I dont believe you have to cheat to get her attention... you will have to take it one step at a time, your woman has just put up a poor attitude towards sex, if after you have tried speaking with her (Not beg pls, it is both your right) yet, she still doesnt bulge, then you can play a psychological game with her-

A change in your attitude
Act like you only care about your children
Dont come back late please, it is bad for your children
Get home early, play with your children but give little or no attention towards her.
Do not fight her please
Try not to sleep wherever she sleeps
I would welcome the fake calls advice as well, dont make it too much though.
In general, just act like, sex-wise, you are contented thereby giving her the impression that you might be getting it elsewhere.......

I feel after the last act, she would start snooping around. Try not to give her any evidence to hold against you, all she'll get would be clues with no evidences. This should make her want to get close to you again.

Remember, make her happy always by giving her all she wants with no attention, that alone resets her brain after a while.

DO NOT FRUSTRATE HER

Her frustration should come from the fact that you aint requesting it anymore as this wld make her think you are getting it elsewhere

I hope you resolve this soonest

Good luck

Preshy561:

Just take a look at you.
That woman should leave your cheating ass asap.
Wonder whoever that's giving you this likes to continue disgracing yourself online.
Shameless isn't it?

I wonder y everylady on this thread keeps seeing the cheating aspect alone and not talking about the actions of the wife.........

Is university or polytechnic closer to ur Aus? If yes, your guess is as good as mine.

Olomi lo ma re...na u go tire....

You're so weak for allowing your wife to know your weakness, which is sex and she has capitalized on ur weakness and she's using against you... Just ignore her and her so called body for a while and you'll see she come panting like a dog to apologize to you.thank me later

luluman:
Do as you are told.Not all topics are for internet kids. This one is for experienced Husbands please.

Trying to sound smart. I've involved in at least five marriages all are over ten years. You may get lost

Awe4luv:

I wonder y everylady on this thread keeps seeing the cheating aspect alone and not talking about the actions of the wife.........

Its because women take sides.

Sucks greatly that all members here did not considered what could be his wife story before denying Oga Boss executions of .But I strongly suggest he goes carefully resolving this cos it is not about him alone anymore...it's about family involving the kids

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

That woman has a low libido
And using minor issues as an excuse.
She is not starving you,
Please go see a doctor or buy Spanish fly from a big pharmacy
That might help.

LordBailish:


Oh! Apparently, you're in similar predicament with op.

Was wondering why you've crying more than the bereaved and why my submission is troubling for you.

Now slowly read this 'My Wife Starves Me Of Sex'
Tell me, how does that sound?

What kinda man utters that?

Whatever. Bye

This post sound effeminate, why can't you be a man and stop begging as if you are being stupid? But is she the one that is taking care of your financial responsibility, because what you posted sound bigger than a mere sex?

Baba,it's just simple

Don't try making any advances to her for some days,just try restraining yourself for sometime. She'll be shocked, I can bet u but she won't show it,don't still bring up d stuff again. Then plan with one of your pals to give u a call on a good morning when she is with u,then pretend as if u are already processing divorce papers with the so-called lawyer(your friend). Watch her reaction after the call,don't say anything after DAT call n still continue to restrain yourself n act cool as if nothing happened. Just watch how She'll start calling her people n your people. when she has called them finish,she will then explain why she's been behaving DAT way(women may be acting like James Bond but will do anything to save their marriage).But oga,don't cheat on your wife again oh n don't divorce her 4 some flimsy reasons.

Comman thank me later

michealfaraday:
Sucks greatly that all members here did not considered what could be his wife story before denying Oga Boss executions of .But I strongly suggest he goes carefully resolving this cos it is not about him alone anymore...it's about family involving the kids

Read patiently. Go to page five. However this is a clear case of weaponizing sex

How is it that most commenting here are not sensitive to the likelihood that the wife could be experiencing extremely low or non-existent libido, in which case it is a medical condition with the anger being a mere cover-up to a more psychological condition... Or do y'all think sexual dysfunction is strictly a male issue?

you should sit her down, and ask her pointedly about her libido... If she truly loves you, and cherishes her marriage, she will come clean... if that is the case, medical help should be sought. There are natural supplements that can help break that libido deadlock, or maybe your "fore-play" skills need a serious upgrade.

On the other hand, if it's not a libido issue, then you likely have a serious problem of faithfulness on your hands. You guys might need to communicate better in that relationship. Maybe, seek counselling.

missimelda01:
Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for th bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

Birds of a fearger ...

side chick# is d solution

well it's clear she's no longer interested in the marriage and u need to get a divorce after 2 years

missimelda01:
Op you should discuss with your wife, tell her how you truly feel about the way she treats you, if she really loves you she'll stop acting that way. Don't let someone push you into being irresponsible, the only person who needs to change here is your wife. People who cheat think they are wise, they have no single respect for their bodies.. they are like dogs.

Meanwhile I hope you've asked for forgiveness for cheating on her.

Why is it that women are soft over their fellow women issue?, that guy is a sissy, my wife can't try such non sense with me.

One thing I have learned is that women will always take advantage of cool and we'll behaved guys.

My guy, turn agbero for her and she will never try that rubbish again.

Give zero Bleep to her and as many bleeps as you can give to the next available

No man born free deserves a wife who uses sex as a weapon.

Bone her, pretend as if you dont give a damn, pretend to be having affairs on the phone, leave your phone carelessly and let her see text messages from babes, go to porn sites and download porn videos and let her see everything. If she still loves you and cares about the marriage her brain go format and get back to factory settings. Don't pamper a lady,the more you pamper her the more shiiit she will give to you, girls especially Nigerian girls like hard guys no be sme sme guys

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ndidigood:
That woman has a low libido
And using minor issues as an excuse.
She is not starving you,
Please go see a doctor or buy Spanish fly from a big pharmacy
That might help.

Same thing I said , he should buy Spanish fly and spike her drink with it , she will be the one begging

Angrymode:
One thing I have learned is that women will always take advantage of cool and we'll behaved guys.

My guy, turn agbero for her and she will never try that rubbish again.

Give zero Bleep to her and as many bleeps as you can give to the next available

God bless you jare

Optimus212:


I'd say I was a bit that way but decided to change my lifestyle since the last time I cheated on her that nearly cost me my marriage. My wife became scared & started apologizing cos she saw it that she was about loosing her man because of her carelessnes. I forgave her, since then. I jst decided to keep calm because of the kids, now she's resumed same attitude.

Bro.... Do that again.

Really

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.



Ubunja

Martinez39

Thank you for this advice. I did not bother to read other comments

Na wah o,if n starve u starve am back..aha

Any woman would be turned off by your softy nonsense. Women are soft and by the law of opposite attracts, they are attracted to hard things.

This wan wey you dey beg like mumu instead of going out and enjoying yaself, don't you know that when a wife goes on vacation from bedroom duties, what she means is that you should seek temporary replacement?

See me see trouble o, na im you come nairaland dey worry me where I dey look for correct picture of wan Nollywood actress wey I go use Vaseline myself...take ya time o anuofia

Optimus212:


Not really but can stay off sex for a very long time if she's hurt.

Are u sure she doesn't have one of those niggaz on the side.. those ex who think they are slicker than 007 and better than every woman's husband? Which healthy woman will go off sex for 4 months when she has a very willing partner.. I dunno boss but maybe its because i ain't married yet but if i were u i would definitely get some juicy something on the sidelines if she's not ready to gimme some on the home front and i definitely would never beg for sex wtf is that sh1t! I would get me some good,nasty,freaky,fire, slay queen bich on the side to take care of bizness and make sure i'm always on my best behavior at home and still treat wifey nice an shiit like its all good but never ask for the sex no more. That's the only weapon she has over u so its wise if u can neutralize it, make it useless & lets see if she won't arrange herself

Well maybe its because i ain't married yet and maybe modern married men beg for sex from their wives who is supposed to enjoy it with them..

... when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.

stop begging for Sex, make it an option to you and she would repect you.

Its obvious you are not married, not to talk of having children..
Well, you will know this does not work when you are in a common law marriage..

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

JustHector:
Its obvious you are not married, not to talk of having children..
Well, you will know this does not work when you are in a common law marriage..

Indeed. You know better