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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Meliaen(f): 9:26am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:

Amen my Sis.
Don't mind him, he's the blackmailing type.

It's not like he spent a dime on u. But he simply used emotional blackmail on you. Thinking with such attitude u will go back to him. Smhhh
I'm glad u didn't allow him push u into changing your decision

Have we met before, fine lady? cos you are so so right!. I can't forget the statement he made that made me decide I was done. It was an utter, wicked one meant to blackmail me. That aside, my ex was almost perfect.

- If you want a problem solver, he's all of that. I mean, what most would see as a challenge, he would squash.

- If you want a hard worker, a responsible man, he's all of that. He's the type that would put family first. Ex was a hustler in real time. There was nothing he couldn't do. Why he's very successful till this day.

- If you want a honest man, he's all of that. Integrity is very important to him.

- If you want a generous man. My ex was too generous and altruistic.

- If you want a man who keeps his word, he was all of that. There was nothing he said he would do that he didn't. For 8 years, we talked everyday when we weren't together.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by MARKone(m): 9:27am On Apr 02, 2019

Guy that woman na Angel hold on tight don't let go.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 9:29am On Apr 02, 2019

stuffs4me:

Did you even read the OP at all or you Dont understand simple English.

How can she be an introvert and she posts pictures of herself online after cropping out her husband.
How can she be an introvert and she posted pictures of herself alone in a wedding gown.
How does an introvert post pictures of her herself and her baby and even her siblings on social media but reduces to post pictures of her husband.
How does an introvert go online to wish her colleagues happy birthday with warm and nice messages but refuses to do same for her husband.

U ddnt add the part where she would get angry and tell the husband not to tag her when he post her pics celebrating her.....she's mad.....very mad...
He's even wasting time buying this kind woman a car......all she needs is to be strategically snobbed so that she can have a feeling of what it looks like without the man...if that doesn't work the dude should dump her sharp, sharp....theres no pint living with a woman that doesnt like u enuf to bw seen with you...
women like these can silently poison a man to be free from marriage when they are ready to walk away

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Meliaen(f): 9:33am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:

He was like he's so heartbroken, he can't even continue work today anymore and he started talking like he was crying. Then he cut the call.

I say na WA o.. See me see trouble! We never start and he's crying or pretending to cry, God abeg o! Thank God I didn't date him o or even collected a pin from him.

Can u see how manipulative some guys can be? How much more yours?

This one is a needy psycho. Nobody should be with anyone like that. Not even for a second.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by OG1BABY(f): 9:33am On Apr 02, 2019

Xaos:
Clone her phone. If you can't, then clone all her SM accounts. If she's hiding something you will know.

But before you do, I want you to know

— you wouldn't find anything.
— your wife isn't ashamed of you or something like that.

It's just that she really, really, really hates attention.
I myself I am programmed that way.
Your wife is a mirror image of myself.

But please do clone her SM for your satisfaction.

Please, how do you clone a phone and how can one detect the ones phone has been clone? Waiting for your response. Thank

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Ezi1993(f): 9:36am On Apr 02, 2019

UyaiIncomparabl:

You talk too much.

loolz

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by OILOFGLADNESS: 9:36am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

YOU ARE MISSING IT

SHE IS JUST A RESERVED PERSON

MARRIAGE IS BETWEEN TWO PERSONS

ALOT OF PERSONS DONT LIKE SOCIAL MEDIA PICTURES SHARING

MY DEAR YOU HAVE NO PROBLEMS AT ALL

BUT IF YOU REALLY WANTS IT, KINDLY DISCUSS IT WITH HER AND KNOW HER REASONS

BUT SHE HAVE BEEN LIKE THAT EVEN WHILE YOU WERE DATING.

SHE IS AS UNIQUE AS I AM, I DONT ALSO DO THOSE SHIT................................

SHE DONT POST AND SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO POST HER EITHER ( ITS A TWO WAY THING... SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SHARE UR PIX ANY HOW)

BUT NOT AS EXTREME AS SHE IS.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by superboiz: 9:40am On Apr 02, 2019

Acidosis:

You're missing the point here. Someone hardly want to go out with you, hardly appreciate your gifts, refuse to upload your pictures, crop your head and body out of pictures showing you both, refuse to celebrate your birthday in the guise of privacy while showcasing your seeds (small children), her co-Doctors and siblings to the world.

Read the summary above and accept the truth. If same is done to you, you wouldn't like it even if you're world most private person.

How pesin go upload picture of bride in her wedding dress on Facebook, and crop the head and body of the groom?

Lol, OP, if you don't do the needful, I don't see how your marriage can survive o.

The answer to OP is silence.

I have used silence to get many of my gf jealously at me.

Even currently at my place of work there is war between two women, one about 7ft and huge and the other abt 4ft

But the 7ft woman was having a different thought about me and was going for another guy because i have no weight. She will always want to fight me pushing me like a kid then I switched on my silence button.

Now, she is begging seriously.

Now the OP's wife doesn't see him as a husband material and he should not try to have any side chick and make his wife to know. That might open the cheating door and the op would be on the loss.

I had a girl and by all standard she is very beautiful and have a great body that many men wont muster the courage to go talk to her.

She campaigned me to the people of the yard as her love and even fought my landlady who always resisted her coming to see me.

I am 5ft plus and no weight lol & not too many people respect me.

One day I tried to take her a shot with my phone and she refused. I kept calm and we were going on with our love, so to speak.

Now the problem is I don't last on bed with her, highest is 3 seconds. I was so depressed and she is hating me for this. I didn't know whose fault it was. I have only relocated to this house and met her. Funniest thing is that even with Samsu oil no improvement. We were sharing the same yard but different landlord. I never wanted her to see me with another woman. She cooks well and I always enjoy her cook.

I had to muster the courage and called one of my babe in my previous yard. Without any samsu oil, I blew this babe head on 1hr plus after the first 7mins of the first round.

Took pictures of this babe with phone and even made it a wallpaper on my laptop.

This girl unfortunately met me with the woman from the other yard and was very angry. She even wanted to sex with my brothers although i don't know if she succeeded.

I have moved out to a different an estate courtesy of YOUTUBE n AFFILIATE marketing without her knowing my new location.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by KevinDein: 9:42am On Apr 02, 2019

Meliaen:

Good question. My ex was obsessed with me. He literally never wanted me out of his sight and did everything to keep me around. A few times I tried breaking up but he begged me each time. I wasn't even working when we broke up so money was never the issue.

His undoing was his positivity. Ex was sadly too positive for his own good. He believed I loved him and I often wondered in my head, "what kind of man is this". Ex would tell me he knows I love him so much. He still believes this. Never have I come across a man like him. You see all these things @Op posted, you'll never find my ex doing such or giving it a thought despite the fact that the handwriting is on the wall. That's who he is. Too positive. Too confident.

Your ex has all these positive qualities but he was a turn off to you .

I swear to god you ladies are genuinely confused. Woe to men who take you guys serious. grin

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by trappatoni(m): 9:42am On Apr 02, 2019

UyaiIncomparabl:

If she so much hated attention, she wouldn't even post pictures of herself nor have agreed to take pictures. A person who doesn't like attention lives a private life online and offline. In her case, she's disgusted at him.

sense will not kee you.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by hausadreturn(m): 9:45am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:
Oga, you are not tall dark and handsome. Talk true make devil shame.

Anyways I understand what she's going through. Cause I almost got myself entrapped in such kind of marriage but counselling with my Pastor saved me on-time.
I'm not saying u are a bad person, neither am I saying u are ugly but the thing is this : you can be someonelse dream man , perfect and Denzel looking to another woman except your wife. Your wife has the idea of how her ideal man should look like.
Not all women are tall, dark and handsome as their ideal looking man. Some prefer average height, natural for looks with a muscular or athletic body. That's why God created us in different shapes and sizes.
And your wife who got married in her 30s must have seen it all, got heartbroken by the kind of guys, she would have love to marry and settle down with. But reality dawned on her, such guys won't make A good husband to her. Then u strolled along into life, she realised u are serious with marriage. She checked herself, she's not getting younger, what da heck! Lemme marry. I will simply resign my self to this marriage as long as I have a family with him. Who cares about happiness and love. Most marriages sef are just there.
And with what friends will always ring into our ears everyday. Marriage is not about love, it's about marrying a man who is ready and capable to stay married. Just be humble and calm, have your kids and have a business or career going for yourself. That's all. We don't always marry who we wish to marry and here we are with our kids. You cannot be selective anymore, forget about falling in love and just Marry!
That's exactly how your wife feels. She's resigned to her fate with u. She cannot leave u, cos she's determined to stay married. Her happiness is irrelevant as long as she's Mrs.

What a life

In my own case, I stopped myself on-time from marrying the guy who proposed to me, after opening my heart to my Pastor. My Pastor said do I want to be lifeless in the marriage, I said no with tears almost running down my cheeks. He said good, then don't marry him, cos u will regret it. Tell him kindly u simply don't love him, which is the truth. There and then I felt so free and alive, I even felt like hugging the pastor with so much joy! Lol
I told the guy, I'm sorry dear, I can't go thru with it. And I don't regret it. I feel free and alive! . I don't care about my age. I just want to feel at peace wit my soul and being.

Nice epistle.
How convenient for you to have said ''oga you're not tall, dark and handsome''. Nawa o.

Secondly, why did it have to be a pastor that advised you on marriage before making the next step?

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Meliaen(f): 9:46am On Apr 02, 2019

KevinDein:

Your ex has all these positive qualities but he was a turn off to you .

I swear to god you ladies are genuinely confused. Woe to men who take you guys serious.

Don't insult me. I don't take insults lightly. My ex wasn't a turn off. That's disrespectful to say. Mind your mouth.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 9:46am On Apr 02, 2019

tete7000:

But love can be elicited, do you believe? I can make one who initially didn't love to start loving me. The real problem with many people is not that they can't begin to love but they are deeply enshrined in negative belief. If a woman believes no matter how much she loves a man she shouldn't show it, then it is their the problem lies. You need to change such a person's mindset before you expect any love from such an individual. To marry a person, one needs to explore the individual mindset, to know whether their belief system tallies with what one believe. The scripture says "Can two walk together except they agree?"

God bless you.....u don't have to be crazily inlove with someone to return a gesture of kindness or affection....it just normal human nature....the woman is snake ....she has poison in her soul......but she knows how to spread legs like rumour when she needs sex....she's a user and an opportunistic, selfish person.
It might be to early for divorce..but I would have walked away from that marriage if I were the guy...

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by rOsy247(f): 9:49am On Apr 02, 2019

Just imagine. She's a good partner yet you complaining of her not showing u off on social media. How's it a problem? Many who show off where are they today? The Tonto, the tiwais, etc. Humans and their insatiable wants.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by ghettochild4u(m): 9:50am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

You married an emotionally broken women...who has decided to see life as it comes.. Then u came into her life... My bro..u saw all these signs while u were dating.... Yet u marry am...
Na ur cross ooo. Just carry it.. No one will carry for u!!!!
If u r not feeling all shes doing I bet u divorce her.. Am sure she won't even act excited or worried cos that's how she's built herself to every situation..
U can even prank her about a divorce...u will see how indifferent she will be..
Well u married a robot/statue has a wife... Deal with it

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by newdawn2017(f): 9:51am On Apr 02, 2019

Ishilove:

Some people are very sensitive about their spouses. Like I mentioned previously, I have online friends whose husband's I have never seen in all their years of marriage, but I see other aspects of their lives.

Is d op asking for too much? Mbok d lady is ashamed to be associated with him, & doesn't ve love for him. undecided

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by onulakak(m): 9:54am On Apr 02, 2019

Pkingman:
HELP! My Wife Is Abnormal

Hello house, Pls I need mature advice on this issue.
I had to create this account as to remain anonymous.

I've been married for 2 years plus, with a son and expecting another.
The problem is that my wife is not proud of me, not proud to be associated with me and does not show excitement concerning me or gifts that I buy for her.. She is just too plain, too emotionless.

It started from our dating days.. We dated for a year plus.. She never wanted people to know about us. Always hiding me. As if the relationship was a secret. She never asked me for a pin.. I was happy she wasn't the demanding type.
When I proposed to her, I expected her to go over the moon, show excitement and flood social media with pictures.. But no way.
She was just mute and calm about it. She didn't even accept the idea of pre-wedding pictures when I suggested it.. Said it wasn't compulsory, she doesn't have time and energy for that..Few weeks later, she uploaded very beautiful studio pictures of herself alone in nice clothing, shoes, accessories on her facebook timeline without any caption about getting married or love.. Nothing about me at all.

Wedding came... She opted for a small quiet wedding.. Although we could afford a big wedding.. I was surprised.. So unfeminine... Women always prefer loud crowded weddings to show off.. She was supposed to be extremely excited as she was getting married esp at over 30 years when a woman is considered by societal standards to be hopeless and too old for marriage but no! She went about the whole festivities like nothing special was happening to her.

After the wedding, she didn't upload our wedding pictures on social media like normal women do. I then uploaded few pictures of us and tagged her. She immediately untagged herself and told me I could post whatever I wanted without necessarily tagging her.
Months after, she uploaded 2 pictures of herself alone in wedding gown and traditional attire.. None of mine till date.
She doesn't have any picture of me or us together on her facebook profile, she doesn't upload any picture of me or us on her whatsapp. It's always her picture alone or with our baby or her parents and siblings.
She hardly even takes pictures with me at social functions. She prefers personal pictures. Sometimes, she will even crop me out of her pictures and post only herself. She just keeps going on as if I don't exist. When I ask her why, she says she doesn't need to display me online to know she is married to me.
On my birthday, she didn't wish me HBD on any social media platform but she uploaded pictures of her 2 male colleagues at work(she is a medical doctor, a surgeon in training and planning to relocate abroad soon) and wished them HBD, wrote nice things about them.
Back home, all I got was a small get together, cake, drinks and gifts but I would have preferred to be acknowledged online as well. On her birthday, I dare not show her off or say anything on social media, she won't find it funny.. She prefers everything we do is private.
The part that breaks my heart is her attitude towards gifts.. When I met her, she was working, earning big, lived alone and had a car.I was happy she wasn't demanding or greedy... But I noticed if I buy her something, she just coldly thanks me and that's all. I am an Architect, working in a firm and also into private jobs.. I recently completed a project and was paid in millions.. I thought I should surprise my wife so I bought her a new car(an SUV).... She acted so plain.. Just said thank you and that was all.. Instead of displaying it all over social media platforms, write lovey dovey epistles about me and celebrate me like other women do.

By all standards, I am handsome, tall, dark, educated, nice guy, well to do, so why is she not proud to show me off?
Why does she not want me to show her off?

In all fairness, she has been a very nice partner so far but why this cold abnormal attitude ?This is not how women ought to behave.
I am getting tired already,i have discussed this with her but she doesn't wish to change.
What could be wrong with her?

Bro i have a wife like that too, but guess what, she is only trying to protect you, she loves you so very much. my wife doesn't post my pictures and pictures of our baby or any of her family. but she is most loving person i have ever seeing.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by famzynet: 9:56am On Apr 02, 2019

This is already long. Hope you will see my advice.
Your wife simply loved someone or hoped on someone but was broken hearted. She possibly wanted a different man from you but was disappointed.
She is likely not cheating on you but she does not appreciate you. Most female doctors are too occupied with the job to have time to cheat. The fear of what they may contact and the implication also turns them off from cheating in marriage. I know because I work with a lot of them.
But that does not change the fact that your wife does not see you as her man she should be proud off. This is not good for marriage especially considering the fact that she is planning on traveling abroad where the culture empowers women more,where she is likely going to be more financially OK than you( she go blow financially abroad as a doctor), where divorce and re-marrying are so easy.

What will you do?
You need to start now she is still in Nigeria so that she will know you made your stance before the two of you relocated( yes,embassy gives you working visa once your spouse gets work there). I feel you have over pampered her and you have lost your self esteem in the marriage. It is not late to amend things. You need to bring out the jealousy in her. Don't flirt with another woman as that may worsen things. But reduce the attention you give to her. Before you do so,take her out for dinner in a quite place where the two of you can talk. Bare your mind to her that you feel she does not love you and that you are sorry if you don't meet up to the standard of man she wanted. Tell her that you have tried to capture her love over these years but that it is very obvious she abhors you. Tell her she hurts you by her attitude but that you still love her and will be there for her always. But that she has to be proud of you as her husband. After that,withdraw attention from her. Let her know you can decide not to give her the attention she has been receiving. Possibly limit intercouse with her or even if you engage just pretend you are absent minded in the act. If you play your card well ,she will become suspicious that maybe you are seeing another person. Women hate competition. This will bring out the jealousy spirit in her and she may want to make amends. It may take up to a month before she may show concern. Possibly tell her you are deleting her pics from your Facebook page if she can't reciprocate and do delete them unless she uploads your picture.
Who knows the shakara she did in school and maybe she is ashamed of being mocked by her friends.But you need to reset her brain. Why marry you if she can't show you to the world?
Don't allow your wife take you for granted. She won't want to divorce you but she must learn to acknowledge you.

But please do find out from her why she does not post your pics online. She could have her reasons which may be genuine. It could be to protect you from kidnappers grin

personally,I don't like my wife show casing my pics on Facebook. One or two simple pics of me with sweet words that tells everyone I am her man is sufficient.

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 9:57am On Apr 02, 2019

OILOFGLADNESS:

YOU ARE MISSING IT

SHE IS JUST A RESERVED PERSON

MARRIAGE IS BETWEEN TWO PERSONS

ALOT OF PERSONS DONT LIKE SOCIAL MEDIA PICTURES SHARING

MY DEAR YOU HAVE NO PROBLEMS AT ALL

BUT IF YOU REALLY WANTS IT, KINDLY DISCUSS IT WITH HER AND KNOW HER REASONS

BUT SHE HAVE BEEN LIKE THAT EVEN WHILE YOU WERE DATING.

SHE IS AS UNIQUE AS I AM, I DONT ALSO DO THOSE SHIT................................

SHE DONT POST AND SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO POST HER EITHER ( ITS A TWO WAY THING... SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SHARE UR PIX ANY HOW)

BUT NOT AS EXTREME AS SHE IS.

Be sincere, tell me the truth ...did u even read the OP's complain fully...or u just commented based on the thread topic and small surface reading...cos if u did...u will see where he said she posts pics of herself very well, and also her colleagues at work wishing them well, and even crops the husband's image out when ever she wants to post a fine picture but the husband is on it...to top it all up if the man post her picture on his own face book he will get angry the man is tagging her ...whats she angry about in tagging...we all know what happens when u tag someone....

I don't think a woman that doesn't like someone enuf to the to be seen with the person is worthy of being in a relationship with that person let alone marriage...

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by humilitypays(m): 9:58am On Apr 02, 2019

futuremoma34:
Op,me too, I kno like to they show my husband for social media Ooohhh... Because I believe say, if I do am, evil eyes go see am. I absolutely like the way your wife is doing. Social Media love is not true love. True love is not on social media

its not the issue of posting her husband's pics on social media that's the problem, me don't even accept any lady I am dating on social media and my fiancé is not my friend on Facebook, she sent me request since 2yrs ago and I haven't accepted, she has complained and got to understand that I am not a social media person cos I last posted on my Facebook a day to the presidential election day and before that day it was in 2016 I posted last and I have no single pix on fb.

But his wife don't appreciate it when he buys her a gift, a car, SUV, she didn't show any excitement, that's the day I will emotionally divorce her if I am the hubby.

During courtship, he said the same wife don't like being seen with him, she hides their relationship, hides their marriage, avoids taking pictures with him at social functions offline, so what are they doing as husband and wife

Having sex inside the room and manufacturing babies without love

The guy would have been better having a babymama na, haba!

My fiancé is an introvert, she last posted pic on her Facebook in 2015, I knew cos I have access to her fb, email, etc, but she likes showing me off offline, I am the one that usually hide cos I hate public show.

She always insist I drive her to work on Sundays when she knows I don't go out, and one day she told me a colleague wants to follow us, so I waited, she introduced me to so many of her colleagues and she told me a day later that her colleagues were all telling her that I am a guyman, that she should hold me well oh, we laughed over it.

In as much as she is an introvert, she still shows satisfaction and excitement having me in her life.

The Op's wife isn't proud of him, and its because she doesn't love him that much.

The pride of every woman is her family, and who makes up her family

Her hubby, her kids, her parents, her siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc.

Any woman that is not proud of her hubby doesn't love her husband, no mincing words here.

Op said she is planning to relocate abroad, bookmark this page today, as soon as she travels out of Nigeria, she will either quit the marriage or start to misbehave fully, and cheat without remorse. There are so many married ladies like her in Nigeria and abroad.

If to say my badness done reach certain level, I would have slept with nothing less than 20 married ladies, including newly wed ladies, but its a taboo in my culture and highly forbidden to sleep with a married woman.

My point is, his wife doesn't love him, she married him because she couldn't find her dream man or kind of men to marry her; they either broke her heart or refused to marry her or not ready to marry her while she ages, so she married op just for marrying sake and to please society and family.

I just read where the op is talking about his wife enjoying their sex life, I laugh lol.

Some men are so gullible sha.

Women love sex more than men, its just society, culture and tradition that makes them hide their crazy desire and love for sex, but wait until they meet a man that knows how to sex in the room, then u will see them unleash their sexual libido.

His wife is using him. That's how most feminists are; they love dick so much but will pretend in public but in private they are wilder than lion in bed!

Why many ladies crave to marry is to enable them have wild sex without regrets or fear!

And from experience, doctors love sex more than most professionals. Doctors and entertainers (music artistes, models, dancers, waitresses, actors/actresses, etc) are sex freaks.

The wife is a user, she is using op, and once she is done and finds her dream man, probably a fellow doctor living abroad, she will run leave op and unleash her dark sexual life cry

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:00am On Apr 02, 2019

Meliaen:

Have we met before, fine lady? cos you are so so right!. I can't forget the statement he made that made me decide I was done. It was an utter, wicked one meant to blackmail me. Apart from that, my ex was almost perfect.

- If you want a problem solver, he's all of that. I mean, what most would see as a challenge, he would squash.

- If you want a hard worker, a responsible man, he's all of that. He's the type that would put family first. Ex was a hustler in real time. There was nothing he couldn't do. Why he's very successful till this day.

- If you want a honest man, he's all of that. Integrity is very important to him.

- If you want a generous man. My ex was too generous and altruistic.

- If you want a man who keeps his word, he was all of that. There was nothing he said he would do that he didn't. For 8 years, we talked everyday when we weren't together.

Awwwww

Your ex is such a cool guy.

Smiles we've not met before

, I will remember if we have. I don't forget faces or events .

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by tete7000(m): 10:01am On Apr 02, 2019

1StopRudeness:

God bless you.....u don't have to be crazily inlove with someone to return a gesture of kindness or affection....it just normal human nature....the woman is snake ....she has poison in her soul......but she knows how to spread legs like rumour when she needs sex....she's a user and an opportunistic, selfish person.
It might be to early for divorce..but I would have walked away from that marriage if I were the guy...

The guy is very unfortunate..Only God can help him...There are many out there who for reasons known to them have made up their minds to keep others in bondage..You just need to reads through daily posts concerning love and marriage on nairaland to know that many are deeply sick. They have perverted view of love, of marriage..

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Bigii(m): 10:02am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:

OK nah

Let's go there!

Cool pic!

That's not my pix oo grin

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Nobody: 10:04am On Apr 02, 2019

newdawn2017:
Is d op asking for too much? Mbok d lady is ashamed to be associated with him, & doesn't ve love for him.

U will not fvck the wrong man...say amen....

that's what I've been saying..this dude isn't asking for too much...nobody should have to endure living with a person that will crop out their image before posting it online and get angry when the dude tags her in his post....this right here is what I call witchcraft...she's just using the man for the main time...this is the kind of woman that poison husband....
People will be wondering how..cos they seem like a happy couple.. but she will get to a point she won't be able to live with him in the same house when she has found a dude she's crazy about

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Meliaen(f): 10:06am On Apr 02, 2019

victorian:

Awwwww

Your ex is such a cool guy.

Smiles we've not met before , I will remember if we have. I don't forget faces or events .

Yeah we haven't. Actually meant you were apt. Thanks sis.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:07am On Apr 02, 2019

hausadreturn:
Nice epistle.
How convenient for you to have said ''oga you're not tall, dark and handsome''. Nawa o.

Secondly, why did it have to be a pastor that advised you on marriage before making the next step?

Cause I needed someone who knows me and is spiritual but not emotionally attached to either him or me, to look at my scenario and advise me. I was so sad that day as I poured my thoughts to my Pastor. He saw how sad and confused I look, and quiet too. Im always a lively person but that moment of making a decision about him, my spirit was unsettled and very sad. My Pastor has been my childhood friend from primary school way back til date. We go a long way, on and off.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:10am On Apr 02, 2019

Meliaen:

Yeah we haven't. Actually meant you were apt. Thanks sis.

Smiles OK.

You are welcome my dear

Warm hugs sis #

God bless us, amen.

We go dey alright at the end. In fact we are alright ! All we need is an icing on our cakes! cheesy

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:18am On Apr 02, 2019

Bigii:

That's not my pix oo

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Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Bluntemperor: 10:26am On Apr 02, 2019

Young man I don't normally talk the issues of Marriage here on the platform because it is the most abused Institution nowadays but in the Church because many don't understand,pls do the followings:
-Ask her a question everyday when she wakes up'do you still love me 'wait patiently for the reply you get.
-get a good photographer and do the unexpected!by ensuring that you,your child and herself take a picture and let people celebrate you on social Media,get her reaction!.
-who married this lady for you? her mother or father and have you in all honesty draw their attention to her behavior that she is not displaying 'LOVE' It's good to receive a better Counseling?or you are one of those on Social media who says 'don't go to Church or Pastor O,then pity you. Don't die with your problems,some people received good Counsel and saved their lives from what money can't buy,yes what Money,good profession can't buy!!

This trouble you are passing through can still better resolved through application of Wisdom.God bless your home.

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Champagnegold: 10:27am On Apr 02, 2019

Victorian. whatever you said as advice doesn't justify you my dear you have miss it. too bad even to be a Reverend sister you miss it. pelle big aunty.

Oga, if she put ur pics or not, it is a sign of love. guy go fix ur family no they tell third party, na ur wife deal with it.( Shey e bin dey sweet u )

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by victorian(f): 10:31am On Apr 02, 2019

Champagnegold:
Victorian. whatever you said as advice doesn't justify you my dear you have miss it. too bad even to be a Reverend sister you miss it. pelle big aunty.

Oga, if she put ur pics or not, it is a sign of love. guy go fix ur family no they tell third party, na ur wife deal with it.( Shey e bin dey sweet u )

Thank you !

I didn't seek for your opinion, huncle. Swerve!

Your opinion is irrelevant huncle Ade

Advice the Op, not me . Huncle adviser!

Re: My Wife Doesn't Post My Pictures On Social Media, She Is Abnormal, Help! by Amdoyin(m): 10:33am On Apr 02, 2019

My candid advice is to "bone" her. Perform your responsibilities at home. Pretend as if you don't feel what she does. Pretend as if she does not exist at home. From your write up, you are well to do and she does not lack anything. Bone her joor, she will come begging. I have been married for six years with two issues. I have experienced what you are going through until I took a bold step to salvage the situation.

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