Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same level wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter ...

Forgive her bro, but go get yourself a new bae, what she will do next might kill you.

Oga spare me the Nigerian grammar jare. After her engine has been well serviced and panachukwu she's now claiming that she's a changed person. Yes! She's is a change person because her engine has been serviced. The only reason why a man can leave his babe is infidelity. Guy, move on and forget about, infidelity is in her blood she won't repent.

Dude forget about her hurting herself or whatever all dat na scope so you get to forgive and continue with her without holding any grudges against her but the truth is she won't change, if the so called cousin comes to her again while you are away she will give him something to chop....Tag along with her for now but make sure you get another babe you like then dispose her for good cos she ain't worth it..

Bros . ..you sound like a good man....but abeg...i dey kneel down beg you.....RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

Fear girls.

Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly until December, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will get all lovey dovey together inside the room. The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day.

My GF and I had a serious argument during this January time, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. We spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask him about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST closr family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat never beat faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay a longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the cousin was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family members, he branches to her place and spend some time with her. (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before going back so I had no issues with the guy coming over)

To cut the long story short, I approached her and she told me the truth about who the guy is and she swore that they had nothing and did nothing during her so called 'cousin' stay in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that they both had sex more than five different times. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time.

I'm so devastated right now. We over the weekend ago, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school and brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all night to forgive her and that she was truly sorry she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off at her place. She said she's changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her or anybody I date. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Its somehow....mistakes can be forgiven but when it becomes a repeated action. Then that's something else. Follow your heart but also listen to your brain. How much of this infidelity can you tolerate. What about when you get married and besides how old is she presently? Girls btw 20-25 do a lot of things. Infact someone says that's their "hoe period". Maybe we just need to accept that with the hope things will fall into place with time. And finally " Are you also 100% faithful " *winks.

leave that woman alone if you want peace of mind, all she is doing is acting movies, pls dont pity a cheat

Kill herself ko! Lol...

She told you that they had sex 4times what were you expecting her to say before.My brother I can stand before mountains and tell you that they had sex more than 10 times.


If you wanna dump her it's your choice, And if you don't wanna dump her it's your choice

She cherish you because you are abroad and she believes you are loaded so she don't wanna lose

Of all the things wrong in this country and in your family it's what a silly school girl does with her thighs that u want to disturb us with.??

Nonsense and ingredients

Dating a girl thats schooling while your based in another state or based abroad. You try shar.

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Its somehow....mistakes can be forgiven but when it becomes a repeated action. Then that's something else. Follow your heart but also listen to your brain. How much of this infidelity can you tolerate. What about when you get married and besides how old is she presently? Girls btw 20-25 do a lot of things. Infact someone says that's their "hoe period". Maybe we just need to accept that with the hope things will fall into place with time. And finally " Are you also 100% faithful " *winks.

She's 22 yrs.. I'm faithful, I won't have time hoeing around. If I do the same, I won't have any right to be hurt

Auladimeji:
She told you that they had sex 4times what were you expecting her to say before.My brother I can stand before mountains and tell you that they had sex more than 10 times.


If you wanna dump her it's your choice, And if you don't wanna dump her it's your choice

e go don pass 20 sef and I'm sure per fvck go be more than 2 rounds..

stupidity:
Dating a girl thats schooling while your based in another state or based abroad. You try shar.

My brother, na from somewhere person go start from.

Goan catch d said cousin fvcker boy first

All d money u've bin sending to her, that nigga has been enjoying it plus ur babe whole body join. He ripped u bro

Bros... You be fool oo! Chai! You are emotionally weak. Kill or hurt her self? Do the.number of times they had sex matter? Sorry about the insult.

But please let HER go. Dem no d think am two times.

its takes a strong person to go through a long distance relship.

Am not in the position to tell you to forgive or not to forgive her. Its decision you need to make on your own and ask God to help you with.

There are girls all over the place and you're killing yourself because of one girl

She is a complete hoe stick to her at ur peril

Another loser crying here and the bole even get mouth to insult dudes telling him the raw truth here ... Op see eeh, that girl will deal with you mercilessly if you take her back. She will go back and restrategize and this time, her cheating and lying ass will be more sophisticated. Just deal with her very well by Promise her marriage and project her hopes to high heaven, then get another nice girl and marry while she is waiting.. Make sure she finds about it on social media. When she confronts you, tell her that she is a cheat and a fvcking animal.

Forget about her...it can't work...it will forever live in u...not once but 4times...she is not a good person...not well brought up... forget that killing herself story... She will do nada..... whenever u 4k her, u will b imagining the guy 4kin her and her screams will mk u feel her reaction when he was 4kin her... Forget about her or u will remain sad for the rest of ur life...she should have known the consequences of her actions, let her take responsibility for her actions and accept her fate

CyberWolf:
Another loser crying here.. Promise her marriage and project her hopes to high heaven, then get another nice girl and marry while she is waiting.. Make sure she finds about it on social media. When she confronts you, tell her that she is a cheat and a fvcking animal.

Oh God have mercy on this soul "Na so u wicked"?

What's with all these sissy niggas I read on nairaland lately. So at this stage of your life you are still foolish, cousin came to stay at your GF house for 5 days, she told you na my cousin and you believed her. Infact may thunder fire that your dull brain. Are you that ugly that you can't find another girl? Too many foolish boys on the loose these days. If she commit suicide make you join am since you be mumu.

tunize:

Oh God have mercy on this soul "Na so u wicked"?

Just paying them back in their own coin.

CyberWolf:
Just paying them back in their own coin.

Lol live and make everybody live mehn

tunize:

Lol live and make everybody live mehn

Like the cheating and lying animal the OP is talking about? .. She does not deserve any atom of pity.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly until December, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will get all lovey dovey together inside the room. The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day.

My GF and I had a serious argument during this January time, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. We spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask him about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST closr family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat never beat faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay a longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family members, he branches to her place and spend some time with her. (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before going back so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I approached her and she told me the truth about who the guy is and she swore that they had nothing and did nothing during her so called 'cousin' stay in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that they both had sex more than five different times. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time.

I'm so devastated right now. We over the weekend ago, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school and brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all night to forgive her and that she was truly sorry she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off at her place. She said she's changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her or anybody I date. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Forgivable and forgettable plus having pity on her on suicide thoughts.
Op you are a big FOOL. That's all.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Changes - 2pac ft you enimem

Its best you move decisively, no call, no text, cut off all forms of communication that would originate from you. Why?

1) Even if you ever make up with her, there would forever be that 800 pound gorrilla in the room. Trust has been tinted.

2) The energy and time you guys would use to straighten-up the relationship would be better spent on a new babes.

3) If you get pass this, it would seem to her as love based on conditions like she is on probation. She would feel suffocated thus the relationship still heading for the wall.

4) Based on number 1, the lies the deceit; thats just who is she. When people reveal their real selves believe them.

Move on bro, it’s necessary for your peace of mind and overall well-being.

Note: you seem like a good guy-man, a note of advise avoid long distance relationships (LDR are no relationship), never get into a serious relationship with an invisible “friend”