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luminouz:
N if he fuqs up ..grabh.isballs oooo

LOL, how're you?

The two faces still resemble each other afterall. A word is enough for the wise. When people that are afar warn you, kindly listen gently to them.

AntiBrutus:
Lol, the mistake women always make.

That fix-him mentality would kill lots of women. Even in homes, you see women keeping broken and old objects. Men hardly do that. It is old- throw it away. It is broken- throw the damn thing away!! That is the average man for you.

Some women are obsessed with being that woman who tames a bad boy. The woman that will cry and a hardened gun-wielding robber would surrender...They always forget, men do not change after marriage. They even become brazen, while she finds a way to adapt.

This is why I like men, very selfish and radical in matters concerning their heart. You won't see a man trying to change an olosho. Im go just knack her like say the pussy is going extinct. Then on to the next one.

I do not totally agree with you that men do not think they can change and make attempts to do so. I think it is both ways. I knew men and have seen some from afar that married wayward women and wasted everything and their lives in the attempt of changing these women.

I have concluded that people (both male and female) with low esteem (irrespective of religion, wealth or social status) are those that find themselves stuck in those kind of abusive relationship.

BabaAduras:
I do not totally agree with you that men do not think they can change and make attempts to do so. I think it is both ways. I knew men and have seen some from afar that married wayward women and wasted everything and their lives in the attempt of changing these women.

I have concluded that people (both male and female) with low esteem (irrespective of religion, wealth or social status) are those that find themselves stuck in those kind of abusive relationship.

Alright...

Sorry, you mingled with a monster

titiloyeblog:
@titiloyeblog.com

see the previous thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/5183457/wed-august-lady-seriously-battered

Imagine preparing for your wedding, making expenses, informing family and friends of what could possibly be the happiest day of your life, only to cancel it three months before the D-Day?

That was what 29-year-old Omolara Busari did but she is not regretful. According to her, calling the wedding off saved her from a lifetime of misery or, in a worst-case scenario, death.

Omolara said she called off the wedding after receiving the beating of her life from her fiancé, Adelekan Adelufosi.

Omolara, who hails from Iseyin, Oyo State, told The PUNCH that she endured her relationship with 32-year-old Adelufosi for four years.

They had planned to finally get married in August 2019, but their wedding has now been canceled after Adelufosi beat his fiancée to a pulp last Thursday at Iwere-Ile, Iwajowa, Oyo State.

Omolara, who spoke to our correspondent on the telephone, said she had only challenged Adelufosi for asking her not to ever relate with a woman who lives in their area.

By the time she knew what was happening, she had been admitted to hospital.

She said, “There is a woman who lives in my area, close to my apartment. We were just discussing and greeting each other when he (Adelufosi) showed up.

“Later, he went to the woman’s shop and warned her not to ever see her around me again. When we entered my apartment that night, I asked him, ‘Why did you do that?’

“That was the last thing I remembered saying. By the time I opened my eyes, I found myself in a hospital.”

From last Thursday night, Omolara had been receiving treatment and was discharged on Monday.

But that was not the first time Omolara would get physically assaulted by a man who claimed to love her and make his wife someday.

“That was the fifth time he would beat me,” Omolara said.

Asked why she held on to the man despite his abusive nature for so long, Omolara said it was because she had a daughter for him.

She said, “Actually, I wanted to marry him because I have a daughter, who is two years old, for him. This is what kept me glued to the relationship. But this time around, I don’t care. Our relationship has ended and I have canceled our wedding.

“Right from the beginning, my parents and siblings didn’t approve of our relationship, but I thought maybe after our wedding, he would change.

“We were already planning our wedding for August 2019, but like I said, it cannot hold again.”

Omolara lamented she did not heed her parents’ and siblings’ warning before. However, she was thankful it was not too late for her.

“Now, they (my parents and siblings) are relieved and I have finally learned my lesson. I am so happy that our relationship has ended,” she said.

Omolara said she was more relieved because she would not have to spend her savings on Adelufosi again, who she claimed to have been responsible for since their relationship started.

She said, “He only has the primary school leaving certificate. I am a trader and deal with beverages. He doesn’t have a job and I have been the one taking care of him.

“I used to buy him clothes, shoes, and others. Even the phone he’s using right now, I bought it for him. I was practically taking responsibility for his life.

“Just last week, I gave him N50,000 capital, encouraging him to start selling recharge cards. But after the beating, he burgled my shop and ran away. Up till now, he’s still at large. He was always mad at me for telling him to look for a job.”

Asked what he initially saw in the suspect before agreeing to date him, Omolara said she thought he was a good man because he was “calm and gentle.”

“I never knew he could be this dangerous. I knew his real person when I got closer to him. I also did not know he smokes and drinks alcohol a lot. Anytime I told him what he was doing was not good, he would be angry,” she added.

Asked what she would do if the suspect came back to apologize to her, she replied, “Am I a fool? It can’t happen. I have made up my mind. It was then that I used to fall for his apologies. He can never change.

“He used to threaten me that if I decided to break up with him, he would take our child, and this was why I held on to him for so long. I will raise my daughter, whom I had by Caesarean Section, on my own; I would never let her near him.”

Happy she had finally taken the bull by the horns by ending her relationship with Adelufosi and canceling her wedding, Omolara said the only thing she now wanted was justice.

“I want him to be punished,” she said.

She also told our correspondent that immediately after her discharge from the hospital on Monday morning, she went to report the case to the Divisional Crime Branch, Iwere-Ile Police Station, Oyo State.

Efforts to reach the Public Relations Officer of the Oyo State Police Command, Mr. Olugbenga Fadeyi, on Tuesday proved abortive.

source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2019/05/womhan-cancels-wedding-as-fiance-turns.html

this guy declared martial art on her face o, lol what a mess

SageMK:
She was lucky to escape with her life.
This last beating must have reset her senses.

So she endured all this time thinking he'll change...

That's exactly the kind of thinking trapping alot of people in an abusive relationship. Psychopaths do not change.

smh

Me when dey find responsible woman when go support me but No, they love to be beaten

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wp-a-sG3o6k

“Just last week, I gave him N50,000 capital, encouraging him to start selling recharge cards. But after the beating, he burgled my shop and ran away. Up till now, he’s still at large. He was always mad at me for telling him to look for a job.”

She had a good mind to help her boyfriend but mba he's a Yoruba demon...

MissRaine69:
That’s the thing though
Men who have such tendencies look for women they know they can manipulate. They look for those who don’t love themselves enough.
He has no job
She financed everything
Yet she stayed.
That is not a woman who reeks of confidence is it really? She claims she stayed because of the child but if the father is not contributing to the upkeep of his child his absence or presence is the same really. He is actually a burden.

I wonder why some women put up with such liability. And the lady is pretty fa

Apination:
Me when dey find responsible woman when go support me but No, they love to be beaten

Baba support yourself. Go and make money, no chook eye for woman money

the beating was an eyes opener, she should have noticed this days back before trying to engage in marriage. Thank God you're still alive to cancel the wedding.

Mypeople2:
Naso una dey talk .You fit set blow ? Not to talk to somebody wey fit use bottle say draw map of Africa indicating all the rivers and main roads for your face

Well I've never dated an abusive person before but I have this ability to detect unstable characters and next thing na jakpa. I love myself too much to cope with such b.s

Ok

Virus99:
Biafra Football Club

LOL

GrabHisBalls:
LOL, how're you?

I'm fine jare....
Morning.

that's why I always say no matter how pretentious any partner is, they must reveal their through colour along the line of their relationship, some people are blinded by love that's why they are into a wrong marriage, thank God you made a wise decision.
but who was funding the marriage??

I SUPPORTED U OOO
NAH STUPID MAN BE THIS OOO....
MENTION UR FRIEND WHO CAN DO THIS AND LET THE FUN BEGIN,
I MENTION U, U CAN DO IT

luminouz:
Woman beater oshi.

Oshi abi Oshi

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I wonder why some women put up with such liability. And the lady is pretty fa

If a woman has no self esteem, she will struggle to see true worth.

Brainboxfid:
that's why I always say no matter how pretentious any partner is, they must reveal their through colour along the line of their relationship, some people are blinded by love that's why they are into a wrong marriage, thank God you made a wise decision.
but who was funding the marriage??

The man had no job and no identified source of income.
She was the one bringing in the money.
I would say it was certainly not the man.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Baba support yourself. Go and make money, no chook eye for woman money

Supporters club thank you