Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Look for someone she respects to advice her on the danger of the hole she is digging in her bedroom.

Planet3xi:



Trying to sound smart. I've involved in at least five marriages all are over ten years. You may get lost

Read Make your point clearer please.

Are you sure she is not cheating on you? For a woman to be so rigged like that for months despite all your efforts to make her happy. I want to assume is more than your offence

davidodiba:




Thank you for this advice. I did not bother to read other comments

Thanks oh. Some people are accusing me of being wicked and inexperienced and what nots for this innocent nuggets. We can't please people in life. Anyway my marriage doctrine is simple, everything must be channeled to reconciliation, nothing less.

Just go fu ck Ashawo! why you come here dey complain?

luluman:
Read Make your point clearer please.

If you need some education start with a vocational center or Jamb. You're excused.

Billy0naire:
Slay Queens were designed for this reason.

Stop depending on one woman for your happiness. Humans are manipulative.

Correct, if smashing makes you happy, how can you depend on one woman to give you your happiness.. Doesn't make sense and is a fatal error.

Planet3xi:



If you need some education start with a vocational center or Jamb. You're excused.

Thank you. But please leave talks about marriage for us.

zeb04:


Very married.

Then Pls I beg u. Keep the fire burning by meeting 'his' demand for sex as his loving partner. Even a man who is a kind a saint can loose it when he is pushed beyond the bar.
Talking of loyalty. Pls understand that two wrongs does not make a right. If a man cheats and his woman follows suit, then nothing changes but regrets and loss of dignity in d end. It will only give the man more impetus as he will detest every moment ever spent with his woman prior to marriage. He will NEVER look back. The kids will certainly sense it faster especially when it involves their mum. Heaven forbids such events lingers alongside their growth, then imagine the end. A time will come when all these would matter no more , ull only be concerned with having peace and seeing ur kids excel. Where then would be the place of an unfaithful father of those kids?

luluman:
Thank you. But please leave talks about marriage for us.

Whatever. Hater. Point one sound counsel Mr everyone else is foolish has given. If you see my fiancee you will die. Plus, I hold eight marriages together,all over ten years. Woe betide your father

If sex is your problem, get it somewhere else jare b4 u kill yourself with worry and if you want more kids marry a second wife.
Don't lay your hands on her, she is entitled to her own opinion. Don't drive her out if she want to leave let it be her own decision.

You have made begging your wife for sex ur hobby. Odoyo like u, very soon she go sit on top your head

armyofone:
After 3kids na sex you dey worry about and want divorce are those kids in private schools or do you have a strong financial savings for each college education?
You know, man- you get misplaced priority and na fu....ck!

You have a wrong view about Sex in marriage..

imitateMe:

I don't blame you. You probably menstruate 20 days a month. Fish brain

funny guy. No vex Abeg. It may be coming from a young inexperienced/unmarried one.

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Sex mean different things to a man and a woman. You displayed that you have a little idea about what it really meant.

For instance, a man don't have to love a woman before having sex with her, all he needs is just to see her body and an assurance that he's not being set up, and pronto, the guy is thrusting away. However, for a woman, except a sex worker who does it for money, she's not going to sleep with you without a feeling that you love her and she in return.

For a woman, it begins from her mind before hitting that bed for all the sex positions in your head. So if you don't get this, and you're not interested in cheating on her, which is a plus for you, then you need to know how to enter a woman's mind, particularly your wife's mind.

Do a private chat with me for a serious gist on that. See my signature below and let's talk, if you really mean it.

zeb04:
. Must it be true Sex? Tell her she can use her mouth or hand, as long as you cum.
If her sex drive is low, shouldn’t you see a doctor instead of cheating?

Btw, you wife is even nice. If you cheat on me and I find out, just know You are not getting any loyalty from me

Every married woman, has that fear and reverence for her marriage. The day you cheapen you marriage by sleeping outside, you have taken out that fear, reverence from the marriage. If she doesn’t cheat on you, Goodluck. But really sex outside the marriage doesn’t look like a big taboo anymore. after all, you have done it. Heaven will not fall if she does. And most times, she will.

If you cannot be loyal, you don’t deserve it.

so na wetin you fit tell am be this

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

I like you already. #NoHomo

which kind next level be dis now? This is my own advice to this infant that called himself husband. If your wife starve you with sex, starve her with sex. foolish pikin.

kushercain:



Hmmmm....

Pinky, are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Lol.. U ppl no go kill person for nairaland

kushercain:



Hmmmm....

Pinky, are you thinking what I'm thinking?

Lol.. U ppl no go kill person for nairaland

BluePrincee:

I like you already. #NoHomo

Yeah. Straight up. There's a psychological power tussle going on here. And only folks who stay woke would understand. There's gotta be clarity about whom the boss is. Straight up

Planet3xi:



Forget sex for now, go and regain the power dynamics in this relationship. You've put her in the front seat hence she's riding you anyhow. Give irritating habits, strange habits come late. Don't ask for sex. Dress up walk out. In two weeks shell be back begging. Toss this toxic relationship aside nigger life is too short. Call her people tell them there can't be two men in the house and you have needs. If she can't meet your needs you wish to create space for some who will give it


Just man up already. If people hate peace then give them war. I'm a peaceful man but once a person rejects my peace offering straight I wear my war uniform. God punish devil

Dude! Hands down you are macho. Op take this gentleman's advice.

Your mumu don do. You have allowed your wife use sex to capture your destiny. Right now stop asking for it. U no fit die! I wish I could remember one film like that. This kind of your story played out and the husband after several attempts, stop begging his wife for sexual pleasure.. Nobody tell the wife make e start dey beg the man when konji wan kill her. This applies to real life scenario. I have done this before. You should!

Oga, u should be happy for such treatment, abeg marry another wife, take care of your kids and still be nice to the one that deny you toto.... Cast ur mind off having sex with her, let her just be ur room mate but get a new wife but don't eat the food from the first wife again

wristbangle:


Dude! Hands down you are macho. Op take this gentleman's advice.

Your mumu don do. You have allowed your wife use sex to capture your destiny. Right now stop asking for it. U no fit die! I wish I could remember one film like that. This kind of your story played out and the husband after several attempts, stop begging his wife for sexual pleasure.. Nobody tell the wife make e start dey beg the man when konji wan kill her.

Well some muumuuu here like luluman who have nothing positive to contribute to the subject are castigating me for my goodness o. See me see trouble wristbangle

Since everyone is contributing from a direction. I would like to ask for what you did that you called little offense. Maybe it hurts her so bad or maybe she has been warning you incessantly to desist from the act/acts. Check that too. She might be starving you to enable you make adjustments. Also, she might be a kind of person that doesn't share sexual intimacy with you unless etc mind is clear with you. I for one, if u have issues with my gf, it hurts me so bad that I don't want to pick her calls, see her or what a view. I reconcile when my mind is calm.

Planet3xi:




Well some muumuuu here like luluman who have nothing positive to contribute to the subject are castigating me for my goodness o. See me see trouble wristbangle

Guy, person whey e castigate you and the person be man, I no think day him get dick. Such is a Sisi boy

Being a complete man is about possessing cool and harsh attitude to balance the equation. I can't take nonsense from any woman abeg

wristbangle:


Guy, person whey e castigate you and the person be man, I no think day him get dick. Such is a Sisi boy

Being a complete man is about possessing cool and harsh attitude. I can't take nonsense from any woman abeg

Bro it has to be cool and harsh,cold and heat. Akying it as they fluctuate. Cause women and fluctuations are like bread and butter. Thanks for the thumbs up

Optimus212:

Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

Read the post below to solve your problems


https://www.nairaland.com/2173173/behave-these-3-ways-around?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C2689371464

This thread no suppose ever reach page 8 at all, when the answer was just below the main post.

Planet3xi has said everything.

Your wife have noticed your weakness ,you are in problem ,...anytime you make advances towards her,she refuse ,ignore her ,go outside and enjoy your life ,life is so short to distrub yourself over any lady even if she is your wife,my brother ,trust me ,you die ,she will go f....k another man.

You sef stop begging her too much,...

It's obvious u don't appeal to her anymore in bed. I bet u, she has someone servicing her domain already, if u had issues and she decides to deny u sex for a few days no problem, she's vexed but for her to keep depriving u of it after several apologies and u even relate well aside bed issues, bros u need to investigate her closely and then report her to her family...

Planet3xi:
You sound too soft. Is she doing you a favor? You better look for what would weaken her and push that button. Look at how annoying your comments is. You're begging her cause your a Christian sheybi. Oga come back home 11 pm pour alcohol on your body. Start snapping pics of young girls on your phone. Behave irregular. Gibe her jab, you're in demand outside and watch her change as you stop this simping. Its annoying.


Dem no dey mine gold inside toto


Yan yan starve me of sex. If you were here I'll slap you to reset your brain.


Ubunja

Martinez39

God bless you jare. The guy is fokn too soft and the wife is taking advantage of him. I won't be surprised to hear that the woman is fokn outside her matrimonial home

Handsomebb:
This thread no suppose ever reach page 8 at all, when the answer was just below the main post.

Planet3xi has said everything.

enemyofprogress:
God bless you jare. The guy is fokn too soft and the wife is taking advantage of him. I won't be surprised to hear that the woman is fokn outside her matrimonial home