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earthsync:
A topic for some men to masturbate on.

Mcy56:
Other options such as?

Mcy56:
Hhmmm. Polygamy -No, single parenting -Yes.
The society is not helping women's matter if we'll be honest.

Mcy56:
Hhmmm. Polygamy -No, single parenting -Yes.
The society is not helping women's matter if we'll be honest.

Mcy56:
How many men can afford to take care of one wife or even cope with one wife talkless of 2 or more?
Polygamy is actually out of the picture in this age - what do you need large family for in the first place?
What about the children that are the point of focus here, how will you cope with their upkeep and education?
In the past, due to the nature of our fore-fathers profession, it's understandable but not again now.
For instance, lets say you planned having 2 or 3 kids, do you intend sharing the kids between 3 wives, so each one will give you one each? Enlighten me.

Mcy56:
Lol. So money bags tell you they want to marry? No be to chop and clean mouth?
Well you answered yourself in the first sentence, it takes a stinking-ly rich man to marry more than one wife.....the irony of it is that majority of them value peace of mind and would rather opt for one wife, others as side chics.
Now the fact is this: We have a lot of single men out there who are running away from marriage for one reason or the other. Even when women chose to settle down in marriage, they come up with lots of excuses for which that should be on hold, another one would tag it as desperation on the part of the woman....... and the list continues........end result: delay in marriage or outright jilting of such lady. Are ladies to be blamed also?

Mcy56:
Reason why I agreed with single parenting, its a very good option provided the man is responsible and the lady has means of livelihood too.
I also hope such women wouldn't be stigmatized cos African mentality is still very much backward.
The pressure on women is much and has made some to make grave mistakes in their choices.
If one should use NL men to judge self, na die be that. One even said sometimes ago that all women not yet married and above 30 should go and commit suicide. It's that bad!
Anyway, you've really got me talking typing, I hope you dont fall into "irresponsible" men's category too.

franchasng:
Funny but 99.9% true

Any young lady reading this should pls remove pride and learn something from this guy's topic, lots of wisdom in it. Keep it up

bamidelee:
pocochant your contributions pls

Quality20:
Your write-up is very much on point. Honestly, I do meet ladies 27 and above who are seeking husbands but then what gets me worried is that some of them are so beautiful and I begin to wonder, 'how can a lady as beautiful as this not have a suitor? Or what's d problem? Have they probably slept with many men and they no longer see the need to marry them? Or are they infected with STDs etc.
Even as I type this, I'm still doubting a very beautiful lady who wants me to marry her and she is about 30+,,, How can such a beautiful lady, who works out and we'll educated convince me that men haven't seen her all these years b4 we met?

affinity77:
All these ladies will never learn. That's why men will keep seeing them as objects of satisfaction. Go to instamessage, u will understand. 99% of babes there are hoes. Just say hi to any of them, next u will hear is...... Short time or night?

Tundexxy:
Cc: AntiBrutus

bamidelee:
feminist aye

holywater24:
DELAY IN MARRIAGE.

Girls at the age of 18-24 always attracts serious men who is fully ready to get married but at this age most of our girls never wish to hear anything about marriage...

You will hear them saying "who marriage eeep, who care about marriage"..... But this girls will be having serious sex relationship with small boys of their age...

I mean serious sex relationship because at this age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them but they will prefer to chose those boys rather than the men..

They are still young to marry but they're not young to have sex with boys... If u even ask them why are you small girl having sex relationship like this...

You will hear her asking you back "Who is small girl? Do u even know what I know? Are u expecting me not to be having sex at this my age? Do u want to kill me? And beside, what is your own problem with my own life? Abeg, pack well".

At the age of 25-27, parent will start asking them how far? Don't u have any one yet? Are u not planning to get married? Your mate are getting married? Or don't you know how old you are?... But mind you, parent only seems outside of their daughter not knowing that inside is finished....

With all this questions by her own parent she will now be thinking and asking her self some questions like... "My mate are getting married? Does it mean am old enough to marry?

Hmmm but how should I go about it those my boyfriends are not a serious type... They're not even ready to marry yet.. Well, God knows the best I believe in God"... My sister, Did u just mention God?... Hmm!!!

At the age of 27-30... They will now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex again... They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage... But the funniest this is that, at this age of 30 no men will be asking their hand in marriage...

Though they will see men but those men will only want date from them not marriage... Then u will see them forcing their self to marry a man who didn't like to marry them...

No single man at the age of 30-35 will like to marry a lady of 30-35 too instead they will be looking for girls of 20-25 to marry and that is why you will see some men going back to their village to find young girl to marry when they seems that those young girls in the city are not serious about marriage and those that serious too old for them.

At the age of 30-35, if you ask her why are u not marry yet by this your age it getting too late... You will hear her asking you some silly questions like... "Are you God? Or do you want to marry me? Single at 30 or 35 it's a crime? Did I see who will marry me I didn't marry him? God knows the best pls".

At this age of 30-35 they will start going to Church like never before... They will now be a fake serious type.. Her name will now change from Lizy for sure to Sis in Christ...

At this age if u ask her for dating you will hear her saying "My brother, am not like them... Am looking for husband not dating if truly u love me go and see my parent for marriage I can't do anything without asking for my parent hands... But when she was 18-24 yrs she was doing everything without her parent hands.

But ladies, do you even know that no man want old version again? Everybody is looking for latest version. U don't expect a young man of 30yrs to marry you of 30yrs as his house wife...

Men that will be interested to marry you will be men of 40 plus and mind you, those men have married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife and I know that naija lady will not want to be second or third wife.

Everything in life has it own season and time... No lady that is looking for husband now that didn't see who want to marry her when she was 18-24 yrs but by then, they're not serious because they're not looking for husband but they're looking for sex.

Let's assuming u started having sex at the age of 16-20... Now you're 30yrs old... My sister can you count how many time u had sex? Well, let's 4get about that because I know u won't like that part at all.

But let me tell you, everything is not about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you but when you by yourself changed the plan or miss the road you will now be shouting God where are you...

When God is shouting my daughter where are u.. You're there doing Shakara, enjoying your life and talking men for granted.

Why do we have high rate of single mothers and single ladies nowadays? Does it mean no men again? You will see that the old are there not getting married why the young ones are getting married.

You as a orderly or senior sister never marry your younger or junior sisters are getting married.... You will now be asking God some stupid questions like "God why me? I'm mine not your daughter again..
Think about it

nwakibe:
Not in all cases. I've met a 32 years old lady who told me that no man have asked her for ordinary friendship in her life. I asked her does it mean she is still a virgin. She answered yes. I'm yet to believe that though.

Donjazzy12:
@ OP you missed it entirely!

That is certainly not the reason why there are a lot of single unmarried ladies.
The single most important reason is the rise of lesbianism!
Most of you guys here still think like you are in the 80s!

Most guys are completely outdated!

Do you know that 70-80% of unmarried ladies in Nigeria are hardcore lesbians pretenders. They don't have any emotional attachment to men at all!

I am a relationship Counsillor and I know what I am telling you. Lesbianism has eaten so deep into the psyche of most young girls in Nigeria that they do no longer form emotional bonds with men!

Haven't you wondered why women rarely fight for love these days? Haven't you wondered why there is no existence of sugar mummy again unlike in the 80s? Haven't you wondered why most young sophisticated women these day do not seem to care about marriage to men at all but only about being rich?

Haven't you wondered why more and more young women prefer to hang out with their fellow ladies than with guys these days? Go to clubs, are you not surprised how women are openly admiring and romancing each other.

Let me be clear with you. If you open your eyes very well you will see what I am saying it is hiding in plain sight.

Now let me give you a chronology of how it starts.

All young ladies enter secondary schools as virgins, but from their Jss1 senior female student start their initiation of the junior ones. These School mother stuff is a perfect cover for lesbian training. These young naive girls first introduction to sex starts by their School mother fingering and sucking them till orgasms! Thereafter they become attached to females sexually. From there it becomes very difficult to form emotional bonds with men. If in doubt go to any of these single sex female schools on Valentines day the gifts these girls buy for themselves even you cannot buy for your own girlfriend!

When the girls leave Secondary Schools for University most of them are already coded lesbians, men are no longer attractive to them. They manage to have one or two boyfriends in schools because that is what everyone expects of them but they still keep coded lesbian partners, they wear leg chains , in their Facebook walls you see posts like " I STAND WITH GIRLS'. Na dem be that.

After University, they live alone in rented apartments, they are now adults with jobs. They only enter relationship with men at this stage for financial benefits, but they keep their lesbian relationship so coded even you will swear for them.

They can't pretend for long, very soon, as aging sets in, they will start being under pressure from parents who of course do not know that their beloved daughter is a coded lesbian! She will start with excuses! Gods time is the best, I haven't met the right man, Don't rush into marriage bla bla bla!

In their coded lesbian lifestyle sometimes they let it slip! A case in point is Toke Makinwa that was seen in an Instagram video pressing and squeezing another ladies breasts and claiming she is not a lesbian! Of course, we all know the truth!

So my dear, here is a brief reason why most ladies are not married and seriously do not care!

earthsync:
A topic for some men to masturbate on.