired beyond repairs! Ok, thanks. |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by pansophist(m): 10:45am On Mar 18, 2019 |
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| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Bakersfield: 10:46am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .
She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.
Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.
The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.
She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....
This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.
please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take My brother I have been in this business called marriage for the last 27 years now. I'm lucky I married my best friend and soul mate. She is from the south east and I'm from the south west of Nigeria. I know some of the hidden secrets of successful, unsecured and unsuccessful marriages. No long story. Let me tell you the NAKED TRUTH. YOUR WIFE IS A NYMPHO AND SHE IS BLEEPING HEAVILY WITH HER EX's. Maybe your CUCUMBER is not doing the job as expected and she resolved to help herself outside. Please try to do reappraisal of your sexual performance. Maybe you are lacking in some areas of her needs and the EX's are filling the gap for you. You need to sit down and sort out issues holistically. No holds bar discussion. From your submission, she has all the traits of INFIDELITY. Adjust and follow the trails. Good luck. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Moukandjo: 10:47am On Mar 18, 2019 |
We have told men countless times that the most important thing you should look out for in a woman is her body count & probably the number of people she's dated!
The best thing is to marry a woman who has ZERO body count (a virgin) & almost completely avoid any mumu attachment to one past boyfriend because na sex dey usually cause all these mumu attachment! But una no go gree. Instead, una go dey form one mumu liberal "her past doesn't matter."
You better not stop your wife from seeing whoever she wants! You know these things before you go carry am put for house!
O'n pe! 5 Likes 
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| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by MrDoGood(m): 10:47am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
If not for you, she may have rekindled an old flame in one of the EXes and that may lead to FLIRTING and at the end of the day THEY WILL BE BLAMING THE DEVIL UPANDAN. .....That was exactly what i told her that i dont want old affections and emotions to be awaken but she is just so adamant and irritably sturbborn I was in a similar situation. She feels she's still hot and sexy.. lol women with their ways of thinking. Get another phone with a new number and register with another name cos she's going to check the number with true caller. Register whatsapp with the new line and use the phone to chat yourself. Claiming to be one of your ex wanting you guys to see that she just wants to apologize and all that. If possible, make up for all the wrongs she's done to you. Just make it a very sensitive chat that would make her jealous and want to bring down the roof when she sees it. If possible, put one of your cousin's female photos that she doesn't know and make sure she's extremely beautiful but u need to play calm in the chat as a man who respects the wife and you don't want anything to do with exes. Your wife won't be happy with it and bla bla. To round it up, tell her you will appreciate it if she stops chatting with you. (Remember this is yourself chatting with you) then let your wife see the chats. She will definitely bring up issues abut u seeing her. Then you have the upper hand to open her eyes and brain to see what you are talking about. Believe me bro, she will stop all those nonsense of felling funky and hot that exes kept calling her. na she dey give the room for the conversation. (That's if she is willing to change) without that, there's little or nothing u can do. I do not want to use a disgusting word, but she should be ashamed to talk about her ex. let alone giving u the impression that they're many. She should count herself very lucky to have a man like you. |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by lilvercetty(m): 10:48am On Mar 18, 2019 |
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| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by IdeeEsperanza(m): 10:48am On Mar 18, 2019 |
And my bae's ex just invited her to his late dad's burial. Though she asked me if she should go, but from this man's story, omor, she no dey go anyway!  2 Likes |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Nobody: 10:49am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
i honestly think so bro but i dont want to rush into taking rash decisions cos i know myself very well i do stand by any decision i make and nobody can change my mind on it This is same reason I don't rush into anything. I always take my time before doing things because I hardly rescind my decisions no matter how they turn out to be. I hardly regret every decision I've taken so far because I planned and fully took charge of them � |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by IdeeEsperanza(m): 10:51am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Bakersfield:
My brother I have been in this business called marriage for the last 27 years now. I'm lucky I married my best friend and soul mate. She is from the south east and I'm from the south west of Nigeria. I know some of the hidden secrets of successful, unsecured and unsuccessful marriages.
No long story. Let me tell you the NAKED TRUTH.
YOUR WIFE IS A NYMPHO AND SHE IS BLEEPING HEAVILY WITH HER EX's. Maybe your CUCUMBER is not doing the job as expected and she resolved to help herself outside. Please try to do reappraisal of your sexual performance. Maybe you are lacking in some areas of her needs and the EX's are filling the gap for you.
You need to sit down and sort out issues holistically. No holds bar discussion.
From your submission, she has all the traits of INFIDELITY. Adjust and follow the trails. Good luck.
Waow waow |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Rosso: 10:53am On Mar 18, 2019 |
Relax bro and see Wat u can do abt reporting her to her family members, allow them talk to her and see if she can change her ways. Some of dis small girls we call our wives are not just mature enough to get married or call wife bcuz of some qualities they possessed bcuz they act immature so it's just as if ure doing anoda training for them to be on ur taste bcuz some just act and blv me dey won't even knw dey are wrong bcuz dey don't posses d quality and not ripe yet to a wife . Bro just go meet her family and explain situation to them so u can knw aw to handle such issue . |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by greatnaija01: 10:55am On Mar 18, 2019 |
sir, pls google can assist you with it... or you can watch a LIVE demonstration on YOUTUBE. Slimzzy00:
please how do I clone phones |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Nobody: 10:57am On Mar 18, 2019 |
ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .
She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.
Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.
The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.
She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....
This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.
please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take Ur greatest mistake was allowing her to have her way in the event from the 1st ex. Next time don't call her friend, call her parents or brothers or sisters, especially the one she rapports well with |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by BookEditor(m): 10:58am On Mar 18, 2019 |
[/quote] ruddyman500 [quote] @ruddyman500 Send a mail to: e d i t o r s p u b l i s h e r s @ g m a i l . c o m and explain your situation and ask to talk to a counselor. Goodluck. |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by oglalasioux(m): 10:58am On Mar 18, 2019 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lies. I don't even have any ex number. Onward March code. You are excluded if you don't have an ex. But you can't say for people with exs because you don't know what you don't know. 1 Like |
| Re: What Is It With My Wife And Her Past Boyfriends? by Randy100: 10:59am On Mar 18, 2019 |
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