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donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

Evil because they are not desperate enough to feed and clothe you.

From the way you reason with that your cray fish brain, this is how you will end up....

prizequest:
i was her first boyfriend of 3 years but didnt disvirgin her. i contributed to her marrying the other guy against her feelings...i think she feel for the guy in marriage but marriage collapsed and she ran back to me. she almost stop the traditional marriage with the guy for me but her parent insisted since the guy had already began the process. i finally decide to wife her out of concern that i was instrumental to her heartbreak from the marriage

Was your wife the girl you were referring to who brought you badluck in an earlier thread?

ImaIma1:
You were obviously played. They wanted to give her to the highest bidder and when that didn't work out, you were the plan B. Who knows how far that kind of family can go to have their way especially with your wife that seems to be easily influenced.

Too much deceit involved in the whole process. The family doesn't seem like a good family. So you have to contend with your wife's excesses and her familys' too. If she goes out of line, will her family caution her or side her against you?


The decision lies with you. If you are ok with your wife and you are ready to put up with her attitude and that of her family, it ok, as long it doesn't make you a sad and miserable man eventually.

Kudos to you my brother,you must be a marriage counsellor from the ST Anthony Catholic church.

You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.


Op

You already knew the truth,why don't you set your self free instead of asking us for answers

As for me,my answer is judge not that me not be judge


So my man,

Use your head.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Oga Go Screw your Wife so well, she'll abandon her family and work and cling to you. All these complaints won't solve anything. Be a Man! Don't let another man (her dad) dictate shii to you. There can't b two captains on a Boat for God's sake.

No matter how good a man is in shagging, there is a man out there that is a shaggiological specie and can shagg her to mental oblivion...ability to have sex cannot keep a spouse and does not guarantee marital endurance!

Oyindidi:
You go don date them tire. Speaking from experience I guess

Believe me my guy, he is a principal in their school

Sorry bro about your experience .
I almost fell for deceitful trick from a girl last year it took me grace of God & prayers that made the wedding ceremony to hold. Each morning I always thank jah for such breakthrough honestly.
Bravo

Agugbadin:
Nigerian women are very deceitful, you most be aware of this they hide their past from you until you are hooked up. And the day you will discover is the day hatred starts and this is mainly one reason for low sex drives. And once they enter your life it is difficult to send them away, this is my experience too. I discovered after wedding that the woman tricked me into the wedding and I started disliking her till today. I had plan to run away one day.

IDERAWOLE:
I've read through most of the advices given to your enquiries here, some awesome, others, you need to be careful. Until you find yourself in a similar situation, it's easier said than done. Talk can be cheap you know!

All I can say is that you need to calm down now that you're thinking of making a decision, though separated for 4months already.

You'll need to find a place to talk with her without any interruption. If you watch her body language very well, you may be able to pick her heart, whether she want the relationship back, though this requires some skill, but you'll need to try.

I can feel your heart in this situation, but it shall go well if you trust God in all of these!

What's your relationship with God like? It doesn't matter even if there's none for now, just put your confidence in Him.

I'll leave you with two materials to read an excerpts from, if these sound good enough, you may want to purchase them.

In the alternative, you may want to speak with me, I'm a marriage counsellor as well. My contact- 08063423482

The links:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E7nXs8juhwFpnOOJCnYQeoYrWm2DEBrXQRTknS0_8PU/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882



https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Nv23_98PdzAvZCll-RDploLHoM3iUPdXIDQ4nxn_7Ic/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882

Lol after all the good words of yours advertising your market is what ends it

Well done sir

Meliaen:
I can bet my head you're from the east. What is wrong with you people?

Well... Her ex dodged a bullet. You should too. Thank your God child never enter am. That's a very toxic, materialistic family. Run for your life

Hmm. Food for thought.

prizequest:
i thought past experience should've instil best behaviour but i am utterly wrong.

Past experiences create beasts and dangerous fellows these days.

A good guy becomes a terrific guy to all ladies after his heart was shattered by a demonic lady, so also with a good girl who becomes a terror to good guys after a heart break with a demonic attitude guy.

OP and all who may have the opportunity to read my comment should note this..."NEVER MARRY OUT OF RUSH OR PRESSURE OR EVEN FEELINGS BUT OUT OF LOGIC.

One should logically reason through if the spouse is who he/she "wanted" or "needed"
I'd rather marry someone I need to who I want.

IDERAWOLE:
I've read through most of the advices given to your enquiries here, some awesome, others, you need to be careful. Until you find yourself in a similar situation, it's easier said than done. Talk can be cheap you know!

All I can say is that you need to calm down now that you're thinking of making a decision, though separated for 4months already.

You'll need to find a place to talk with her without any interruption. If you watch her body language very well, you may be able to pick her heart, whether she want the relationship back, though this requires some skill, but you'll need to try.

I can feel your heart in this situation, but it shall go well if you trust God in all of these!

What's your relationship with God like? It doesn't matter even if there's none for now, just put your confidence in Him.

I'll leave you with two materials to read an excerpts from, if these sound good enough, you may want to purchase them.

In the alternative, you may want to speak with me, I'm a marriage counsellor as well. My contact- 08063423482

The links:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1E7nXs8juhwFpnOOJCnYQeoYrWm2DEBrXQRTknS0_8PU/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882



https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Nv23_98PdzAvZCll-RDploLHoM3iUPdXIDQ4nxn_7Ic/edit?usp=drivesdk&ouid=105033553278331508882

Body language? After all that has happened already you are asking a man to watch body language! Body language na blockbuster movie?...soon he won't even have eyes to watch anything...the OP is probably one of those meek and humble men whom satan in collaboration with village people usually wants to destroy by sending them a wife from the deepest part of the pit of hell...OP, OP, OP na how many times I calleth thou...pick race before dem pick your destiny!

donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

I don't think so. Pray you don't have a sister or a daughter at 30+ and not married. I don't think being 30+ and not married should make you conclude and categorize the person as bad.

prizequest:
i was her first boyfriend of 3 years but didnt disvirgin her. i contributed to her marrying the other guy against her feelings...i think she feel for the guy in marriage but marriage collapsed and she ran back to me. she almost stop the traditional marriage with the guy for me but her parent insisted since the guy had already began the process. i finally decide to wife her out of concern that i was instrumental to her heartbreak from the marriage

You married her out of 'concern'.

Not that you love her or anything. Tell me how you will satisfy her?

Let her go abeg if you don't love her. Your 'marriage' was born out of convenience and it backfired.

Bros....this is not libido matter, escape for ur dear life, you have made the mistake already so don't let that consume you... Redeem yourself and flee, I take God beg you

Oga Sir, is it because you found out her family was arranging her for a more wealthy guy after marrying her that you lost interest in her sexually? Abeg go and have good intercourse with your wife and stop cooking up issues.

You noticed delays and you couldn't investigate? Even when she ran back to you after that cooked up engagement to their money making machine failed, why did you sit her down to ask why and where she hid for some months? As a man you should have done that. So since you didn't, who should you now blame for your poor findings?

The problem I see her is you have poor libido issues, which instead of finding solution to, you are digging up a heap of decaying compost.

Do you know that as humans we are all a product of our decisions and choices? So if you like bring up all issues it shows your choices you made.

Oga sir fo and work on your sex life, your libido and stamina. There are menand women with libido issues who instead of addressing them and seeking solution will not take it seriously but will make making excuses or living in denial.


GO AND MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK. DIDN'T YOU KNOW SHE WAS A DIVORCEE BEFORE?

Oh no.. You got yourself in a mess bro.

prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT

She used and is still using u .please iam begging u walk away before u regret .accept your mistake and move on .if you don't you will regret it .she doesn't place value on you ,you are just an option to her..soon the family will show u great disrespect.. She will compare your success to others and kill your morale.she has started by comparing you yo other men in bedroom which is shamleaa and very disrespectful

gidjah:
You had this issues couldn't wait to get them solved n suddenly jumped in the Registry marriage !!!chei bros u messed up big time

You voiced my thought. I guess the lady moved him to do that in order to tie him down.

The OP seems weak and lacks fatherly role in his life.

BluntBlunt:
I don't think so. Pray you don't have a sister or a daughter at 30+ and not married. I don't think being 30+ and not married should make you conclude and categorize the person as bad.

What about single mom and divorcee? Anyone who marries them av a lot to bear.....so why stress uself having them

donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

May u and all the people who clicked likes be faced with this through your daughters

Unrated900:
Kudos to you my brother,you must be a marriage counsellor from the ST Anthony Catholic church.

Kudos to the counselors at St Anthony. More grease to their elbows.

Unless if the babe likes you

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks babe.

Girls hardly compliment.

Mustsucceed:
She used and is still using u .please iam begging u walk away before u regret .accept your mistake and move on .if you don't you will regret it .she doesn't place value on you ,you are just an option to her..soon the family will show u great disrespect.. She will compare your success to others and kill your morale.she has started by comparing you yo other men in bedroom which is shamleaa and very disrespectful

She go cheat laslas

Katier00:
give yourself time and relax. Marriage comes with its up and downs. Have a talk with your wife and try to exclude others from it. If she could be transferred to your state to foster the union. She loves you, that's why she ran back to you. Make her happy and one way to do that, is by making her pregnant (you know age is not on her side, that alone could make her aggressive and stubborn). If she is worth fighting for, pls move for peace.

This is a very wicked and selfish advice. You seem like you're the woman the OP is complaining about.

Op abeg don't ever father a child with that kind of woman. She is going to make life miserable for you and that kid.

Separate from her asap and seek divorce later.

gloria34:
Where i keep my pistol

baby even if you must shot me let it be with the pistol of love or ever happy after so you can have good stories to tell the kids

streetsoldier1:
What about single mom and divorcee? Anyone who marries them av a lot to bear.....so why stress uself having them

That's different from saying a single lady that is 30+.

Did you ask her what led to the divorce of her ex husband ? Same trait is trailing your relationship with her,I don't think you have a future with her. Act fast we are in a digital world

donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

U cant generalize that. I have experienced something different from ur assertion

gloria34:
Are you serious? Example of "bad attitude", how are you coping?

Lol...

She find it hard to apologize even when she wrong, when you try to advice her, she quickly counter your opinion and argue with you all day.
Some times she fights, even when she knows her strength can't match mine.

On how I cope, I use to be worried thinking a lot on why I fell into such marriage at a young age. At some point I just had to be strong, who do I blame but myself since I knew all this. So I must be strong and avoid anything that would cause argument

Didi2d:
Lol...

She find it hard to apologize even when she wrong, when you try to advice her, she quickly counter your opinion and argue with you all day.
Some times she fights, even when she knows her strength can't match mine

She fights you because she is confident you wont hurt her, i like it. About not apologizing, i think you knew about that but ignored it because you know you can cope. You seem to have a wonderful family, keep it up

efficiencie:
No matter how good a man is in shagging, there is a man out there that is a shaggiological specie and can shagg her to mental oblivion...ability to have sex cannot keep a spouse and does not guarantee marital endurance!

How? D problem d op has is sagging. Besides didn't they realize the sexual incompatibility before marrying

ednut1:
this one no be marriage abeg he should flee

Tor