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Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 6:51pm On May 06, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:women are more openminded in the west than here |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Richy4(m): 7:18pm On May 06, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: Are u trying to convince me that the man or the husband in question was just silent through out all these divorce process ...No side talk no provocation whatsoever on social media from him and his family ... and the lady just kept on ranting? .... I don't know their history but I believe that when a child is crying and pointing hands in a certain direction... if his mother is not there, his father might be there... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:19pm On May 06, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: Oh Yes they are.... |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 7:21pm On May 06, 2019 |
Richy4:yes...it is social media... where blogs and online news outlet go daily for news. if Churchill has been making noise..we would have heard...tonto has issues.. big one |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by eyinjuege: 7:45pm On May 06, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: Speak for yourself. It means nothing to some men, as we see a lot of divorced women in Nigeria still getting married again. I'm sure even on NL, there are many people with half/step siblings from their mother's side. It is what it is. It didn't start today, and won't end today. In the old days, even kings (African) have been known to take the wives of their subjects despite having the option of different beautiful, young, never married virgin girls. Yet, they still go after the poor man's wife, and take her whether she likes it or not. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 7:55pm On May 06, 2019 |
eyinjuege:hope u know your last example is adultery?......should that be encouraged? |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Jman06(m): 8:25pm On May 06, 2019 |
ImaIma1:He's actually right unless you don't reside in Nigeria or don't want to tell yourself the truth |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by eyinjuege: 8:46pm On May 06, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica:Whether adultery or not, it still doesn't change history or the reality on ground. Even David stole Uriah's wife- Bathesheba. So all that story about men always desiring tear rubber are just stories. People will want what they want. Encouraging or discouraging adultery is left for individuals and how they chose to live their lives. They make their choice and live with the consequences. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by babyfaceafrica: 8:50pm On May 06, 2019 |
eyinjuege:OK |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 9:11pm On May 06, 2019 |
Jman06: As I said, I have constantly seen ladies remarrying. Maybe you haven't. And that is fine 5 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by revolt(m): 4:35am On May 07, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:first of all you're not a man. I can smell a woman trying to speak like a man...lol Now that being said....you spoke about immigrants ..do you not know most immigrants get married for the sake of papers etc... now this doesnt mean they have to leave the marriage as soon as they get it...but the women know the indigenous men are rapidly going mgtow so they lower their standards for the immigrant men. I'm not ready to argue with you on this. If you live in the U.S or Canada we shouldn't be at vfc using this. Men naturally do not crave commitment but have to do so for the sake of the women. The kids and society. When they grow old and weak yes they need a hmmm helper but as young men with cash hehehehm...the same cant be said about women. |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ireneidiva(f): 6:43am On May 07, 2019 |
erifeoluwasimi:If you head a school, you should be more conscious of your written English and typographical errors. Take time to edit your writeup instead of asking us not to mind it. If you can't, I wonder what you teach those kids. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Gift7428: 7:07am On May 07, 2019 |
Do you really head a school? Your IQ seems so low tho and your wrirten English is story for another day. Poor kids � 3 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by erifeoluwasimi(f): 7:10am On May 07, 2019 |
ireneidiva:You are welcome |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 2:41pm On May 07, 2019 |
Just a another "generalization" thread devoid of real facts. Plus the Op doesn't take criticism well...only discussing with commenters that agree with her point of view. For others, it's a default timid and predictable response. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:19pm On May 07, 2019 |
Clarion chukwurah the actress, remarried about 6 times, to men of great fortune, not small Bleep boys like some people are saying here. Learn to change your mentality. There is nothing bad about a single guy marrying a divorced lady, if he finds peace with her, and especially if she was not the cause for her marriage falling apart. I have seen divorced women who remarried. I guess because the OP is married, then she feels every woman with failed marriage is to be blamed. Also, when couple's fall apart in their marriage, they can tell lies, trade blames, etc. How is the OP sure that the lady cheated? If she cheated, what could have caused it? Was her husband an angel? In my own observations I feel that many nija women even tolerate all kinds of bullshit, so that they can stay married, especially, for the love of their kids. I don't believe women are to blame in this. ogawisdom: 6 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Gloriagee(f): 3:57am On May 08, 2019 |
Couldn't have said it better... sisisioge: |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Gloriagee(f): 4:05am On May 08, 2019 |
Stella Damasus 2ce sef, Stephanie Okereke... ogawisdom: |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 8:23am On May 08, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Besides women are more prone to speaking up and expressing their feelings and that may come off as being bitter. While guys avoid confrontation and prefer to be silent or run from facing the situation. This may be seen as being mature or being the innocent party. Being able to communicate feelings and issues properly is a major problem for many 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:28am On May 08, 2019 |
True talk. ImaIma1: |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 8:36am On May 08, 2019 |
ImaIma1:How is it that it's always you ladies that keep seeing divorced women getting remarried everyday? Where is it happening? In Nollywood, or in the streets with everyday women? Give us an exact number of the women you know personally that have divorced and remarried, not celebrities but the average divorced Nigerian woman next door. |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 8:38am On May 08, 2019 |
bukatyne:Personal experience, or from the stories of how many people? |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 9:00am On May 08, 2019 |
eyinjuege:The first part of your post is accurate and mirrors reality, the rest however seems to be someone typing idealistically and describing from her head how she would want it to be for divorced women. The majority of Nigerian men don't chase divorced or single mothers for marriage, believe they do at your own risk and that of your divorced friends cos they will just keep dating fvck boys/men masquerading as serious suitors. Yes, divorced or single mothers are very attractive especially when they doing okay for themselves. However, the attraction to them is usually not the "she's perfect for marriage" kind, it's the "she's divorced, experienced, in need of serious fvcks, and will not bring the emotional tantrums/immaturity that comes with dating never married ladies". It's basically an easy avenue for men to get the sex with little or no excessively emotional & financial expectation from a woman - this is the attraction to divorcees and/or single mothers, not marriage. I should not even be revealing this to you ladies cos na guys code, but I just came across this thread and been reading a lot of idealistic comments that are so far from reality. Another thing to note, you people need to quit using female celebrities as your standard of measurement. All the female celebs put together dont make up to 1% of the total female population. Because celebrities remarry does not mean the rest will have it that easy. Two different worlds completely. 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 9:06am On May 08, 2019 |
ImaIma1:You must know them personally, give us a number please. |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 10:07am On May 08, 2019 |
crackhaus: You are actually waiting for me to give you an exact figure. How will you verify it? So I just start counting and then, send you a report? . I am coming. If you go through the thread, you will see where i mentioned popular celebs not to even mention others. Oga rest. There are many remarried ladies. The fact that you refuse to acknowledge or see them is not really my problem. But it doesn't change the glaring evidence. Maybe you should start snooping. That neighbour of yours may be married to her 2nd husband. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 10:09am On May 08, 2019 |
crackhaus: Go out on the street, ask around and count for yourself 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 10:11am On May 08, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Why should I do that when you are already here making claims? |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 10:19am On May 08, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Number, you can't provide and you're mentioning popular celebs and using that as your proof that many (as in, many) divorced ladies are remarried. Something that is not yet on the high side in developed societies, it's in Nigeria you are confidently typing MANY. Do you know what an outlier is? That you even know one or two personally is not an accurate representation of many. Was it via snooping you found out that there are MANY divorced women who are remarried, or you know them because they are friends and family, or its only the celebrities you are actually using to make your claim? Don't bother answering anymore, you've shown you are just kidding yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 11:45am On May 08, 2019 |
crackhaus: All your rants doesn't change the fact that single ladies remarry. If you don't know that it is happening, then you should research and find out for yourself since you are very interested in the statistics instead of asking me for a number. I will bother to answer if i feel like it 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by eyinjuege: 2:50pm On May 08, 2019 |
crackhaus: Again, speak for yourself. I'm sure if a census is taken on NL, many people on here will attest to the fact that they have half siblings from their mothers. I have seen enough divorcees getting remarried to know it's TRUE. If single mothers are so low on the food chain, why did the fathers of these folks marry their mothers? Why are there so many stepdads about too? Meanwhile, your guy code thing isn't such a secret. The sensible divorced ladies know when to give it up. They also do no strings attached sex as per body no be firewood levels. It doesn't mean they dont know what to do when they see a man worth marrying. NB:- Men from their mid 30s who have seen a bit of life would be the ones who can be more objective about the issue on ground. A lot of young men still in their 20s who feel life is just starting, and they're just beginning to enjoy life may not be the best to ask this as they are still cloaked with their self belief of invincibility. |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by Nobody: 3:06pm On May 08, 2019 |
The know-it-all judges we have in Nigeria. Trying to use one cap to fit all. Nigerian women have indeed suffered. Every slowpoke will masturbate on her head for relevance. Mtcheeew 3 Likes |
Re: Why Some Women Become Bitter After A Failed Marriage by crackhaus: 4:32pm On May 08, 2019 |
eyinjuege:Lol @MANY people here have half siblings from their mothers, such confidence. I think you meant to say 'from their fathers', but whatever makes you sleep better at night mehn... 1 Like |
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