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[quote author=pansophist post=76819106]All of una being diplomatic and advising to the OP just de vex me. Some things require e-yabbing, and potential physical beating in reality

How on earth did a girl tell you a cousin is sleeping in her house and you believed? Are you that dumb? Even if he is truly her cousin, sexual feelings have no regards for blood relationship, incest is real. Secondly, her cheating wasn't happenstance, but a pre-meditated action, engineered on lies, betrayal, unfaithfulness, disloyalty, playing you along like a stupid cow. It was after she was caught, she apologised, not before. Which means if you haven't caught her, its business as usual. And if you know anything about female sexuality, you'll understand that there is a difference when a man cheats and a woman cheats. Women cheat to go out of a relationship while men cheat to stay. A woman that cheat has basically lost all respect for you, and see you as lesser. It's how women are wired. Women are hypergamous (wired for quality), which means they upgrade to quality partners, while men are polygamous (wired for quantity), we just wanna Bleep regardless of if she is rich or not. See the difference? If she still fuckks a home base guy, that probably do not have the resources and international mobility as you, then well, I can only imagine what kind of man you are.

And the bitter truth? if you are not based abroad, you won't have her in the first place. The only space you occupy in her life is that you've got resources, probably money and a vehicle to transport her offshore. Tell her you've been deported, and those crocodile tears will disappear like Sahara desert. To crown your stupidity, you're here asking if you should forgive her. Also, basing your decisions if they slept 4 times or more , sorry bro, you're stupid. The fact you came to NL to ask shows you're weak, lack self-respect and boundaries, and a classical beta-Male, the kind women use as a last option when their sexual market value has gone down, and no man wants them. You're the kind of man that will train another mans child, because you're too stupid to see women through their bullshit, probably you're low self esteemed, and believe you cant get another girl, scarcity mentality instead of abundance.

I intentionally want this message to infuriate you, vex you, and roller coaster your emotion, and if it does, do yourself a big favour and leave her. Your commitment is your life, that's what men give to women, make it expensive as hell, that only a good woman will earn it, not a cheat that doesn't deserve you. Marrying (commitment) is basically a woman's insurance to her depleting sexual market value, and if you give it to that cheat, you've played to loose, while she played to win. [/quo[s][/s]te]
You nailed it!!!

Once trust is broken, bro it can never be amended. Promise her marriage and a week to the marriage, stop all ways her family can contact u and go back to abroad and continue living your life with you new faithful babe. Do me I do you God no go vex o.

Good night

BrokeFucker007:
Bro anytime a woman tell you how many times she had sex, multiple it by 3. She must have had sex not less than 30/40 times bro. I can testify that nowadays in naija the number of hoes keeps rising daily, almost all the girls I see nowadays are hoes the difference is the price tag and sometimes time and location. Don't try such crap as marrying a girl while you're abroad unless you've made ur peace with another guy or guys lashing her kitten, during service my neighbour Tonia had a fiancee in Spain and we were fucking like crase she later wanted to introduce me to the guy as a friend/neighbour that comes around meeeehn I just couldn't do that the next time she tried to give me phone that the guy wants to talk to me I collected it and cut the call. I was pitying the nigga, he sends money and all to the girl, she tries to share with me but I was raised to not be a Lambert so I decline, I like my own stuff. I told her never to do that again and she never did and the guy called back and she told him that I've left, or should I talk about while her ass is up and I was fucking her she will pick his call and pretend to be asleep and the guy will pet her and say sorry and ask her to go back to sleep and beep him later when she wakes up. Na there I swear say I'll never run any serious thing with any girl that is miles away from me.
Bro all those tears are for one thing, the goodies she gets from you and nothing all, fvck you and ur emotions, she doesn't care and won't. You're just an opportunity for her to get the fvck out of naija, a means to an end, I bet my left balls that if you marry this whorre you will regret it for the rest of your life. then it used to work but nowadays girls have thrown caution to the wind and fvck around for any little reason, too many have becomes coded whorres. A lot of these girls here on nl are whorres too and tend to tell you forgive and accept her, forgive her and maybe have some fun with her or preferably don't waste more time with her and quit the situationship that you have been in. I'm telling you from personal experience, I've fvcked many girls/side chicks/acquaintance and have heard them receive calls from their lover, fiancee and all saying all mushy words I love you and you're my everything and all sort of lies and even their voice sounds so true that I started doubted if the girls were really fvcking me behind their lover's back. Women, girls, ladies? especially with the state of Naija economy bro its not the right time to run these distant relationship. If you want to do it, first make peace with the fact that another bro is drilling her oil well.

You don't talk am finish. Trust no girl.

enemyofprogress:
I don't know why tohyorsih keeps coming to my mind after reading this thread

abeg no start your wahala
baba oloko kekere

i mean farm oo ehen! before you will say i'm a bad gurl

tohyorsih:
abeg no start your wahala
baba oloko kekere

i mean farm oo ehen! before you will say i'm a bad gurl

you bad pass bad. I just dey pity your pussy

pansophist:
All of una being diplomatic and advising to the OP just de vex me. Some things require e-yabbing, and potential physical beating in reality

How on earth did a girl tell you a cousin is sleeping in her house and you believed? Are you that dumb? Even if he is truly her cousin, sexual feelings have no regards for blood relationship, incest is real. Secondly, her cheating wasn't happenstance, but a pre-meditated action, engineered on lies, betrayal, unfaithfulness, disloyalty, playing you along like a stupid cow. It was after she was caught, she apologised, not before. Which means if you haven't caught her, its business as usual. And if you know anything about female sexuality, you'll understand that there is a difference when a man cheats and a woman cheats. Women cheat to go out of a relationship while men cheat to stay. A woman that cheat has basically lost all respect for you, and see you as lesser. It's how women are wired. Women are hypergamous (wired for quality), which means they upgrade to quality partners, while men are polygamous (wired for quantity), we just wanna Bleep regardless of if she is rich or not. See the difference? If she still fuckks a home base guy, that probably do not have the resources and international mobility as you, then well, I can only imagine what kind of man you are.

And the bitter truth? if you are not based abroad, you won't have her in the first place. The only space you occupy in her life is that you've got resources, probably money and a vehicle to transport her offshore. Tell her you've been deported, and those crocodile tears will disappear like Sahara desert. To crown your stupidity, you're here asking if you should forgive her. Also, basing your decisions if they slept 4 times or more , sorry bro, you're stupid. The fact you came to NL to ask shows you're weak, lack self-respect and boundaries, and a classical beta-Male, the kind women use as a last option when their sexual market value has gone down, and no man wants them. You're the kind of man that will train another mans child, because you're too stupid to see women through their bullshit, probably you're low self esteemed, and believe you cant get another girl, scarcity mentality instead of abundance.

I intentionally want this message to infuriate you, vex you, and roller coaster your emotion, and if it does, do yourself a big favour and leave her. Your commitment is your life, that's what men give to women, make it expensive as hell, that only a good woman will earn it, not a cheat that doesn't deserve you. Marrying (commitment) is basically a woman's insurance to her depleting sexual market value, and if you give it to that cheat, you've played to loose, while she played to win.

Guy, abeg. Na you talk sense pass.

Well, seems you still have a part of her in you becasue the wey you dey talk sef.... e just be like say you be MUMU. Anyways, its ALL up to you to decide.

Happy Forgiving

Guy don't send her away like you are being advised to by some people. Just tell her you don't have any problems with her and that she shouldn't mention it to you anymore. In the mean time (while searching for the right one) stop showering her with those lovely gifts or money, pay her little or at times no attention at all and start fùcking her disrespectfully like the bitch that she is. Na she go use her legs run say she no wan do again.

We sin all the time and God forgives us,but in this case I take God beg you don't give her another chance, run for your dear life, you're not God o.

Michelle55:
Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

The bolded quote is false, people should stop making such statement.

starring:
Biko don't pass aggression towards me. What will you allow me do? You are obviously one of the bitter souls on nairaland looking for someone to lash on. If you no get better thing to talk about, kindly shut the fvck up.

Oga O.P.

That girl is a gutter girl.

The reason she's sorry is because she believes you're based abroad and thus you're very financially secure. She will not change....not while you're still with her.

Forgive her but leave. Run as if your life depends on it.....it does any way. Let her go and change in her parents house. Don't be fooled. I'm begging you sir. Don't come back here wailing that you've an unrepentant, serial cheat as a wife because that's what will definitely happen if you wife her.

In fact, she might want to pin pregnancy contracted from her numerous illicit affairs on you (that is if you've had sex with her). You can't be too careful. Many Naija girls are desperate that way.

A word is enough........you know the rest bro.

Peace out

Women use emotions to tie men especially when they are caught pant down. Never give in to her deceitful approach to key your mind. Tell the slut not to ever call, text or disturb your life again. Discard her like trash whom she is. It's her cup of key if she commits suicide. God will not hook the act on you if she eventually did.

OP, am pleading to stop chasing premature ladies whom most of them are still in school. It's all make sense when they say cockroach are more intelligent to some ladies.

pray for wisdom and divine direction on what to do so.as to avoid regret on the long run
please forgive and forget
Life continue bro

still be checking her ,you won't get any better one except you are lucky

[quote author=daddytime post=76810185]Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...

the best reply i have ever seen on nairaland kudos bro.

BlackDBag:

With all due respect, guy, you be mumu. Big time mumu! A girl tells u that a so called cousin is sleeping by her place-someone who did not emanate from the same womb with her-in 2019... and u believed her? You're a complete fool! Wake up! Learn!.

LordAdam16:
Actually, you do deserve a kick in the nuts.

Not because you're contemplating forgiving (and *gasp* forgetting) her transgression. But because even at this point, you're focusing on the irrelevant things. Like how many times she went under the sheets with her "cousin," or the number of rounds, or how her crying fazed you, or how she manipulated you into telling her you forgave her.

For heavens sake you're still considering if she'd attempt suicide. Like dude can you be selfish about romance for once in your life and use your prefrontal cortex instead of your amygdala?

You gave this lady several opportunities to come clean, and she gave you c*ck-and-bull BS every time. Why do you think she didn't admit to it only after she realized you weren't going to buy her crap anymore? Why do you think she cheated on you with her "cousin" only? Everything about this, as you narrate it, points to a cold-hearted b*tch move. This is not a drunk fling with a guy at the bar or a coursemate after a party. This was pre-meditated. Everything from the act to how she'd respond if you had questions.

Which implies that you can't guarantee she wouldn't do it again if she knows she can get away with it. People who stay in relationships like this do it for a specific reason--kids, she's a business partner or you need her for optics, you've f*cked up before and you want to hand her a mulligan or something else (whatever rocks their boat). If you stay because you honestly think she'd change because you caught her, then you deserve whatever f*cked up move she pulls next.

I get it. You care for her. She's been taking advantage of it, and trust me she is still taking advantage of it. Stop being a nice guy to this lady. Become a douchebag. If you decide to stay, expect the worst but hope for the best. If you subscribe to the YOLO anthem, get the f*ck out.

And I'd round up with this, yes it was stup*d of you to believe her cousin tripe. If you're that st*pid at work, you wouldn't have a job.

-Lord

Word bro.

You pulled the words right outta my mouth.

Sorry OP., the guys here are acerbic with their words not cause they hate or envy you but because we feel really hurt on your behalf. Use your cerebrum bro and don't let your limbic system override rationality.

enemyofprogress:
you bad pass bad. I just dey pity your pussy

no pity am abeg na me get my thing

BrokeFucker007:
Don't eat anything she brings or gives you, girls are diabolic. She might want to go the babalawo way, if you know girls you'd be on alert about every of their moves. Guy the best thing you can do now is totally avoid her, don't see her again, they have gone deep into the science world now they don't even need to put it in what you will eat, they can rub it on their face or lips or anywhere or even on you. I swear if you really know some girls you'd know devil has a mentor. She's high risk now due to the situation, if I've got time I would have told you about an uncle of mine that had similar situation like yours years ago, mofo went ahead and married this bitchh, a very good nice guy, the best uncle I ever had now he's dead. Died last week and killed by his wife and the bitch left him and married a white guy now after he caused so much trouble for the sweet guy, it taught me a lot about how destructive women can be. Be very careful and count yourself lucky, God just gave you a sign now the rest is left for you don't Starr disturbing him tomorrow.

God bless you and your family.

My condolences. The guy has left Naija and doesn't know how far our bitches go to hold on to gold mines.

Some even use special oils on their pussy and one sexual session is all they need

starring:
She's 22 yrs.. I'm faithful, I won't have time hoeing around. If I do the same, I don't have any right to be hurt

Take this "L" and wear it on your neck anywhere you go. Congratulations for joining the learner's club... Last last, na heart attack go kill you on top her matter if you no leave am. Girls that age are every body's toys.

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Now you know the truth and it ll set u free. Just play along now. No more commitment simple. Or you are the dumbest fool of the century.

CyberWolf:
Another loser crying here.. Promise her marriage and project her hopes to high heaven, then get another nice girl and marry while she is waiting.. Make sure she finds about it on social media. When she confronts you, tell her that she is a cheat and a fvcking animal.

This guy is really living up to his moniker

tohyorsih:
no pity am abeg na me get my thing

Chat me up baby

olagbola45:
Chat me up baby

i've replied you

Terrible things

If you can't live with the memory, don't risk it.
Nothing can make you forget, but you can chose not to be affected by it; this I'm not sure you are capable of.

Don't rest on the hope that it will not happen again. if it can happen four times, it can happen the 4+Nth times. So, prepare to forgive more.

Your happiness and well being should be the ultimate, NOT what she could do to herself if you leave her.

Never depend on relationship for happiness.

daddytime:
Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...

I find your description of Women and everyone who likes it nuaseating

BrokeFucker007:
Bro anytime a woman tell you how many times she had sex, multiple it by 3. She must have had sex not less than 30/40 times bro. I can testify that nowadays in naija the number of hoes keeps rising daily, almost all the girls I see nowadays are hoes the difference is the price tag and sometimes time and location. Don't try such crap as marrying a girl while you're abroad unless you've made ur peace with another guy or guys lashing her kitten, during service my neighbour Tonia had a fiancee in Spain and we were fucking like crase she later wanted to introduce me to the guy as a friend/neighbour that comes around meeeehn I just couldn't do that the next time she tried to give me phone that the guy wants to talk to me I collected it and cut the call. I was pitying the nigga, he sends money and all to the girl, she tries to share with me but I was raised to not be a Lambert so I decline, I like my own stuff. I told her never to do that again and she never did and the guy called back and she told him that I've left, or should I talk about while her ass is up and I was fucking her she will pick his call and pretend to be asleep and the guy will pet her and say sorry and ask her to go back to sleep and beep him later when she wakes up. Na there I swear say I'll never run any serious thing with any girl that is miles away from me.
Bro all those tears are for one thing, the goodies she gets from you and nothing all, fvck you and ur emotions, she doesn't care and won't. You're just an opportunity for her to get the fvck out of naija, a means to an end, I bet my left balls that if you marry this whorre you will regret it for the rest of your life. then it used to work but nowadays girls have thrown caution to the wind and fvck around for any little reason, too many have becomes coded whorres. A lot of these girls here on nl are whorres too and tend to tell you forgive and accept her, forgive her and maybe have some fun with her or preferably don't waste more time with her and quit the situationship that you have been in. I'm telling you from personal experience, I've fvcked many girls/side chicks/acquaintance and have heard them receive calls from their lover, fiancee and all saying all mushy words I love you and you're my everything and all sort of lies and even their voice sounds so true that I started doubted if the girls were really fvcking me behind their lover's back. Women, girls, ladies? especially with the state of Naija economy bro its not the right time to run these distant relationship. If you want to do it, first make peace with the fact that another bro is drilling her oil well.

Guy no dey do name drop online.

Screwing someone else's partner while the guy thinks you're just a platonic friend is a rite of passage for guys who aren't suffering from onenitis in 9ja. So if you must, use fictitious names before you inadvertently reopen old wounds. After their hoe phase, they usually calm down and become "virtuous" mothers and grandmothers.

-Lord

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

I feel your pain bro cos I'm currently single because of an issue similar to yours.

My advice is that you should damn the consequences and let her go sir.
A cheating or lying wife or husband starts during relationship and not in marriage, you won't be able to forgo the thought of your discovery no matter how hard you try.

And on the other hand, since she's still young, she might have learnt her lesson and would never bleep up again but the chances are slim as I have come to realize that women are easily deceived, so, one misunderstanding between you guys and she could find comfort in the arms of one idiot who had been on her neck for a long time.

Last and most importantly, ask for God's direction on the matter, he'll sure give you insight as to what you should do.

All the best!

starring:
Though nut to crack

I think this has passed our powers here.

Bro, go and see a pastor. Tough nut ke

I'm signing off bro. Your own son pass be careful....

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

Bros, if you don't want to become a murderer, let her go immediately. A word is enough. She's evil.

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Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

If truly she loved you she wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place..she will keep on going back to that guy if you forgive her but this time she will play so smart.

The reason why I don't accept cheaters is because they will never stop cheating even when they are married..it's not your fault that she cheated so move on and find yourself another girl.. though alot of girls are like that but you will still find someone that her pussy doesn't scratch her..thanks.