Please LOOK WELL before you start LIMPING

Young man go ahead and marry your girlfriend. Neither you nor your children will die even if your wife cheats on you because you have not carry out the rituals that will invoke such consequence. And even if you decides to go ahead with the ritual and your wife still cheats on you, it won't affect you as the man but I don't really know about the children. Maybe I will ask our elders and get back to you about the fate of the children if such thing occur.


Here is the ritual; on the day of the traditional wedding, a goat will be killed (don't know if it is male or female) and the blood will be spill on the couples feets with some incantations with other stuffs.
Am so sorry any lady that will still cheat on her partner after those rituals, she will find herself in a severe sickness that even the medical world can't diagnose the source. And if she refuse to confess, if she nor die make I know why.

Abeg, Ukwuani nko?....is there any barbaric tradition there?...make una enlighten us

rokoto1986:
THERE IS NO TRADITIONAL LAW IN URHOBOTHAT SAYS U MUST BUILD A HUX WEN SHE DIES, ONLY DAT SHE WILL BE BURIED IN HER PLACE WEN SHE DIES, because WE DNT SELL OUR WOMEN, DATS Y D RITE IS NT AS EXPENSIVE AS D IGBO'S, AND OUR WOMEN ARE HARDWORKING AND SUPPORTIVE. MY GUY IF U LUV UR WOMAN, DNT WASTE ANYTIME. URHOBO WOMEN ARE THE BEST SET OF WOMEN TO MARRY FRM. FOR THE ISSUE OF SLEEPING AROUND, OUR WOMEN RESPECT THEIR MARRIAGE VOWS, THEY DNT DO DAT

Calm down speak only for ur sisters
Not all Igbo marriage rite are expensive
Igbo women are also very supportive & industrious
Igbo women also respect their marriage vows
So
Igbo women are the best u can have as a wife
So don't castigate other tribe while trying to praise ur own tribe

Wakanda0007:
So Urobo girls get issues this much.

Me: deleting nneka number right now

Fool, Nneka is purely Igbo. Be displaying your ignorance globally.

SKYZZZ:

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Thanks for your input.

I don't know if the custom of building house for inlaws varies from place to place among the Urhobo people.

Honestly, this stuff happened to a church member, my dad also asked someone about it and the person confirmed it that it also happened to their family member who married an Urhobo lady.

I'm a little confused right now

It's quite unfortunate theirs was like that. But there's no custom in the Urhobo tradition that mandates one to build a house for the in-laws of his late spouse before she'll be buried. The families you aforementioned were just greedy lots. All I will advice you is to look, observe and study the family of your lady. This is because as much as the Urhobos are good people, individual family ways of doing things varies. My 2cent.

Ironcondom:
bros marry her abeg... nothing like build house for the inlaws... na only the man pikin (boy) na him de build house for him papa when him papa died.

This is not even compulsory, if the boy is an underage boy, won't they bury the father? Or if he's not well to do, won't they go on to bury the father? Personally I'm not of the school of thought of building houses for late parents so they could be buried in them. If a child couldn't build a house for his/her parents while they were alive, it's PURE FOOLISHNESS to do so when they've passed on. They're supposed to enjoy living in the house their offsprings build for them while alive and not in death. My 2 Cent.

ennon92:
Abeg, Ukwuani nko?....is there any barbaric tradition there?...make una enlighten us

I'm sorry to say this, but some of their ladies are usually promiscuous even in marriage, except she fears the Lord and they drink alcohol alot(especially the men).

People will just wake up and conjure nonsense.

Who said that all urhobo women cheat? The fact the one women cheated in d past doesn't make all women the same thing.

Who also said you must build house for your in laws? Na wa o

I am not urhobo, I am based in Delta state and I have never seen the average woman who is as hard working and dedicated as the urhobo woman.

If you find her to be ur soul mate, by all means marry her.

No follow people mouth o! Go and pray.

DonEd:
People will just wake up and conjure nonsense.

Who said that all urhobo women cheat? The fact the one women cheated in d past doesn't make all women the same thing.

Who also said you must build house for your in laws? Na wa o

I am not urhobo, I am based in Delta state and I have never seen the average woman who is as hard working and dedicated as the urhobo woman.

If you find her to be ur soul mate, by all means marry her.

No follow people mouth o! Go and pray.

Words on Marble.

SKYZZZ:
Good day every one!

Straight to the matter.

I'm an Igbo guy currently dating an Urhobo girl whom I intend to marry. But the issue of custorm and tradition is becoming a barrier to my plans.


It is widely known that if an Urhobo woman cheats on her husband, her children including her husband may start falling sick and may die in the process if she doesn't confess.

Urhobo ladies are not buried in their husband's place, they're taken to their home town for burial, this I don't have issues with.

Is it also true that you must build a house for her people before she is buried?

Please, I need advice and information from Urhobo people and people already married to Urhobo ladies.

My girlfriend is a good girl, but my family keeps pointing at these traditions as a way of telling me to watch before I leap.

Advice please....

I wonder y u should be contemplating on cheating in the first place
First am an urhobo

Secondly u don't need to build a house for ur wife when she dies. She would be taken to the father's compound should u and ur children could not afford one. I really do not understand why u should be scared of this self or are u saying ur children would not be financially capable enough out of love build a house for their mum in the nearest future?

Thirdly, urhobo women they are one of the best u can think of getting married to,very supportive and hard working. Very cheap place to marry from With 120k u must have fulfilled everything on the traditional list if not even less (my friend spent 550k for both traditional and white wedding and I know those who have married for less)

As per cheating, do u suppose she will? My brother if u love her this are not issues at all....

chenzen:
urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood

what do u mean ...why don't u substantiate this claim

Wakanda0007:
So Urobo girls get issues this much.

Me: deleting nneka number right now

nneka is an igbo name not urhobo....and no urhobo girls don't have issue as it is painted up there

Foxie:
I'm sorry to say this, but some of their ladies are usually promiscuous even in marriage, except she fears the Lord and they drink alcohol alot(especially the men).

I can attest to that drinking part. I guess u re frm Ukwuani, Umukwata right!

ennon92:
I can attest to that drinking part. I guess u re frm Ukwuani, Umukwata right!

I'm not Bro

[quote author[color=#006600][/color]=olisehcom post=78264991]You're concerned about what will happen when she dies?..

Relax bro, you'll die before her... No need to fret [/quote]

LOL, Not really. My family people just dey pressure me to know what's up with their tradition

rex444:
My bro if she gives you satisfaction as a man and a friend and lover .... The rest is secondary cos she never dey die...maybe na you go first her die sef .......no be bad prayer oooo....

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LOL, I hear you

DONBROTHER1:
Young man go ahead and marry your girlfriend. Neither you nor your children will die even if your wife cheats on you because you have not carry out the rituals that will invoke such consequence. And even if you decides to go ahead with the ritual and your wife still cheats on you, it won't affect you as the man but I don't really know about the children. Maybe I will ask our elders and get back to you about the fate of the children if such thing occur.


Here is the ritual; on the day of the traditional wedding, a goat will be killed (don't know if it is male or female) and the blood will be spill on the couples feets with some incantations with other stuffs.
Am so sorry any lady that will still cheat on her partner after those rituals, she will find herself in a severe sickness that even the medical world can't diagnose the source. And if she refuse to confess, if she nor die make I know why.

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Haaa! But baba I don't like that ritual thing. I'll love to just pay her bride price and other necessary things, all. Bringing fetish things into the matter is a no no for me.

I'm a Christian, she is too

I'll also ask her about this ritual something sha

Thanks a lot

Foxie:
It's quite unfortunate theirs was like that. But there's no custom in the Urhobo tradition that mandates one to build a house for the in-laws of his late spouse before she'll be buried. The families you aforementioned were just greedy lots. All I will advice you is to look, observe and study the family of your lady. This is because as much as the Urhobos are good people, individual family ways of doing things varies. My 2cent.

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Na true sha, thanks a lot

Nyerhovwo101:

I wonder y u should be contemplating on cheating in the first place
First am an urhobo

Secondly u don't need to build a house for ur wife when she dies. She would be taken to the father's compound should u and ur children could not afford one. I really do not understand why u should be scared of this self or are u saying ur children would not be financially capable enough out of love build a house for their mum in the nearest future?

Thirdly, urhobo women they are one of the best u can think of getting married to,very supportive and hard working. Very cheap place to marry from With 120k u must have fulfilled everything on the traditional list if not even less (my friend spent 550k for both traditional and white wedding and I know those who have married for less)

As per cheating, do u suppose she will? My brother if u love her this are not issues at all....

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Baba thanks a lot!

rokoto1986:
THERE IS NO TRADITIONAL LAW IN URHOBOTHAT SAYS U MUST BUILD A HUX WEN SHE DIES, ONLY DAT SHE WILL BE BURIED IN HER PLACE WEN SHE DIES, because WE DNT SELL OUR WOMEN, DATS Y D RITE IS NT AS EXPENSIVE AS D IGBO'S, AND OUR WOMEN ARE HARDWORKING AND SUPPORTIVE. MY GUY IF U LUV UR WOMAN, DNT WASTE ANYTIME. URHOBO WOMEN ARE THE BEST SET OF WOMEN TO MARRY FRM. FOR THE ISSUE OF SLEEPING AROUND, OUR WOMEN RESPECT THEIR MARRIAGE VOWS, THEY DNT DO DAT

you answered the first question very well weldone but the second you made a mess out of it and you went sentimental, you only know yourself, in this times were promiscuity is at its peak women can do the undo especially because of money.

Op I will advise you do a proper check on the traditions of the Urhobo people, to the extent of going to the town unknown to your potential wife to check things for yourself. Marriage is stronger than we think, if the truth about the man and the children falling ill to the point of death is indeed true, pls no matter how much you love her, and how much you have committed to the rls I will advise you to run away cos your life should always come first in any venture you seek and by extension your family love to see you alive too.

Take care.

chenzen:
urhobo wayo.


l hope u don't run away from ur house when u marry her, that's if she doesnt kill u in cold blood

i blame your family for not throwing you into a dustbin after birth.I blame your mom more cos intelligence comes from them. Useless thing.

Spits

Nyerhovwo101:

I wonder y u should be contemplating on cheating in the first place
First am an urhobo

Secondly u don't need to build a house for ur wife when she dies. She would be taken to the father's compound should u and ur children could not afford one. I really do not understand why u should be scared of this self or are u saying ur children would not be financially capable enough out of love build a house for their mum in the nearest future?

Thirdly, urhobo women they are one of the best u can think of getting married to,very supportive and hard working. Very cheap place to marry from With 120k u must have fulfilled everything on the traditional list if not even less (my friend spent 550k for both traditional and white wedding and I know those who have married for less)

As per cheating, do u suppose she will? My brother if u love her this are not issues at all....

op am here again, I keep going against these commenters cos I think they are speaking with sentiment, now I don't know and I don't care about the house stuff, my issue here is with cheating in marriage, I may not be able to give you the percentage, but I choose not to get down with married women just my principle, so many married women are loose with no regards to the value of marriage, they throw themselves at me willingly, and sometimes I will be ashamed that married women can be this LOW in behaviour.

Op this is beyond Love cos when the chips are down you will bite your finger and love will not save you then. There is a saying that says " every lizard lie down use belle face ground but you nu know the one when belle dey pain" op what am I trying to say you can only vouch for yourself in life you can't even vouch for your wife and children major reason the good book says " every man shall stand and give account of HIMSELF ", sometimes I even do certain things I vowed not to do again, you see I couldn't even vouch for myself 100% cos las las we are all humans.

Op do some investigation yourself, primary investigation and if the above is true with regards the consequences of a cheating partner then I will advise sir, it is not too late to change that gear and take the next route .

As for me I don't trust any human am sorry am being blunt but this is reality I have seen enough to come to this conclusion.

God bless u.

rex444:
My bro if she gives you satisfaction as a man and a friend and lover .... The rest is secondary cos she never dey die...maybe na you go first her die sef .......no be bad prayer oooo....

chai!

SKYZZZ:
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Haaa! But baba I don't like that ritual thing. I'll love to just pay her bride price and other necessary things, all. Bringing fetish things into the matter is a no no for me.

I'm a Christian, she is too

I'll also ask her about this ritual something sha

Thanks a lot

Please don't call me baba, maybe you think I'm one traditionalist. Am a young boy with a strong Christian background which I still maintain till now. I am just trying to tell you about the fetish side of the Urhobo traditional marriages.

Back to your topic; As a Christian you don't have anything to fear because you won't be involving yourself with such fetish things and even though your wife cheats on you (God forbid), nothing will happen to you nor your children and even the wife.

My Urhobo people don full this thread already. OP they have told you everything.

Urhobo people are usually buried in their place but with some permissions, they can be buried anywhere.

The cheating issue used to be very real but nowadays you just have to find out about the family you are marrying into. It's called "Erivwe" (I'd confirm that spelling and get back to you) in some places. But you'd still need to confirm from your girl's family. There's also the one that kills the woman when she cheats unless she confesses.

All in all, don't be scared, every place has its traditions, don't let it stop you from having a great marriage.

SKYZZZ:
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Haaa! But baba I don't like that ritual thing. I'll love to just pay her bride price and other necessary things, all. Bringing fetish things into the matter is a no no for me.

I'm a Christian, she is too

I'll also ask her about this ritual something sha

Thanks a lot

Better ask o. What nonsense. Sprinkling animal blood on you simply because of what again?

Adonko:


Op do some investigation yourself, primary investigation and if the above is true with regards the consequences of a cheating partner then I will advise sir, it is not too late to change that gear and take the next route .

There can only be a consequence of a cheating partner if and only if the couples carried out some fetish rituals on the traditional wedding day as I have stated above else the wife can cheat and nothing will happen to the husband, the children, and even the wife.

Adonko:
op am here again, I keep going against these commenters cos I think they are speaking with sentiment, now I don't know and I don't care about the house stuff, my issue here is with cheating in marriage, I may not be able to give you the percentage, but I choose not to get down with married women just my principle, so many married women are loose with no regards to the value of marriage, they throw themselves at me willingly, and sometimes I will be ashamed that married women can be this LOW in behaviour.

Op this is beyond Love cos when the chips are down you will bite your finger and love will not save you then. There is a saying that says " every lizard lie down use belle face ground but you nu know the one when belle dey pain" op what am I trying to say you can only vouch for yourself in life you can't even vouch for your wife and children major reason the good book says " every man shall stand and give account of HIMSELF ", sometimes I even do certain things I vowed not to do again, you see I couldn't even vouch for myself 100% cos las las we are all humans.

Op do some investigation yourself, primary investigation and if the above is true with regards the consequences of a cheating partner then I will advise sir, it is not too late to change that gear and take the next route .

As for me I don't trust any human am sorry am being blunt but this is reality I have seen enough to come to this conclusion.

God bless u.

So basically he should not get married to her for fear she may cheat in the future....lol....it's quite unfortunate the op did not even state the part of urhobo which d lady comes from. Some of this things u guys talk about has been eroded....op pls go n make ur own finding outside Nairaland.signoff

Adonko:
op am here again, I keep going against these commenters cos I think they are speaking with sentiment, now I don't know and I don't care about the house stuff, my issue here is with cheating in marriage, I may not be able to give you the percentage, but I choose not to get down with married women just my principle, so many married women are loose with no regards to the value of marriage, they throw themselves at me willingly, and sometimes I will be ashamed that married women can be this LOW in behaviour.

Op this is beyond Love cos when the chips are down you will bite your finger and love will not save you then. There is a saying that says " every lizard lie down use belle face ground but you nu know the one when belle dey pain" op what am I trying to say you can only vouch for yourself in life you can't even vouch for your wife and children major reason the good book says " every man shall stand and give account of HIMSELF ", sometimes I even do certain things I vowed not to do again, you see I couldn't even vouch for myself 100% cos las las we are all humans.

Op do some investigation yourself, primary investigation and if the above is true with regards the consequences of a cheating partner then I will advise sir, it is not too late to change that gear and take the next route.

As for me I don't trust any human am sorry am being blunt but this is reality I have seen enough to come to this conclusion.

God bless u.

There can only be a consequence of a cheating partner if and only if the couples carried out some fetish rituals on the traditional wedding day as I have stated above else the wife can cheat and nothing will happen to the husband, the children, and even the wife.

Godsfavour78:
i blame your family for not throwing you into a dustbin after birth.I blame your mom more cos intelligence comes from them. Useless thing.

Spits

mumu... a normal human being won't come here to ask foolish questions. very dumb of the Op

Godsfavour78:
i blame your family for not throwing you into a dustbin after birth.I blame your mom more cos intelligence comes from them. Useless thing.

Spits

l don't blame u. u used ur parent for ritual, now u re jealous of me. ur days are numbered.