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Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Aristotle2019: 11:05pm On May 24, 2019 |
Focus on completing your program. Forget all the things that happened. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by ceeceeuwa: 11:17pm On May 24, 2019 |
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Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by ghettochild4u(m): 11:19pm On May 24, 2019 |
firstbornson:Go n play 1xbet n rent ur own apartment |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by JewelBukky(f): 11:39pm On May 24, 2019 |
Hmmm... Oga boss! Wehdone Sir... Bro Erujeje Kobicove: 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Elliot2(m): 11:45pm On May 24, 2019 |
I have this cousin who was very stubborn. Boy joined cult at the age of 11 and started smoking at the same time. Everyone was very disappointed,but not me. Everyone in the family was just using me to judge him, but I always tell them to stop. Everyone can't be good. In fact I encouraged him to be bad(every family needs some bad eggs especially if you are living in B.Y; they are not always that bad). At least because of his ruggedity, we had peace of mind from other bad boys who would have found it easy to intimidate us. The day this boy turned a new leaf just surprised everyone. He had gone out with friends and got drunk to stupor during a highness competition and passed out. His friends just left him there suffocating in his own vomits after taking pictures of him. It was some good Samaritans that brought him to the house; and it took him over a week to gain himself with the injuries he sustained in free falls. That singular incidence taught my boy that OYO is his case when the chips are down for a wayward child. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by shegzydave(m): 11:51pm On May 24, 2019 |
wooow let me tell you what I did during my own time with my immediate younger sis, it happens that she behaves exactly like your sis too, but I never raise my hand to beat her, one day we fight so much that mum and dad have to talk to me that what if they are dead won't I be acting or be in position of a dad to her? they talk to me and I also realize they are saying the truth, after about two weeks after the whole thing has settle down, I call my sis into my room, I call her three times and I said baby mi, first of all please what ever u think am during wrong that u dont like let me know and pls forgive me and i ask her what have I done to you to deserve all this from you, you know how.much I love you with passion, I talk to.her mehn that night she cried kneeling down to beg me that she is sorry that I should just forgive her and she promise me never to be rude to me again, that day I also cried we both cried then we hug each other and kissed each other, peck her lips, peck and kissed her forehead...and that's how we end out fight, so one day it happen I woo one of her friend that I don't know they are both friends, that one is calling me by name instead of bro because I woo her, my sis hear this and lavish the girl with Insult I was so happy that day.... so all am just trying to say is to sit her down first of all pet her and apologize for your past behaviour towards her and beg her, I swear she will also apologize and beg you too, and also the truth is that if u have money she will respect you the more, today this my sis am talking about wil call me and ask big bro what should I.cook down for you, what do u wanna eat, why because I give her money and feed her....so.please just be calm to her, with time she will change, she is still in her teen age, that's the stage they get attracted to boys I understand her, also use that to talk to her....she will change am sure 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Damfostopper(m): 12:22am On May 25, 2019 |
before I even finish ur story... I knew that you only senior her at least 4 or 5 years..... ur not stamping ur authority as a man......she feels Yu are in her age bracket . and it seems ur parents ain't helping matters...... I don't have a sister.... my junior brother/siblings can't try this with me ......whether it's 10yrs or 1yr Age differences ...... them no born you well to go against my word |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by tomdon(m): 3:40am On May 25, 2019 |
You're also a juvenile in this matter with little life experience and poor restraint capability. If you had been the first to report to your parents, you would've been the Victor, but you're the villain now cos you feel you know too well what should be done. You need a more matured mind to enable you curtail your anger against her and be on top of situations. Be humble enough to always report her rather than hit her because she will always want to enforce her rights and not be dominated even when she's wrong and you'll inadvertently push her into fire and problem not solved. Don't let the devil use you, just keep warning her, don't be shy or scared to do that at every chance everytime diplomatically so you can be free. What you owe her is love not how to live her life, that's her business. Good luck young man, relationship with siblings sometimes is not rosy cos everyone go de claim right 2 Likes |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by castro316: 6:41am On May 25, 2019 |
Mariangeles: Thanks Mariangeles. Did you watch "the rich also cry" back In the days?v |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by IAmTobore(m): 7:19am On May 25, 2019 |
firstbornson:Bros, I thought it was only she. I suggest you invite your parents, hold a meeting in which your sister too will be present. Tell them everything she is been doing, and inform them about her score too. After that, make it known to them that her chances are numbered. Let them know that you might ask her to go get her own room if she doesn't behave herself. Don't mind your parents if they say bad things against you, or support her. Some families are like that. Because they are family doesn't mean they can't be toxic. Take whatever trash they say like a pinch of salt. I am 25 years old, and I don't think I have the capability to take responsibility for a younger sibling (if I had any) not to talk of a 19 years woman. So, my guy, you tried. If it's your sister's choice to be wayward, then let her be. A 19 years old woman can't say she doesn't know what's right for her. But before then, call everybody's attention to it. Let them know that you don't have room for waywardness, and that if she is keen on being wayward, you can no longer be responsible for her. I'm sorry to say this, but from the look of things, it seems like your parents spoilt her with too much pampering. May God give you the wisdom to go about it. Don't let any trash make you depressed. Believe me, I have been depressed before, and it not good. 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by ImaIma1(f): 7:33am On May 25, 2019 |
Acidosis: Op is patient. I would have sent her back to the people that gave birth to her and trained her. I can't stand rudeness. 2 Likes |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Nobody: 8:15am On May 25, 2019 |
I was facing the same issue with my brother sometimes back. He is 20years and well built. This is what I did I ignored him. No, do this or talking to him like that except for compulsory occasions. I still supported his dreams and all but it wasn't more than than Then he calmed down a bit One of the times, he was quiet and not really busy I called him to speak to him. Results He is not really respecting me like he should but it is better than before 1 Like |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by frozen70(f): 8:31am On May 25, 2019 |
A drowning person is not expected to save a fellow who is also drowning You are too young to be subjected to handling siblings, even when you yourself needs help As for your sister, Girls when they are growing or grown, they try to prove that they are if age but they are only passing through juvenile delinquency I suggest you send her home for being naughty, let your parents experience her naughtiness What ever help you need to offer can be transferred to her wherever she is Your parents are beefing for you because they don't know what you are enduring in her, let them have a taste of it As a first born, if you do t take charge now, by the time you start working, you will experience worst Learn to be decent so that you can instill discipline in them Women get wahala ohhh And women they give wahala if you don't have the gurts to handle them Take charge and whoever that doesn't want to obey shouldn't be under your roof 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Brightdude007: 10:58am On May 25, 2019 |
I respect your love for the good of your family, it's clear she didn't learn those ill behaviors from you, that is what you get wen u roll with the wrong cliq. When an inexperienced teen girl is inlove n determined to explore, it takes the grace of God to bring her back on track. Trust me your parents are also not helping matters, no matter what happened they shouldn't have scold you that way in her presence, they should have done that secretly and believe me that teen sister of yours will always leverage on that to continue disrespecting you. Visit home and sit your parents down, and make them see reasons with you, I believe they don't know the gravity of things. Lastly encourage them to bring her back home so you can have all the peace of mind and total focus you need to tackle your academic challenges and future which is paramount and all you need right now |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Lekozy(m): 11:13am On May 25, 2019 |
firstbornson:bro the problem is we the first born we command respect which is unnecessary if she disrespect u...leave her alone and you face you studies and build your life other than fighting with her trust me when u re successful nd don't argue with her anymore u will earn re respect same thing happen to me and my younger sis too 3years ago...i was force to beat her she beat me back ooo...but since then i left her with her issue....nd face my path she is d one calling me now...nd begging though that spirit enters her at times to fight but i will just leave her because i have other things to think about than to hit her....she will come around trust me...dont command respect...EARN IT... |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by firstbornson(m): 1:58pm On May 25, 2019 |
Thanks everyone for your comments. Having so many persons to talk to at the same has inspired hope in me - helped me gather my thoughts. I must confess; reading your comments and experiences actually breeds some sort of confusion as regards what to do, but certain opinions and ideas are recurring. Again, thanks alot. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by firstbornson(m): 1:59pm On May 25, 2019 |
From OP: Thanks everyone for your comments. Having so many persons to talk to at the same has inspired hope in me - helped me gather my thoughts. I must confess; reading your comments and experiences actually breeds some sort of confusion as regards what to do, but certain opinions and ideas are recurring. Again, thanks alot. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by decatalyst(m): 2:51pm On May 25, 2019 |
castro316: You have valid point bro. I have two sisters and a brother, it has been tough getting them to do stuffs, but they respected me shall unlike the dude that created this thread. I sat down and tried to figure out how to get the results I desire. I simply started acting unconcerned, uncaring and have no time for them, though I send money when it is necessary and important. My last born who is the most stubborn...dunno if anyone is more stubborn than her, broke finally! She cried and pointed out that I don't call, care and unconcerned about her...lol! Since that day, she has changed and we talk more and I am enjoying it my brother. The truth is, solution to any problem or concern is not far from the problem if we look inward and around. @firstbornson stay calm 3 Likes |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by firstbornson(m): 5:30pm On May 25, 2019 |
decatalyst: She was like this while she was still at home. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by sapeleboi(m): 6:18pm On May 25, 2019 |
stop washing your dirty knee knees outside bro , go and look for something to do , she will respect you 2 Shares
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Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Image123(m): 6:32pm On May 25, 2019 |
Eeyah, your junior sister doesn't see any line of difference, familiarity breeds contempt. You're both dependents, waiting for dad and mum to send rent money, pocket money etc. Which is not wrong BTW. You'll need to earn her respect, not just demand it. Many factors can influence or change that as many have suggested. You failed to graduate, she also failed matriculate. In her view, you have no moral grounds or higher pedestal. She does not see you up there, as a role model or someone to look UP to, follow. When she was at home, she saw you up there, but as she came to school na, she saw that you are both failing together, and she has your mates and seniors now as boyfriends. So become that person up there. Like some have said, money easily makes anybody that. Another thing can be godliness, maturity, achievement in whatever context e.g acquisition of things can give respect, just like your young new landlord who is befriending her gets his respect. Even seemingly intangible/weird stuff like becoming a father or husband, and so on. So work on adding value to yourself, and you will be respected. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by creepsyme(f): 10:09pm On May 25, 2019 |
firstbornson:Eeyyaaaaa small boy... don't worry when you are grown things will change. For now please take heart. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Roksman1551(m): 1:53pm On Mar 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by blingxx(m): 3:32pm On Jun 15, 2020 |
FindX: if not for the internet I suppose slap your with my left hand ...you heard me right , I have siblings too you are a FOOL sir |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by blingxx(m): 3:38pm On Jun 15, 2020 |
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Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by OmoOduduwa01: 7:37pm On Jun 15, 2020 |
FindX: Ogbeni, keep quite if you don't have any reasonable things to say!!! You are so rude Kai! @op, I'll advise you to get yourself busy with whatever good thing you can lay your hands on |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Nenegi: 10:54pm On Dec 18, 2021 |
Me too� Ok I'm 17 ,and my younger sister is 15. I just blame it on me because I happen to be a very nice person, especially when I was young. My younger sister is caring but she always disrespects me out of my 2 siblings She always does that ,and it's painful. Sometimes she cries when my mom yell at her And sometimes I cry when I see her crying.i can't even stand her crying though she disrespects me so much I can't even fight with her because when we were younger I mistakenly broke her hand because we got into a fight So when ever she disrespects me,I always remember the day I broke her hand.then I'll stay patient because I don't want to hurt her for the second time At times I wished I had two sisters. |
Re: My Younger Sister Disrespects Me Alot - Help A First Born. by Nobody: 9:51am On Dec 19, 2021 |
prepare delicious food then serve am to am but before you give am put otapia pia no be ota koM kom o, real ota pia pia. Repeat am otapia pia with small rat poison so that E no go too test. Her belle go big dey shine untop bed next time she no go try am again if she even c next time. |
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