Have you ever been denied help, attention, etc, because of the way you look? As a guy, has someone ever denied you help or given you a nasty look because of your dressing, haircut, even though your appearance was decent? For the ladies, have you experienced something similar, because someone didn't like the fact that you wear makeup, jewelries, etc? It can be painful if the ''offender'' is a ''Christian''.

There is a serious segregation in the church, with differences in dressing, mode of worship, etc, and this has affected the way Christians relate with each other.

I write this because I can still recall a little experience I once had, sharing it may touch someone. In my final year, I had gone to the bank to pay some ''dues''. There were few customers, so I was just behind a woman. She was busy with lots of cash withdrawals, I filled my teller and waited. The woman was a ''no make-up, no jewelries, kind of person, some call it the ''born again look''. Then the banker called on me, ''you want to pay in?'' I said yes I want to pay for school dues. She collected my money, counted it, then showed me a particular 500 note, she complained that the money was torn at the edge, hence she can't accept it. I looked at the money, the tear was small. I told her pls, my house is far, I can't go back home to get money, then come back, I also did not bring my ATM card, the money left in my bag is for transportation.

She still refused to collect it, saying the bank had given them instruction not to collect bad notes, that they had been receiving a lot of torn cash, and were warned to stop it. At this point, the ''born again lady was listening to our argument, and also stuffing her bag with bundles of cash. She then assessed my appearance, (I do use jewelries), she brought out some notes from a bundle of cash, and gave it to the banker, and said ''for your lunch''' . She left......ooops! It was just a note I needed, but she ignored a student, and helped a banker . Yes, I saw that she wasn't okay with the fact that I wore jewelries or trousers . I simply left as well to get money at home, but something within me asked..... ''as Christians which we claim to be, where is the love?''. If as a Christian, you are bias in helping or showing love to other Christians or people because they don't have the physical appearance that pleases you, then I think we have lost it. Jesus during His wonderful works did not show any prejudice towards people. We can become better Christians, it begins with you and I, may God help us. Peace!

If you have had similar experiences, pls share it.

Do you help people in their time of need as well?

Seeing someone dressing without make up or ear ring doesn't mean she is a christian, Christianity mean Christ like

People tend to judge others by their appearances.

Nice write up OP.

Many of us are guilty of this "selective charity". It ought not to be so. May God help us all.


**Okay, y'all asking why the OP didn't ask for help first, have got a point.. After all the Bible tells us ask, and it shall be given...

OK now, let's ponder on this bible verse:


1 John 3:17: But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?


Sometimes, we shouldn't wait to be asked before reaching out to those in need around us.


Personally, I grab every little opportunity I get to help someone. The joy that comes with it is indescribable.


Happy Sunday everyone

There is love just find the place to worship

Actually, some people's self righteousness turns them to the most judgemental people you'll ever come across. The worst is what I call mass judgement or transferred judgement, this is where even those who don't know you from anywhere will turn on you once they are told to. Sorry girl, just lower your expectations.
But then Op, did you ask her directly and she didn't help? Or you expected her to help you automatically without asking thinking she can see that you needed help? If this is the case, then you should have asked her directly first. Even though it's somehow, Some people still want you to ask them for help directly before they'll render it, doesn't matter to them if they saw your need.

op forget it, you were feeling too pompous. did you ask her for help where she decline. it is not about being Christian or not, or the way you dressed. the question is did you ask her for help?

If u were in the born again shoes, would u av helped without getting a request ....

she was probably minding her business... that WS what u should av done... or u could av just politely asked, she would av been glad to help ....

Guessed u never believed she could be helpful dah was why u ignored her...
she's just been human... tz nobody's fault....

or do u want her to help u n it'll look like oju-aye ?

1st is, u didnt ask that woman 4help. Is she ur mother that's obligated 2help u? Nxt time, humble urself & ask 4help.

2nd tin is, u were too gentle. If na me i go raise my voice on that cashier & request 2see d manager. If bank no accept torn note, who else go accept am? Wat nonsense!

But finally sha, i get ur msg. People shud act like Christ if they claim 2b CHRISTians.

I do. Don't judge me. Believe me, that write up will be a wake up call to many.

dingbang:
Do you help people in their time of need as well?

Amen, tanx.

RoyalBlu:
Nice write up OP.

Many of us are guilty of this "selective charity". It ought not to be so. May God help us all.

LilMissFavvy:
I do. Don't judge me. Believe me, that write up will be a wake up call to many.

if you say I shouldnt judge you then why did you judge the woman? To her, she appreciated the teller for her good customer service , and its not in your place to decide what one does with his or her money .

With all sincerity, I did not ask her. The banker did not ask either.

KevMitnick:
Actually, some people's self righteousness turns them to the most judgemental people you'll ever come across. The worst is what I call mass judgement or transferred judgement, this is where even those who don't know you from anywhere will turn on you once they are told to. Sorry girl, just lower your expectations.
But then Op, did you ask her directly and she didn't help? Or you expected her to help you automatically without asking thinking she can see that you needed help? If this is the case, then you should have asked her directly first. Even though it's somehow, Some people still want you to ask them for help directly before they'll render it, doesn't matter to them if they saw your need.

The banker did not ask her, remember. No I did not ask her. But if she knew that the banker deserves favour, then how about a stranded student.

Oma307:
op forget it, you were feeling too pompous. did you ask her for help where she decline. it is not about being Christian or not, or the way you dressed. the question is did you ask her for help?

But she helped a banker.

Olufela30:
If u were in the born again shoes, would u av helped without getting a request ....

she was probably minding her business... that WS what u should av done... or u could av just politely asked, she would av been glad to help ....

Guessed u never believed she could be helpful dah was why u ignored her...
she's just been human... tz nobody's fault....

or do u want her to help u n it'll look like oju-aye ?

Well, the OP should have asked before passing judgement.

But Deeper Life and mountain of fire members discriminate other church denominations alot. Infact they see them as sinners.

She helped a banker, and ignored a helpless student. I did not ask. I agree with your last paragraph. Believe me, if we Christian's keep praising each other, and see nothing wrong with all of our actions, we may get lost completely.

kingkoboko:
1st is, u didnt ask that woman 4help. Is she ur mother that's obligated 2help u? Nxt time, humble urself & ask 4help.

2nd tin is, u were too gentle. If na me i go raise my voice on that cashier & request 2see d manager. If bank no accept torn note, who else go accept am? Wat nonsense!

But finally sha, i get ur msg. People shud act like Christ if they claim 2b CHRISTians.

I wasn't judging the woman. You would love a thread where I praise all of the actions of a Christian. But if we keep praising each other, don't you think we may lost it totally?

dingbang:
if you say I shouldnt judge you then why did you judge the woman? To her, she appreciated the teller for her good customer service , and its not in your place to decide what one does with his or her money .

LilMissFavvy:
I wasn't judging the woman. You would love a thread where I praise all of the actions of a Christian. But if we keep praising each other, don't you think we may lost it totally?

you judged her. These were your words I believe.



She then assessed my appearance, (I do use jewelries), she brought out some notes from a bundle of cash, and gave it to the banker, and said ''for your lunch''' cheesy. She left......ooops! It was just a note I needed, but she ignored a student, and helped a banker cheesy. Yes, I saw that she wasn't okay with the fact that I wore jewelries or trousers cheesy. I simply left as well to get money at home, but something within me asked..... ''as Christians which we claim to be, where is the love?''. If as a Christian, you are bias in helping or showing love to other Christians or people because they don't have the physical appearance that pleases you, then I think we have lost it. Jesus during His wonderful works did not show any prejudice towards people. We can become better Christians, it begins with you and I, may God help us. Peace!

How should I have written it? Cuz all I wrote is the truth.

dingbang:
you judged her. These were your words I believe.



[b]She then assessed my appearance, (I do use jewelries), she brought out some notes from a bundle of cash, and gave it to the banker, and said ''for your lunch''' cheesy. She left......ooops! It was just a note I needed, but she ignored a student, and helped a banker cheesy.[/b[ Yes, I saw that she wasn't okay with the fact that I wore jewelries or trousers cheesy. I simply left as well to get money at home, but something within me asked..... ''as Christians which we claim to be, where is the love?''. If as a Christian, you are bias in helping or showing love to other Christians or people because they don't have the physical appearance that pleases you, then I think we have lost it. Jesus during His wonderful works did not show any prejudice towards people. We can become better Christians, it begins with you and I, may God help us. Peace!

LilMissFavvy:
But she helped a banker.

and here you still doing the same thing you claim you ain't doing, not judging her. Damnit. Why can't you just admit the fact that you are wrong in all shades of it.

Like everyone pointed out, you should have asked..

LilMissFavvy:
How should I have written it? Cuz all I wrote is the truth.

well, I will leave your thread since you can't clear the log out of your own eyes first.

LilMissFavvy:
The banker did not ask her, remember. No I did not ask her. But if she knew that the banker deserves favour, then how about a stranded student.

but do you know that the banker has been doing her a favor by keeping her money safely. but you should have asked her, you know there are some people that if you don't ask them, they won't help you even if you seriously need the help. they mind their business. this thing happens to everyone

It's okay. But is my write up offensive? I don't mind modifying it. It's a Sunday, and such write ups I thought can serve as a wake up call to someone.

Oma307:

but do you know that the banker has been doing her a favor by keeping her money safely. but you should have asked her, you know there are some people that if you don't ask them, they won't help you even if you seriously need the help. they mind their business. this thing happens to everyone

Yes, I didn't ask, the write up may wake up some hearts.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
Well, the OP should have asked before passing judgement.

But Deeper Life and mountain of fire members discriminate other church denominations alot. Infact they see them as sinners.

The biblical verses will help touch us all, tanx for sharing, feels good it's coming from a lady like me.

RoyalBlu:
Nice write up OP.

Many of us are guilty of this "selective charity". It ought not to be so. May God help us all.


**Okay, y'all asking why the OP didn't ask for help first, have got a point.. After all the Bible tells us ask, and it shall be given...

OK now, let's ponder on this bible verse:


1 John 3:17: But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?


Sometimes, we shouldn't wait to be asked before reaching out to those in need around us.


Personally, I grab every little opportunity I get to help someone. The joy that comes with it is indescribable.


Happy Sunday everyone

LilMissFavvy:
It's okay. But is my write up offensive? I don't mind modifying it. It's a Sunday, and such write ups I thought can serve as a wake up call to someone.

not really. we all fault because that is human nature. Happy Sunday dear

LilMissFavvy:
The biblical verses will help touch us all, tanx for sharing, feels good it's coming from a lady like me.

do you know that you are debauched to yourself?have you forgotten that I caught you when a beggar was asking you for your help and do you remember your replied to the beggar...... don't judge Christians when you have not judge yourself......

Copy and paste it here let me see, paste my reply here. I know you want me to start bashing and exchange of words.

eduora:
do you know that you are debauched to yourself?have you forgotten that I caught you when a beggar was asking you for your help and do you remember your replied to the beggar...... don't judge Christians when you have not judge yourself......

LilMissFavvy:
It's okay. But is my write up offensive? I don't mind modifying it. It's a Sunday, and such write ups I thought can serve as a wake up call to someone.

I love the message you passed,but you don't even have to bring the woman and her mode of dressing into the discussion. Your post would still have made sense if you write it in general terms.
You are not God but you assume to know what the woman is thinking,you assume she refused to help you cos of your look,you judged her. Some were correcting you up there but you refused to take corrections. Nobody's perfect, humble yourself girl,also your entitlement mentally is bad. You assumed you should have helped you like you deserve it. Please don't relate with God this way or else you won't get shit from him. God doesn't bless those who deserve it,he blesses because he is good.