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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 11:07pm On Apr 01, 2019
hehe e clear say her parents force her to marry u
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by rockh2065: 11:07pm On Apr 01, 2019
What type of career do you aspire to have? Do you want to be an artist, a business person, or a policymaker?

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by incogni2o: 11:08pm On Apr 01, 2019
I'll love my wife to be like yours.

One Man's food is another Man's poison.

You dont know her value.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Kennydoc(m): 11:08pm On Apr 01, 2019
Xaos:


Disgusted at someone she married — the father of her child? Okay. For you to say this, maybe you skipped the part he said she has been / still is a good wife. Or the fact that he ‘only’ isn't a part of her life online. undecided

Oh... You don't know a thing or two about people who hates attention. Is not something you can ‘just’ fathom.

But it's not just about social media. Even when he gets her a gift, she doesn't feel excited about it.
I couldn't have married that kind of lady. I love people who are expressive and pour out their hearts, and that's one thing I've always encouraged in my relationships.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by opoloba: 11:08pm On Apr 01, 2019
i don think she loves enough for you be her husband. she is obviously not proud of you, she probably married you because she thought time was not on her side


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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Advancedman(m): 11:08pm On Apr 01, 2019
ojun50:
Yr story long

you saw all this befor u guys got married bt wave it out because u love her, my broda u are in it already jst enjoy the marriage.
Out of stupidity.
Perhaps it's her status the immature follow
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by bettercreature(m): 11:09pm On Apr 01, 2019
PaulAris:

I think you gotta trigger her jealous button a lil(ok, a lot maybe). But the aim is to put her in place.
All this mess you facing is cause you've been taken for granted.
So you gotta step up to that position you ought to be, and that is someone that she's got a lot more value and respect for.
All this cries you've been making to her ears about she not going social with you and all that, you really gotta let it stop.
Don't even give a damn about if she decides to tag you or not.
With the less attention and cries you'll be giving her, she's gonna think again before she makes those her nasty moves.
Now this is why most men are fighting hard for men like you to take hold of their balls and not let some lady toss about anytime she wants.
You think if you knew your worth she'd be doing you like this?
Damn, women can identify a needy ass from a Man.
So get your balls together and quit being someone taken for granted!
And hey, get some damn Chicks!
This is exactly what you need to do.Get a female friend
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by handsomeyinka(m): 11:09pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
G
G for GOAT

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Kobicove(m): 11:09pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this ...
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

How dumb can one be...you saw all the signs but still went ahead with the marriage.

When she's done having all the kids she needs she will poison with with a slow acting chemical and she will get away with it cos she's a doctor! undecided
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by IamPlato(m): 11:09pm On Apr 01, 2019
Your Wife Is Already Disgusting to Me... No Love Here At All. Guy Look For A Woman That Loves You And Divorce than One Abeg
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by larryking540: 11:10pm On Apr 01, 2019
OneSentence:

but its weird nah...she's acting funny. even a person who wants a private life won't be this extreme. there's something behind her behaviour.

if u want to know how your wife will treat u wen u marry her check how her mother treats her father, dats the same person u will marry

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Over10(f): 11:10pm On Apr 01, 2019
Not Everyone likes PDA plus you knew all this before marriage so why complaining now, you can't change people that is how she is programmed...and i don't know why i don't believe you are tall, dark and handsome...you seem like all those funny looking men beautiful ladies are betrothed to.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Ceeholdings: 11:11pm On Apr 01, 2019
From my own point of view, I think she is far older than you, go check her real age. That’s why she is acting that way.

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by larryking540: 11:12pm On Apr 01, 2019
Kobicove:


How dumb can one be...you saw all the signs but still went ahead with the marriage.

When she's done having all the kids she needs she will poison with with a slow acting chemical and she will get away with it cos she's a doctor! undecided

no b who go school finish day get sense o ,must u marry a doctor,
most times na doctors day marry doctors, but our brother go put head

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Saintly01(m): 11:12pm On Apr 01, 2019
Unacceptable.
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Doctorfitz: 11:14pm On Apr 01, 2019
Tough one
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by DukeNija(m): 11:14pm On Apr 01, 2019
Gloriagee:
Follow this advice at your own peril. You want her to post on social media that you bought her a new ride. I think you guys have different love languages. Try and meet each other halfway.


The question is what exactly is her love language? She seems to have none.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by OSUigboKiller: 11:15pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?
Lol
What people go through when they marry a bitter girl that has been used and dumped by many and probably, one of her ex is doing very well and she's jealous and bitter about it.
The bitter truth is that, it can only get worse.
Chao
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by larryking540: 11:15pm On Apr 01, 2019
incogni2o:
I'll love my wife to be like yours.

One Man's food os another Man's poison.

Yoi dont know her value.

lol, because u be player na, and the op is not a player,
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by andyanders: 11:15pm On Apr 01, 2019
gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".


You just said my mind. The lady has hidden agenda and could possibly be planning to relocate outside to a guy already overseas.

As a medical personnel, she must have been disappointed by someone and is only managing Op and op is just not getting the message. One day, she will be out from him to meet some of her colleagues overseas hence her reason for showing love to her colleagues about to travel out.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by larryking540: 11:16pm On Apr 01, 2019
OSUigboKiller:

Lol
What people go through when they marry a bitter girl that has been used and dumped by many and probably, one of her ex is doing very well and she's jealous and bitter about it.
The bitter truth is that, it can only get worse.
Chao
just like acrimony
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by RiyadhGoddess(f): 11:16pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?





Oga, there's 100% nothing wrong with ur wife. She just doesn't like PDA that's all. She's just like me, I don't public or media stuff. Don't measure ur wife love by the numbers or amount of ur pictures or both of u pictures or love write up she post online or in public. She loves to keep it low. Oh and there are some ladies like me who hates this Wow wow thing or gushing over presents and all. Till today I still ask myself what's makes some ladies cry during proposal or what makes them emotional when their boyfriend or husbands gifts them. Like is he not supposed to propose before ni or is he not supposed to gift them... Some ladies are naturally not emotional. Please enjoy your home/wife in peace. There's nothing wrong with ur wife. She's 100% normal. Don't create trouble where there's no trouble.
Me as a person don't get moved by anything. Nkan o Jo Mi loju. I hate surprises too. I don't display my family on social media doesn't mean I fell from the sky or hate them...

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Judybash93(m): 11:18pm On Apr 01, 2019
I really can't give any kinda advice since you guys have already spoken about your bone of contention. I am only wondering why you decided to get married to her at the initial stage though...

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Bright9970: 11:18pm On Apr 01, 2019
My brother it means she is managing u
Just for husband sake
She missed her potential husband luck
She see you as a figure head husband

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by bettercreature(m): 11:18pm On Apr 01, 2019
IamPlato:
Your Wife Is Already Disgusting to Me... No Love Here At All. Guy Look For A Woman That Loves You And Divorce than One Abeg
She loves him i think she probably dont like his appearance.Just like a friend of mine he loves his wife more than anything in this world but can never take her out or walk together because of her big tummy

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by DukeNija(m): 11:19pm On Apr 01, 2019
PaulAris:

No matter what, I still won't advice Pkingman to go ahead with divorce
But with everything he has said, it clearly tells that his wife has got plans in which he isn't a part of
That's why she's trying not to put up any trace of both of them online and socially.
Smart! I must say
To the world, she's still single irrespective of the fact that she put up photos of she in her gown.
She's trying so hard to the wifely role so he won't get a slightest clue on that big move
Just like a game of chess (if you know what I mean)
But this "not going social with him" thingy is a huge hole in her plans. I'm sure she's tryna find a way to cover it up, prolly give a good reason.
Like you highlighted, when she goes abroad she's gonna let loose and not bend
They do need counselling.
P.S. All these I wrote could just be a scene that won't play in real life
So the man in question should use his discretion
But, they still need counselling!
Cheers!

This is sooooo true! That woman knows what she’s doing but people won’t understand

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by abogjohn(m): 11:19pm On Apr 01, 2019
Bro beware, she is bringing in a Divorce letter soon.. She doesn’t want too much people to know so people won’t be asking too much.. she just needs the kids

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by DukeNija(m): 11:21pm On Apr 01, 2019
RiyadhGoddess:






Oga, there's 100% nothing wrong with ur wife. She just doesn't like PDA that's all. She's just like me, I don't public or media stuff. Don't measure ur wife love by the numbers or amount of ur pictures or both of u pictures or love write up she post online or in public. She loves to keep it low. Oh and there are some ladies like me who hates this Wow wow thing or gushing over presents and all. Till today I still ask myself what's makes some ladies cry during proposal or what makes them emotional when their boyfriend or husbands gifts them. Like is he not supposed to propose before ni or is he not supposed to gift them... Some ladies are naturally not emotional. Please enjoy your home/wife in peace. There's nothing wrong with ur wife. She's 100% normal. Don't create trouble where there's no trouble.
Me as a person don't get moved by anything. Nkan o Jo Mi loju. I hate surprises too. I don't display my family on social media doesn't mean I fell from the sky or hate them...

She has never posted his picture. Never ever posted his picture. Not even once. He has never posted her picture online.
You think this is normal? Your own wife? Then you are not a smart person. That woman has a game plan. She’s going to dump this man.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by luckygeee: 11:21pm On Apr 01, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:
She's not abnormal. All of her actions are/were premeditated and as thus; are conscious choices she's made overtime.

I can't come to a conclusion on this, but I think (a strong possibility) that your wife doesn't love you. You' were just available for her to make as a choice to salvage her biological clock from waning out.

Just as they say, when the desirable isn't available, you make the available one your choice. I love to show off what I 'LOVE'. So you see, it's tit for tat.

A deep check; She takes pictures, but excludes/crops you out, you tag her, she untags you, you buy her gifts, she cringes and in turn makes you feel worthless, she tells you she doesn't need to show you off to the world to know you both are married. That's a blatant lie from the abyss. In as much as I want to be stingy, nay say cautious with the truth, but I have to let it all out. You're not her fantasy. Forget that part about you being tall, dark and handsome. Beauty is subjective. You may think you're attractive but she sees you below that. How do you people even make love? Is there chemistry?

Another thing, you saw these signs during courtship and still stubbornly had to dive in? You're the architect of your own misfortune. I just hope she hasn't been cheating on you. I won't say she's unemotional, she isn't. (A person with less or little emotion transcends such vibe to people around him/her, they have no feelings). She just doesn't vibe with you. Communicate with her and hear her reasons out. I'm 100% sure it'll be gibberish. If it persists, don't be afraid to lose yourself (meet people and hobnob, and of course, get a side chick who'll heal your heart from the worries your wife gives you wink). Act like you don't care. Flirt a little. She go do normal. You'll worry less eventually. I'm one against cheating, but I wouldn't have people treated like garbage.

PS; I can be very unemotional and non-challant, but this is off the radar. I only show off who shows me off. Say no to one-sided relationships!

The faster you know that humans love opportunistically, the better. wink
In your next life, learn not to be a second choice and don't be afraid to chose rigidly too.
Get a side chick? Home breaker spotted
Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by tolanibae(f): 11:21pm On Apr 01, 2019
This is one of the most educating thread on nairaland so far.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by andyanders: 11:22pm On Apr 01, 2019
RiyadhGoddess:

Oga, there's 100% nothing wrong with ur wife. She just doesn't like PDA that's all. She's just like me, I don't public or media stuff. Don't measure ur wife love by the numbers or amount of ur pictures or both of u pictures or love write up she post online or in public. She loves to keep it low. Oh and there are some ladies like me who hates this Wow wow thing or gushing over presents and all. Till today I still ask myself what's makes some ladies cry during proposal or what makes them emotional when their boyfriend or husbands gifts them. Like is he not supposed to propose before ni or is he not supposed to gift them... Some ladies are naturally not emotional. Please enjoy your home/wife in peace. There's nothing wrong with ur wife. She's 100% normal. Don't create trouble where there's no trouble.
Me as a person don't get moved by anything. Nkan o Jo Mi loju. I hate surprises too. I don't display my family on social media doesn't mean I fell from the sky or hate them...

Now, why is she posting her own pictures on social media and even showing love to her friends on social media, inclusive of her parents and siblings?
Something is wrong somewhere. If she is the type that does not love showing off on social media, then her posting her pictures and that of her parents goes to show that she has a hidden agenda. Why show off herself on social media alone?

The husband is only trying to buy love with the gifts he is getting for her but from her attitude as said by op, she does not appreciate those things because her heart is for someone somewhere. It could be a married man someone outside. She could be buying time and one day, she will be off.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by nadigo(m): 11:22pm On Apr 01, 2019
Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?



My brother hmmn you have the best wife in the world you know why i said this i have the same experience my wife is a medical doctor of over 20 years experience and everything you said here i ve personally experienced with her i want to believe it comes with the occupation
Let her have her space and see your marital life blossom just an advice

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