Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

Should we tell him?

Woman beater ,you don't need help,you need cane ,serious flogging

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

Yea she deserves a better man who will treat her lovingly and not a woman puncher like you... Love ki you there.

Something is wrong with that girl.

Well, some people are probably gonna hate me for this but I do not give a sh!t.


My comment..


First, you have to apologize to that lady for all the moments you struck her with your hands; causing her undeserved pain. That is a limit you have transgressed; you have gone beyond your boundary for that act.


Do you own the body? Can you create something like it? If she experiences a cut or tear as a consequence of your bashing, can you cause it to heal and get back to how it was?


If you cannot do all of these things, then you have no right to harm that skin for no just cause.


And also, this could be as a result of a flawed mentality.. because you realise you are stronger than her then you feel you can capitalize on that and exhibit superiority by inflicting undue pain on her.


Just to understand the reality of your actions, how about you go fight an elephant, chimpanzee, gorilla or tiger? Then you feel what it is like to oppress people you have realized to be weaker than you with your strength.


You owe that girl a big sorry and never try that again. A real man does not beat his wife. He admonishes and corrects her. If he must beat her, then it will be with his 'rod' and will be for fun not for punishment.


Well as for your relationship, I am not that good at giving relationship advice.


But mine is, as a man, earn for yourself and make enough money to start a family first. Then look for the RIGHT partner and then get married!!


Boyfriend/Girlfriend is a scam! Most of the time, such relationships turn out to be a waste of time, waste of energy, waste of resources/money and waste of sperm...

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

Bleep up nigga
u dont beat a woman no matter what stupid insecurities u hv

Let me believe that you are trolling,if not then,nigga you are very stewpeed.

this one na woman beater sha...to hell with you but i ain't gonna judge but no advise for you...just keep beating her shogbo.

faithfull18:
Something is wrong with that girl.

Or with the guy

You are close to many girls and you beat her up at the slight of getting familiar with any other guy and even girls.
My brother leave the girl alone and move on you are not meant for her.

You can't keep a woman by beating her... She will keep fvckin another dvck no matter what because the pains from your hands is nothing compared to the care and fvck she will receive from a caring man even if he were to be broke... I will not be surprised that it's a broke guy that has been using her breast and cunt as keyboard...

You are actually the one that needs help unfortunately you don't even know that you need help so you have a very long way to go... No need to advise you much, life will humble you... This is just the beginning...

If she was my sister I'll kill you

Why are you beating her here and there, is she a drum ?
If you beat my sister like that, I will arrange street urchins to come and drill you ,walai

You be taken the first step i.e acknowledging that you have anger problem, and that you do hit her.
The best thing you can do for yourself and everyone involved is: break up with her, let her go. Then seek help. Talk to an expert. The issue is YOU.

Of all the things Op said, it's obvious he does not see anything wrong in beating her, why? Cos his girl does not see anything wrong with it cos she is used to it, it's part of their love lol, people say there is a very strong force that makes it difficult for a lady to leave a violent man, now I truly believe there is.

mubby4real:

Or with the guy

Both of them. The guy for beating her up and the girl for remaining in such relationship. As a girl, your body is yours and you do with it as you wish, no one dictates that for you

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

kill the idiot!

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

How can u claim to love someone and u are beating her...as in beating someone and u will still have sex with.. isn't that slavery.....that girl must be under age..
Well some ladies like being beaten....

Imagine you beating my sister wey u never marry


If I no break your neck, I will cut off your balls and feed to my dogs

mubby4real:

Or with the guy

Both of them.

Kyom20:
Good day fam. I have this girl I have been dating for over 2 years now. She is an amazing person, caring, loving and loyal. She gives so much for our relationship and doesn't ask for anything in return just my love and sincerity. We started off being very open with each other but I have anger and insecurity issues and i began to beat her anytime I felt she was getting familiar with any guy and even some girls. I did this to make her tell me the whole truth and also to make her stay away from these people. She claims that this has made her afraid of me and doesn't allow her to be as open with me as she wants to be.
We stayed together for a while but work took me to another state. She always makes effort to come and see me and I try to go and see her but the sometimes I drift away and she complains that she feels I am cheating on her especially because I am close to many girls. I often prove myself to her but sometimes the complaints get too much and I call it quits but later on we settle.
The issue at hand now is that she has been depressed about some school issues and I try to be there for her but she said the excitement and joy is gone from our relationship and that I am not putting enough effort, I acknowledged this and tried to do better. However, the last time she came to see me she was acting strange and asked me to use a condom. I was suspicious so I beat her and she confessed that another guy had touched her but they didnt av sex, she claimed she did it bcus she was emotionally down and lonely.
I am very hurt and angry because this is the second time this is happening although from her chat with her friends I can confirm she didnt av sex, I dont understand y she would let another man touch her in spite of our issues. I know she loves me and I dont want to let her go because she just seems so right for me.
I really need advice on what to do next. Thanks guys

which place are you? Can we get to meet, so u beat me the same way too!!! Where in PH or Lagos are you please?

Why are you beating her?

She's not a little child you beat so as to correct or knock sense into. She's not a child. Don't hit her. Treat her with respect.

Try and work on that attitude. You must have picked it up from somewhere. It's wrong.

I used to have a cousin like that. It isn't good.

Free the girl. She's not 100% into you. The long distance has damaged the relationship. She also seems very unsure.of the relationship

Makachi your girlfriend na correct otondo...so u beat her? As in beat her hmmmm.... boy u are lucky u met a calm girl

Unam ikot ezi ofia....

LordsApostle:

which place are you? Can we get to meet, so u beat me the same way too!!! Where in PH or Lagos are you please?

I can't fathom this kind of animal from animal kingdom "I beat her"

You will just be beating someone's child. Someone that they probably don't beat at home again because she is an adult. You are proudly beating her and saying it.

Some dudes tho

OladimejiRufai:
Well, some people are probably gonna hate me for this but I do not give a sh!t.


My comment..


First, you have to apologize to that lady for all the moments you struck her with your hands; causing her undeserved pain. That is a limit you have transgressed; you have gone beyond your boundary for that act.


Do you own the body? Can you create something like it? If she experiences a cut or tear as a consequence of your bashing, can you cause it to heal and get back to how it was?


If you cannot do all of these things, then you have no right to harm that skin for no just cause.


And also, this could be as a result of a flawed mentality.. because you realise you are stronger than her then you feel you can capitalize on that and exhibit superiority by inflicting undue pain on her.


Just to understand the reality of your actions, how about you go fight an elephant, chimpanzee, gorilla or tiger? Then you feel what it is like to oppress people you have realized to be weaker than you with your strength.


You owe that girl a big sorry and never try that again. A real man does not beat his wife. He admonishes and corrects her. If he must beat her, then it will be with his 'rod' and will be for fun not for punishment.


Well as for your relationship, I am not that good at giving relationship advice.


But mine is, as a man, earn for yourself and make enough money to start a family first. Then look for the RIGHT partner and then get married!!


Boyfriend/Girlfriend is a scam! Most of the time, such relationships turn out to be a waste of time, waste of energy, waste of resources/money and waste of sperm...

I av serious anger issues dats y i beat her, bt I am working on it. In as much as I av my faults. She also did something wrong, I just want to know if ders hope 4 d relationship.

Kyom20:

I av serious anger issues dats y i beat her, bt I am working on it. In as much as I av my faults. She also did something wrong, I just want to know if ders hope 4 d relationship.

Can u just keep quiet.

The lady is comfortable in the relationship, amd this also goes to all those beaten and been beaten.

Na una sabi

That girl is a fool, u beat a defenceless girl
Omg what a guy and you have the audacity to boldly write it here, you should be arrested and pls if you trully love that girl let her go before you will kill someone because of stupid insecurity issues.
Quit that relationship and work on yourself