Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.
Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.
My story is brief.
I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.
Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.
I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.
Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

crackhaus:

I don't believe this, you're even begging her and she's still refusing and you keep begging her... Chei

Boss it was on this same site I heard that when a woman is lacking attention, she can do funny things to seek this attention outside the home and it's fine...so I don't know what you're waiting for to go get yourself some good loving outside.

Wait let me call some women that must add mouth in this matter. Oyindidi & Ujujoan2, oya wetin una wan talk for diswan
This man is lacking serious attention in ze oza room.

Women are the reason men cheat.

Optimus212:


Yes I did but funny enough she was the one apologizing seriously for her attitude that made me cheat on her. She was extremely scared because I became so attached to the lady that I nearly divorced my wife. I stopped demanding for sex from her, I stayed off her sexually for 13months (a Yr one month) I know the disasters cheating can cause in a marriage, I have been there. I know what am talking about thats y am so scared of cheating as a married man, I dnt want to hurt my kids again.

UjuJoan2:


Didn't he already cheat?

If he got the satisfaction he needed from the affair he won't be opening this thread, he'll be out there cheating again. The story is not complete.

I can list a number of reasons why a woman will withhold sex continuously from her husband, but someone will say I'm talking from experience.

This one pass me . . . Oga please divorce her and marry a woman that will be displaying bedmatics skills on a 'nightly' basis for you. I'm sure your wife wont mind the at all.

Oyindidi:
Crackhaus na the sins of this man make the wife dey use watin him like most to punish am.

crackhaus:

It's never good to let a woman believe her pum pum is the best out there.
One month and counting, this man own don finish

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

UjuJoan2:


Didn't he already cheat?

If he got the satisfaction he needed from the affair he won't be opening this thread, he'll be out there cheating again. The story is not complete.

I can list a number of reasons why a woman will withhold sex continuously from her husband, but someone will say I'm talking from experience.

This one pass me . . . Oga please divorce her and marry a woman that will be displaying bedmatics skills on a 'nightly' basis for you. I'm sure your wife wont mind the at all.

UjuJoan2:


Why are you so consumed with sex? What time do you have to work and make money? I hope your wife is not left with all the bills

Acidosis:

Man, your situation is pathetic! Please pick the good tips here and work on your marriage.

A manipulative woman who uses silence, "ignore button" and sex as weapons is not someone any man on earth should pray or wish for. I can cope with no sex (with genuine reasons), but you see silence, not willing to talk about issues, reasons you don't want that sex? I can't man! I can read minds but not one of a manipulative witch.

Optimus212:


The truth is "Am the sex driven type" not on a daily basis though because I have realized sex keeps me healthy, I always feel ajar & so alive after sex & I love my family too. I don't want to face again even worse predicament concerning the last time I had extra marital affairs which made me not to even realize I have a family, because i became so attached to the lady. My wife got to know about the relationship and nearly committed suicide if not for prayers & wise counseling from elders. Meanwhile, I was like "what da heck"?? Is dis not same person that has been locking up on me?? How come she became so devastated by my act.

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

Optimus212:


Thanks bro, majority of the people commenting here are single & knows little or nothing about marriage. Its easy to detect them by their comments. Only a few singles here has given reasonable suggestions.

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

Avayahery:

So his wife doesn’t not know that he’s addicted tobsex before marrying him?

Lynnelery:

Receive sense when you want to talk next time. So because he cheated, his wife should also cheat? Did the wife pay the bride price?

zeb04:
. Must it be true Sex? Tell her she can use her mouth or hand, as long as you cum.
If her sex drive is low, shouldn’t you see a doctor instead of cheating?

Btw, you wife is even nice. If you cheat on me and I find out, just know You are not getting any loyalty from me

Every married woman, has that fear and reverence for her marriage. The day you cheapen you marriage by sleeping outside, you have taken out that fear, reverence from the marriage. If she doesn’t cheat on you, Goodluck. But really sex outside the marriage doesn’t look like a big taboo anymore. after all, you have done it. Heaven will not fall if she does. And most times, she will.

If you cannot be loyal, you don’t deserve it.

Planet3xi:


wicket

Planet3xi:



Big babe. Shows youre not married.


Anyone can act tough unchallenged

UjuJoan2:


Hmmmmn . . . nawa ooh. So you are addicted to sex. . much like a high people get from drugs and alcohol.

Did your wife sign up for it? Did she know she will be doing the work of a sex machine in her marriage? Did she know she was marrying a nymph?

Sex is NOT food, or else celebates will be dead. You do not need regular sex to thrive or stay healthy. That's the addiction lying to you.

You wife does not have the same drive as you, she cannot kill herself to feed your obsession.

Since you read so much, why not seek help?

I hate how men put women under undue pressure in the name of marriage. If the woman dies trying to keep you healthy, you'll just move on to the next person.

zeb04:
look at this one even faithful men still get cheated on, talk more of a philandering partner. Check the statistics first uncle.

zeb04:


Very married.

Avayahery:

Cheat on him and get thrown out of the house. Is it that hard?

zeb04:
into my own house.

Uhhhhhh. That scares me. Mschewwww

Optimus212:


The truth is "Am the sex driven type" not on a daily basis though because I have realized sex keeps me healthy, I always feel ajar & so alive after sex & I love my family too. I don't want to face again even worse predicament concerning the last time I had extra marital affairs which made me not to even realize I have a family, because i became so attached to the lady. My wife got to know about the relationship and nearly committed suicide if not for prayers & wise counseling from elders. Meanwhile, I was like "what da heck"?? Is dis not same person that has been locking up on me?? How come she became so devastated by my act.

Avayahery:

Your house Or your husband’s house? You want to claim equal rights with your husband ? Lol

A man can marry 2 or more wives and so he has the right to cheat as far as Nigeria is concerned. I’ve never seen a woman marry 2 husbands, not even allowed not to talk of being praticed in Nigeria

Women and men are different and they can’t be the same. So never cheat because your husband is cheating