₦airaland Forum

DOES IT MATTER?

That your mother did it and it has worked for her doesn't mean it was the right thing to do. I know a man whose wife fell sick (she later died) and he ran away with his wife's properties to marry another girl. Mind you the woman was the breadwinner and had sent 4 of their 5 kids abroad for studies and one of the kids happen to be my friend.

Bitchiamjay:
main reason I'll always pick my mom as a role model.
This woman buys alotta properties without my papa's knowledge and if you check the receipts, you won't see her name on it but my papa's name.
including her cars. . . my papa's name is on it.
this doesn't show stupidity but genuine love.
You don't marry with sense.
"Don't acquire property with your husband's name" Yet You want him to will his properties to you.

She is absolutely right

Let me add to what she just said and the reasons behind it.

When a woman acquires property on her name, it belongs to the entire family and more especially the children

But when a man acquirea property, it will also favour another wife assuming he marries another wife to the present wife

If nay issue comes up, the name I the paper is what the judge will follow

Women learn to use your head very well, the world belongs to men because they feel they will always have another woman, but as a woman, you still have the choice to remarry but would you be moving up and down with the kids from the marriage ❓

Any money you have for investment, inform your husband but make sure your names are boldly written incase one idiot wants to make claims over it

Use your head and don't get deceive, if he insisted that his name must be there, I will rather you choose to add you and your children names than buying any property on his name⚫

She is absolutely right

Let me add to what she just said and the reasons behind it.

When a woman acquires property on her name, it belongs to the entire family and more especially the children

But when a man acquire property, it will also favour another wife assuming he marries another wife to the present wife

If any issue comes up, the name in the paper is what the judge will follow

Women learn to use your head very well, the world belongs to men because they feel they will always have another woman, but as a woman, you still have the choice to remarry but would you be moving up and down with the kids from the previous marriage ❓

Any money you have for investment, inform your husband but make sure your names are boldly written, incase one idiot wants to make claims over it

Use your head and don't get deceived, if he insisted that his name must be there, I will rather you choose to add you and your children names than buying any property in his name⚫

I don't see any problem with this, if you love and trust your husband.

She is 100percent correct. Pity on any woman who would not heed this advice when married. With the current rate of divorce,and the way men cheat, marriage is now a big risk, it may work, it may not. Couple's no longer respect marital vows.

Abegi, ayam not understanding...
Why would anybody be buying property in their spouses’ or anyone’s name? Are they trying to launder money?

trapQ:
Mumu. You're displaying your stupidity because it's obvious you're the senseless one.

Sense is far from you.

Evening newspaper

LilMissFavvy:
She is 100percent correct. Pity on any woman who would not heed this advice when married. With the current rate of divorce,and the way men cheat, marriage is now a big risk, it may work, it may not. Couple's no longer respect marital vows.

Yet a woman takes the risk! If marriage is this overrated and even in a marriage spouses, are taking up all manner insurance policies - purchasing properties secretly and stuff - then why go through the hustle of getting married at all. Why not just adopt kids and live your life without having to look over your shoulders. In addition, I wonder where women keep their eyes and brains when they are about to get married? You marry a man today and in after about a year you are already calling him a useless man but you were so eager to marry this now useless man just 12 months ago! Quite frankly I advice, if you must marry do your findings, marry the one person you can share your all with and be prepared to wade through the floods of life with that person...when marriage is done this way it is beautiful but when we get into a marriage and start developing all manner of insurance policies (secret affairs, secret properties, secret financial life, secret business life, secret this secret that) then the marriage is just a hoax that will expire soonest with a lot of unpalatable unintended consequences!

LilMissFavvy:
She is 100percent correct. Pity on any woman who would not heed this advice when married. With the current rate of divorce,and the way men cheat, marriage is now a big risk, it may work, it may not. Couple's no longer respect marital vows.

...again you say the way men cheat...as though men cheat with men! Lol. Doesnt it require a woman for a heterosexual married man to cheat? What happened to balancing up your argument and calling out all the women who will gladly cheat with a married man for money or any other reason...as marriage is a risk for women so it is for men. I can argue that if a government sponsored paternity test program were declared in Nigeria a lot of Nigerian women will reject the move because they know the evils they have committed and would like to keep it secret...

Marriage is not do or die...nor be by force to marry! Sometimes I wonder why people get married...you will see a lady who has shared her body to more than 30 men saying she wants to marry and you will see a man that has had tons of girlfriends for recreational purposes in the past saying he wants to get married...marriage for what? humans can be weird atimes!

Kendumazy:
Selfishness everywhere. The man properties should also carry Mr Akeem and blood family properties.

It already does, what is your point?

The man brother or sister should inherit the property not the selfish wife. Make a will to give the children their own portion.

You can write your will so your siblings inherit your property while your wife goes back to square one.
So, what is your point again?

Men too should stop buying properties in their wives' names nor make their wives next of kin!

A woman can also divorce and remarry!!!

if you have a frustrated marriage stop discouraging others with good one, my brother inlaw buys every property in my sisters name and nobody is complaining. #stopthehate

You say that sometimes you wonder why people marry, well marriage was ordained to be, I guess that's why people go into it at all cost. If you take a critical look at marriages in especially Nigeria, you will agree that it is women that suffer most and face greater risks. Therefore, a woman should do all she can to guard herself and protect her interests. This does not mean she should do it secretly, by buying properties secretly like you stated. She should buy things in her name and be open about it. You said a heterosexual man who cheats does it with women, but you and I know that this is Africa, where the men make the move in getting women. So I keep wondering why a married man should be cheating. well men's dishonesty in marriage is the major reason why their wives react negatively. When a man starts ignoring the wife to go outside, or maltreat her, all the love/respect in her heart may begin to fade.

efficiencie:
Yet a woman takes the risk! If marriage is this overrated and even in a marriage spouses, are taking up all manner insurance policies - purchasing properties secretly and stuff - then why go through the hustle of getting married at all. Why not just adopt kids and live your life without having to look over your shoulders. In addition, I wonder where women keep their eyes and brains when they are about to get married? You marry a man today and in after about a year you are already calling him a useless man but you were so eager to marry this now useless man just 12 months ago! Quite frankly I advice, if you must marry do your findings, marry the one person you can share your all with and be prepared to wade through the floods of life with that person...when marriage is done this way it is beautiful but when we get into a marriage and start developing all manner of insurance policies (secret affairs, secret properties, secret financial life, secret business life, secret this secret that) then the marriage is just a hoax that will expire soonest with a lot of unpalatable unintended consequences!

LilMissFavvy:
She is 100percent correct. Pity on any woman who would not heed this advice when married. With the current rate of divorce,and the way men cheat, marriage is now a big risk, it may work, it may not. Couple's no longer respect marital vows.

Men cheat with who? WOMEN
Resent statistic shows that 30% of Nigerian men are taking care of kids they where told by their wives are theirs which truly are not....what does this tell you

It takes 2 to tangle...sorry to burst your bubble...

Fadedvoices2:
Kicked out without anything

Was the woman a slave during the period of marriage that she has to deserve something?


I blame men who marry stay at home wives

Do you think non stay at home wives have the opportunity to Hussle like men in a marriage? That they can travel, socialise etc like their husbands without gbege happening at the homefront. If you think being a stay at home mom is easy, why don't you reverse roles. Stay home and let your wife go bring whatever she can home and see how that goes.