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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by abbey621(m): 2:40pm On May 29, 2019
@OP 90% of those who criticize you and are married have also lost it once, twice or even more.Be it male or female, be it verbal abuse, a slap or breaking things. The important thing here is to realize you have erred and to work on getting help. It is okay to be remorseful but remorse without significant action is useless. It sounds like you know what triggers this reaction in you, try to go back to a time when you had a job and things were better, were you beating her then or did you enjoy peace? Work on focusing your anger on something positive like learning a new skill, a religious support group or even comedy. An hungry man is an angry man. An angry man is a man without self control, take control of your life don't let it control you!

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Sally97(f): 2:44pm On May 29, 2019
OneCorner:
What’s there in beating a woman
They are subordinate to us and it’s our right to flog them whenever they prove stubborn.
Some women will even have guts to deny their husband sex. Husband oo dat pay her bride price.
Women like dat need flogging, dey need to be tamed
Trust me you can't be a lesser fool

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Divepen1(m): 2:46pm On May 29, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
You are correct, I keep saying that the only reason men beat their wives or gf, Is because they know the women may not be able to fight back. If men and women had equal strength, men would always think twice before hitting a woman.
This is a wrong comparison. Most guys don't resort to insults, abuses, and curses when they are arguing with fellow guys. When they even do, it's not as bad as the ladies'. I'm not supporting the way he beats her but even a woman, in a Tvshow I saw of recent, pointed out that fact. You people should bridle your tongue and the men should tamp their anger.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 2:48pm On May 29, 2019
BiafranBushBoy:
There is nothing worse than financial frustration. All I see here is a Woman, claiming to be a Man Wife Beater.

In your write-up, you want to sound pathetic, pitied, garner sympathy; but you forgot that in this life, nobody cares about you.

You are jobless, a drop-out, frustrated, etc. (Nice qualities).

But let me tell you what is frustration;

Frustration is when you wake up and realize that you are old, frail, weak, with lots of regrets about things you should have done that you didn't do.

A wise man once said; "know your weaknesses and compensate them with your strengths"

You have your hands, you type good English, you are able-bodied, you can even beat a woman - which shows that every part of your body is functional.

What have you done with them?

Life will become a better place for you if you apologize to her and channel your anger towards becoming a millionaire by December.

Don't ask me how, just find a way.

If your thoughts are focused on how to make money - I mean plenty of them, you won't even have time for your wife; talk less of beating her.

I don't really like helping people, but send me a PM - let's talk!

Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 2:48pm On May 29, 2019
Keep beating her,you hear?Upper cut,lower cut,round house kick.Its the only way to show love.
The climax of your love will be when you finally land one punch and she just stops moving.....forever.
Then we will all gather for the wedding.


Now bro...jokes apart.
Self control is the issue here.
Imagine your wife is a 200pound muscular army officer
Would you slap her even if she gets on your last nerve?
Do you fight or beat up your fellow men?I think not.
This is all about power and ego...and you know it.
Control yourself the same way you would when facing an annoying police man.
You have to learn to control your temper.If it means leaving the scene and locking yourself up somewhere

Make devil no finish work.on top your head

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 2:49pm On May 29, 2019
Keep beating her,you hear?Upper cut,lower cut,round house kick.Its the only way to show love.
The climax of your love will be when you finally land one punch and she just stops moving.....forever.
Then we will all gather for the wedding.


Now bro...jokes apart.
Self control is not the issue here.
Imagine your wife is a 200pound muscular army soldier...
Would you slap her even if she gets on your last nerve?
Do you fight or beat up your fellow men?I think not.
This is all about power and ego...and you know it.

You have to learn to control your temper.If it means leaving the scene and locking yourself up somewhere

Make devil no finish work on top your head.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by TheeDetective: 2:50pm On May 29, 2019
@op; wich kin thing be this nah; and e come be say no be only one time you don beat your wife . In theory, you are saying that if a woman does not respect her husband then beating is allowed. Sometimes I wonder when some men say some women can be so annoying to warrant putting their hands on them and injuring them in the process. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT THE WAY FORWARD AND SHOULDN'T BE ENCOURAGED NOR TOLERATED IN THIS MODERN DAY AND AGE SOCIETY WE LIVE IN. From your responses on this thread, it shows that you are still having the anger in you and I may be right as well as wrong that if the opportunity presents itself again to put your hands on your wife, YOU WILL DO IT AGAIN.

My questions to you @OP;

If your boss or work colleague in your office were to be annoying would you put your hands on them?
If you run your own business and your business partner or employee were to be annoying would you put your hands on them?
If you were conversing with your male friends and they subsequently become annoying would you put your hands on them?

If you would not do any of the above then I don't see any reason why you would put your hands on your wife; an adult for that matter that you claim to love. Rather than for you to leave the environment and wait for things to calm down, you will rather use your fist as the talking tool and forget that fighting doesn't do good to anyone and before a fight ensures, you should learn to remove yourself from the scenario and wait for the brouhaha to calm down.

How some men view beating their wives when she is disrespectful as no big deal is really mind boggling and one wonders if that is how they will also train their son to beat their wife as well if she is disrespectful? And if they will also tell their daughter that its ok for her husband to beat her up when she is disrespectful?

Has it ever occured to you that you can beat her in such a way that she can collapse and if care is not taken loss her life; then what? undecided. Don't use your not working as an excuse to put your hands on another adult who subsequently is your wife; WHOM YOU CLAIM TO LOVE. Learn the art of self-control when the urge arises for you to beat her. I am not making any excuses for your wife as she has her own fault but beating her is not going to make her change as it'll only make her attitude worse. Communication is the key that you both need to do more frequently and I don't mean shouting at each other but rather set boundaries as to when to walk away when you see a fight beginning to take shape.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 2:52pm On May 29, 2019
I hope your wife is not like me though.

Because if it were me,

Be rest assured I will know no peace till i take my revenge on you.

That one na sure thing.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Donlexybaze(m): 2:56pm On May 29, 2019
Offpoint1:
You're not a woman beater bro, women beaters have no remorse like you did. You're just broke and frustrated.

When responsibilities keeps piling up like my ex-GF unwashed pants, and your account balance keeps dropping down like my landlord daughter's IQ, London Bridge or the Biblical Wall of Jericho... then frustration sets in and the first symptom is ANGER and the closest and weakest available person at that moment you'll definitely vent it on.

That suicidal thought is a wonderful decision, but not the solution.

Fix your shít together before ever considering marriage as a guy. Don't be deceived by those illusions call love, poverty is an antidote to love. Once that P guy sets in, every dose of love you've taken would be cleared out instanta.

I believe before you might have raised your hands on her, she must have said something that offended you. Understand it's not easy for her too, she's enduring and at the same time going through the same thing you're going through. Women are special beings, they weren't meant to suffer. If you're not meeting up her needs, she's frustrated just as you are... little things might pissed her off and same applicable to you.

My advice to you is... both of you should go on a long time break, while you fix your life financially, emotionally and mentally.

If poverty can make one querelled his creator, then I can't blame one for hitting his partner.

There is a day I took a shovel and headed straight to my dad grave and nearly dug him out, just to asked him why he died broke.

LAS LAS GOD GO PUNISH POVERTY.

The guy after the guy below me is a known clown here and I belong to his team too, but for unknown reasons we're saying something nice to op... Op you'll make it.
egbon I trust you I no say na Man u Be
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 2:58pm On May 29, 2019
Please take it easy on yourself bro.
Don't focus on your failure, focus on the fact that you can do better...
Though meeting a therapist is not a bad idea, the truth is, if you are intentional about working on your anger, it is not compulsory to meet a therapist..
There are many self help videos and articles on google that will really help you. Just find out what works for you.

How about you learn to really communicate with your wife? Don't hold anything back, and refuse to judge or belittle her when she tells you exactly what's on her mind.
You could talk out your anger issues with your wife, who knows, she could be a source of help too.

It is not enough to regret over something you didn't get right, pay the price to be a better human being, a better husband.

Learn to talk to yourself and take charge of your life.
You can be better!!!

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by osuofia2(m): 3:03pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:
I am a woman beater (twice), I have failed, I've got anger management issues, I am jobless, I am a drop out, I hit my woman on her 24th Birthday at about past 10 p.m. I failed her, I broke her, I love her, she didn't deserve it, no woman does, I let my anger get the better side of me, I am hurt, I can't forgive myself, I've got suicidal thoughts, I need help, a psychologist, I need a mentor.

Tonight, I am broken, I have lost it. This isn't who I am.

Mods please help move to front-page.

Evil child Don change moniker...
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 3:04pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:


PM sent.

I apologized to her over and over and over and over, she's okay now, she only accepted to talk to me properly this morning and also apologized for the disrespect and not wanting to own up to it, which was what triggered the anger.

I told her not to apologize though, hitting her outweighed the disrespect, I guess I just lost it probably because I had restrained my self a lot of times, even when it was worse than what transpired last night, I restrained myself last night too, but she came back and it was all provocations. In all, I was wrong and shouldn't have hit her, I know better now.



I'd do better next time, thank you.
The disrespect will continue until you get a job and pull your weight as the man. Next time you feel like punching, go punch your pillow. It helps

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by lanchy: 3:12pm On May 29, 2019
LilMissFavvy:
You are correct, I keep saying that the only reason men beat their wives or gf, Is because they know the women may not be able to fight back. If men and women had equal strength, men would always think twice before hitting a woman.

I do NOT condone violence towards women, but your logic is wrong....Women/females of all species are the most aggressive, most will hit you first, they usually regret it later, but many will hit you first. It is when you strike back that it becomes a mess in those situations.

Having said that No man or woman should touch their partner in anger, it is a filthy behaviour........and there is NO excuse for it.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by bukatyne(f): 3:14pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:


PM sent.

I apologized to her over and over and over and over, she's okay now, she only accepted to talk to me properly this morning and also apologized for the disrespect and not wanting to own up to it, which was what triggered the anger.

I told her not to apologize though, hitting her outweighed the disrespect, I guess I just lost it probably because I had restrained my self a lot of times, even when it was worse than what transpired last night, I restrained myself last night too, but she came back and it was all provocations. In all, I was wrong and shouldn't have hit her, I know better now.



I'd do better next time, thank you.

What triggered the beating?
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by pressplay411(m): 3:14pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:



Thank you. I'm better now, at least she's not so mad at me anymore.

Disrespect, insincerity, lies...a whole lot of things trigger the anger, hitting her was not justified, though she got quite abusive. I should have known she was just being a woman. I know better now and would never do that to any woman again, I mean any woman, ever again.

That she's not mad at you anymore is not the issue.
The issue is you need to realise the severity of your anger and lack of restraint. You need to realise you could end up "mistakingly" giving her the death blow. You need to realise you will transfer it to your kids if you don't deal with it.
You need to realise you need a major attitude surgery.
The reason you're not employed may not be disconnected from your attitude.

I don't mean to sound mean or critical, just need you to realise it goes beyond how she feels now that you've had "make-up sex."
You need to go back to your remorseful self that typed and opened this thread for help and intentionally seek help.

PS: Don't assume you can deal with the anger by yourself, what if you can't and it gets worse later?
Get help.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by femi4: 3:19pm On May 29, 2019
BiafranBushBoy:
There is nothing worse than financial frustration. All I see here is a Woman, claiming to be a Man Wife Beater.

In your write-up, you want to sound pathetic, pitied, garner sympathy; but you forgot that in this life, nobody cares about you.

You are jobless, a drop-out, frustrated, etc. (Nice qualities).

But let me tell you what is frustration;

Frustration is when you wake up and realize that you are old, frail, weak, with lots of regrets about things you should have done that you didn't do.

A wise man once said; "know your weaknesses and compensate them with your strengths"

You have your hands, you type good English, you are able-bodied, you can even beat a woman - which shows that every part of your body is functional.

What have you done with them?

Life will become a better place for you if you apologize to her and channel your anger towards becoming a millionaire by December.

Don't ask me how, just find a way.

If your thoughts are focused on how to make money - I mean plenty of them, you won't even have time for your wife; talk less of beating her.

I don't really like helping people, but send me a PM - let's talk!

I concur
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by jchioma: 3:19pm On May 29, 2019
AntiBrutus:
I hope your wife is not like me though.

Because if it were me,

Be rest assured I will know no peace till i take my revenge on you.

That one na sure thing.

Na dem.

Team "I will beat my own back".

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by udemzyudex(m): 3:19pm On May 29, 2019
Go and get a job
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by jchioma: 3:21pm On May 29, 2019
pressplay411:


That she's not mad at you anymore is not the issue.
The issue is you need to realise the severity of your anger and lack of restraint. You need to realise you could end up "mistakingly" giving her the death blow. You need to realise you will transfer it to your kids if you don't deal with it.
You need to realise you need a major attitude surgery.
The reason you're not employed may not be disconnected from your attitude.

I don't mean to sound mean or critical, just need you to realise it goes beyond how she feels now that you've had "make-up sex."
You need to go back to your remorseful self that typed and opened this thread for help and intentionally seek help.

PS: Don't assume you can deal with the anger by yourself, what if you can't and it gets worse later?
Get help.

That's why he's HERE. Not condemnation.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 3:23pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:
I am a woman beater (twice), I have failed, I've got anger management issues, I am jobless, I am a drop out, I hit my woman on her 24th Birthday at about past 10 p.m. I failed her, I broke her, I love her, she didn't deserve it, no woman does, I let my anger get the better side of me, I am hurt, I can't forgive myself, I've got suicidal thoughts, I need help, a psychologist, I need a mentor.

Tonight, I am broken, I have lost it. This isn't who I am.

Mods please help move to front-page.





hello I believe I could be of help to you as a someone who has his own share of anger but has learnt how to make things work for the better, first of all congratulations for admitting you need help it shows you have a chance of changing this habit contact me. on my email rchrdadrian@gmail.com let's get started with your anger management class

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Nobody: 3:25pm On May 29, 2019
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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by pressplay411(m): 3:26pm On May 29, 2019
jchioma:


That's why he's HERE.

I know. His tone was beginning to change. It's a psychological observation.
I didn't want to add my comment until I saw his tone change in his replies.

Remorse is not Repentance.
Repentance doesn't go back to sin.
Remorse does. Get it?

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by RiyadhGoddess(f): 3:28pm On May 29, 2019
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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by okhiai(m): 3:30pm On May 29, 2019
I fully understand how you feel bro. You are not does things you called yourself, you are far better than that. May be i can be of help by taking you through step by step procedure.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by 15ssDRIVE(m): 3:30pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:
I am a woman beater (twice), I have failed, I've got anger management issues, I am jobless, I am a drop out, I hit my woman on her 24th Birthday at about past 10 p.m. I failed her, I broke her, I love her, she didn't deserve it, no woman does, I let my anger get the better side of me, I am hurt, I can't forgive myself, I've got suicidal thoughts, I need help, a psychologist, I need a mentor.

Tonight, I am broken, I have lost it. This isn't who I am.

Mods please help move to front-page.


Hey bro,
Here is my easiest way out. Consider her to be Mum,think how you will feel like seeing your sister getting beaten and lastly your most precious daughter coming home with broken lips. That always re-activate the cool mode.

Secondly....this is a secret....don’t tell anybody outside,every time you can control your emotions to avoid any violent,you are gonna get some good news no matter how small.

Lastly another rule to the world of money... love them unconditionally and you can’t be poor.
(Whole rule the world? Ladies!

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by RiyadhGoddess(f): 3:32pm On May 29, 2019
jaxxy:



At first u were a lady working for her boss in Saudi Arabia now u’ve metamorphosized With Christian banners and business concepts. Ok



Continue ur investigation ODE
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by martinskelly(m): 3:33pm On May 29, 2019
Sometimes, i wonder if most problems brought to this forum actually gets solution in real time(if you know what i mean).
Sometimes, i also wonder if problems brought to this forum are just mere assumptions or what i call Alienation.
Sometimes this things trigger my exception of not wanting to comment most of the times because you either get angered by some unrealistic solutions (Comments i mean), than what is obtainable in real time.
The guy had a problem and he his seeking for solution, and all you could get from unwise people is Bashing!
Those people bashing him might not even know what they are really saying, but because it has been said that (A man that beats a woman is never a man but a boy) hence, the bashing comments.
I strongly believe in "Never hit a woman" but, sometimes it takes courage and sacrifices to avoid this things, well bro, just apply the comments that are realistic.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by united442(m): 3:35pm On May 29, 2019
LiveByNight:


Here's my suggestion pay me to take you somewhere and beat you within an inch of your life

I am good at it .. I will easily break all your floating ribs with punches then I will turn you over and punch your lower back repeatedly till you here a loud crack meaning I have successfully dislodged one of your vertebrae the pain is indescribeable

I will hit you point blank in the face repeatedly till I crush the bridge of your nose then I will tell you all this was caused by you for beating your wife

I can guarantee that after I am through with you , you will be hospitalized for three to six months and you will suffer a torn bladder hence you would be passing blood In your urine painfully for months

While hospitalized you will have a long time to think trust me each time you think of beating your wife you will remember be and fear would grip you


If you are interested dm me your number

you sound stupid...

your own wife must have been dead by now..

idiot! sad
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by CaptainFM1: 3:39pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:
I am a woman beater (twice), I have failed, I've got anger management issues, I am jobless, I am a drop out, I hit my woman on her 24th Birthday at about past 10 p.m. I failed her, I broke her, I love her, she didn't deserve it, no woman does, I let my anger get the better side of me, I am hurt, I can't forgive myself, I've got suicidal thoughts, I need help, a psychologist, I need a mentor.

Tonight, I am broken, I have lost it. This isn't who I am.

Mods please help move to front-page.


You obviously are a gentle and sweet lover. But the truth is the root cause of this your new attitude needs to be tackled very fast. To hit the nail on the head you need to find a job however little it is ASAP. Women tends to loose respect once a man stop working, because their security is threatened. Every little thing will annoy either of u...

An idle mind is a devil's workshop.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by frozen70(f): 3:39pm On May 29, 2019
The earlier you control your anger management the best for you

It will get to a stage you will be left alone and that's not a good one

You have a wife managing your jobless situation yet you beat her twice

And even beat her on her birthday

You even have anger issues

My advice,
Sit her down and talk with her on how to help you over come your situations

Tell her you need her help emotionally and she is the only one to give it to you. Control yourself because she is not the cause of your problem

Incase you don't know,
Women can bear grudges for as long as they want to habor it and most times they take revenge.

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Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by kjhova(m): 3:40pm On May 29, 2019
BuBuB:
I am a woman beater (twice), I have failed, I've got anger management issues, I am jobless, I am a drop out, I hit my woman on her 24th Birthday at about past 10 p.m. I failed her, I broke her, I love her, she didn't deserve it, no woman does, I let my anger get the better side of me, I am hurt, I can't forgive myself, I've got suicidal thoughts, I need help, a psychologist, I need a mentor.

Tonight, I am broken, I have lost it. This isn't who I am.

Mods please help move to front-page.


Man up bro, it's a fkcued up world we live in.

Sh*t ain't always exactly how we pan them out to be.

My view, maybe in your current state, you don't need that union anymore.

You got your issues to deal with. If that arrange is just GF/BF and not yet marriage with a ring/certificate on it, cut loose, bro. These things never get better. Believe me, it can only become more toxic with time.

*Pls excuse my expletives. Just how I feel.
Re: Help! Please, I Beat My Wife by Stillthebest: 3:44pm On May 29, 2019
A serial wife beater is worst tho. Takes total meekness n love not to hit some wives...

Let me tell you a small story.. My G's wife has a girl friend that was celebrating her birthday. She invited her husband and I. It was on a Christmas Eve. It was around 11 pm when we were done. We were stranded. The person to drive us left without informed us.
I equally took my gf with me thus we were four...

We tried to find my friend a bike(joined another passenger) to go home since the hubby had no cash on him. That way she would help to pay another bike man the man would take once he gets home.. the guy got a bike too n left and my gf and I too left later.

The wife got home locked gate n went to sleep... Husband got home kept knocking gate past 11 pm ooo the wife later came out reluctantly to open the gate and that time Okada man had already caused a noisy scene.

Lol, honestly the Okada man couldn't collect money at last. Cus rest was gbas gbos gbagba gbogbo...

Bottom point is ; im an advocate of "don't beat a woman" but when I heard the story second day I was short of words.. remember she invited us oooo...

Yew the husband was broke. Thank God for hs life now.


Bible says wives respect your husband's and furthered it with husband's love your wives.

It is simple. Any woman that respects her husband Wil win the love of the husband.

Running mouth has been a major reason for hitting. When a man is angry women should try to sober and come back for their reasons when things are calmed. And if such man still gets infuriated again. Forget whatever you want to say.

Men, should learn to listen more and add extra patience.


Money is not always reasons for hitting. If it is rich people won't hit their wives. Most times we are not truly in love before marriage but it is after marriage we get to know. May be just lust, pity,and i must marry syndrome.

Op, try and identify WHY you hit her always then you can see a solution.

Lastly marriage is not for everyone and with all honesty, marrying to some people(man and woman) is overrated. But if you marry your best friend Omo you won't even stay late outside unnecessarily

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