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Naaah,not in all cases at least. I grew up in a close knit home. Our parents throw jabs at us and play with us even till now. Its really cool and no matter how far apart we may be,we explore every means to keep in touch with each other. Sometimes,multiple times per day.

I didn’t experience this personally but from what I’ve seen of others, it seems like the typical Nigerian parenting approach is to focus on providing their children with the ‘conventional’ basics - food, shelter, education etc. Often forgetting or not even knowing that emotional intelligence and affection are also fundamental necessities.

Many aren’t in tune with their emotions themselves tbh, so it would help to start with their own personal development first. But with the way Nigeria is set up, you can’t even always blame them.

very wrong

ibkayee:
I didn’t experience this personally but from what I’ve seen of others, it seems like the typical Nigerian parenting approach is to focus on providing their children with the ‘conventional’ basics - food, shelter, education etc. Often forgetting or not even knowing that emotional intelligence and affection are also fundamental necessities.

Many aren’t in tune with their emotions themselves tbh, so it would help to start with their own personal development first. But with the way Nigeria is set up, you can’t even always blame them.

Hi dear...pls what's the meaning of 'tbh'?

ibkayee:
I didn’t experience this personally but from what I’ve seen of others, it seems like the typical Nigerian parenting approach is to focus on providing their children with the ‘conventional’ basics - food, shelter, education etc. Often forgetting or not even knowing that emotional intelligence and affection are also fundamental necessities.

Many aren’t in tune with their emotions themselves tbh, so it would help to start with their own personal development first. But with the way Nigeria is set up, you can’t even always blame them.

I would very much agree with the latter
I had friends who were astonished I could joke with my father or even hug him.

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Kinda true.
Some of them raise their kids with an iron fist fire and brimstone so long as they are responsible for you their decision must stand they try to structure the children to be like them without thinking about the children's own feelings.Instead of them to advise you in words and action they would rather wait for you to do bad first then they result to using cane as a means of correction.When they failed to tell you the repercussion of a bad action and why you should avoid it.
They forget that these children would have a mind of their own.
They rarely make time to spend quality time with their children they believe that paying school fees, food and shelter is all there is to being a parent.
Forgetting that the children need you to understand them and give them some level of the freedom to express themselves and be themselves and around you.
So it should not surprise anyone if such children are distant from their parents emotionally, mentally and so on.

Yeye talk.
Oyinbo families are still far more dysfunctional.

Provide. Teach. Discipline.

All the Hollywood love is overrated.

Hug my Papa say wetin happen?

ahnie:

Hi dear...pls what's the meaning of 'tbh'?

to be honest

ekene101:
to be honest

Thanks!

ahnie:


Thanks!

wlc

ibkayee:
I didn’t experience this personally but from what I’ve seen of others, it seems like the typical Nigerian parenting approach is to focus on providing their children with the ‘conventional’ basics - food, shelter, education etc. Often forgetting or not even knowing that emotional intelligence and affection are also fundamental necessities.

Many aren’t in tune with their emotions themselves tbh, so it would help to start with their own personal development first. But with the way Nigeria is set up, you can’t even always blame them.

Thank you for the laugh.
Lmao!!

ahnie:

Hi dear...pls what's the meaning of 'tbh'?

To be honest

MissRaine69:

I would very much agree with the latter
I had friends who were astonished I could joke with my father or even hug him.

Wow, basic hugs? That’s sad

ibkayee:

Wow, basic hugs? That’s sad

I have been to households were the father hardly ever acknowledges the children ...the air is just ripe with fear

ThothHermes:
Yeye talk.
Oyinbo families are still far more dysfunctional.

Provide. Teach. Discipline.

All the Hollywood love is overrated.

Hug my Papa say wetin happen?

Gather your thoughts and return with something more cohesive rather than those bellicose utterances. I will wait.

MissRaine69:

I have been to households were the father hardly ever acknowledges the children ...the air is just ripe with fear

@ ripe with fear

I was surprised since you’re female, when you hear about father’s not hugging their children, it’s usually their sons.

MissRaine69:




Gather your thoughts and return with something more cohesive rather than those bellicose utterances. I will wait.

You go wait, wait, wait, ehhh, you go wait tire.

ibkayee:

@ ripe with fear

I was surprised since you’re female, when you hear about father’s not hugging their children, it’s usually their sons.

One could argue that some parents want to be different parents compared to the parenting style of their own parents. We are a very tactile family ( 6 boys + 1 girl) emotion is not repressed and it’s not gender related.


For example the grandparents were very very conservative but are very tolerant towards us the grandchildren

MissRaine69:

One could argue that some parents want to be different parents compared to the parenting style of their own parents. We are a very tactile family ( 6 boys + 1 girl) emotion is not repressed and it’s not gender related.


For example the grandparents were very very conservative but are very tolerant towards us the grandchildren

Sorry dear my head is actually in the clouds, when I said that I was thinking I was responding to you saying that you couldn’t hug your father, but it was actually your friends I was referring to smh. Just realised it wasn’t you

You’re blessed to have such a relationship with your parents

ibkayee:

Sorry dear my head is actually in the clouds, when I said that I was thinking I was responding to you saying that you couldn’t hug your father, but it was actually your friends I was referring to smh. Just realised it wasn’t you

You’re blessed to have such a relationship with your parents

Come back to earth

MissRaine69:

Come back to earth

Lmao honestly, rest is what I need

MissRaine69:
Share your views.

Well, imo, the observation of that writer however right, still isn't true for all but only correct to the degree of said family's leaning towards westernism(southerners) and arabicism (northerners), only at times does parent-children relationship reflects qualities that are indicative of those who raise and are raised in ways customary to the tribe associated with the ethnic group they hail from.

y3mi:
Well, imo, the observation of that writer however right, still isn't true for all but only correct to the degree of said family's leaning towards westernism(southerners) and arabicism (northerners), only at times does parent-children relationship reflects qualities that are indicative of those who raise and are raised in ways customary to the tribe associated with the ethnic group they hail from.

You can be from any tribe and be emotionally demonstrative towards your children as well as be emotionally available personality traits are not dictated by tribe .

MissRaine69:
You can be from any tribe and be emotionally demonstrative towards your children as well as be emotionally available personally traits are not dictated by tribe

WTF! But, the caption did not say 'Certain parent will raise you in..." it states 'Nigerian parent will...' implied exclusively within a Nigerian context, from which my opinion is based, if you'd understand that you wouldn't be taken aback for misconstruing my response as ethnocentric. And secondly I don't think the post is about trait, it's about the increasing facile disconnection and emotional detachment between this generation of Nigerian folks and their offspring.

This is front page worthy but since it ain't about some toddler marrying a mummified Pharoah,it probably won't make front page.
There's a whole lot wrong with the family structure these days.
Children who cringe at the sight of their parents, wives who dread their husbands and all that.
I was opportuned to grow up in a very close knit family....I go to the fuqin club wiv my dad....we drink until there's nothing left to drink, he taught me archery....mum taught me the piano and they both moulded me to be the woman I am today.
When my friends/colleagues hear me talking on the phone with my parents, they open their mouths in disbelief.
I pray I'm more than just a mom to my kids, I'd love to be a friend to them first.

MissRaine69:
Share your views.

He should have said 'my parents', not 'Nigerian parents'

ThothHermes:
Yeye talk.
Oyinbo families are still far more dysfunctional.

Provide. Teach. Discipline.

All the Hollywood love is overrated.

Hug my Papa say wetin happen?

I wonder o. The highest I can do is hold my dad by his upper arm. Why I go hug my papa?? Even maleh sef I no fit hug

Houseofglam7:
This is front page worthy but since it ain't about some toddler marrying a mummified Pharoah,it probably won't make front page.
There's a whole lot wrong with the family structure these days.
Children who cringe at the sight of their parents, wives who dread their husbands and all that.
I was opportuned to grow up in a very close knit family....I go to the fuqin club wiv my dad....we drink until there's nothing left to drink, he taught me archery....mum taught me the piano and they both moulded me to be the woman I am today.
When my friends/colleagues hear me talking on the phone with my parents, they open their mouths in disbelief.
I pray I'm more than just a mom to my kids, I'd love to be a friend to them first.

Hear! Hear!
I can so relate to that

i definitely have a weirdish relationship with my folks because of memories of overbearing discpline


well, my daughter hugs me everytime i come from work. there is nothing like the unconditional love of a child especially after a fked up day at the office. i have a short fuse sometimes and i can shout, and she starts crying almost immediately and i just wind up feeling bad. my son as a guy matter doesn't hug that much.

we have fun together - i introduced them to honest trailers, HISHE. we do the movie night thingy. this Sallah we will watch aquaman and captain marvel. hoping shazam will be out in time. I recently got a gaming pc and we have fun on co-op games in the living room. its also funny watching my daughter break the silly ideas my son's friends in school put into his head - eg girls cant game. she was kicking his ass in mortal kombat.