₦airaland Forum

djon78:
You got it spot on. She doesn't love the guy.
And like you said, men should marry women crazy and madly in love with them.

I was like this mans wife. There was a girl I was madly and crazily in love with then. She was very good looking body wise. But I lost my business and millions in the process due to a very bad investment. This girl no want do again. She broke off. I was really sad.
In fact after that, a part of me died.
After sometime came along another woman.
But this one I didn't really feel her.
But this girl was giving me attention, she was crazy about me.

That was when it dawned on me that man should marry women crazy and madly in love with them. She will do things to make you happy,
All the issue of wife not allowing the husband to touch her won't arise. She will even oversupply the goods.

My cousin also had the same issue. He broke up with the good looking girl he was supposed to marry. The woman he married now too like am very well. Add to that, the guy is doing extremely well, has a manufacturing plant with his products daily used all over the country. I was with them recently and the wife was telling me she is crazy about the husband, although the Husband to dey do strong head, and I was saying in my mind, that's the way it is meant to be for men.

As a guy don't ever do anything with woman wey no like you. That's the ops problem.

Love this....

This is another aspect singles should look out when hunting but can those feminist ever show genuine love esp when they are below their man financially?

Luxed:
You certainly aren’t the kind of man she wants physically. In life, the ones you want might not want you and I’m sure that’s what happened in your wife’s case. She was over 30 like you said and you were the only available option and she had to settle for you.
Time usually makes the least desirable person attractive after spending time together so I wonder why your wife hasn’t looked beyond your face and focus on your heart cos you sound like a caring man.
You can talk about it and try to make corrections. Maybe there’s something about your grooming or dressing she doesn’t like.
I wish you the best cos it’s truly a pitiable situation to feel unloved.

u sound matured I wish to b a friend

cococandy:
You’ve met the type of woman you guys claim to like.
She’s not dependent on you AKA not a gold digger AKA not a leech.
She’s not a woman who loves to use social media AKA not a slay queen.

She’s been a good partner to you like you said. Now you want a slay queen and gold digger? Make up your mind

parrot have come u have a happy marriage but u always liked to scatter pple own wit bad advise why dis? if d guy is not in pains will he put dis up. its eida u give him a advise DAT will help or u shut up. is not compulsory u comment

PaulAris:
And what if she agrees?
What if she says ok to go ahead with the divorce?
What then will you advice him to do?
Tell her its just April fool??

We might all not become rich, or live forever. But whatever you do, find love. Find someone you love and who truly loves you. My mom told me this.
No one deserves to leave this world without experiencing true love. I repeat, I’ll divorce her. We only live once.

Its like you're not physically her type, she might be ashamed of the way you look. As she grows in maturity she will change especially if you continue being nice to her

Mizwisdom:
Its like you're not physically her type, she might be ashamed of the way you look. As she grows in maturity she will change especially if you continue being nice to her

She's been this way starting from their dating. If she wanted to change she would have by now

Hmmmm...Lord, help your people....I understand.

All those relationships we manage when we clearly know the guy got nothing on us. Lord...please help.

Oga, things might change in your old age. Sorry.

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Xaos:
Disgusted at someone she married — the father of her child? Okay. For you to say this, maybe you skipped the part he said she has been / still is a good wife. Or the fact that he ‘only’ isn't a part of her life online.

Oh... You don't know a thing or two about people who hates attention. Is not something you can ‘just’ fathom.

its simple. she's not proud of him because he is not her kind of man, she married him as her last option. she will be committed to the marriage but it will be so loveless and boring.

sacajawea:
Lol As Soon as He said Medical Dr, a Nigerian Medical Dr it is Finished
Those People are Sick Cold People
You are Married to a Sociopath! OP this is Just the beginning

@OP, what happens in medicine , stays in medicine. Most female Drs are proud and have little or no regard for other professionals. Her heart-rob is in the medical training school . Do your findings ! It’s all about class , pride and superiority complex . Wish you luck, bro !

UyaiIncomparabl:
You talk too much.

The fellow behind that moniker is just too fake.

The poster below have nothing reasonable to say.

Turn to the morrow G....u might find the reason....Na advice oooo make e no tu pain u.

all this long story without picture...smh

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

the mumu guy should consider ur point.u nailed it bro....

Me I don't know what to say, I am just confused. Sorry my nairaland brother, this one pass me.

Manage her na.

Abi is she not SUBMISSIVE?

This is what Nigerian men deserve, women that love marriage more than they love them.

As nature will have it, that is what majority of them get.

Better to marry one man and use him to pass time, than to become an evening newspaper.

What exactly is the topic here?

Sho! op you too go far! You can take her matter serious if she decline that she is married to you online.
My Wife no get time for social media so I no fit complain.

OP, if you allow people destroy your wonderful marriage you are on your own..

It didn't take me 2 secs to figure out that your are married to someone with an intelligence quotient far higher than yours...

Who said she doesnt love you?

AntiBrutus:
Manage her na.

Abi is she not SUBMISSIVE?

This is what Nigerian men deserve, women that love marriage more than they love them.

As nature will have it, that is what majority of them get.

Better to marry one man and use him to pass time, than to become an evening newspaper.

What exactly is the topic here?

grow up and act matured u are not a kid

victorian:
So op simply move with the flow in your marriage. Your wife won't leave you.
She's made up her mind to be committed to you . Don't bother your mind about showing u off.

Tonto dikeh that was showing off her husband and their kisses online, where is she today? Lilian esoro? Where are they today? So it's not about showing off.

It's all about commitment and you've got that at home

At least thank God for that.

shut up
those celebs only shows it for publicity

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

U seem to be filled with pride... You want your wife to display everything on social media.... I am also like her, I don't display my achievements on social media..... I

I don't know what to say? I would advise you to hire a detective to monitor your wife and see if she has a private or secret Life you are unaware of.

Also, check your child's DNA to confirm he is yours.

If what you said is true, try and confirm.

Also complain jokingly to her parents. Your daughter is too quiet o! It is as if she does not love me again.

I'm suspecting her trip abroad may signal the end of the marriage. It's as though she married out of necessity and not out of love.

How's your love life? Is it wow or boring? Do you have to beg her before she accepts? Does she ever initiate the move? Is she circumcised?

so i guess social media love is now the real love... some of us just prefer a quiet life

elantraceey:
Things social media do to people..... SMH.

but its weird nah...she's acting funny. even a person who wants a private life won't be this extreme. there's something behind her behaviour.

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

This na case of one chance o!
U beta dey investigate her quietly
Some tin dey go on, her body language dey tell u but u dey ignore am. Hope she no dey act like iron rod on bed? Like just do and go away

Xaos:
Disgusted at someone she married — the father of her child? Okay. For you to say this, maybe you skipped the part he said she has been / still is a good wife. Or the fact that he ‘only’ isn't a part of her life online.

Oh... You don't know a thing or two about people who hates attention. Is not something you can ‘just’ fathom.

been father of her child is jus like Jesus being baptized,to fuitfil all righteousness, attention is totally different from this woman, the mumu guy jus deh deceive himself,she being a good wife if jus to keep her marriage but she dnt love him

I'm here to learn from other people's experiences. It would help me when my time finally comes to get married.

Bro I'm sorry, I have no serious advice for you since I'm not married. God bless you

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
[s]I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.[/s]

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

This is crime and I don't usually advice CRIMINALS

my candid advice, pull out from the social media and see how ur life turns out,

are u the celebrant of social media,

and by d way na u say u want doctor as a wife after all d advice people don talk concerning females been a medical personnel (nurse /doctor) u still no hear, my guy bear ur cross o,


u think say girl way spend 6 years for medical school her life remains desame? go and ask

UjuJoan2:
What is her dating history?

Exactly my thought

When one marries a slùt that has been severely fùcked by all the street guys, what op is going through is inevitable.