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Make money bro,and watch em swoon all over you.
Yup,that applies to family too

kaen1317:
If u need respect from her and others work hard and get that money.

If that is the only way you can earn respect, then it says a lot about your self-esteem

FindX:
You're also a failure that's why she is disrespecting you.

Now let the little girl be and put your miserable life in other first.

This ur response is very foolish and I know u are a big Mugu

Preshy561:
So sad.
I really hate disrespectful siblings.

Our last born is stubborn but I can't beat her cos she's stronger than me.
All I do is to avoid arguments with her or threaten not to give her any of my belongings or give her money.

The truth is that, she'd start respecting you when she sees you can now Carter for yourself and for anybody. Same thing with your parents scolding you.

Relax and make money, and all these nonsense will stop.
If she chooses to date the useless landlord's son, then leave her, all the regret will be bore by her alone. Just do your best.

But why are some landlord's first sons almost very useless?

I wonder why you think money is the solution or should be used as a solution to everything. You always make me laugh. No be flight o

1. Bro, all of these things you noticed about her, did you inform your parents

2. Did you tell them the kind of life she is living and how you have counselled her?

3. Are your parents educated?

4. Is your sister the last born?

If you have not done the first 2 points highlighted above and you went ahead hitting her, you may be wrong though not completely wrong.

Now that it has happened, call them and narrate all you have noticed that pushed you to beat her and if they refuse to listen, make it point blank to them that whatever happen to her they will bear the consequence.

Remember, you have your own life to live.

As I conclude, know this "she that being often reproved and hardened her neck, shall be destroyed, and that without remedy" Proverbs 29:1

Issorite

FindX:
You're also a failure that's why she is disrespecting you.

Now let the little girl be and put your miserable life in other first.

okooooooooh, don't be a savage, he admitted his inability to graduate first time and he is doing something about it

Let me ask this question cos I am curious to know. Who is paying your school fees? I cannot imagine you are a student and you are harbouring a good for nothing sister....for me I cannot live under same roof with a stubborn person even though he or she is my relative. I love my peace and I do anything to have it. Your life might be in danger cos she is now dating a cultist knowingly or unknowingly..the smoke weed and abuse substance .....they don't think normally anymore....a normal person should avoid such character.

Send her back to your parent.

GoTV:
Put Sn*per in her Tea

such a dool

At this point, I will advise you to quickly return her to your parents while you try to figure out the extent of damage that has already been done to her by that bad boy and probably his friends too. That's your safest and best decision for now in my opinion.

castro316:
My honest advice

I am a first son. As you and have 6 sisters. How do I manage them. Hmm bro it's the grace of God. My prayer is for God to give me all boys because girls are really difficult to cater for esp in their adolescent stage.

Ignore her completely, act like she does not exist. The reason why she is disrespecting you is because you are giving her too much attention. Do the dishes yourself. Clean your house by yourself. Ask her to raise her legs so that you can sweep the floors. Whenever you see her with her crew of guys don't say a word. Do this for a month she will realize she is On her own. She will start getting scared and start seeking attention else where. When she gets negative attention and see the selfishness of the people she is with, and reality of life sets in she will find her roots. Pls don't interfere with this process because you will ruin everything. They are probably having sex but don't kill yourself. That's life for you. I have a sister though not wayward but she is very stubborn. It took me 4 yrs to bring her to her senses. Now she realizes she needs a brother.

Bringing her to her senses
Maybe after a month or two she may need your opinion about something. Reply her with calmness and never relate it to any of her lifestyles. Its possible you judge her all the time about her lifestyle that's why she disrespects you. Its probably doesn't like the life but don't know how to change so be objective in your communication with her with time she will see you as someone to look up to. Always encourage her to do the good things and reward her when she does them. You may never get her to your side but you will get your respect back. Abi is that not what you always wanted?

By the way when is your birthday and when is hers so that I can couch you better?

Deqr op,this is just what u should do.

Oga, i'm sure the "X" you're "finding" in your name is common sense.

At least he asked you to read comments and waka because he knows you dont have anything reasonable to say.

FindX:
You're also a failure that's why she is disrespecting you.

Now let the little girl be and put your miserable life in other first.

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't take Snipper (that devil is a liar). If you don't have anything serious and reasonable to say, please, just read comments (I know as e dey be for here, sometimes).

Its quite a long read. Apologies for any grammatical or typographical error encountered.

Here is my story.

My younger sister who is staying with me disrespects me alot, and she doesn't take my advice. My parents stay very far away and I feel responsible for her. It frustrates me whenever I tell her something and she will wait to do it at her own time or not do it at all. She even sometimes abuses me indirectly.

She is 19, came to stay with me last year November, for a Predegree program, after staying at home for two years without admission. After the first semester of her program, her result was released and it was very disappointing. She made 51% in only one course of four courses, while others are below that. To be honest, I felt I failed in my responsibilities of giving her the right counsel, motivating her, and all that. All she does is press her phone all night long, that's if she isn't watching a movie with her phone. She'll sleep and wake up the next morning by 8 or 9am.

Recently, there's this guy who happens to be my late landlord's first son in the compound where we stay that she has been spending too much time with in dark corners and I can tell in my gut that he's up to no good. He doesn't go to work, school, church, nowhere. He just seats at home all day, smoking weed and any other smokable substance he can lay his hands on. Sometimes, his friends come around and they smoke and play PES 2011 on a laptop. Lest I forget, he's also a cultist. He has tried on several occasions to make me a yahoo boy, but I had to consciously refuse.

My apologies for the long read.

About a week ago, this guy asked her to cook indomie for him, and she did, using our gas, without telling me. This got me really up set. I had to take several deep breaths. I calmed down and allowed her finish. After she was done, I asked her to seat down and we started talking. While we were talking, she started responding rudely to me.

This made me hit her for the first time in 19 years (I hate hitting them). To my utmost surprise, she hit me back. That singular act made her receive a very hard beating that she sustained lots of injuries. She immediately called home and my parents where now shouting at me on phone. My dad came the next day and said lots of things. My mom said lots of things on phone which just piss me off the more, called me all sought of names. Said I shouldn't allow the devil that is controlling take me close to my sister.

Right now, I hate all of them. My dad, mum, and sister. If I was financially buoyant enough, I would have moved out of this house. I feel really depressed, being having nightmares and I so much hate the fact that am still living here.

By the way, am male, 24, studying Biochemistry, should have finished my first degree last year but I'm having an extra year (3 spill over courses).

How do I move from here? Advice me.

Ignore her, let her learn from experience. You didn't fail her, your parents did. Return her to them and let them have a taste of what you are facing

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't take Snipper (that devil is a liar). If you don't have anything serious and reasonable to say, please, just read comments (I know as e dey be for here, sometimes).

Its quite a long read. Apologies for any grammatical or typographical error encountered.

Here is my story.

My younger sister who is staying with me disrespects me alot, and she doesn't take my advice. My parents stay very far away and I feel responsible for her. It frustrates me whenever I tell her something and she will wait to do it at her own time or not do it at all. She even sometimes abuses me indirectly.

She is 19, came to stay with me last year November, for a Predegree program, after staying at home for two years without admission. After the first semester of her program, her result was released and it was very disappointing. She made 51% in only one course of four courses, while others are below that. To be honest, I felt I failed in my responsibilities of giving her the right counsel, motivating her, and all that. All she does is press her phone all night long, that's if she isn't watching a movie with her phone. She'll sleep and wake up the next morning by 8 or 9am.

Recently, there's this guy who happens to be my late landlord's first son in the compound where we stay that she has been spending too much time with in dark corners and I can tell in my gut that he's up to no good. He doesn't go to work, school, church, nowhere. He just seats at home all day, smoking weed and any other smokable substance he can lay his hands on. Sometimes, his friends come around and they smoke and play PES 2011 on a laptop. Lest I forget, he's also a cultist. He has tried on several occasions to make me a yahoo boy, but I had to consciously refuse.

My apologies for the long read.

About a week ago, this guy asked her to cook indomie for him, and she did, using our gas, without telling me. This got me really up set. I had to take several deep breaths. I calmed down and allowed her finish. After she was done, I asked her to seat down and we started talking. While we were talking, she started responding rudely to me.

This made me hit her for the first time in 19 years (I hate hitting them). To my utmost surprise, she hit me back. That singular act made her receive a very hard beating that she sustained lots of injuries. She immediately called home and my parents where now shouting at me on phone. My dad came the next day and said lots of things. My mom said lots of things on phone which just piss me off the more, called me all sought of names. Said I shouldn't allow the devil that is controlling take me close to my sister.

Right now, I hate all of them. My dad, mum, and sister. If I was financially buoyant enough, I would have moved out of this house. I feel really depressed, being having nightmares and I so much hate the fact that am still living here.

By the way, am male, 24, studying Biochemistry, should have finished my first degree last year but I'm having an extra year (3 spill over courses).

How do I move from here? Advice me.

Your dad and mom called and yelling and all.

Did you tell them why you did what you did (not that beating her was the best option)


But at least does your parents know your sisters changed attitude??, her hanging around with a "cultist" , her failing all her courses. Her action of using your gas to cook indomie for the cultist guy? You better tell them so they know.. if she carry belle , your own don finish.

Open your mouth and tell your parents the whole story before it is too late !!

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't...

By the way, am male, 24, studying Biochemistry, should have finished my first degree last year but I'm having an extra year (3 spill over courses).

How do I move from here? Advice me.

Put your foot down and show her who's boss.

You also have to set a good example by making sure you excel is everything you do.

I'm a also a first born but my younger siblings tremble when I talk, the whole 5 of them!

FindX:
You're also a failure that's why she is disrespecting you.

Now let the little girl be and put your miserable life in other first.

This comment is harsh now kai
u should have STFU if u av nothing to say
I just weak

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't take Snipper (that devil is a liar). If you don't have anything serious and reasonable to say, please, just read comments (I know as e dey be for here, sometimes).

Its quite a long read. Apologies for any grammatical or typographical error encountered.

Here is my story.

My younger sister who is staying with me disrespects me alot, and she doesn't take my advice. My parents stay very far away and I feel responsible for her. It frustrates me whenever I tell her something and she will wait to do it at her own time or not do it at all. She even sometimes abuses me indirectly.

She is 19, came to stay with me last year November, for a Predegree program, after staying at home for two years without admission. After the first semester of her program, her result was released and it was very disappointing. She made 51% in only one course of four courses, while others are below that. To be honest, I felt I failed in my responsibilities of giving her the right counsel, motivating her, and all that. All she does is press her phone all night long, that's if she isn't watching a movie with her phone. She'll sleep and wake up the next morning by 8 or 9am.

Recently, there's this guy who happens to be my late landlord's first son in the compound where we stay that she has been spending too much time with in dark corners and I can tell in my gut that he's up to no good. He doesn't go to work, school, church, nowhere. He just seats at home all day, smoking weed and any other smokable substance he can lay his hands on. Sometimes, his friends come around and they smoke and play PES 2011 on a laptop. Lest I forget, he's also a cultist. He has tried on several occasions to make me a yahoo boy, but I had to consciously refuse.

My apologies for the long read.

About a week ago, this guy asked her to cook indomie for him, and she did, using our gas, without telling me. This got me really up set. I had to take several deep breaths. I calmed down and allowed her finish. After she was done, I asked her to seat down and we started talking. While we were talking, she started responding rudely to me.

This made me hit her for the first time in 19 years (I hate hitting them). To my utmost surprise, she hit me back. That singular act made her receive a very hard beating that she sustained lots of injuries. She immediately called home and my parents where now shouting at me on phone. My
How do I move from here? Advice me.

well you cnt do anything except ypu will move out....
They all do that all of them I mean
She's in the stage (they feel high and all other sort of things since they have boy friend also dey respect no one)
And If she is very beautiful also just forget it....
Apart her upbringing was very bad.... You cnt easily correct her again
Like they say (atikekere lati pekan iroko) am facing the same thing here....yoy just have to forget it leave her alone do your things
Work hard and be great they will all respect you one day.... Don't waste your time trying to correct her.... Let her live her life she will realise soon
You should even be thanking god my sister always lies about anything and they always believe.her.......yoyr own sister is only pressing phone and disrespecting my own do more than that

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't take Snipper (that devil is a liar). If you don't have anything serious and reasonable to say, please, just read comments (I know as e dey be for here, sometimes).

Its quite a long read. Apologies for any grammatical or typographical error encountered.

Here is my story.

My younger sister who is staying with me disrespects me alot, and she doesn't take my advice. My parents stay very far away and I feel responsible for her. It frustrates me whenever I tell her something and she will wait to do it at her own time or not do it at all. She even sometimes abuses me indirectly.

She is 19, came to stay with me last year November, for a Predegree program, after staying at home for two years without admission. After the first semester of her program, her result was released and it was very disappointing. She made 51% in only one course of four courses, while others are below that. To be honest, I felt I failed in my responsibilities of giving her the right counsel, motivating her, and all that. All she does is press her phone all night long, that's if she isn't watching a movie with her phone. She'll sleep and wake up the next morning by 8 or 9am.

Recently, there's this guy who happens to be my late landlord's first son in the compound where we stay that she has been spending too much time with in dark corners and I can tell in my gut that he's up to no good. He doesn't go to work, school, church, nowhere. He just seats at home all day, smoking weed and any other smokable substance he can lay his hands on. Sometimes, his friends come around and they smoke and play PES 2011 on a laptop. Lest I forget, he's also a cultist. He has tried on several occasions to make me a yahoo boy, but I had to consciously refuse.

My apologies for the long read.

About a week ago, this guy asked her to cook indomie for him, and she did, using our gas, without telling me. This got me really up set. I had to take several deep breaths. I calmed down and allowed her finish. After she was done, I asked her to seat down and we started talking. While we were talking, she started responding rudely to me.

This made me hit her for the first time in 19 years (I hate hitting them). To my utmost surprise, she hit me back. That singular act made her receive a very hard beating that she sustained lots of injuries. She immediately called home and my parents where now shouting at me on phone. My dad came the next day and said lots of things. My mom said lots of things on phone which just piss me off the more, called me all sought of names. Said I shouldn't allow the devil that is controlling take me close to my sister.

Right now, I hate all of them. My dad, mum, and sister. If I was financially buoyant enough, I would have moved out of this house. I feel really depressed, being having nightmares and I so much hate the fact that am still living here.

By the way, am male, 24, studying Biochemistry, should have finished my first degree last year but I'm having an extra year (3 spill over courses).

How do I move from here? Advice me.

give her hot sex she will respect you forever

castro316:
My honest advice

I am a first son. As you and have 6 sisters. How do I manage them. Hmm bro it's the grace of God. My prayer is for God to give me all boys because girls are really difficult to cater for esp in their adolescent stage.

Ignore her completely, act like she does not exist. The reason why she is disrespecting you is because you are giving her too much attention. Do the dishes yourself. Clean your house by yourself. Ask her to raise her legs so that you can sweep the floors. Whenever you see her with her crew of guys don't say a word. Do this for a month she will realize she is On her own. She will start getting scared and start seeking attention else where. When she gets negative attention and see the selfishness of the people she is with, and reality of life sets in she will find her roots. Pls don't interfere with this process because you will ruin everything. They are probably having sex but don't kill yourself. That's life for you. I have a sister though not wayward but she is very stubborn. It took me 4 yrs to bring her to her senses. Now she realizes she needs a brother.

Bringing her to her senses
Maybe after a month or two she may need your opinion about something. Reply her with calmness and never relate it to any of her lifestyles. Its possible you judge her all the time about her lifestyle that's why she disrespects you. Its probably doesn't like the life but don't know how to change so be objective in your communication with her with time she will see you as someone to look up to. Always encourage her to do the good things and reward her when she does them. You may never get her to your side but you will get your respect back. Abi is that not what you always wanted?

By the way when is your birthday and when is hers so that I can couch you better?

Nice !

Mariangeles:
If that is the only way you can earn respect, then it says a lot about your self-esteem

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Ignore her as if she never exist, let her choose her own part u have done yours...

Badgers14:
Your dad and mom called and yelling and all.

Did you tell them why you did what you did (not that beating her was the best option)


But at least does your parents know your sisters changed attitude??, her hanging around with a "cultist" , her failing all her courses. Her action of using your gas to cook indomie for the cultist guy? You better tell them so they know.. if she carry belle , your own don finish.

Open your mouth and tell your parents the whole story before it is too late !!

they will never listen to that (parents)
Those girls know How To manipulate things
They won't even listen to you.... They will only judge...
Guess you cnt understand this

I wish i dey work for efcc
Just these 3 statements
And i would cash out
He goes no whr,no church,mosque,bar,..is he a chinese monk
All he does is to smoke all smokable and play pes 2011
On his system

So def he must be spamming all day
Preying on diff clients
Den he plays pes on his system,not even a ps4
Kai

Well....... It all boils down on how u present yourself to ur siblings...... My elder brother who happens to be the first born of the family commands Respect........ Mehnnn! I respect that Guy forever! He's always there when needed........ He's strict! He's funny! Just name it! He gives us all a level playing field and when shit goes wrong, he always has a way in turning it around........ Op! It depends on how to present ursef to ur siblings tho money commands respect also buh not all times.........my bruv was respected by all even when he had no job.

Mariangeles:
If that is the only way you can earn respect, then it says a lot about your self-esteem

It's the only way. Which other way

Preshy561:
So sad.
I really hate disrespectful siblings.

Our last born is stubborn but I can't beat her cos she's stronger than me.
All I do is to avoid arguments with her or threaten not to give her any of my belongings or give her money.

The truth is that, she'd start respecting you when she sees you can now Carter for yourself and for anybody. Same thing with your parents scolding you.

Relax and make money, and all these nonsense will stop.
If she chooses to date the useless landlord's son, then leave her, all the regret will be bore by her alone. Just do your best.

But why are some landlord's first sons almost very useless?

The regret sometimes rubs off on others in a way.
No matter how angry a person feels , no one wants to see a miserable sibling

FindX:
You're also a failure that's why she is disrespecting you.

Now let the little girl be and put your miserable life in other first.

dem no train u well @ aallllllllllll

firstbornson:
Haven't done this before, but I want to know your honest, experienced and well thought out opinions. I'm really depressed but I won't take Snipper (that devil is a liar). If you don't have anything serious and reasonable to say, please, just read comments (I know as e dey be for here, sometimes).

Its quite a long read. Apologies for any grammatical or typographical error encountered.

Here is my story.

My younger sister who is staying with me disrespects me alot, and she doesn't take my advice. My parents stay very far away and I feel responsible for her. It frustrates me whenever I tell her something and she will wait to do it at her own time or not do it at all. She even sometimes abuses me indirectly.

She is 19, came to stay with me last year November, for a Predegree program, after staying at home for two years without admission. After the first semester of her program, her result was released and it was very disappointing. She made 51% in only one course of four courses, while others are below that. To be honest, I felt I failed in my responsibilities of giving her the right counsel, motivating her, and all that. All she does is press her phone all night long, that's if she isn't watching a movie with her phone. She'll sleep and wake up the next morning by 8 or 9am.

Recently, there's this guy who happens to be my late landlord's first son in the compound where we stay that she has been spending too much time with in dark corners and I can tell in my gut that he's up to no good. He doesn't go to work, school, church, nowhere. He just seats at home all day, smoking weed and any other smokable substance he can lay his hands on. Sometimes, his friends come around and they smoke and play PES 2011 on a laptop. Lest I forget, he's also a cultist. He has tried on several occasions to make me a yahoo boy, but I had to consciously refuse.

My apologies for the long read.

About a week ago, this guy asked her to cook indomie for him, and she did, using our gas, without telling me. This got me really up set. I had to take several deep breaths. I calmed down and allowed her finish. After she was done, I asked her to seat down and we started talking. While we were talking, she started responding rudely to me.

This made me hit her for the first time in 19 years (I hate hitting them). To my utmost surprise, she hit me back. That singular act made her receive a very hard beating that she sustained lots of injuries. She immediately called home and my parents where now shouting at me on phone. My dad came the next day and said lots of things. My mom said lots of things on phone which just piss me off the more, called me all sought of names. Said I shouldn't allow the devil that is controlling take me close to my sister.

Right now, I hate all of them. My dad, mum, and sister. If I was financially buoyant enough, I would have moved out of this house. I feel really depressed, being having nightmares and I so much hate the fact that am still living here.

By the way, am male, 24, studying Biochemistry, should have finished my first degree last year but I'm having an extra year (3 spill over courses).

How do I move from here? Advice me.

From your Post:
- It IS NOT your House.
- You are NOT YET financially independent
- You are still an undergraduate
- Your own education needs more of your attention
- You love your sister and wants the best for her
- Your sister is one of those women (Yes, she is a woman, at 19yrs and fully responsible for whatever she makes of her own life).
- Your sister is like the proverbial Dog about to GET LOST in the bush, who will never listen to the hunter's whistle
- Your Parents are a part of your sisters problem and are immature themselves (sorry, l had to say that about your parents, l have no choice!)
- Your sister is "drawing a pattern of destruction" for herself)
- That cultist boy next door, will sooner than later impregnate her but dont let them make you their next target/obstacle


My Advice: You can only take a Horse to the river, you cant force it to drink! God sees your heart an dknows you have tried to help her.
Dont let her drag you down with her because some people are destined for the ground, even if you tie them to a bed, they would find a way to fall down with the bed on top of them.

First things first, face your education squarelyand stop playing "Small Daddy". maybe if you spent more time on your own study instead of worrying about your sister too much, maybe those carry-overs of yours wont be there?

You see, both of you are like two people DROWNING!
If you are drowning, you are not in a position to save another drowning person otherwise, TWO OF YOU WILL DROWN TOGETHER!

First, finish your schooling, do your NYSC, get a job and be financially independent, before trying to "lay down the rules".
"A Child whose hand has not beheld the handle of the sword, does not ask who or what killed his father" - Yoruba Proverb
"When the misbehaviour of a child goes beyond... "This child, dont kill me", the matter becomes "this Child, dont kill yourself" - Yoruba Proverb!
(This Afonja people sef, dem nor go kill me today )

Smile and just relax, life is too short to kill yourself over anyone, even if she is your sister.

On the last scene of the Matrix, when Agent Smith was beating the Hell out of Neo, and Neo was giving Agent Smith the uppercuts, there is one lesson Neo figured out at the end of the movie, which actually terrified Agent Smith. You do this, and demons in her will be confused.

I know most people have not figured out the real lesson, neither do I say to note the lesson. That lesson was also depicted in the Jesus Religions under the statement 'turn the other cheek' but not really as it was portrayed in the Matrix. Matrix made it open to me.

The Lesson is 'DO NOTHING', let the emotions go through you without responding. I have adopted that strategy in recent times and it seems to work, and it will work for you. Not because you are a coward, not because you are foolish, not because there is magic in it. But because it is a foundational and fundamental trick in the Universe.

Be the Observer, do nothing, let all emotion go through you no matter what people say, do or undo. Simply do nothing. Do not advise her, do not discourage her, do not edge her on, do not encourage her.

Just be neutral and watch time fly, soon enough she will be responsible for her life, her actions and inactions.

First Son here too. Na we know wetin make us show up as First Sons.