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First off, there is always more to a story, I don’t know about you, buh I know what my mum is capable of and what she isn’t. The question here is, you’ve known your mum since like forever, do you actually think she is capable of doing such a thing?? When you’ve answered this questions then you have your answer. And Hey the day you throw your mom out of your house, that is the very day you have failed as son, your kids would probably throw both you and your wife out some day. It’s a vicious circle. It’s called Karma. Don’t let your wife threaten and blackmail you with end of marriage and all that. You the man of the house, Act like one!

You have to call your mom immediately and apologize to her unbehalf of your wife for beating her up. And mostly, you wife should kneel down and apologize to your mother for beating her up and in return, your mother should apologize to your wife for shaving her baby (your baby) without informing your wife first. If I’m you and my wife refused to kneel down and apologize to my mom, she is going back to her family house, no two ways about it.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
The old woman is at fault unfortunately. You don't take such decisions on someone's baby no matter who you are.

someone baby. Whose baby father the someone baby. The woman just uphold the tradition and nothing else. Na good wife dey beat her mother inlaw?? She will later got beaten by her daughter inlaw too. No be course na karma.
If any woman try shiit with my mother, she will end up with her mother. Someone raised me up before I met her......

Op,
Do you know that someone can just cook up story to defend their actions?
Don't you think that your mum might have finished shaving her own hair and decided to use same strength to shave her grand daughter's, out of love?

Your wife and mum don't like their selves and it happens in almost 60% of Nigerian families, your wife been the one close to you may be searching for an opportunity to blackmail your mum so that she will create enmity between you and your mum, so that you will ask your mum to stop visiting.

Women can go to length when quarrelling.

Your wife BEATING your mum as what?
To teach your mum how to live her life at her old age?
Please don't even say that to someone outside.
Beating my mum as if she does all things right.
Seriously, I dey vex for that beating part, except you don't regard your mum.

That woman ( your mum) made you...
Your wife met you made bro...


Try to use your head when handling family issues
Don't be a weakling
Except say na your wife pay your dowry

Odogu9195:
First off, there is always more to a story, I don’t know about you, buh I know what my mum is capable of and what she isn’t. The question here is, you’ve known your mum since like forever, do you actually think she is capable of doing such a thing?? When you’ve answered this questions then you have your answer. And Hey the day you throw your mom out of your house, that is the very day you have failed as son, your kids would probably throw both you and your wife out some day. It’s a vicious circle. It’s called Karma. Don’t let your wife threaten and blackmail you with end of marriage and all that. You the man of the house, Act like one!

shaving of birth hair is just part of some people's culture. The mother must have shaved the man own at the infancy stage as well. Nothing on earth cam make a responsible wife beat her mother inlaw. Nobody does that. She is forcing the man to arrest his own mother. If the business and trip no dey go well again, do you the will stay put. Can mama forbid her son. No woman can try that shiit with me oo. Beat my mother!!!!

olalat:
someone baby. Whose baby father the someone baby. The woman just uphold the tradition and nothing else. Na good wife dey beat her mother inlaw?? She will later got beaten by her daughter inlaw too. No be course na karma.
If any woman try shiit with my mother, she will end up with her mother. Someone raised me up before I met her......

OH she beat up the old woman? Didnt read that. But she should have informed d parents before cutting d baby's hair. Reason I love oyinbo, they don't overstep boundaries. No unnecessary sentiments and entitled mentality we burden ourselves with here

Who shares razor or clipper in today's world? How can a mother inlaw have the guts to shave her grandchild's hair without informing her son or daughter in law? If she can shave her grandson child's hair without informing her daughter in law, then it means she is doing other terrible things in that home, no wonder the daughter in-law does not agree with her. I don't understand how a woman can shave her own hair by herself, not at barber shop. Even a wife, should inform her husband before giving a baby ''the ist shave'', which atimes is done at 6months. so how dare an old woman do such without telling anyone. Something is fishy here. Mother's love and anger is what made the wife beat her mother in-law cuz it's strange.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
OH she beat up the old woman? Didnt read that. But she should have informed d parents before cutting d baby's hair. Reason I love oyinbo, they don't overstep boundaries. No unnecessary sentiments and entitled mentality we burden ourselves with here

oyinbo are whi they are. We are Africans. The bad blood that exists between the wife and the mother inlaw informs her unilateral decision. We too dey copy oyinbo nonsense. Meanwhile there monarchical systems work till present day while had relegated our own obas. Oyin still hold to their own culture while we batter ours. We no dey copy good things from them. You beat my mother, you live with your mother. Without mother, there cant be wife. I'm an African man.....

Shey people are begging u not to lock your mother up.. me won't beg u, lock her up! You think police men wouldn't ask questions? Your be out to a big shame! You go hear comments u go tire. Theyll even turn your matter to a public one, "come see one man wey him wife dey control oh, sotey him wan lock him mama up becos she cut pikin hair". You'd regret it las las.

No matter what, your wife shouldn't have touched your mother. For that singular reason, id say u married a monster. Beat my mama? Even if she's a confirmed witch, it's not in her place to do the beating. That's a taboo oh. Bad luck is looming I u don't know.

Lastly, I think your wife got more stakes in the .marriage than u. She's threatening to leave? Oya nah, let her fvcking leave! Beg her and let her see how weak u are; tell her 'you can bounce if u want to' and see her go no where.
Use your head Bros.

LilMissFavvy:
Who shares razor or clipper in today's world? How can a mother inlaw have the guts to shave her grandchild's hair without informing her son or daughter in law? If she can shave her grandson child's hair without informing her daughter in law, then it means she is doing other terrible things in that home, no wonder the daughter in-law does not agree with her. I don't understand how a woman can shave her own hair by herself, not at barber shop. Even a wife, should inform her husband before giving a baby ''the ist shave'', which atimes is done at 6months. so how dare an old woman do such without telling anyone. Something is fishy here. Mother's love and anger is what made the wife beat her mother in-law cuz it's strange.

nonsense. Go beat up ur mother inlaw out love for your child nah. The woman doesn't have love for her son inlaw too right. You forget the husband is a child to the woman too. Is there a boundary to mother love. Or you go get your mother inlaw arrested. She acted wrong , fine, but beat her up and still be forcing a son to arrest his mother. What type of wife does that. Assuming the man is one who beat his mother inlaw. Just imagine that....

I am not saying it is right that she beat her up, but I am unable to throw the blame on her, becos I cannot understand why a mother inlaw should do such a thing. Mother inlaw should have told her son, or daughter in-law. That is my point, so shut your filthy trap.

olalat:
nonsense. Go beat up ur mother inlaw out love for your child nah. The woman doesn't have love for her son inlaw too right. You forget the husband is a child to the woman too. Is there a boundary to mother love. Or you go get your mother inlaw arrested. She acted wrong , fine, but beat her up and still be forcing a son to arrest his mother. What type of wife does that. Assuming the man is one who beat his mother inlaw. Just imagine that....

[Youre doomed! Anyway woman who dislike her husband family is not fit to be a wife.
Send her back to her parent for more moral training bquoteeor=GalaxyTrends post=78106224]I would have sent pictures of what she did to my child but for security let me leave it .
I am not in Nigeria I traveled for a business meeting and I asked my mum to come and stay with my family since my dad is late and my younger siblings are in school. My wife refused because she does not agree with my mum but I insisted and made the decision . My wife just had a baby but our baby is 6 months now and my 2 year old son , my wife kept complaining to me that she does not help her with the kids she only causing confusion but I felt it was the women drama I overlooked.
Not until this morning my wife sent me pictures of my little daughter, my own mother took small knife and cut off all my daughters hair, used razor to cut it and cut her own hair too.
My wife said she was sleeping not until she woke up and started looking for outle child , she called the nanny and she said she was with my Mum, she got into the room and saw my baby screaming .
She said she beat up my mum and fought her until the nanny came to hold her . She had to call me in video call to show me. My wife is threatening that if my mum is not locked up, she will leave the marriage with my children. I am so confused here, I can’t come back because I am on a course, I don’t know how to handle this now, that is why I am writing for opinions before I make my decision. I am really upset and my mum is not saying anything. She said she only cut her grave child’s hair .
I need this mail posted urgently .[/quote]

[Youre doomed! Anyway woman who dislike her husband family is not fit to be a wife.
Send her back to her parent for more moral training

Okay

You are a very stupid man, your wife does not respect you.


Beating up your own mother cos of a child's hair that will probably grow the next few months,

Is barbing hair a crime now? If it had been her own mother, would she repeat same shameful act?


Well, for me though, the woman dey go her papa house.

LilMissFavvy:
Who shares razor or clipper in today's world? How can a mother inlaw have the guts to shave her grandchild's hair without informing her son or daughter in law? If she can shave her grandson child's hair without informing her daughter in law, then it means she is doing other terrible things in that home, no wonder the daughter in-law does not agree with her. I don't understand how a woman can shave her own hair by herself, not at barber shop. Even a wife, should inform her husband before giving a baby ''the ist shave'', which atimes is done at 6months. so how dare an old woman do such without telling anyone. Something is fishy here. Mother's love and anger is what made the wife beat her mother in-law cuz it's strange.

women and double standard. What if the table is turn and is the husband that beat the wife for just the same reason, would you still type this rubbish. I won't even beat my wife for such an offense, let alone beating an old woman for shaving a baby's hair. IF MEN ARE THE WEAKER VESSEL AND THE SELFISH AND WICKED WOMEN WE HAVE TODAY ARE ACTUALLY IN CHARGE OF THE WORLD, THERE WILL BE NO RECOGNISED MEN RIGHT ORGANISATION OR ANY SOUGHT OF ORGANISATION THAT SPEAK FOR MEN. To be frank, you ladies are just too selfish to even deserve any act of love or care from men. YOU WILL HAVE A DAUGHTER IN LAW ONE DAY, HOPEFULLY SHE WILL BEAT AND EMBARRASE YOU, FOR SOMETHING AS TRIVIAL AS CUTTIN A BABY'S HAIR

You are right but e don tey wai the mama they find trouble, her cup don full.

HyAccent:
Your wife is the one that ought to be in charge of the house especially when you are not around.
She said she does not want your mom around. You should have listened especially as you were not around.

Your mom has no right to cut the child's hair.

If your wife did indeed beat up your mother, then she went way, way too far.

This matter is beyond what you can handle.
Invite elderly ones that both your mother and wife respects to settle the issue.

You should have respected your wife when she said she does not want your mother around. You don't force a relationship between a cat and rat, and hope for pandemonium not to ensue. You're operating on the typical traditional idea of being the man of the house, and your decisions triumphs others regardless of their choice which is bad. It's a recipe for marital disaster.

Furthermore, your wife went too far to beat your mum, that's a taboo. She is also threatening to take further actions if you wont lock your mum up. You should never under any circumstances imprison your mum. Men should be protective of their wife and mother, and it your duty to make them live in peace, or at least coexist separately but in peace.

Firstly, never conceed to ultimatum, because if you do, you've just willingly transfer power and accepted a life of servitude. She is testing your backbone, and it is left for you to demonstrate if you have one. Tell her to leave if she wants, thats the only rational thing you can do. Never, and I repeat, never beg anyone to stay in your life. Ultimatum is for the weak. Most importantly, she must do what's necessary to close the gap for beating up your mum, ether apologies or other acceptable means. She must. She went to far.

Most importantly, you need to work on yourself, because if your wife can have the audacity to beat up your mama, threaten to leave if you do not lock her up, issue ultimatum, without being consciously aware of her wrong deeds, and being slightly remorseful, then it just goes to show how unmasculine you are. A woman knows how far a man will tolerate, and she will always try to push that boundaries. Be respectable, masculine and dominant force in your marriage, or else, things like this will happen often.

olalat:
oyinbo are whi they are. We are Africans. The bad blood that exists between the wife and the mother inlaw informs her unilateral decision. We too dey copy oyinbo nonsense. Meanwhile there monarchical systems work till present day while had relegated our own obas. Oyin still hold to their own culture while we batter ours. We no dey copy good things from them. You beat my mother, you live with your mother. Without mother, there cant be wife. I'm an African man.....

Yes sir. I have a mother and will kill anyone who hurts her.

May thunder fire all of una were dey take style support the wife ...


see how the story the pain me here

aaaaah as a wife u beat my mama....mehn na from hospital u go ....go ur papa house .....

I think your wife has some inappropriate sense of entitlement.

1) On the LEGAL ASPECT

a) What will be the offence for locking the old woman up? Is it a criminal offence to Barb her granddaughter's hair? Is your daughter harmed in the process?

Where does your wife derives the legal power to lock up anyone that offend her?

b) Your wife committed an offence (Physical assault) to have beaten up your mum. If your mum is educated and wants to cause, she can get her arrested and charged to court for this.

2) On the MORAL ASPECT

a) Your mother was wrong to have shaved the granddaughter's hair without the knowledge and approval of your wife.

b) Marriage is for better or for worse (meaning things may not turn out as we exactly expect), so it's very wrong for your wife to be resorting to emotional blackmail that she will leave the marriage unless your mother is locked up.

If you listen and give in to this devilish demand, one day she will ask for your head on a platter of gold.

My recommendation:

1) Call your Pastor/ Imam to intervene and settle the matter.

2) Let your mother return home (or preferably to one of your sisters or cousins) for a while.

Both the mother and your wife were wrong.
First of all, your mother shouldn't have cut your child's hair without getting consent from yourself and your wife. She was on so many levels wrong.
Then your wife beating your mother shows that she has no sense of respect for your mother/elders.
Talk to your wife, tell her to apologize to your mother, and explain to her were she went wrong. Do the same to your mother. Try and make peace reign. If your wife still insists on locking your mother up, she can use the door.

I don't think you read and understood the story, go back and read it. ''you said what if the table is turned and it is the husband that beat wife for same offense''. Why should a husband beat the wife for same offense? He should not becos they are a family, and the two of them own the child. A husband and his wife alone have right to cut a new baby's hair, that is the truth. If any other person wants to cut the hair, the person should inform husband or wife, that is my point. You are so daft, and you are sitting examples that don't fit into the situation. I author=kense88 post=78115401] women and double standard. What if the table is turn and is the husband that beat the wife for just the same reason, would you still type this rubbish. I won't even beat my wife for such an offense, let alone beating an old woman for shaving a baby's hair. IF MEN ARE THE WEAKER VESSEL AND THE SELFISH AND WICKED WOMEN WE HAVE TODAY ARE ACTUALLY IN CHARGE OF THE WORLD, THERE WILL BE NO RECOGNISED MEN RIGHT ORGANISATION OR ANY SOUGHT OF ORGANISATION THAT SPEAK FOR MEN. To be frank, you ladies are just too selfish to even deserve any act of love or care from men. YOU WILL HAVE A DAUGHTER IN LAW ONE DAY, HOPEFULLY SHE WILL BEAT AND EMBARRASE YOU, FOR SOMETHING AS TRIVIAL AS CUTTIN A BABY'S HAIR[/quote]

LilMissFavvy:
Who shares razor or clipper in today's world? How can a mother inlaw have the guts to shave her grandchild's hair without informing her son or daughter in law? If she can shave her grandson child's hair without informing her daughter in law, then it means she is doing other terrible things in that home, no wonder the daughter in-law does not agree with her. I don't understand how a woman can shave her own hair by herself, not at barber shop. Even a wife, should inform her husband before giving a baby ''the ist shave'', which atimes is done at 6months. so how dare an old woman do such without telling anyone. Something is fishy here. Mother's love and anger is what made the wife beat her mother in-law cuz it's strange.

Will u beat up your mum if she cut your child hair without your notice?

My mum has grand children, she has never done such. Am not supporting the beating, my point is that I find it hard to blame the man's wife, cuz the MIL should have told her first. So can you go to your son's or daughters house, then barb your grandchild's hair, the ist hair, she is around, but you don't inform her, can you? If you would, then it's very wrong. [Qquote author=Rubbiish post=78127505]
Will u beat up your mum if she cut your child hair without your notice?[/quote]

LilMissFavvy:
My mum has grand children, she has never done such. Am not supporting the beating, my point is that I find it hard to blame the man's wife, cuz the MIL should have told her first. So can you go to your son's or daughters house, then barb your grandchild's hair, the ist hair, she is around, but you don't inform her, can you? If you would, then it's very wrong. [Qquote author=Rubbiish post=78127505]
Will u beat up your mum if she cut your child hair without your notice?

All the comments you've made so far are retarded and pointless
Yes, the guys mother went far cutting her grandchild's hair without approval from both parents
But the guys wife is very very wrong for beating up the guys mother
There are other ways she could have cautioned the woman not to go to the extent of beating up an old woman
That shows her level of immaturity

Your dull brain is unable to grasp anything. I never said I support the beating you fool. Let me even ignore you. You are entitled to your opinion, gerrout.

henriettttta:
All the comments you've made so far are retarded and pointless
Yes, the guys mother went far cutting her grandchild's hair without approval from both parents
But the guys wife is very very wrong for beating up the guys mother
There are other ways she could have cautioned the woman not to go to the extent of beating up an old woman
That shows her level of immaturity

henriettttta:
All the comments you've made so far are retarded and pointless
Yes, the guys mother went far cutting her grandchild's hair without approval from both parents
But the guys wife is very very wrong for beating up the guys mother
There are other ways she could have cautioned the woman not to go to the extent of beating up an old woman
That shows her level of immaturity

cc LilMissFavvy
Come see what a fellow woman is telling u.
At times i wonder if u ladies got no mum, when u comfortably see nothing wrong in beating your mother in law, what kind of hate is that?

@henriettttta
May your daughter in law show u respect when u are of age. This is the first lady coming out openly to criticize the woman for beating her mother in law. 99.9% of women will never criticize the wife, because they will do same if in her shoes...

LilMissFavvy:
[s]Your dull brain is unable to grasp anything. I never said I support the beating you fool. Let me even ignore you. You are entitled to your opinion, gerrout[/s].

U are the dull & senseless one here
What did she say to warrant all these insults?
Did u criticize d wife for beating the old woman?
Instead u were beating about d bush, going further to criticize d old helpless woman for cutting d baby's hair, without criticizing d wife.
Senseless thing!

LilMissFavvy:
Your dull brain is unable to grasp anything. I never said I support the beating you fool. Let me even ignore you. You are entitled to your opinion, gerrout.

Shut up
If I was a guy and you try this with my mom I'll go and beat your mother, your sisters, and then your brothers
And then I'll show you d door(No be by force to marry)
Incase you're planning on beating your husband's mother over little issues like this, lemme just tell you this
Not all men have chill

I don't care what you would do, it's none of my business. You can't force your opinions down people's throat. Take a look at the above screenshot, and you will see people's opinions, enlightened people, who have said almost the same thing i said, so who the hell are you to criticize what I say? I don't log in to impress guys, or hunt for a man okay? So just get the Bleep off. You should never have mentioned me, cheap tramp. It's my last post to you.

I don't care what you would do, it's none of my business. You can't force your opinions down people's throat. Take a look at the screenshots above, you will see people's opinions, enlightened people, who share the same view as mine. So who the hell are you to criticize me? I don't log in to impress guys or hunt for a man. You are a cheap, filthy tramp trying to impress someone. Keep your opinions to yourself.

henriettttta:
Shut up
If I was a guy and you try this with my mom I'll go and beat your mother, your sisters, and then your brothers
And then I'll show you d door(No be by force to marry)
Incase you're planning on beating your husband's mother over little issues like this, lemme just tell you this
Not all men have chill