My dear u better involve his parents, what do u mean mean by loveless marriage... Grab that guy and make him ur husband.. They are two ways and he just choiced the illegal way.. Be soft and thats ur concern.

Deepfeel:
You don't have to marry him, tell his parents and keep the baby, no one will force you to marry him, at least his parents will be paying for child support even if the guy doesn't want

best advice ever take after this advice and live your life..he can come back for his baby later... you can still find love again.

YOUNGELDER1:


Did done already.
Babies are blessings but trust me you don’t want to go through all that without his support or the support of both families.


You scared of abortion & yet having unprotected sex no plan b noting..

i understand you, but it just that one time I didn't take the drugs, biggest mistake of my life,

I pray for God's guidance

stinflame:
My dear u better involve his parents, what do u mean mean by loveless marriage... Grab that guy and make him ur husband.. They are two ways and he just choiced the illegal way.. Be soft and thats ur concern.

husband, don't you think he will use marriage as a means to frustrate me,
Thanks

emmanuelpopson:


best advice ever take after this advice and live your life..he can come back for his baby later... you can still find love again.

i pray so, because I don't believe in love again, I guess it's overrated

Please never you consider an abortion. Even if you don't need the child, give birth and put it up for adoption. I personally am interested, just pm. I can even pay you all the necessary inconveniences if requested just for you to keep that innocent child alive.

NB: I'm very very serious about the adoption and necessary inconvenience pay.

Silverlove1:
husband, don't you think he will use marriage as a means to frustrate me,
Thanks

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Not at all , make sure u put ur focus on a business or ur career while in... My dear, abortion isn't the option oo, it's better u know u end up In his house than with the thought of having aborted. Sadly enough ladies easily let it out unknownly to their new partner, most partners will simply walk out of the relationship.

Use and dump. Classic naija babe tale.

Silverlove1:
Exactly, his family would accept me since he is even the only son, they aren't doing bad, so the cost to take care of the baby isn't the issue,
I don't want to bring my parents into it till I see his parents first, I can't believe guys can be so heartless

You have lost my emphaty with this needless generalisation. I am not the one that got you pregnant and I am not heartless.

Silverlove1:
Pls mature advice needed and pls no insults, I have already insulted myself enough.

I have already posted about this same guy here last year and I'm sorry for not following your advice

To cut the story short, I have been dating my bf for almost a year now and we always have unprotected sex but he always pulls out and I always take drugs

But I didn't take any last month because he pulled out and too much of contraceptive drugs is not good for the body, I didn't think anything will happen since he didn't cum inside me, my biggest regret.

Last week, I didn't see my period so I used the pt strip test and it was positive, I also went for blood test and it was still positive

I informed him about it and he told me to go for abortion, when I refused he was so mean to me and told me that it's not his business that I should not call or visit him again,
I was so sad, it felt like he literally ripped off my heart, I cried all day, I couldn't stop crying.

So I decided to go for the abortion, when I checked how its done online, I was so scared, I couldn't bring myself to kill a life inside me

So I decided to let his family know even though they don't know me, I called his elder sister to explain after hearing my side she called her brother to confirm and he lied that he just met me and we had sex only once that I have been sleeping with other guys I was so shocked to hear that, because I really love him to the extreme that other guys don't even exist,
I told her that we now have DNA test that I'm not scared because I know that the baby is his, she believed me and told me not to see her parents, that I should settle it with him first

He came to see me and started begging me not to involve his family that I should go for the abortion, but I can't kill my child that was conceived out of love, at least from my own side

I'm just confused because if I tell his parents that would mean marriage and I can't stay in a loveless marriage
Pls advice needed

If I tell his parents that will mean marriage"
How are you sure about that. 21 century mumu. Ewu

J111333:
Please never you consider an abortion. Even if you don't need the child, give birth and put it up for adoption. I personally am interested, just pm. I can even pay you all the necessary inconveniences if requested just for you to keep that innocent child alive.

NB: I'm very very serious about the adoption and necessary inconvenience pay.

thanks, I would put that into consideration

stinflame:
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Not at all , make sure u put ur focus on a business or ur career while in... My dear, abortion isn't the option oo, it's better u know u end up In his house than with the thought of having aborted. Sadly enough ladies easily let it out unknownly to their new partner, most partners will simply walk out of the relationship.

thanks, you are so right

blackgold2018:
If I tell his parents that will mean marriage"
How are you sure about that. 21 century mumu. Ewu

may God bless you

Obodo999:


You have lost my emphaty with this needless generalisation. I am not the one that got you pregnant and I am not heartless.

sorry for that, I guess it's frustration that caused it

Silverlove1:
I guess that's true, but I believe that abortion is a mortal sin, and I have a feeling something would go wrong, I refused to listen to my instincts telling me to take the drugs now look at where I am now, I'm really scared. Thanks

fornication no be sin My ex in 2015 came back 4 months to fuk me. We dated for 2 years and did it raw belle never entered. She put d pregnancy on me but out of fear of parents knowing. She sha went for abortion. The doctor her friend linked her did not tell us his location but was giving directions. From igando we entered boat to ogun . Totowu. The guy was a quack nurse. 3 weeks later d babe still dey bleed she almost died and went to her family doc. That one redid the stuff and she was free(tissues were in her womb). For 3 years i was scared she will be barren. She later got married last year and had twins. She is happy now. I am happy. An unwanted child ruins lives

Joromi12:
fornication no be sin My ex in 2015 came back 4 months to fuk me. We dated for 2 years and did it raw belle never entered. She put d pregnancy on me but out of fear of parents knowing. She sha went for abortion. The doctor her friend linked her did not tell us his location but was giving directions. From igando we entered boat to ogun . Totowu. The guy was a quack nurse. 3 weeks later d babe still dey bleed she almost died and went to her family doc. That one redid the stuff and she was free(tissues were in her womb). For 3 years i was scared she will be barren. She later got married last year and had twins. She is happy now. I am happy. An unwanted child ruins lives

we have two types of sin in Catholic, fornication is among the venial sin, it can be forgiven, but a mortal sin is opting ourselves straight to hell with blood in your hands

I learnt another lesson from your experience now, what if she had died, then what will she tell God, or if she was barren it would have forever hunted her and made her so depressed not everyone will be lucky to survive the experience unharmed,

I guess she was given a second chance to reform, thanks for sharing and making me to be more determined

Silverlove1:
we have two types of sin in Catholic, fornication is among the venial sin, it can be forgiven, but a mortal sin is opting ourselves straight to hell with blood in your hands

I learnt another lesson from your experience now, what if she had died, then what will she tell God, or if she was barren it would have forever hunted her and made her so depressed not everyone will be lucky to survive the experience unharmed,

I guess she was given a second chance to reform, thanks for sharing and making me to be more determined

Only a devoted Catholic will understand what u wrote there and am One . mortal sins stains for life and life after.

True

Destined2win:
Whatever you do, don't take this advice that i quoted. It's evil


That child might be your only source of immense joy in the future. Just pick up yourself and be ready to face challenges. It will be worth it.

Silverlove1:
we have two types of sin in Catholic, fornication is among the venial sin, it can be forgiven, but a mortal sin is opting ourselves straight to hell with blood in your hands

I learnt another lesson from your experience now, what if she had died, then what will she tell God, or if she was barren it would have forever hunted her and made her so depressed not everyone will be lucky to survive the experience unharmed,

I guess she was given a second chance to reform, thanks for sharing and making me to be more determined

lol, which catechism class did you go to? is that why you see fornication as no big deal?
fornication is mortal
mortal sins are sins that can only be absolved by a priest in the confessional, why venial sins are sins which can be forgiven simply by asking for reparation to God. (personal prayer)

Fornication, murder, homosexuality, abortion, masturbation, even cases of theft, blasphemy and many others are considered mortal by the weight in which they carry..
All sins can be forgiven, before now abortion was a special case and you needed a bishop (only a bishop not a priest) to absolve you of your sin. But pope francis changed that, right now abortion can be forgiven by a priest but only in the confessional.

For every mortal sin (and every sin infact), mortification is needed, even if you're forgiven of your sins, your soul needs mortification, which is more or less a form of suffering (cleansing) and that's where purgatory comes in. Once again fornication is mortal, i'm sure you assumed it a less grievous sin and that's partly why you allowed yourself to be fooled easily.

As for the case in hand, i see you've made your decision, which is good. I have little or nothing to add but can only hope that regardless of the path you take, you'd find satisfaction and happiness in the end

Silverlove1:
we have two types of sin in Catholic, fornication is among the venial sin, it can be forgiven, but a mortal sin is opting ourselves straight to hell with blood in your hands

I learnt another lesson from your experience now, what if she had died, then what will she tell God, or if she was barren it would have forever hunted her and made her so depressed not everyone will be lucky to survive the experience unharmed,

I guess she was given a second chance to reform, thanks for sharing and making me to be more determined

https://catholic-catechism.com.ng/list-of-mortal-sin/
False fornication na mortal sin. In year 2023 i hope u won't open a thread to tell us how life has been frustrating and how men are running away once they find out u have a kid. I pity u o

Silverlove1:
sorry for that, I guess it's frustration that caused it

God will give you the Wisdom to resolve this issue with your partner but do Not kill your unborn child

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