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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by naturefellow(m): 2:01am On Apr 02, 2019

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

truth is v bitter!

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by ndindiatu: 2:04am On Apr 02, 2019

UyaiIncomparabl:
You talk too much.

Why do u hate reality. If she talks too much u talk ur own

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by CityNGR: 2:08am On Apr 02, 2019

ndindiatu:
Why do u hate reality. If she talks too much u talk ur own

She tells lots of lies

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Bigii(m): 2:09am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:
Oga, you are not tall dark and handsome. Talk true make devil shame.

Anyways I understand what she's going through. Cause I almost got myself entrapped in such kind of marriage but counselling with my Pastor saved me on-time.
I'm not saying u are a bad person, neither am I saying u are ugly but the thing is this : you can be someonelse dream man , perfect and Denzel looking to another woman except your wife. Your wife has the idea of how her ideal man should look like.
Not all women are tall, dark and handsome as their ideal looking man. Some prefer average height, natural for looks with a muscular or athletic body. That's why God created us in different shapes and sizes.
And your wife who got married in her 30s must have seen it all, got heartbroken by the kind of guys, she would have love to marry and settle down with. But reality dawned on her, such guys won't make A good husband to her. Then u strolled along into life, she realised u are serious with marriage. She checked herself, she's not getting younger, what da heck! Lemme marry. I will simply resign my self to this marriage as long as I have a family with him. Who cares about happiness and love. Most marriages sef are just there.
And with what friends will always ring into our ears everyday. Marriage is not about love, it's about marrying a man who is ready and capable to stay married. Just be humble and calm, have your kids and have a business or career going for yourself. That's all. We don't always marry who we wish to marry and here we are with our kids. You cannot be selective anymore, forget about falling in love and just Marry!
That's exactly how your wife feels. She's resigned to her fate with u. She cannot leave u, cos she's determined to stay married. Her happiness is irrelevant as long as she's Mrs.

What a life

In my own case, I stopped myself on-time from marrying the guy who proposed to me, after opening my heart to my Pastor. My Pastor said do I want to be lifeless in the marriage, I said no with tears almost running down my cheeks. He said good, then don't marry him, cos u will regret it. Tell him kindly u simply don't love him, which is the truth. There and then I felt so free and alive, I even felt like hugging the pastor with so much joy! Lol
I told the guy, I'm sorry dear, I can't go thru with it. And I don't regret it. I feel free and alive! . I don't care about my age. I just want to feel at peace wit my soul and being.

Beauty with brain. cool

Make we marry na. I handsome sha carbon copy of John Dumelo, same stature, same look. wink

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by naturefellow(m): 2:11am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:
Oga, you are not tall dark and handsome. Talk true make devil shame.

Anyways I understand what she's going through. Cause I almost got myself entrapped in such kind of marriage but counselling with my Pastor saved me on-time.
I'm not saying u are a bad person, neither am I saying u are ugly but the thing is this : you can be someonelse dream man , perfect and Denzel looking to another woman except your wife. Your wife has the idea of how her ideal man should look like.
Not all women are tall, dark and handsome as their ideal looking man. Some prefer average height, natural for looks with a muscular or athletic body. That's why God created us in different shapes and sizes.
And your wife who got married in her 30s must have seen it all got heartbroken by the kind of guys, she would have love to marry and settle down with. But reality dawned on her, such guys won't make A good husband to her. Then u strolled along into life, she realised u are serious with marriage. She checked herself, she's not getting younger, what da heck! Lemme marry. I will simply resign my self to this marriage as long as I have a family with him. Who cares about happiness and love. Most marriages sef are just there.
And with what friends will always ring into our ears everyday. Marriage is not about love, it's about marrying a man who is ready and capable to stay married. Just be humble and calm, have your kids and have a business or career going for yourself. That's all. We don't always marry who we wish to marry and here we are with our kids. You cannot be selective anymore, forget about falling in love and just Marry!
That's exactly how your wife feels. She's resigned to her fate with u. She cannot leave u, cos she's determined to stay married. Her happiness is irrelevant as long as she's Mrs.

What a life

In my own case, I stopped myself on-time from marrying the guy who proposed to me, after opening my heart to my Pastor. My Pastor said do I want to be lifeless in the marriage, I said no with tears almost running down my cheeks. He said good, then don't marry him, cos u will regret it. Tell him kindly u simply don't love him, which is the truth. There and then I felt so free and alive, I even felt like hugging the pastor with so much joy! Lol
I told the guy, I'm sorry dear, I can't go thru with it. And I don't regret it. I feel free and alive! . I don't care about my age. I just want to feel at peace wit my soul and being .

Those are my exact thoughts up there!

And, personal peace and happiness is always paramount, that's why you see lots of ladies are still single today. Most of them have witnessed lots inatabces of unhappy marriages, and rather choose to be single with bliss. That was a wise decision. I hope the right man comes for you soon!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:22am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:
Are you a teacher?

I'm in the office already. I took this pic in the classroom. Im simply feeling myself . No harm sharing my today's look nah.
Who's asking for your review?

No be only come and get it, nah come and chew it!

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Prec1ous(m): 2:23am On Apr 02, 2019

PrimadonnaO:
That was what she kept telling herself... giving her self all the reasons why you were okay for a husband. But it unfortunately didn't make her love you.

Once, I had a guy who so much wanted us to be an item... he was thinking marriage. He was super cute, all the pastors loved him, obsessively clean and neat, had a wonderful dress sense, was a good dancer, a show stealer, infact. But I couldn't love him. I refused to date him because I knew I wouldn't feel proud having him as a boyfriend. He didn't exude the kind of charisma/confidence I wanted in a man... he was unambitious (there was a time he said if he got a job that paid 60k monthly, he'd be fine. I was cold to my bones the day he said that)... he wasn't intellectual for my liking.

Ordinarily, people didn't see why I couldn't be with him... but he wasn't what I wanted... couldn't explain it to anyone because it would begin to affect how others saw him.

For some reason, you don't match up to your wife's standards (of what her man should be). She doesn't love you. Maybe in the course of time, things would change. But for now, she can't have the world see that she got a "not-so-good" deal. I'm also thinking that you're nothing like her exes. She can't stand the thought that if they were to see who she ended up with, they'd gloat.

OP, this lady just saved me from typing. This is the only comment you need. This is exactly how your wife feel, To her, you are not the ideal "person" she wanted. On a normal day, you will never appear on her menu.

The only thing we don't know is, if she is still shopping but be scared, she is ambitious and you are not cutting it at all.

She still feels she can do and get a better deal. Brace up!

She posts colleagues and not you, she crops you out of photos, every woman will go hyper at a car gift even if they can't drive or have another.

You need to measure up, the problem is you have no yardstick. Your woman is ahead of you, sorry!

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by EdiAbali: 2:25am On Apr 02, 2019

She is a mature woman, she doesn't reason or behave like everother African women

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Mayflowa(m): 2:26am On Apr 02, 2019

ojun50:
Yr story long

you saw all this befor u guys got married bt wave it out because u love her, my broda u are in it already jst enjoy the marriage.

That is a mean thing to say. You don't have to comment

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by ddeola: 2:27am On Apr 02, 2019

Wetin you dey find for social media. undecided

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by InvertedHammer: 2:30am On Apr 02, 2019

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There is nothing wrong with your wife. There a lot of people like that which I happen to be one of them. We are everywhere but nowhere; visible but invisible. Unless her action towards you is questionable, don't judge the love of your wife by the noise of empty barrels on social media.

Contrary to popular opinion, I respect the lifestyle she chose.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:34am On Apr 02, 2019*

EdiAbali:
She is a mature woman, she doesn't reason or behave like everother African women

Oga be honest, shes just using the man, I think when it's time to relocate abroad, she might even file for a divorce. No matter how introverted a woman is, as long she's on social Media, SHE WILL DISPLAY HER WEDDING PISHURE, unless she never liked her husband in d first place

What the op is worried about is how unappreciative the woman is, I for example, if I dislike you, even if you give me ur whole wealth, it won't change my behaviour towards you. but the difference between I & others, is I tell it to ur face, why I dislike them as am not the patient type. The ops wife dislikes him, but tolerates him cause he is the only available option right now, but she does not love the op nor his money, gifts etc

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by midnighter(f): 2:40am On Apr 02, 2019

Chubhie:
That's the spirit of Bree van de kamp in your wife. No public display of affection.

Lol! but her rigid behaviour cost her her marriage though, from the beginning of the series. the guy was so bored

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Ceereeab: 2:50am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 2:57am On Apr 02, 2019*

Quit being needy, you’ve got the perfect situation going for you. Flirt with other girls, take pictures of you with them and post them online to see how she would react. Also stop wasting your money buying her gifts, spend that money on your sugar babe. If she doesn’t get jealous then she’s definitely cheating on you.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by kayceephotizo(m): 2:57am On Apr 02, 2019

[quote author=gaby post=77158595]Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".[

You just spoke my mind. Tnk you

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by AgreatMan: 2:59am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

I have a cold gf like that, n she is in her finals in a medical school. Nothing moves her. No appreciation. No smile. But d only thing that can kill her if we don't chat for a day. U need to find your wife's weak point n utilize it. N just like yours, she has never posted our pictures on social media. But she is not ashamed of me tho, I actually feel embarrassed by her public hands holding n all. So, d pic don't bother me.

To a large extent, I was able to correct her cold attitude by giving her a mix of attitude n good behavior but I guess it is easier before marriage.

Nobody was born cold, they just haven't met d right mad man.

Women love a guy they can't understand. U r way too nice n predictable n too scared she might leave. U probably share all your personal life with her, let her always know that there's more u r not telling. Don't just spread out your life in front of her, and say "this is all I am."

Instead of buying a car, why not take her to Uganda to watch some wild animals? When she shouts about u tagging her, why don't u apologize genuinely only to go back n tag her d next day? Instead of buying her gifts, why don't u buy gifts for every nurse in her department n share it while not buying your wife anything. She seems to like sex, why not deny her a few times without making it look on purpose or try a different venue or parts of d house? Women want something fresh everyday. Something fresh could also mean a little madness. It doesn't matter, as long as it is fresh.

D only big issue is that your wife's character is not consistent.

Could her plan to leave Nigeria involves also dumping u?

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Creampro: 3:04am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

Since you are a social media person, show off your own pictures with your wife. Display you and your wife,

If she doesn't like to display, that's her own choice..she may not be a social media display person.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by maxweb(m): 3:05am On Apr 02, 2019

Lemme break it down for you.

Your wife is either a deeperlifer cool

Or she needs some pretty mind blowing fucking that will reset her brain.
Better pray its the first one.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by 2shure: 3:08am On Apr 02, 2019

Baba move along
Go dey fuc someone else
Nigerian women are useless,proud and ungrateful.
Baba divorce am.
Shes an expired bitchh

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by kunkelhanspeter(m): 3:11am On Apr 02, 2019

You should have uploaded your pictures bro
Make we see if you fine or not
How can ur wife upload her male friends co workers pictures and she can’t do the same to you bro something is going on

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Iwanttoto1: 3:17am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:
Amen my Sis.
Don't mind him, he's the blackmailing type.

It's not like he spent a dime on u. But he simply used emotional blackmail on you. Thinking with such attitude u will go back to him. Smhhh
I'm glad u didn't allow him push u into changing your decision

Do u know there was even one guy like that, weve not even started dating o. He simply wooed me and I was like lemme think about. I didn't really fancy him, lemme not lie but I felt telling him no! Outright will not be the right thing to do.
So I said lemme think about it, gimme til next week. Before next week I sent him a message : sorry we can't date. I'm not feeling your looks.
The guy called my line immediately and said I have crushed his heart. Tears are falling from his eyes, have just ruined his day. He fell in love with me the first day and he thought am already his. I looked at my phone and I was like in my mind, is this guy OK?
How can i be yours, when I said lemme think about it.

He was like he's so heartbroken, he can't even continue work today anymore and he started talking like he was crying. Then he cut the call.

I say na WA o.. See me see trouble! We never start and he's crying or pretending to cry, God abeg o! Thank God I didn't date him o or even collected a pin from him.

Can u see how manipulative some guys can be? How much more yours?

See this ugly dierty thing claiming fine girl. Una go use snapchat filter come here dey claim, i am not feeling your looks. Get d hell outta here. Mate

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Originalsly: 3:24am On Apr 02, 2019

Bro....as I see it.... some your wife had certain goals in life.... have a career... to be financially independent... to marry and have kids. I guess up to age 30 the type of guy she was hoping to marry... that type been disappointing her... been burned too many times. What type?.... my guess ..above everything else... a fair complexioned guy. That types burned... so she turned to your type... dark... and with her age rushing to the point of no return... she grabbed on to you. She is not asso iating herself with you on social media because she is not proud of your shade.... she is not excited about gifts because from jump... she needs nothing from a man... she can get it herself... she is not showing love not emotions because she is in a relationship of convenience...not love. You have a housemate... not a wife. The thing is... you knew this before you plunged int the marriage.... you're in bro.... make the best you can....for the children's sake.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by forexprophet(m): 3:27am On Apr 02, 2019

Honestly... This are symptoms of psychosis. Take to hospital other wise it will turn to full blown madness soon. THE SYMPTOM IS CALLED SOCIAL WITHDRAWAL...

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Iwanttoto1: 3:31am On Apr 02, 2019

@ Pkingman

Op abeg uploads your pixtures so we fit judge better. I want understand wetin make the woman dey shame for you.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by midnighter(f): 3:39am On Apr 02, 2019

bettercreature:
She loves him i think she probably dont like his appearance.Just like a friend of mine he loves his wife more than anything in this world but can never take her out or walk together because of her big tummy

Lol

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by dfrost: 3:40am On Apr 02, 2019

StPete:
OP this matter is verrrry simple. She doesn’t like the attention ba? Good!
Find another person that you would paint all over social media, make her jealous. Ignore her completely as she doesn’t want the attention. Stop buying her gifts, play your part as a man in the home but with almost total disregard of her existence. Do not take her out, tell her about events you go to and how some ladies are dying for your attention. Then watch how she will begin to crave for you. Do this not just one week. Do it consistently for at least 3 months until she practically begs you and then turn the table around for her to recognize you in all her social media handles and every other way you think you deserve

The wife will kill him. Simple. A medical personnel? A surgeon? I reserve my comment.

OP, go and make your marriage work.I don't listen to one sided stories.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by donprinyo(m): 3:41am On Apr 02, 2019

Of course u knew what u were putting urself into. Take heart broda, love ain't by force. Either u end de union or manage de relationship and see a marriage counsel where u can know how she really feels and let her know urs.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by dfrost: 3:43am On Apr 02, 2019

bettercreature:
She loves him i think she probably dont like his appearance.Just like a friend of mine he loves his wife more than anything in this world but can never take her out or walk together because of her big tummy

I see no love there. You only love when you are proud of people, regardless of their conditions, physically and otherwise.

Only big tummy? So if he has a drooling child he won't take him out?

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by MadCow1: 3:50am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

Has the thought that maybe she just does not like to display her family on social media crossed your mind?

There are people like that you know.. Some people like to keep certain aspects on their lives away from social media (especially their kids). I know a girl who is married and she posts photos of herself always on social media but none of her husband and or kids. She is a fantastic wife and mum though and has a healthy family.

I'm concerned for your mindset (from what I can gather from the post) because you have also implied that she is a great partner (which might also translate to a great mum as well). Dont let something as trivial as social media ruin what you seem to describe which is "a good marriage". You need to find out what is more important to you, a healthy home or to display to your friends and family your life/lifestyle..

On the issue of gifts, I feel like it may also be just all in your head. It sounds like she earns more than you (which is what I can gather from your post) and also likes alot of fine things. So it might appear that when you buy her something (which to you is special and which it might also just be), you expect a greater show of appreciation than you can read off of her. I'm not saying you are wrong, I'm just saying if my thought process on this is right, it might just all be your "inferiorities" getting the better of your mind. My advice is keep being the best husband you can be to her and the best father to your kids. Forget about the social media nonsense, it actually doesn't matter in the brand scheme of things. Keep showing her love and I pray everything works out in the end for you.

From where I'm sitting smoking this very nice E-gbo that I bought from my dealer Musliu, who by the way is owing me 80naira change and two rizla, I beg you to please get over this nonsense and go be make the best marriage you can. If to say you dey live near me I for send you go meet Musliu make ehn take my change give you 1 wrap to reposition your mind and remind you of the more important things of this life than social media.

By the way, if she is a Benin girl or schooled in UNIBEN, it might just be winch problem. In that case I advise you to first use bible (king James Version with hard cover back) knack her for head until she faint. Then tie her rope, pour her olive oil then carry her go meet Apostle Suleiman on Thursday deliverance warfare service.

Thanks.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Magic1: 3:50am On Apr 02, 2019

[quote author=UyaiIncomparabl post=77159344]She's not abnormal. All of her actions are/were premeditated and as thus; are conscious choices she's made overtime.

I can't come to a conclusion on this, but I think (a strong possibility) that your wife doesn't love you. You' were just available for her to make as a choice to salvage her biological clock from waning out.

Just as they say, when the desirable isn't available, you make the available one your choice. I love to show off what I 'LOVE'. So you see, it's tit for tat.

A deep check; She takes pictures, but excludes/crops you out, you tag her, she untags you, you buy her gifts, she cringes and in turn makes you feel worthless, she tells you she doesn't need to show you off to the world to know you both are married. That's a blatant lie from the abyss. In as much as I want to be stingy, nay say cautious with the truth, but I have to let it all out. You're not her fantasy. Forget that part about you being tall, dark and handsome. Beauty is subjective. You may think you're attractive but she sees you below that. How do you people even make love? Is there chemistry?

Another thing, you saw these signs during courtship and still stubbornly had to dive in? You're the architect of your own misfortune. I just hope she hasn't been cheating on you. I won't say she's unemotional, she isn't. (A person with less or little emotion transcends such vibe to people around him/her, they have no feelings). She just doesn't vibe with you. Communicate with her and hear her reasons out. I'm 100% sure it'll be gibberish. If it persists, don't be afraid to lose yourself (meet people and hobnob, and of course, get a side chick who'll heal your heart from the worries your wife gives you wink

). Act like you don't care. Flirt a little. She go do normal. You'll worry less eventually. I'm one against cheating, but I wouldn't have people treated like garbage.

PS; I can be very unemotional and non-challant, but this is off the radar. I only show off who shows me off. Say no to one-sided relationships!

The faster you know that humans love opportunistically, the better. wink

In your next life, learn not to be a second choice and don't be afraid to chose rigidly too.

You talk too much, much more than the person you accused of talking too much.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 3:50am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

You are the one that has problem. Did you marry her on social media? You want to force her to do what she doesn't like. Where did you read that when your wife doesn't post your pictures on social media, it mean she is not proud of You? You need to have your head checked.

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