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babyfaceafrica:
people who mess up,should stay in the room and smell their fart
..for every action ,there is a reaction ......if I don't cheat,why should I continue with a Lady that does shamelessly?...are faithful ladies scarce?

Yeah by your analogy there would be no need for Christ to even come again na since you have become the Mighty judge

Let me just say sometimes people who are quick to label you are the ones who know what they do in the dead of night. The point is there was a period they had issues if your just a girlfriend to someone abroad who hasn’t talked to your made any attempts to materialize that love and you meet someone in the flesh o not a promise but a physical person who is there in the flesh o not computer love you will fall to temptation even mighty Eve mama the mama the only one fell too and gave Adam who we con be stone?

Once a girl cheats on you, just let her go...

solasoulmusic:
Yeah by your analogy there would be no need for Christ to even come again na since you have become the Mighty judge

una don bring religion enter the .matter.. abeg ....everybody should do as they please

PastorandMentor:
Once a girl cheats on you, just let her go...

she didn’t cheat on him they broke up

Had she confessed willingly, without any probe from you, I would have said that you forgive her. But since she had to admit only because you found out Is quite disturbing. She can be forgiven if you want. But the lie and concealment is what I don't like. If you still want to marry her, please, remember that issues like this will still pop up in the marriage.
Another point is that some sexually active persons tend to engage in sex not because they don't love their partners, but rather because the urge is too much on them. So, if you have reason to be away from her for some time, she will likely cheat again.

babyfaceafrica:
una don bring religion enter the .matter.. abeg ....everybody should do as they please

Guys have an obvious double standard

babyfaceafrica:
people who mess up,should stay in the room and smell their fart
..for every action ,there is a reaction ......if I don't cheat,why should I continue with a Lady that does shamelessly?...are faithful ladies scarce?

With the quality of men and logo Benz egbon Ife ni una Carry smallie we sef fit get buddy if your not committed for life pure truth no vexing over girlfriend you broke up with it’s not cheating it’s buffet

Kill her..joking oo

I no even understand how and why una dey mumu for women matter aswear....women wey jabrata for town sotey e don become buy one get two free?

You were/are dating an unrepentant whoring bitch who'd never change. You'd be doomed if you wifed this bitch.

Her actions were premeditated without any recourse or remorse to your feelings.

She isn't sorry for cheating on you...she's mad at herself for getting caught and busted because she'd be losing all the goodies from your end with which she and her original boyfriend were flexing on.

You were just a spare tyre means to an end funding another man's pussy and paying him handsomely for fuckiing his own pussy indirectly.

To the pit latrine girl...her question would be " why didn't I carry my brother along in this work" she'd have a hard time forgiving herself but she has learnt a new lesson for her next victim. Her work for never tear and you for still dey for e-dating (whatever that means). Me I dey live for real world and deal with every issue as such.

For your mind you get babe for Nigeria...how a man who is awoke will buy a story of my cousin slept in my house so so and so time is mind boggling.

The other part wey make me laff come pee for body...na say na the number of times wey she Bleep una come dey argue about...whadaheck? This just gave me an idea to develop an app or meter that could tell how many dickks has gone in and out a pussyy same for a dickk...na you go be my first customer for this amazing product wey I wan invent...

Are there no women in your neck of the woods in the Abroad.

Me thinks only weak men who are looking for some cheap naive girls who they can impress and oppress with whatever opt for this kinda mail order bride arrangement.

Find woman around you wey dey see the same kevel wey your eye dey see marry am you and am go work well because you both know whats up...

Anywhere wey man dey fit make him life get sense na im be him Lagos or abroad o...

Na toilet full the streets pass these days I don tell una...
I hail una...

You must shine eye for today's world like my daughter here...[/quote]

Harddiskng:
Changes - 2pac ft you enimem

Its best you move decisively, no call, no text, cut off all forms of communication that would originate from you. Why?

1) Even if you ever make up with her, there would forever be that 800 pound gorrilla in the room. Trust has been tinted.

2) The energy and time you guys would use to straighten-up the relationship would be better spent on a new babes.

3) If you get pass this, it would seem to her as love based on conditions like she is on probation. She would feel suffocated thus the relationship still heading for the wall.

4) Based on number 1, the lies the deceit; thats just who is she. When people reveal their real selves believe them.

Move on bro, it’s necessary for your peace of mind and overall well-being.

Note: you seem like a good guy-man, a note of advise avoid long distance relationships (LDR are no relationship), never get into a serious relationship with an invisible “friend”

these points solve the op problem.

This is a warning signal bro.God had already delivered you from a future divorce and heartbreaking experience now,please take a long walk from the lady,mine was a bit similar,she also lied that he was her cousin thou I did not take her answer,I was taking for a long ride because I was forcing her to stay in the relationship, I lost my hapiness,energy, passion and joy and it was a hell like experience for me.
I have discovered something in life,"any moment a lady is about to walk away from any relationship, cut your head and place it in her hands, she would still go" the relationship was a no sex relationship and I dated her from my 200l till 400L.But it was an eye opener,I got back my peace,hapiness after an "hell like" experience .

Michelle55:
Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

This coming from a woman is highly commendable. God bless you for speaking the truth.

solasoulmusic:
aunty mi you too

I’d NEVER CHEAT! It’s very demeaning. I love self-respect A LOT. If I don’t want you, I let you go but not without my respect still intact! So sorry I am not you too

forgive and take her back wholeheartedly. She truly loves you.

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

I have been exactly in the same situation before but this one for real is her cousin. Bro, a cheating lady have no conscience and can never change. Though it's hard but after 3 days of comma and several drips it was easy to format her off my brain. Peace

GUY. IF U LOVE YOURSELF PLS AND PLS JUST FOR THE SAKE OF UR FAMILY RUN FOR UR LIFE

TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE.

My question is : are 100% loyal to the girl?

Starter

I for one saw d issue differently; if u are nt married to a lady she is yours yet, she was keenly aware of dt,even doz dt commented above in negation trust me ar nt faithful!!! So my advice wen u love agul,av d wherewithal. Immediately tie d knot den u cn state wat Eva I care!

The truth of the matter. She can't hold her body. E dating doesn't guarantee that your partner will be faithful. These are what comes with e dating. I eill advise that you guess give yourselves a break and space out a little. Start from the beginning and see what happens. However, since you don't love her again, let her calm down. Call her and invite her to a place where tou can break up with her.

Michelle55:
Any girl that can comfortably cheat on her bf can kill, what if you didn't or never found out? You would have continued living a lie and with a cheat.. Nawa oh.
Anyways, forgive her but let her go. In a relationship, it's either you are truly IN or OUT.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.. They only feel remorseful when caught in the act

To be honest. Was the guy really faithful abroad? Just because she didn't catch him does not mean that hr is innocent o. A lot of things may happen abroad. Most especially seeing different races of people and wanting to taste each and everyone of them. But, you may be right o.

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

bro can you swear that you never sleep with another woman since you started dating this lady

There are sm level of betrayal of trust and perhaps love that can’t be taken lightly. This is one.

It’s was a cold and calculated betrayal not once bt severally over a period of time and she still didn’t come clean when she cud makes it’s almost unforgivable.

Forgive Bt let her go is the only logical solution.

Had it been she did it once and confessed, I would have said she will change. Why will she allow a man to sleep over in her house? And she is living alone!
forgive her. What I don't know is if she will change for real or play a more careful game that nobody will ever catch her.
I like ppl that can be truly honest. Such is very difficult to find. Other girls, might do worst and nobody Will ever find out not even there left hand.
Be careful with the person that exposed her. If it's a lady, she wants you in return and might be more dangerous than your GF.
forgive her watch her so closely with no trust and check for signs of true repentance.

starring:
How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

That girl is a diehard liar will do anything or tell any amount of lie just so you don’t leave. If you believe that is love you will only be fooling yourself, you can deduce how she lie seamlessly only to admit after you caught her. Notice she never confessed to any of her fault until she’s caught at each junction if you marry such you will know khaki no be leather. Their deception tricks n deceit is from space.

This has happened to me before with my ex. The distance between her house and my office was not up to 1km. I hardly visited her. One afternoon I just checked on her surprisingly, they were staying in a flat. But i discovered that she and her cousin were sleeping on the same bed. Since that day I was never comfortable with her. One night, around 11p.m. I went to her house to check her. When I got outside of her house, I was afraid to knock the door because of the time I got there. I now waited outside for like 10 minutes, I overheard her voice and her real cousin speaking. I went to look through the window, but the light was off. After sometimes the girl wanted to pick something , she then put on the light, lo and behold both of them were nicked. I did not even tell her. .. after sometimes, she now told me how she was disflowered by her cousin. I now forgave her. They parted way though. But after a month plus, i still discovered that the girl still went to pass a night in her cousin new apartment.. Bottom line,for how long would I pardon her?

wildikeman:
To be honest. Was the guy really faithful abroad? Just because she didn't catch him does not mean that hr is innocent o. A lot of things may happen abroad. Most especially seeing different races of people and wanting to taste each and everyone of them. But, you may be right o.

The issue is more than that. Imagine relative

She won't kill herself ....move on bro

starring:
Good day fellow Nairalanders

I met this girl last year July through a good friend, while I was oversees, we started e-dating and everything went smoothly although, we had series of misunderstandings during December last year but we resolved it afterwards

She called me and told me to me about a particular guy that comes to sleep at her room (she's still schooling), she said the guy was her cousin. I had to believe her because according to her, he is a cousin and I don't think they will be romantically involved in anyway.

The guy slept in my GF's room 3 different times that I'm aware of. He spent 5days the first time, the second time he spent close to a week, the third, he slept and left the following day. She told me each time the guy was visiting, this made me trust her and believed that the guy was her cousin.

My GF and I had a serious argument and misunderstanding this January, my girlfriend's brother had to step in and begged on her behalf. GF's brother and I spoke at length and I used that opportunity to ask my GF's bro about the guy my girlfriend introduced to me as her cousin.

Her brother told me they are not related by blood in any way, that they are JUST close family friends and nothing more and moreso, the guy in question once asked my gf out but due to the closeness of the family, my guy's mum playfully declined the request. Immidately he said this, my blood pressure increased, my heart beat increased 100x faster, one million and one thoughts ran through my head.

Though, I once asked her why the cousin always come to her room and stay longer period of days before leaving, the answer she gave me was that the guy is a serving corps member and whenever he wants to visit his family, he branches to her place and spend some time with her before going home (when I was in Nigeria, I do visit my cousins and spend time with them before leaving so I had no issues with the guy coming over if truly they are related)

To cut the long story short, I asked her about the true identity of the guy, she told me the truth and she swore that they did nothing during her so called 'cousin' numerous sleepovers in her room. I forgave her for lying to me and we moved on.

I got back to Nigeria last month and a source disclosed to me that my GF and her 'cousin' had sex more than five different occasions. (I don't want to reveal my source, my gf is an active nairalander)

I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

I'm so devastated right now. We saw over the weekend, she wasn't feeling too well, I picked her from her school to the school hospital and later brought to my house. She spent the night at my place and begged me all through the night for me to forgive her and that she is truly sorry for the pain she caused me, she also begged in the car with tears and mucus all over her face while I was dropping her off to her place. She said she is a changed person and that her life will be meaningless if I leave and that everybody deserves a second chance.

I honestly don't know what to do at this juncture. I don't tolerate infidelity of any kind more reason why I'm straightforward and loyal to her. I told her I have forgiven her because she wouldn''t leave my car if I don't forgive her. She kept crying and crying making passers-by wonder if I'm trying to kidnap her or something, I felt uncomfortable with the whole situation. The truth is that my heart is far from her the very moment she admitted to having sex with the guy while in a relationship with me. I find it highly disturbing.

How do I leave her without making her hurt herself because she may get herself killed once it's obvious that i am gone for good and secondly, if truly she's changed, is her sin really forgivable and forgettable?

My brother run for your life...the guy will.keep fucking her oh

stevups:
The issue is more than that. Imagine relative

They aren't related by blood o