brown116:
how do u know when a woman climax.

You will know!!! Her hip movement, her facial expression, for some who are also forming hard babe, trying to make noiseless sound why breathing through their teeth!! You can also tell if you have been with more than one woman. If a woman is not smiling sheepishly or trying to agree with every thing you are saying immediately after the did, your game is poor

francis2565:


Uncle, I agree with you but I also believe you are not totally right.
For most of the single ladies above 30 or that are virgin most times are just unfortunate. They want a simple guy with the same kind but the bad ones who wants to first chop are the ones coming their way. So because they want to get married they should open their legs for any man that promised marriage? My brother is not easy for them too.

I’ve dated 2 who are above 30. I thought they were angels before dating them. It’s only when you date such people that you would know they’re the cause of most things happening

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

Bros End that marriage, Someone Else is already screwing her so bad

donstan18:

I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

#scoffs.. what a stereotype! Does that mean a good lady that fate brought her to a husband that batters her at every opportunity he has, a serial cheat and a drunk; or better still, we come the other way round; a good man that fate brought him a serial cheat..... Does that mean that once these set of people are married; they don't deserve another chance to be happy again ?

Lee29:
She's not your wife. Marriage to a divorced woman is adultery, that's if you're a Christian

i was her first boyfriend of 3 years but didnt disvirgin her. i contributed to her marrying the other guy against her feelings...i think she feel for the guy in marriage but marriage collapsed and she ran back to me. she almost stop the traditional marriage with the guy for me but her parent insisted since the guy had already began the process. i finally decide to wife her out of concern that i was instrumental to her heartbreak from the marriage

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

Were you divorced too?
Sorry but how old are you? Cos as some men advance in age 50,60ish, the libido is lower and not much to do... She's probably getting it from somewhere else right now.,As if that's not enough, long distance relationship can't help your matter ...Viagra may be a good option for you when she's around

Awoo88:

You will know!!! Her hip movement, her facial expression, for some who are also forming hard babe, trying to make noiseless sound why breathing through their teeth!! You can also tell if you have been with more than one woman. If a woman is not smiling sheepishly or trying to agree with every thing you are saying immediately after the did, your game is poor

thanks for ur explanation, i always think when ever a woman get wet she has climax.

This one na Alaba wife material.

You've spoken well, my sister. Well spoken.

MissRaine69:
Being compatible is important in a marriage. Your marriage is snowball going downhill and soon it will gather momentum. Your situation is not healthy. What a man does not need is pressure to perform and the worst thing any woman can do is compare past conquests to the man in her life in this instance her husband. It’s callous, insensitive and immature. If these men were so great how come none of them wifed her?

Give her an ultimatum she either recalibrate her attitude and behaviour towards you or you make her a free woman and she will be free to have high energy coitus with whomever. At the end of the day it’s a marriage not not a punishment if she feels that you are inadequate to her needs why did she marry you? You have all this going on and yon want to get a registry wedding? You need to seriously look at what’s going on in your marriage address it and then make plans. Your priorities are slightly upside down right now.

You don’t have to endure this the last thing you want is her sleeping with someone else and based on your account it’s inevitable.

SexynSerious:
You've spoken well, my sister. Well spoken.

Thank you

prizequest:


i was her first boyfriend of 3 years but didnt disvirgin her. i contributed to her marrying the other guy against her feelings...i think she feel for the guy in marriage but marriage collapsed and she ran back to me. she almost stop the traditional marriage with the guy for me but her parent insisted since the guy had already began the process. i finally decide to wife her out of concern that i was instrumental to her heartbreak from the marriage

Bros, if you're a Christian, then run! Marriage is more than normal. It is better not to marry than to marry and then divorce according to Jesus teaching. Eternity is not a joke! Don't pity someone and then go to hell. Let her go and reconcile with her husband or she stay single

fuckerstard:
If you can't satisfy her from day one, don't bother trying..

I wonder why people purposely want to commit suicide. You know say your jabulani no carry fuel, you go marry trailer engine. You will die there, it's for better for worse

Awoo88:

You will know!!! Her hip movement, her facial expression, for some who are also forming hard babe, trying to make noiseless sound why breathing through their teeth!! You can also tell if you have been with more than one woman. If a woman is not smiling sheepishly or trying to agree with every thing you are saying immediately after the did, your game is poor

Some women are taught to climax quietly as that’s what “proper” women do. They stay in corpse mode

MissRaine69:

Some women are taught to climax quietly as that’s what “proper” women do. They stay in corpse mode

You are right! Some women never had that experience. There are women who had never had an orgasm but these are few. majority of them do. Some will form corpse. You will still know. She will lie motionless, but if you do what you are supposed to do right, she will keep looking for an excuse to be with you.

Since u dont have kids yet...pls move on to a woman who loves u and deserves U... this one is just playing ping pong and uaing u as plan B each time her plan A fails...it will be a life time of games, argument and troubles...cut her off totally, work on urself(including ur sexuality)...get urself a lady whose head is well screwed on her neck...And u will forget her and her wahala in no time....Since u have gone to court pls endeavor to break off legally...document ur separation using a lawyer...so u can divorce properly...There is nothing to reconcile with a woman like that...cos all her ways are deceitful...U can never have peace with her...

You've married for friends, neighbours and other well wishers.

Many ladies indirectly cause the poor performance of their patners sexually possibly because they don't understand men's psyche.Even , if a man is good in terms of sexual performance , he will not do well if the wife or partner behaves or talk anyhow to him .

SexynSerious:
you look so sweet

Thanks babe.

Girls hardly compliment.

Awoo88:

You are right! Some women never had that experience. There are women who had never had an orgasm but these are few. majority of them do. Some will form corpse. You will still know. She will lie motionless, but if you do what you are supposed to do right, she will keep looking for an excuse to be with you.

Well as the saying goes experience matters now if the man is a noob and the woman is a noob it’s a challenge.

donstan18:

I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

This is the fact

hmmmm some people count marriage journey like oyo to osun mehn.... u never see chunchin

@op u said u were her fist love 8yrs ago.. Then she ditched u n got married to her now ex-husband?

From yr point, she needs a baby. Do you know that frequent sex wl even minimize pregnancy?
...because the sperm quality will be v poor. Why not plan out yr timetable....if she thinks life is all about the sex, get her a Love Machine
All these girls wey no dey grow sef.....

prizequest:

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Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

OP, the emboldened suggests that her father never liked her conduct in her first marriage and must have felt ridiculed by his daughter for not listening to him until the marriage crashed, bringing shame to him.

While he seems to be struggling with accepting that fact, you showed up and interestingly seem to be the carefree type, not giving attention to such a detail as informing him of your desire to legalize the marriage. Seriously OP, who does that? I'm not supporting the curses he placed on your unborn children but he must have really felt slighted, in addition to the ridicule he got on his daughter's divorce.

I hope her father was present at the traditional wedding because if he was represented by someone else, Oga, your problem is far above sex drive o.

prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT

Dude! RUN LIKE A MAD MAN NOW before they turn you into an ACTUAL MAD MAN sooner than later

ImaIma1:


He said he got to know everything after they got married.

Then he ain't smart enough for her.

Why would you married leftovers...
Is your fault cos she already use to it from her previous marriage.
Divorce and search for singles lady/ girls on nairaland

rawfact:


OP, the emboldened suggests that her father never liked her conduct in her first marriage and must have felt ridiculed by his daughter for not listening to him until the marriage crashed, bringing shame to him.

While he seems to be struggling with accepting that fact, you showed up and interestingly seem to be the carefree type, not giving attention to such a detail as informing him of your desire to legalize the marriage. Seriously OP, who does that? I'm not supporting the curses he placed on your unborn children but he must have really felt slighted, in addition to the ridicule he got on his daughter's divorce.

I hope her father was present at the traditional wedding because if he was represented by someone else, Oga, your problem is far above sex drive o.

That family is a problem! Where was the Father when they were arranging their daughter for a wealthy man and it flopped? Was the Father sleeping or what? Where was the Father in the traditional wedding? Which dunce of a Father would not be present when his daughter is doing a traditional wedding? If the Father was not available then then it means his home is not in order at all! His home is another house of commotion...How can he place a curse on children unborn because his proposed son-in-law who has done the needful by concluding a traditional wedding signed court papers legalizing his marriage? Oga OP let me emphasize this again... RUN NOW THAT YOU CAN RUN...RUN BEFORE THEY CUT YOUR LEGS AND YOU CANNOT RUN AGAIN...RUN BEFORE YOUR LIFE BECOMES A TALE TOLD TO OTHERS TO LEARN A LESSON

Such mistake occur when people failed to thrash ugly things in their courtship & expect wonder magic in marriage.

ImaIma1:


He said he got to know everything after they got married.

Taich:
Brotherly, I called you this name because you problem can be solved. The only way to win the war against ur wife is to win the war. How is ur job, are u always under pressure and delivery of timeline? Check ur diet, cut sugar ur intake, increase banana, carrot, nuts, dabino, coconut and Aki Hausa intake. Add small exercise to your diet, press up is essential plus jogging. Try to reduce work related pressure and enjoy ur marriage.

As for ur father in law, find out what he likes, look for his good friend, get those things he loves and go and beg him, tell him it was an over sight.
Marriage to me is about challenges and over coming them win all it battles.

Really! You make it sound like humans are machines that can switch some buttons off and on...It is clear that the parents of the lady are such a bad influence. Imagine them organizing a wealthier man when they are aware of the OP's interest in their daughter and his plans to commence with the traditional wedding...No wonder she had a divorce in the first marriage! The only solution now is for the OP to run as fast as the wind...before they finalize his case!

Nigerian women are very deceitful, you most be aware of this they hide their past from you until you are hooked up. And the day you will discover is the day hatred starts and this is mainly one reason for low sex drives. And once they enter your life it is difficult to send them away, this is my experience too. I discovered after wedding that the woman tricked me into the wedding and I started disliking her till today. I had plan to run away one day.

ImaIma1:

You were obviously played. They wanted to give her to the highest bidder and when that didn't work out, you were the plan B. Who knows how far that kind of family can go to have their way especially with your wife that seems to be easily influenced.

Too much deceit involved in the whole process. The family doesn't seem like a good family. So you have to contend with your wife's excesses and her familys' too. If she goes out of line, will her family caution her or side her against you?


The decision lies with you. If you are ok with your wife and you are ready to put up with her attitude and that of her family, it ok, as long it doesn't make you a sad and miserable man eventually.

Kudos to you My brother,you must be a marriage counsellor from ST Anthony Catholic Church.