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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Didi2d(m): 4:43pm On Apr 22, 2019

gloria34:
She fights you because she is confident you wont hurt her, i like it. About not apologizing, i think you knew about that but ignored it because you know you can cope. You seem to have a wonderful family, keep it up

Well, wonderful you say.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by mechanics(m): 4:45pm On Apr 22, 2019*

hmmmmm, that's why one has to pray before marriage, compatibility matters in marriage o, and he didn't really know more about her very well, how will he marry a divorcee, does he know the reason she divorced her former husband, now the truth has been known, it's better he leave her, so she can go back to her first husband, that's what the Bible says.

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Martinez39(m): 4:49pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

Oga this your marriage will not work. She is not for you and your in laws no be better people. Stop being a f00l and leave the marriage. Make that big decision.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

Now the mother is begging? Where was she when your bride was placed for the higher bidder? Why is your father in law angry? What the hell is wrong with him? Leave that marriage. You deserve the best and nothing less. Despite everything, she is still stubborn and rude and have the audacity to make a silly demand and fight you for not meeting that demand. Hian!

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT

You need to walk away. Don't wait Untill children are involved.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Apr 22, 2019

Didi2d:
Well, wonderful you say.

Lol, no marriage without troubles, ability to look past some and talk about some as a couple is what matters. Have you even talk to her about it? And i hope the fight you talked about is not a case of domestic violence?

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by prizequest(op): 4:54pm On Apr 22, 2019

rawfact:
You voiced my thought. I guess the lady moved him to do that in order to tie him down.

The OP seems weak and lacks fatherly role in his life.

you're experienced, smart and intelligent. honestly, you're a psychologist. moving forward, please give me a detailed explaination on how to move on. they're yet to return the bride price claiming i should come collect it when from feelers their dota is seeing another man.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Princeofasia: 4:55pm On Apr 22, 2019

she is being serviced as we speak, i repeat she is been serviced as we speak

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by smilek(m): 5:09pm On Apr 22, 2019

piroux:
Hian!! Does that seem weird! He must indeed have a low self esteem to not have noticed his supposed fiance was playing with him. Come on!
She broke off, came on, disappeared and then ran back to him and he proceeded to marry her without due diligence.
People who ask us to investigate people we marry aren't too far off. A few visits to her family would have told him what he is seeing now.

I think years you and your wife need a break actually. Check your heart and find out if you want to bring a baby into your situation. If you find you love her enough, discuss things with her- no more bullshit about stallion exes!- she married you, she must live with it. Then come to an agreement about her family. You can't discuss something at home and then she runs off to tell her daddy, when she knows he doesn't wish your marriage well.
Agree on how to proceed and pray for God's peace in your home.

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Thank you brother

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by prizequest(op): 5:10pm On Apr 22, 2019

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How? D problem d op has is sagging. Besides didn't they realize the sexual incompatibility before marrying

according to her, her ex husand and 2 others are stallions. when we dated i was the one chasing her arround for sex which she allude to but when we got back, desire declined. ofcourse you should know if i never performed, she wont near me even to marry.

why cant she endure and we work things out instead of taking the exit in a few month marriage?

how about women whose husbands are based oversea and returns yearly or two?

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 5:13pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
according to her, her ex husand and 2 others are stallions. when we dated i was the one chasing her arround for sex which she allude to but when we got back, desire declined. ofcourse you should know if i never performed, she wont near me even to marry.

why cant she endure and we work things out instead of taking the exit in a few month marriage?

how about women whose husbands are based oversea and returns yearly or two?

You are right. Kindly call her and work things out.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by sisisioge: 5:16pm On Apr 22, 2019

Bet there shall be no success between two people unless they agree. Sexx is pretty important man...you've got to be on the same page with your partner on this biko. How did you do it during courtship sef?... Abi una did the "till wedding night" thing? It is well fa.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by gbagyiza: 5:27pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

U don enter am. This r some of d issues in marriage. It favour some n put pains on some. Let me be frank with u, it is only God that can help u in this kind of situation.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by 989900: 5:31pm On Apr 22, 2019

Greatzeus:
You might be right about a few of them,or some or even most,but you are wrong for generalizing. If you have a daughter who is a single mother or above 30,will you tell her not to find love again and remain single till death? Be careful,this life is very funny,you might find yourself with a divorce daughter and a single mother daughter and a 30+ unmarried daughter one day,so that you will eat your words in regret.
I don't wish that for you,just saying life has a way of been ironic

GBAM!

Too many kids on Nairaland.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by hustla(m): 5:40pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT

I am 92.75% sure she's Igbo grin

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Platony(m): 5:49pm On Apr 22, 2019

Ruuuunn for your Life!!!!!!!!! angry

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by ensamy(m): 5:49pm On Apr 22, 2019

Better to stay at the roof top or desert than with a contentious woman. I can imagine how depressed this guy is and age is no longer by his side too.
Instead of two of you to die of depression it's better both of you go your seperate ways and LIVE. shocked

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Katier00(f): 5:58pm On Apr 22, 2019

vicadex07:
This is a very wicked and selfish advice. You seem like you're the woman the OP is complaining about.

Op abeg don't ever father a child with that kind of woman. She is going to make life miserable for you and that kid.

Separate from her asap and seek divorce later.

please this is just a suggestion, the op has the right to accept or reject my advice. The op wants peace but you guys don't seems to understand it.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Didi2d(m): 6:05pm On Apr 22, 2019

gloria34:
Lol, no marriage without troubles, ability to look past some and talk about some as a couple is what matters. Have you even talk to her about it? And i hope the fight you talked about is not a case of domestic violence?

Not at all, even if I might the victim here. But I have learnt to keep to myself and probably walk out of the house when need arise

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by showafrica(m): 6:08pm On Apr 22, 2019

donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

I tell you, some bad attitude of them left them that behind apart from a genuine widow.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by torqque7(m): 6:26pm On Apr 22, 2019

Low self esteem at work here..how can a single guy in his right senses marry a lady that has been divorced like this?them no born any woman well to tell me other guys shag her better than me,infact before she finishes the statement il kick her to the curb..oga you are a pathetic excuse for a man seriously,you are too weak. Na your type dey marry olosho keep for house believing she will change so I'm NOT sorry for you,carry your cross.

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by LegalOpinion: 6:29pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

You are marrying a divorcee and you think you will ever be successful?

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by prizequest(op): 6:42pm On Apr 22, 2019

LegalOpinion:
You are marrying a divorcee and you think you will ever be successful?

the ex hubby has a child now and the mother

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by comradee1248: 6:55pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
CONTINUED...after she divorced her first husband, we clicked and i collected the marriage list but somehow even when the family gave me the list they introduced her to a more wealthier guy whose business concern affect the family fortune positively but the engagement failed and my wife ran back to me. During the course of her engagement to the other guy my wife kept delaying our ceremony, no longer visit and her family wont tell me any meaningful excuse not until the engagement was put off and she ran back to me and we immediately commenced the marriage process. It Was a week after marriage i discovered everything and despiced her sexually.

We have been separated 4 months now but the mom had been calling and begging we reconcilled even employing a marriage counsellor for us but the dad had been indiferent and my wife though pompous had shown signs of reconciliation but wont apologize for the irrational actions that sent her away.

There can be reconciliation BUT DO I NEED IT

if I were you I will simply divorce her, this type of lady can kill you and replace you with someone she thinks is better than you. You are a man pls go get a young Lady and start afresh don't end your life with such a desperate lady. Wish you Luck

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by 123papas(m): 6:56pm On Apr 22, 2019

hmmmm, don't reconcile or else u may soon die. you were never married cos it is built on fraud. file for divorce asap.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Flexherbal(m): 7:22pm On Apr 22, 2019

Willie2015:
Pleading on sex issues...... Haba
Contact FlexHerbal on Nairaland....
And step up your game.....

Those who seek the good of others, never go down.
It is well with your home.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Apr 22, 2019

It is as simple as buy her Love Machine.

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:43pm On Apr 22, 2019

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

are you that old to marry a divorcee? besides you saw most handwritings on the wall but choose to ignore....reconcile with her n pls go learn how to mAke love to her well well....just give her another chance

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by drmikeadams(m): 7:47pm On Apr 22, 2019

Didi2d:
Wetin I wan advice this guy set?

Before I got married, I saw and I knew all her bad attitude, but I still went ahead to marry her, today am facing the challenges all by myself.

Note* friends even warned me then, but love cover my eye

this na thé major problem with most guys grin

they will even turn enemies with thier family and Friends grin

...ur facing ur own now as pride no go let u go meet friends and family say na mistake u do

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by vicadex07(m): 8:17pm On Apr 22, 2019

Katier00:
please this is just a suggestion, the op has the right to accept or reject my advice. The op wants peace but you guys don't seems to understand it.

You don't seem to understand that such lady and her family can never give op peace.

You probably didn't read Ops complete write up

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by Ukpor1(m): 8:19pm On Apr 22, 2019

My guy this is best advice.go and look for(multi maca) you can shake it on google.multi maca is d best sexualitation in men's life. Buy it and you will enjoy it

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by yazga: 8:20pm On Apr 22, 2019

donstan18:
I'll keep saying this. Divorcees, single mothers and single ladies of 30+ are the last set of women a reasonable man should ever think of getting married to.

They are evil and will never give you peace of mind.

I take exception for single mother and 30+ single ladies. Change your circle of friends.

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Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by drololaaof: 8:23pm On Apr 22, 2019

From the beginning you have started with problems which you think you can manage, you will be the most stupid man later in life, you must accept extramarital affair from this woman pronto, don't kill yourself

Re: Should I Save My Marriage Or Let Go? by obontami: 8:54pm On Apr 22, 2019

You sound like a clown ass plonker that doesn't knows what he wants.

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